“I think that as a black girl you grow up internalizing all these messages that say you shouldn’t accept your hair or your skin tone or your natural features, or that you shouldn’t have a voice, or that you aren’t smart.”
Who’s to say that young girls who like pop music – short for popular, right? – have worse musical taste than a 30-year-old hipster guy? That’s not up to you to say. Music is something that’s always changing. There’s no goal posts.
Young girls like the Beatles. You gonna tell me they’re not serious? How can you say young girls don’t get it? They’re our future. Our future doctors, lawyers, mothers, presidents, they kind of keep the world going.
Teenage-girl fans – they don’t lie. If they like you, they’re there. They don’t act ‘too cool.’ They like you, and they tell you. Which is sick.
How do you confront a racist or sexist bias with a friend, instead of just not doing it to avoid conflict? What's your advice on confronting biases you find in other people?
I totally understand that feeling of somebody saying something and you not wanting to upset that person further. Recently, I had a friend who said something along the lines of "I don't want to drive by the hood today," or something. It's that weird moment where you're like "Wait, am I really friends with this person? Should I be doing this?" But I think, when something like that happens, you can just say, "Hey, what do you mean by that?"
Because then the person might realize the thing they just said was not acceptable and I think people kind of respond to that. When they get a quick response that's like, "What do you mean by that? Can you just elaborate on what you were trying to say?" I’ve found the person will usually not be able to come up with a response because they realize how racist or sexist the thing that they're trying to actually initiate is.
The other thing that I try to do [to educate] inadvertently with friends or family members [is by saying], "Well, let's go see this movie instead of this movie,” with me knowing that the movie is more [education] about the topic that I'm trying to educate that person on.
I feel like that's how I use my social media; I'll post if I see a film that I really want people to see, and that's my way of suddenly putting that into their head.
are weird about young, teenage, outspoken girls* in the public sphere. It’s
either they are put down due to sexism or ageism or held up on this pedestal
like they know best (and I realize that, in some ways, this blog contributes to
that). It’s the problem with words like “woke” and “problematic” and “canceled”
and the very creepy, narrow way it’s approached, especially on sites like
Tumblr. There’s a lot of misdirected anger at a lot of these young girls when
they do something perceived as wrong. Especially when they identify as “activists”
(even though activism is not an identity but a literal demonstration of the
verb ‘act’ and the adjective ‘active’, but that’s another issue for another
day) and are in the business of publicly educating and dispersing knowledge. It’s
like we’ve moved on from the former expectance of controlled young actresses
and singers who never speak out and pepper teen magazines with aspirational and
fantastical imagery, to expecting perfection in a different way—that these
young girls must have perfect ideologies, perfect education, perfect execution.
Maybe it’s partly these young girls’ faults for taking on these
responsibilities that they are unequipped for. Maybe not. Flaws are still
despised in female public figures. Perfection—variant kinds—is still expected.
Maybe that’s (part of) the problem.
Amandla identifies as non-binary but is still publicly
coded as ‘female’ (an adjective she does not completely reject).
Dove is trying it. I know that many races can have curly hair but these curls look fabricated as hell. These curls look straight off the curling wand. If I’m wrong and any of you all have a link or two for me to see some behind the scenes of how they achieved these “natural” please send my waaaaay because I’d love to see the process.