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Motherhood met me young. Some may see that as a failure. I don’t. I have fully surrendered and succumbed to motherhood, letting it wash over me and smooth out all my jagged edges and shape my unruly parts. It’s healed me in ways I never knew I needed healing, and it all started with those two pink lines.
—  Being a Young Mom Does Not Make Me a Failure, Lexi Behrndt
Living with Parents

I have seen some posts here on the topic of living with parents. I have some thoughts on it myself, but first I will explain my view on it as a single teen parent, then the topic as a whole.

As for my circumstances, there is no way at all I would be able to live on my own, and I am not embarrassed to say that. I do not simply have the means to pay for rent/utilities, food, my college tuition, kennedy’s preschool tuition, ect ALL on my own. I am proud to say that I am able to go to college student loan/debt free and pay for K’s tuition with extra left over from my scholarships. I am and will always be forever grateful my parents and family are able to help support me. With their support I am able to focus on college, which in the long run will be able to provide my access to a career, which then I will be able to support Kennedy by myself. 

On the topic as a whole, I do not see the big deal if someone is living with their parents/in laws and they have children or are ttc. A lot of my view points on this issue is due to the culture I was brought up in. In Hawaii, it is not unorthodox for more than family in a household to live with each other. For example, it is a typical for a household to contain the grandparents, parents, then the children. In Hawaii family is the most important aspect of one’s life and is highly valued. Back home, no one (family and family friends) is hesitant if someone needs a babysitter, or extra help, when it comes to a baby. Family is everything and it should be a positive aspect that the grandparents of a child are able to influence a baby’s life. 

As the saying goes: It takes a village to raise a child…