My favorite No Use song. :)
Also, I wanted to ramble for a brief moment. When I was a teenager, I heard words like ‘grace’ and ‘class’ thrown around and I don’t think I really understood what was meant by them until I became an adult. You see, people who have innate grace and/or class retain it even when they are at their worst.
1.elegance or beauty of form, manner, motion, or action.
2.a pleasing or attractive quality or endowment.
It is one thing to associate additional words with ‘Grace’ to define it, but quite another to see someone who possesses grace as an attribute to their personality in action. Often mistaken for charm (or sexiness), grace gives a woman (for example) the ability to captivate the attention of those in a room quietly. A graceful woman has no need to wear overly revealing clothing or to do ostentatious things to draw attention. She merely handles herself in such a way that draws others in.
Grace is something that a person has or does not have, and it becomes readily apparent after a short amount of interaction. Graceful people can get away with being ‘unrefined’ or ‘cheeky’ because their grace provides an innate sense of decorum that would be absent if the person lacked grace.
Grace is the attribute that many people have problems putting their proverbial finger on. It’s that ‘something’ that some people have… regardless of style, physical characteristics, status, or station. Grace truly can carry one through on a bad hair day; those with grace never seem to look as though they could have a bad hair day. Graceful people make fast friends, regardless of gender, and can socially work an entire room with minimal effort.
I bring this up because I have met many attractive people who positively lack grace. I am always reminded of the clip from Eastbound and Down where Kenny is taking his hooker/gf to thee BBQ at April’s and they are in the laundromat where she is getting dressed. He says, “Tracey, I love you, but you’ve got clothes like a f*cking dickhead.”
Those who lack inherent grace have to make up for it by dressing like dickheads, behaving like maenads in the presence of Pan, or engaging in other behavior that is quite obnoxious. Last night I went to a show, and I met quite a few people there. One woman said, “I wouldn’t be here if I weren’t f*cking the lead singer.” Well, kudos. Not here for the music then, eh? I understand if she was trying to lay claim to her perceived territory, but there are much more graceful ways to do such things. Then again, I could just have unrealistic expectations for human interaction… *thinks for a moment* Indeed, however, I refuse to lower them.
xoxo tj OUT to Joe’s Valley.