when you have bad days that just won’t let up, i just hope that you will look in the mirror and remind yourself of what you are and what you are not… you are not your mistakes, you are not damaged goods or muddy from your failed explorations. you are not the opinion of someone who doesn’t know you. you are a product of the lessons that you’ve learned. you are wiser because you went through something terrible… and you are the person who survived a bunch of rainstorms and kept walking. i now believe that pain makes you stronger. and now I believe that walking through a lot of rainstorms gets you… clean
Hacksaw Ridge? The Cosby Show? R Kelly? In this new obstacle course from Billy on the Street, Billy’s real life best friend, Gotham star Robin Lord Taylor, tries to answer the question, CAN YOU SEPARATE THE ART FROM THE ARTIST? Tune in Tuesdays at 10:30/9:30c on truTV!
taylorswift Summer for me is very boring. So I decided to practice on the graphics and I reinvented the entire booklet of 1989, as if I had to choose how to do it.
I’m not a graphic but I tried!
I hope you like it!
Taylor Swift: Officially evil enough to date Loki, or are you a sexist?
The Calvin Harris Twitter rant about Taylor Swift trying to
“bury” and “tear down” her ex-boyfriend has brought out the haters en masse,
even getting the tag #TaylorSwiftIsOverParty trending as the Internet gleefully
piled on. Everyone is very pleased that Calvin “exposed” Taylor for the
manipulative, bitchy, evil snake that she is (insert multiple snake emojis here
because that’s how all the cool haters roll). They don’t seem to realize or
care that they are being sexist jerks.
“What? This isn’t about a man getting angry because a woman
took credit for her own work! Why do you always play the sexist card? Taylor’s
a disrespectful, fake Nazi Barbie trying to steal credit.”
No, sorry. You’re still a sexist jerk—and it very much is
about a woman getting slammed for taking credit for her own work. Let me explain:
Taylor didn’t “secretly” write (aka ghostwrite) the lyrics and melody of “This
Is What You Came for.” Before her publicist acknowledged that she was the
author, a person other than Calvin Harris
already had that songwriting credit.
The world knew that Calvin didn’t craft every word and note
of this song on his own—but no one cared until Taylor Swift was involved and
they could help Calvin run with the narrative of the poor, wronged ex-boyfriend
and the evil, bitchy ex-girlfriend. Calvin’s writer is suddenly his very recent,
famous ex and somehow then—and only then—is it a problem for Calvin or anyone
else that another person wrote the lyrics and melody. Let me repeat: It was never just his song. Another
person had a listed writing credit and publishing rights the entire time.
Funny, Calvin never alerted the world that Nils Sjoberg might
be trying to tear him down by writing a hit song with him. In fact, did he ever
talk about Nils Sjoberg at all?
Maybe Calvin’s telling the truth and Taylor originally wanted
the pseudonym. Maybe he’s not. Either way, I can understand why he didn’t tell
interviewers “Guess what? Taylor is Nils. Let’s talk about her for 2.5 hours
instead of my album that I worked very hard on.” But don’t most artists occasionally
at least mention that they had a co-writer, perhaps even that they enjoyed
working with them? Instead, Calvin erased Nils Sjoberg from the media picture,
taking full credit for “his” biggest hit in recent memory.
Why was it OK for Nils Sjoberg to write the song? It’s
simple: Nils Sjoberg was easily disposed of, but Taylor Swift is not. That a
woman has enough artistry and enough power to control her own narrative and
decide to take rightful credit for her work infuriates a lot of folks,
including apparently Calvin Harris.
Calvin made the artful accusation that Taylor tried “to tear
your ex bf down for something to do.” Why was her action about him at all? Taylor
took credit for her own work. She’s allowed to do that at any time she decides
to do so. She’s not trying to tear him down. She’s just not responsible for
building him up.
“But no, she’s a serial dater, a slut, a whore, a dick
hopper, a fake feminist, airing her dirty laundry in her songs, playing the
victim … all those staged photos! She doesn’t deserve credit for anything
because she doesn’t act exactly like we think a woman should act!!!!!” (The
Internet throws a temper tantrum.)
There are too many accusations against Taylor for me to even
begin to defend them point by point, and trying to justify her actions suggests
that they need defending from indefensible personal attacks. The sheer volume
of hate suggests that she’s now evil and nasty enough to date Loki himself and
not just Tom Hiddleston.
However, I will say this: Feminism helps women to craft their
own unique stories—not perfect stories, but stories that are just as valuable
as the stories of men. Sexism tries to silence women and stop them from having
these stories. It belittles women to the point where they only have worth
within the context of what stereotypical men (and those strange, self-hating women
who believe that men matter more) want and value. In other words, sexism
doesn’t like to give women credit.
No one has to like Taylor Swift as a person or a musician.
However, there is a vast difference between dislike and hate.
If you are attacking her because you don’t like the way she
lives her sexual/romantic life, you are a sexist. Male serial daters are
everywhere, yet somehow shaming men for how many women they date or how quickly
they move on has never been part of the conversation.
If you are attacking her because you don’t like how she explores
her emotional truth as an artist, you are a sexist. Again, male artists
repeatedly mine their relationships with loved ones, friends, and foes for
artistic fodder, and people celebrate their work.
If you are attacking her because she stopped letting a man
control part of her professional story as a songwriter, you are a sexist. Men
have been taking credit from women and discrediting those women who dare to assert
their authorship—whether the work is a song or a slide set—since the dawn of
If you feel the need to take down Taylor Swift for her
actions and you’ve never bothered to take down a man for those same actions,
YOU ARE A SEXIST.
“It’s Twitter/Tumblr/Facebook/Instagram/whatever. I have
every right to express my own opinion.”
Of course. But online sexism—online hate—has a
trickle-down effect, infecting our daily lives and the lives of those around us.
Just like you can pay good deeds forward, you can pay bad ones forward too. And you will remain a sexist.
That picture, Ryan Reynold's looks like he's questioning all his life choices.
Thank you, Ryan Reynolds for repping all of us right here. Same.
I think he’s just a man who really loves his wife. Because that was all for her benefit. There’s articles out there including an explanation of why they were there. Ok then. Taylor and Blake are “close”. They met in Australia, got it? It’s not like Tay Tay’s publicist called Blake’s publicist and said, “Girl come get this photo op!” Or like Tom’s publicist called Ryan’s publicist and begged him to take one for the Marvel team. Noooo, that would never happen. They all know each other well and love each other dearly. Taylor’s only calculating and manipulative to the point of borderline psychopathy. What’s not to love? LMAO
That entire party was such an exercise in celebrity cynicism. From having photographers on the beach and even in the ocean with them to setting up all these specific photo ops and releasing them into the wild to making sure the politically correct checklist was ticked off (LGBTQIA friend? ✓, African-American friend? ✓). I’ve never been a fan of Taylor’s stunty ways, but she has outdone herself. And by now we can guess bigger stunts are coming (a fake engagement maybe?). Whatever comes out of this mess, we already know it’s a con.