Do you have any tips for balancing languages in a day😌
I’m sorry for taking ages to answer this… to be honest, I’ve been struggling with balancing two languages and didn’t really have any advice to give. However, I think I’m kind of starting to work out a system. Hopefully this helps you a bit!
1. Make a schedule
I know this sound so, so basic, but I think this was my biggest mistake. I just kind of did whatever, whenever and ended up favouring one language over the other or getting my languages mixed up (which is always a little awkward). This is what I’m working towards:
Monday: Norwegian & French | Tuesday: Chinese & French | Wednesday: Chinese only (lesson) | Thursday: Norwegian & French | Friday: French only (lesson) | Saturday: Norwegian & Chinese | Sunday: Chinese & French
On two language days, I do one in the morning and one in the afternoon
On days with a lesson, I only study that particular language and take a break from the others
Note: this schedule still heavily favours French, but it’s the language I want to improve the most so I’m okay with that
I’m still having a bit of difficulty integrating Norwegian into the mix, but I’m sure I’ll figure it out eventually.
2. Consistency is King
A 30 minute session every day is always going to be better than a 3 hour session once a week. The consistency will help you retain information and keep languages separate. At least for me it helps. Chinese rules are solidified as Chinese rules… same goes for French and Norwegian. I’m not having to refresh with each session. Rather, I build on what I learned the previous day.
You don’t have to do every language every day. Try picking one or two a day and rotate through them (see part one). However, if you need to take a day off, don’t worry about it! You see that schedule I wrote? That’s something I’m working towards - I certainly haven’t been doing that all the time. But that’s okay. I have a plan and if I stick to it 80% of the time I’m still guaranteed to be progressing in my target languages. Plus, moderation helps prevent burn out, which is never fun.
I hope that helps! If you have any other questions or want clarification feel free to ask :)
This is a lot but basically it’s come to my attention through sharing my story that this guy is a serial emotional abuser and manipulator. I had been talking to him as a friend for a couple months & then met up with him when I was out in Cali for a 3 day trip. He’s almost 10 years older than me and he really went out of his way to try and show how mature he was by planning everything when it came to hotels & rental cars because I had never really booked either on my own, he downright INSISTED, saying he “wanted to see me happy” saying over and over again how he loves doing these things for me and that it’s no trouble at all despite my thanking him many times. I paid him my half for everything, I paid for my room, my flight, I paid my half for the rental car, my food, a few times his. without even telling me the day before our trip he went and switched the days for our hotel & had to pay an extra hundred, which I had no idea about until we met up. We also had to switch rental car services because his card was declined, again, everything he said he was going to take care of. From the beginning he was very intense & almost hanging off of me, there were a few times where I had to physically move his hands off of me, even when I was driving. He hardly made any of his own conversation other than laughing at all of my jokes & staring at my chest. I was finding him a little boring & thirsty but I thought he was nice so I was still with it. He had a meltdown on our second date cause he left his luggage in our previous hotel, he became despondent and wouldn’t call the hotel and couldn’t understand the idea of having to drive back so I called them, drove roughly 60 miles total in a car that I wasn’t registered to, to try & deal with the situation. That entire day was squandered trying to cheer him up and motivate him to use the little time I had there productively. Next day I met up with a friend in Disneyland and he was barely present & apparently got angry that I took time away from him to text a friend of mine. I hadn’t been able to meet up with friends prior to that because he very much wanted that time with me so I gave it to him willingly, but it wasn’t enough for him. All in all he was very needy and self interested from the beginning & super possessive & my gut told me let’s just be friends, which he said he was cool with prior to the trip.
Well he immediately deleted me, proceeded to write passive aggressive shit about me instead of just taking the L, & then I told him very plainly that I don’t wish to be friends either. I blocked/deleted him off everything but he proceeded to then text my phone & ultimately send me this seething email basically calling me poor, saying he went to law school so he had money to spend whereas I didn’t, & I was ungrateful for a $20 Mickey Mouse ring he bought me that I never asked for & he was mad that I didn’t pay him extra for his fuckups, lying and saying I didn’t pay for shit when I paid for sushi and he paid for my $6 inn-n-out burger. If you’re really so rich & well off cause you went to law school (but you’re not a lawyer) why are you sweating a $20 ring & a $100 cancellation fee? In the email he also shamed me for taking antidepressants saying I of all people should be sympathetic towards him. He claimed i couldn’t function without weed that he went out of his way to get from a friend for free entirely on his own, whom I even offered to give money for, but again he just “wanted to do something nice for me”, yet here clearly we see every “nice” thing had a cost because the minute you are not feeling it he will emotionally abuse you and manipulate every seemingly nice thing he did for you as a way for you to feel ungrateful and to villainize you. Well, since I shared this on Facebook multiple women have come forward citing similar stories of harassment and abuse, all when nothing romantic/sexual is wanting to be pursued. This is some deep emotionally abusive entitled shit & i’m not about to stay silent because he threatened me to. Fuck this asshole & the women he’s exhausted and berated over YEARS.
PLEASE share this & If you’re in the Philly/Seattle/PDX area please do not engage with Nnamdi Ezeife (Nnamdi Bawsism on Facebook, “comethroughitslit” on Instagram, “constant-ringing” on Tumblr) he has been targeting plus size bloggers/models/performers and other women in the community & making it very unsafe and toxic & causing a lot of emotional distress all around.
super excited to give y'all a sneak peak at target.com’s newest plus size line addition coming september 15, 2015!
vanity room ny is a new york based contemporary clothing company that is expanding it’s line to include plus sizes and will soon be available on target’s website! this perfect-for-fall mustard yellow cold shoulder dress is going to be a staple in my wardrobe this season. it is actually longer than depicted here - i just threw a belt on at my waist and bloused the top!
dress - vanity room ny
boots - urban outfitters
hat - forever21
bag - flea market in spain
It’s been a while since I did an extended blog shoot and I felt so out of practice. Let me know what y'all think! 💋💋
Caplets were a big trend this past Winter and I was excited to see it carry over into the Spring. I struggled to find a dress where the bodice was a full cape, not just the back. This one from ASOS Curve was exactly what I was looking for. Because the dress was so neutral, I opted to pair it with a boldly colored bag and a chunky block heel.
Dress: Asos Curve
Heels: Gianni Bini, via Dillards. Similar from Steve Madden.
Will you be posting about / documenting your stay as an au pair anywhere? I understand if you'd rather savor every German minute (because I know I would) but I was just curious! You're one of my favorite langblrs and honestly I'm so happy for you, I hope you have fun! How long will you be there for? Also, any tips on how to become a suitable candidate for au pair programs? Did you babysit a lot? Was your age an issue? Thank you!
Yeah I’m definitely gonna post about my experience Germany, after all I’ll be there for a whole year and I’m sure there’ll be loads of stuff to talk about!
There aren’t really any minimum requirements per se, but more experience you have with kids and the more interested you are in the language and culture, the easier it will be to convince potential host parents that you’re the right person to care for their children and that you’ll be a positive addition to their family. When I was in my early teens I spent a lot of my free time playing with and babysitting my neighbours’ younger children and I’m currently studying certificate 3 in early childhood education and care at TAFE which involves a lot of practical components including organising playgroup once a week and 5 weeks working in a childcare centre. I’m really enjoying the course and I know the kids love having me there so I can’t wait to go back and see them again!
I would definitely recommend using aupairworld.com over an agency because it’s completely free for au pairs and you can talk to as many families as you want without making any commitments (seriously even if you don’t wanna be an au pair it’s a great way to practice your target language), plus they have oodles of information and advice about becoming an au pair and what to expect to happen in the process. As for the age, some families won’t accept 17 year olds but if you’ll be 18 or older at the start of your placement it shouldn’t be a problem (I’ll be 19 in 2 weeks so definitely no issues for me), just make sure that you get a contract with your host family outlining your days off, medical insurance, what you’ll get paid, etc. to avoid conflict and ensure you’ll be covered if you get sick or want to end your placement early.
Do you have any hcs about how Mori, Fitzgerald, Hawthorne, and Steinbeck would go about trying to court someone they were interested in?
Before he begins his pursuit in earnest, Mori consults Elise. No matter how much you’ve piqued his interest (probably quite a bit, considering that he’s chasing after you for more than just what’s in your pants), the girl has to give you her stamp of approval. Without Elise’s favor, the match will simply fall apart; thus, he checks sooner rather than later. She’ll tease him of course, denying you initially, but after he’s begged enough she’ll grant the go-ahead. After that, there’s no shaking the leader of the Port Mafia.
Mori’s a textbook gentleman whenever you’re together. Many of the manners completely lost on younger men manifest in the Port Mafia’s leader. He never neglects to pull out your chair when you sit, or offer the crook of his arm, escorting you wherever you wish. Mori’s hands remain exactly where they belong; he never tries to sneak in subtle, ‘accidental’ brushes to somewhere a bit too sensitive for mere acquaintances. No matter what you’re wearing, he keeps his eyes out of danger, as well (at least, you’ve never caught him eyeing you up).
Despite his manners, Mori makes his intentions perfectly clear. There’s no way you can misinterpret his politeness for indifference. He’s constantly inviting you on lavish ‘outings’ (titling them as ‘dates’ would be much too forward, after all) and slipping subtle hints that he’s after more than just your friendship.
Especially if he’s not getting the response he’s after, Mori’s immediately orchestrating schemes to draw you to him. Though she doesn’t exactly approve of the Port Mafia’s leader seeking after you, Kouyou is often brought into these missions; such a game is simply too tantalizing for her to pass up. Regardless of whether she’s drawn to you personally, Kouyou’s often in your company. At Mori’s request, she fills your ears with countless tidbits and gossip about his genuine liking for you, teasingly prodding you as to when you’re going to accept his hand.
While he wouldn’t dream of putting you in actual danger, Mori orchestrates menacing situations to see how you react when confronted with threats. Getting serious would shove you in harm’s way whether you like it or not, and he needs to be assured that you can handle the stresses of being a target. Plus, the way you cling to him after he ‘saves’ you is a delightful side benefit.
Francis Scott Key Fitzgerald
As soon as you attract Fitzgerald’s curiosity, it’s no-holds-barred. He’s determined that you’ll be his. With his money, attracting you will be a piece of cake; at least, that’s what Fitzgerald initially thinks. At every opportunity, he throws lavish parties, invites you to all of his various properties scattered around the globe, showers you in elaborate, expensive gifts, claiming that the ‘simple trinkets’ remind him of you. Fitzgerald waxes poetic every chance he gets, and when that doesn’t stick, he just tosses money at you in hopes that you’ll swoon.
If his cash doesn’t interest you, Fitzgerald is only that much more hell-bent on making you fall in love with him. Ever since he entered the world of the rich, that’s all anyone’s ever been drawn to. Fitzgerald decides he needs to know what makes you so different, and there’s no way he’s going to let you slip out of his grasp without finding what makes you tick.
Fitzgerald, like any ruler of high-society, is intimately acquainted with the power of rumors, and he will do anything to get people talking. All of his butlers and maids are encouraged to spread word about how often he’s at your elbow, the looks that swim through his blue eyes when he’s focusing on you, the fact that he’s been looking into romantic travel destinations recently. Fitzgerald’s hoping that the juicy details trickle down to your friends and family, eventually; he knows that he’s a hell of a catch, and anyone that truly cares for you should encourage you to make a move before he gets sick of chasing you and moves on. The gossip mill is Fitzgerald’s subtle way of tactically surrounding you, ensuring that he’s on your mind 24/7.
Fitzgerald doesn’t fully reign in his dramatic tendencies, but he does calm down around you. While he’s still a show-off, hoping to impress you with all of his numerous qualities, he wants to communicate that he’s not just an airheaded fop, on the prowl for pretty arm candy. Fitzgerald fully understands that his showy personality might make you think he’s after you just so that he has someone to chase, and he’ll do anything to assure you otherwise.
When Hawthorne discovers his feelings for you, he’s a bit lost. Flirtation isn’t something that’s closely examined in theology textbooks; at least, not the respectable ones. Hawthorne doesn’t believe in fooling around with attractive lady he sets his eyes on, either, so he hasn’t exactly had much practice. Despite this, he’s convinced that wooing you won’t be so hard.
Hawthorne is more reserved at first; he dreads getting tangled up with someone he doesn’t truly care for, as his sense of duty would force him to stick with them. He doesn’t flirt at all until he’s completely sure that you’re exactly what he truly wants. Because of this, you might get some uninterested vibes when he first starts pursuing you, but don’t give up on him! Hawthorne’s only ensuring he doesn’t rush into something he’ll regret.
At first, Hawthorne’s quite casual with your conversations; much of your talks together seem built of only small talk, polite commentaries of the weather or what’s been headlining in the news. If Hawthorne hasn’t used these little chats to convince himself that he’s not really harboring feelings for you, though, your talks together will take an extremely sudden turn into deep topics, almost entirely without warning. Hawthorne can’t stand chitchat; at least, not when he’s truly trying to get to know someone. Once he’s sure that discussing such questions with you won’t make you uncomfortable, he starts in on the topics that’ll truly show what kind of a person you are. Your opinions on what life’s really about, what happens after death, if there’s any set ‘good’ and ‘evil’; this is what Hawthorne uses to color a picture of what you’re really like, and to determine if his feelings for you are more than a passing whim. Philosophy sessions, though they might not be romantic, exactly, are what bind his heart to yours.
Before he starts pursuing you in earnest, Hawthorne drops hints at his interest. While he doesn’t give a damn if anyone else is after you, too, he’ll back off if you’re looking at someone. The last thing he wants is an awkward confrontation and needlessly hurt feelings because he proved too bold. As soon as you pick up these hints, and start leaving a few of your own, it’s the last push Hawthorne needs to entirely make up his mind. At this point, he practically considers you engaged.
Though he’s gradual, and respectful as a perfect gentleman, Hawthorne seriously commits to romancing and makes surprisingly direct moves. Once he’s firmly made up his mind, he’s determined to show you just how much he really cares. Soon, lingering touches start happening more and more, Hawthorne taking every opportunity to brush his skin against yours. You’re often surprised with kisses; they’re light, and innocent, and pressed against your knuckles instead of your lips more often than not, but there’s no mistaking that’s what they truly are. Hawthorne’s suddenly surprisingly bold; there’s no mistaking the message he’s trying to send.
The moment Steinbeck decides you’re going to be his, you’ll know. He’s so open that only a brick wouldn’t pick up on the fact that he’s in pursuit. Hugs that last for a few beats too long to be just friendly, entirely shameless heated gazes that clearly show what’s on his mind, countless little tokens of affection ranging from sweets that his mother baked to books that he thinks you’ll enjoy; you’re not safe from any of it. Somehow, though, he knows how to keep just enough distance so that you don’t feel trapped or like he’s clinging to you
Though he doesn’t frame it as a date until he’s entirely sure you’re interested, Steinbeck invites you to every family function from Easter dinner to birthday celebrations. Anyone he’s pursuing needs the Steinbecks’ stamp of approval, and he figures it’s better to ensure his family adores you now than risk them rejecting you when he’s head-over-heels in love (he’d still marry you, of course, but it would be a hard decision between staying true to himself and letting down his family). Plus, he can’t wait to see how you react when his younger siblings inevitably accuse you two of dating (especially if he tells them yes, actually, you are, just to make you blush).
Pray that you don’t have a floral allergy, because with Steinbeck around, you’ll never escapethe flowers. He quickly ferrets out what kind of blooms are your favorite, and from then on, they’re growing everywhere around you. Whether they be arranged in a bouquet for you and left with a sweet little note like ‘Y’know, I still think you’re prettier than these’, or sprouting all over the earth by where you work, flowers surround you at every turn. Maintaining the plants around you is Steinbeck’s subtle way of telling you you’re always on his mind.
Steinbeck invites you on outings practically everywhere, and once he’s certain that the term ‘date’ won’t send you running for the hills, that’s what he starts calling them. Even if he still hasn’t asked you to be his yet, he’ll still title every trip together a date. And there are a lot of trips together. Steinbeck’s a farm boy completely outside of anything he’s ever known, after all; so much piques his curiosity, and he figures there’s no better person to experience all of these new things with than you. Expect completely out of the blue calls from Steinbeck, inviting you along to some off the wall restaurant with boiled squid sushi, or to a farmer’s market a few miles outside of Yokohama’s borders. Nothing is too strange to drive Steinbeck away, and you can bet that if he’s running into something odd, he’ll make space for you to run into it, too.
So this Sunday in America it will be mother’s day.
And since I work every Sunday regardless of arbitrary holidays, my small son will be with his grandparents. And on Monday morning when they drop him back off, I will be greeted with the same present I’ve gotten five years in a row: a home-made card and a small potted Rose from Safeway that my mother will gush my son picked out “all by himself”.
Hint: bath bombs. I want bath bombs. And a single solitary fucking afternoon to take a bath with a glass of cheap Barefoot pink Moscato from 711, and my phone hooked up to a small speaker blasting Panic! At The Disco’s “Don’t Threaten Me With A Good Time” on god damn repeat.
All mom’s say “Nothing” when asked what they want for mother’s day. Better not get fuckin “nothing”. I’m not asking for a Pandora bracelet or a $700 purse or an all-expenses paid spa weekend. Just an uninterrupted afternoon bath.
So, I’m going to get the 10-pack Pomegranate bath bomb set from Target for 12.99 plus tax my-god-damn-self because Mom’s get their own shit done. I will graciously accept my Safeway flower that will almost immediately die because I will absolutely forget to water it even tho it lives RIGHT NEXT TO THE KITCHEN SINK, and I will toss the shriveled remains over the edge of my 3rd story apartment balcony, and then the undoubtedly cute “World’s Best Mom” container shall become an ashtray.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the mom’s on Tumblr. The single moms, the SAH moms, the working moms, the married moms, the re-married moms, the divorced moms, the widowed moms, the foster moms, the adoptive moms, the moms who (through whatever tragic circumstance) are no longer moms, the soccer moms, the “please just watch TV and be quiet” moms, hover-moms, tiger moms, passive moms, and everything in between.
Congrats on surviving another year of the world’s most rewarding and FUCKING SELF DESTRUCTIVE job on earth. I raise my novelty over-sized wine glass to you all.
I’m in love with this body positive campaign run by target. I want to thank Target for showing that big girls can rock swimwear. By producing a beautifully slimming collection of swimwear Target has decided not to just sell it to a specific market e.g sizes 8-14 but instead to release a very positive campaign about how they love everybody. I don’t think Target realise the affect they are having on the world. I for instance live in Ireland and it’s managed to capture my attention. By including curvy girls in their swimwear ad it allows it to become the norm and means girls can be more confident whilst in their swimwear. I for one hope this is the start of many ad campaigns celebrating all shapes and sizes.