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Now I knew someone would chose this topic, given that majority of my followers are female and I’m glad you did because I’m a bit pressed for time tonight, I have to write a presentation for tomorrow and I don’t have anything really juicy to say on this topic.
In other words I tricked you and you fell for it hook, line and sinker :)
Most of what I want to say is based on observations and (sadly) not personal experience.
One thing I have noticed is that Danish men are much more stylish then men in Australia, particularly those in my age group/stage of life i.e. twenties and at university. I don’t know if this a European thing, the perception in Australia (and probably the US too) is that European=metrosexual/more effeminate. Although the standards are slowly picking up Down Under, I still see a lot of trackie daks and ratty old runners. Whatever the reason for the well-dressed men I heartily approve. My male mentor works for Asics and he owns 13 (?) pairs of their shoes. Normally I would disapprove of runners as casual wear but these are nice colourful, well maintained shoes.
Another style related thing I have noticed is that a lot of twenty-something men have beards. Not scraggly, hipster neck beards, but proper well groomed full beards. They are usually keep reasonable short in length and have the moustache attached.
As for hairstyles there seem to be two very popular ones which I will do my best to describe because I couldn’t find a good picture on google images. The most common Danish style Short Back and Sides: As the name suggests the hair is cut/shaved shorter on the sides, and less so on the back. The top is left average length and coiffured to the desired effect. The second less common, but very distictive is the Danish Top Knot: This is wear all of the hair is shaved close on the sides and back leaving the hair on the very top of the head long. Long enough to tie into a greasy-looking little bun, like the stem on an apple.
I see a lot more fathers interacting with their children here in Copenhagen and it warms my heart to see it. Whether it is riding them to kindergarten in the morning or running behind their children as they ride a bike or kicking up autumn leaves, dad’s here seem to have a more hands on role. I can put this down to a few things:
1) I’m living in the capital city, and it is a well establish argument that changes in social norms, such as a greater distribution of parenting responsibilities, begin in larger cities and slowly spread out.
2) Danes think of themselves as one of the most equal countries in the world, therefore it is unsurprising that men adopt greater responsibilities with child-rearing, a traditionally female role. (Although my gender studies lecturer will tell you that majority of these responsibilities still fall on the mother. Nay sayer).
3) I only see one portion of these people’s lives, and often on Sunday’s when majority of people don’t work and are out relaxing with their families.
Either way, I like that they take greater interest and care of their children.
Wooing the ladies:
I know that this is what you were thinking when you chose this topic ladies, but sadly I don’t have a whole lot of personal insights.
Also considering I don’t go out much at home I’m not really sure if what I have observed is uniquely Danish, or relatively common.
1) Although a friend told me before I left home that Danish men don’t like making the first move, you have to go to them, I don’t think this is entirely true. I think it’s more of a case of they have to drink a few (or several) beers before they are ready to approach you.
2) Even at loud parties, on the dancefloor, they appear to want to have a conversation. I’m not objecting to this, but it does get tiring having to yell and strain to hear.
3) If things are going well, there will be some hands on hips action.
4) If things are going really well there will be some dance floor snogging
5) And if things are going really, really well then…use your imagination. I’ve not observed whatever step five is. You pervs ;P
The one time I was chatted up by a Dane was at a house party. I preparing to play a drinking game called Flip Cup on this guy’s team and he asked me where I was from and I (of course) said “Australia” and then nothing else, because the game started.
After the game, I went and sat on a couch with my friends and we were chatting. As I was talking to me friends I noticed the guy come and sit on the couch opposite me, politely waiting until I stopped talking to me friends. They eventually went and danced again and I thought I would talk to this guy because he had been so patient. We exchanged small talk, he had been to Australia a couple of times so we mostly talked about that. Then he went to go and get another beer (see what did I say about the drinking, didn’t offer me one though, the cheap skate) and I rejoined my friends on the dancefloor.
As we were about to leave he reappeared and asked me if I would like to go for coffee sometime. I politely declined, saying that it was lovely to meet him but, no. Which was completely truthful. It was nice chatting, but I couldn’t see it going anywhere.
So that is all that I have for you on the subject of Danish men. I hope that it was somewhat interesting callmemichi and 15mechanicalwatches.
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Much love (but not from Danish men),
PS Did you like the title? I thought it was pretty clever…