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Step-By Step Guide to Giving a Yoni Massage

◇◇Yoni Massage works on the levels of healing, pleasure and spirit – while an erotic massage is only dedicated to the pleasure level.

●Step 1: Preparation & Ingredients

Having enough time is crucial. Set aside at least 3 hours to make sure you have enough preparation time and relaxation time afterwards. Get some organic coconut oil for the oil massage and a towel; a plastic cover sheet is optional for under her hips. The plastic sheet will actually make her feel even safer, so she’ll be able to fully relax (crucial for squirting).

●Step 2: Setting the Mood & Breathing

It’s all about worshipping her temple. So make sure you are worshipping her temple in a temple. Set the mood: Turn on some candles, soft music, some aroma oil, velvet soft pillows. Anything to make her feel like a goddess.

Breathing is one of the most important parts of a Yoni Massage; deep abdominal breathing, not hyperventilating, is crucial to letting the energies flow and maximizing the effect. The receiver and the giver should both breathe deeply during the whole process. The giver will gently remind the receiver in case they go back to shallow breathing.

●Step 3: Full Body Oil Massage

Heat the coconut oil in a water bath and massage her full body before you approach her Yoni. Don’t touch her Yoni until you are 100% sure she is fully relaxed (~45 min – 1 hr). Have the receiver lie on her belly and start with massaging her back. Use your intuition, you will know exactly what she needs. Stay in communication with her to find out if she prefers the massage stronger or lighter. Massage her feet, legs, bottom. Rub her sacrum to activate her sexual energies.

Let her turn and continue with her feet, legs, arms, neck, head, face before you start with her breasts. Dedicate a decent amount of time to the breasts, as a breast massage will already awaken some more sexual energy, including beneficial hormones to make the receiver even more relaxed. Then work your way down to the abdomen and make sure you gently do some circles, ensuring that your receiver is not tensing up.

●Step 4: Approaching and Entering the Yoni

Approach the Yoni. Ask the receiver if you are allowed to touch her Yoni. Acknowledge the Yoni by capping her with your hand and just let it be there for a moment to feel into her.


Pour enough coconut oil over her mound, so it naturally flows down towards her entrance.


Spend enough time on the outer parts of the lips, mound and inner tights. Awaken the outer area of the Yoni before approaching the inner parts. Don’t rush. This is really important.
You can stretch her outer lips and rub them between your fingers. Gently squeeze the outer lips between the thumb and index finger.
Slide along each outer lip and then along each inner lip (in case your receiver has them developed).
Check in with your receiver. How much does she feel? What does she feel? How much pressure feels good? How fast? etc. (don’t talk too much either, it can mentalize the process and create a buzzkill).
Every now and then you can slide your hands up her breasts and connect her Yoni with her heart.

Once you see that her outer lips and clitoris are swollen you will know that she is ready.
Ask if you are allowed to enter.
Slowly and with presence insert your middle finger of your right hand into her Yoni. If the Yoni is truly ready she will naturally draw you into her temple.
Very gently explore her inner parts. Feel her. Take all the time you need. Be super present.
Press down, press towards the sides and up.

●Step 5: Yoni Mapping

Start with a reflexology massage just a few centimeters inside the entrance wall of her Yoni.
Press your index and middle finger up against the 12 o’clock position, just below the pubic bone (stay on each point a little bit and let her breathe into this area).
Feel to find out whether she is holding anything physically or emotionally stored in each clock space.
Then move to the 1 o’clock position, press, hold and breathe in. Feel.
Do this with the entire clock rotation until you return to 12 o’clock again.
On the 6 o’clock position it’s easiest to use your thumb, pressing down towards her anus.
Move your fingers around her vaginal walls (with your index and middle finger), in circles, circling deeper and deeper inside.
massage-entering

You want to gently touch every part of her vaginal walls. Check for tension, numb areas and knots. Stay there if she doesn’t feel anything, until she does feel something. Massage all knots out. Breathe through it, all the time, especially important in case she feels pain.

●Step 6: Going Deep

Go to her G-spot (the G-spot is right inside the upper front wall).
Use your middle and ring finger.
You can press on the G-spot zone gently. Can you feel a spongy area? If you see that she is having pleasure, continue to press on it a bit harder, yes, even harder.
g-spot

Then start stimulating the area with a come-hither motion till she gets the feeling that she has to pee.
Start moving your whole arm up and down, creating a vacuum around her G-spot (with the movement coming from the shoulders); it’s a bouncing sensation, the vagina might even smack a little. Then you’ll know you’re doing it correctly.
yoni massage technique

When she gets the peeing feeling she has to ‘bear-down’ and almost ‘push out a little’.
Her body will manifest sexual energy through the squirting orgasm. Don’t worry, it’s not pee. And if it is you have all those towels – remind her that she is safe to do it.
After exploring the G-Spot, go deeper and continue to explore. There is so much to discover!

●Step 7: Pushing Boundaries

Yoni massage is a therapy which can sometimes push our boundaries because it can release oceans of tears, anger and other emotions connected with our pain – both physical and mental – but it can also release great laughter, joy and deep pleasure which can in turn produce a heightened state of awareness.

A Yoni massage can enable the receiver to become aware of her creative feminine energy.

This energy is very powerful and sometimes we, the receivers, are not ready for it. So we can feel confronted by all sorts of obstacles. But with a certain determination and willingness to be healed, we can push those boundaries and have beautiful breakthroughs. These experiences are not just ecstasy-like states, they are highly spiritual.

●Step 8: Stillness

Once you arrive in a state where both of you feel that the massage is over, slowly fade out of the practice. You can meditate together, or she can stay lying in stillness while the giver meditates or contemplates the experience.