Find ecstasy within yourself. It is not out there. It is in your innermost flowering. The one you are looking for is you. You are the traveler and you are the destination. In experiencing the ecstasy of your own being, you have achieved the final goal.
—  Osho

Intimacy is one of the most overlooked aspects of relationships. We simply assume that it is there by the mere act of us being in a relationship, living together, or even just making love.

This is not a given, though. Intimacy is shy and fragile. It needs nurturing, encouraging and nourishing.

Intimacy happens when we’re brave enough to open our souls to one another.

Path of a Modern Tantrika

  • Cultivating permanent inner silence through deep meditation.
  • Opening the subtle nerves through pranayama (breath control).
  • Stimulating divine energy through advanced physical postures and maneuvers.
  • Cultivating divine desire and conduct.
  • Cultivating sexual energy to a new purpose.
  • Cultivating silent inner awareness outward in powerful ways.

Philip Rawson - Sankhya Tattva Diagram, illustrating the Manifestation Processes of Creation, ”The Art of Tantra ”, 1985.

Many Hindu Tantric images represent the first division of the creative urge into male and female. Without the division there can be no love, no activity or field of action, no puja can be made. Since the time of the oldest Upanisads, subject and object have been called ‘I’ and ‘This’, equated with male and female, Siva and Sakti, male and female dancer.

The lower levels of the Sankhya diagram define all the various sub-functions and categories through which the original flow of Being-Energy is channelled and subdivided to make up the experienced world of forms and time. It is, in fact, a full phenomenological ‘Synthetic a Priori‘ system, and it matches the pattern of the subtle body remarkably, an important point has always to be remembered. In every experience of every objective ‘This’ by every experiencer the female quantifier is absolutely necessary; but so too is the male reservoir of energy, which supplies the ‘Being’ from the side of the objective, the unitary Consciousness of Self from the side of the experiencer. Within every yoni, every active world-as-woman, is buried the lingam, the phallus, without which there would be no energy to inflate her pattern. To a primary male spark of Being (Prakasa) the Goddess offers Herself as the ‘Pure Mirror in which He reflects Himself’ (Vimarsa). There are innumerable icons in India which represent the Divine Pair either as a male and a female. He with erect organ, She holding a mirror, or as a single double-sexed being, divided down the centre, the right half male, again with an erect organ, the left half female.

Philosophy, however, must not be allowed to delude itself with its own constructions. Whilst it may theoretically assume an original spark within the reflection, the moment it seeks to attribute to that spark any character or form it falls into delusion. For: ‘Whatever power anything possesses, that is Goddess… Into the hollows of her hair-pores millions of cosmic eggs constantly disappear… She grants the desires of sadhakas by assuming various forms in play.’ But ‘She who is absolute Being, Bliss, and Consciousness may be thought of as female, male or pure Brahman; in reality she is none of these.’ Even these are simply forms She assumes to make Sadhana possible.

Our habitual way of living is to take things so much for granted. We always think there’s gonna be another day. We always think there’s gonna be another chance. In some sense, we think it’s gonna go on forever. And therefore, we don’t pay attention. This moment only happens once, in all of eternity. We think that time and eternity are two different things, but they’re not.
—  Reggie Ray

One day The Goddess sang to her lover Bhairava,

Beloved and radiant Lord of the space before birth,
Revealer of essence,
Slayer of the ignorance that binds us,

You, who in play have created this universe
and permeated all forms in it with never-ending truth.
I have been wondering …

I have been listening to the songs of creation,
I have heard the sacred sutras being sung,
and yet still I am curious.

What is this delight-filled universe
into which we find ourselves born?

What is this mysterious awareness shimmering
everywhere within it?

What are these instinctive energies
that undulate through our bodies,
moving us into action?

And this “matter” out of which our forms are made -
What are these dancing particles of condensed radiance,
Are they an illusionist’s projection?

What is this power we call Life,
appearing as the play of flesh and breath?
How may I know this mystery and enter it more deeply?

Beloved, my attention is ensnared by a myriad of forms,
the innumerable individual entities everywhere.

Lead me into the wholeness beyond all these parts.

You, who hold the mysteries in your hand -
of will, knowledge and action,
Reveal to me the path of illumined knowing.

Lead me into joyous union
with the life of the universe.

Teach me that I may know it fully,
realize it deeply,
and breathe in the truth of it.


The One Who is Intimate to All Beings said,
Beloved, your questions require the answers that come
through direct living experience.

The way of experience begins with a breath
such as the breath you are breathing now.
Awakening into the luminous reality
may dawn in the momentary throb
between any two breaths.

The breath flows in and just before it turns
to flow out,
there is a flash of pure joy -
life is renewed.
Awaken into that.

As the breath is released and flows out,
there is a pulse as it turns to flow in.
In that turn, you are empty.
Enter that emptiness as the source of all life.

~Vajnana Bhairava Tantra, Lorin Roche, Radiance Sutras

Non-aggression’ doesn’t mean that you’re not supposed to get angry; it doesn’t mean that you’re not supposed to set boundaries; it doesn’t mean that you’re not supposed to be sharp; it doesn’t mean that you don’t have neurotic upheavals and meltdowns. What it does mean is that we have to keep letting go - until we are naked with ourselves, and we are making room for the person we actually are. And it’s the exact same process with other people.
We have to let go, let go let go … Until we see and we are seen.
—  Reggie Ray