Do you have any advise on weddings?
I am going to assume, Anony, that you are asking about how to write a wedding scene. Please do not ask me for advice on whether the roses match the table cloths. Color scheming is not really my forte. However, writing is, and I am more than happy to help. Since weddings are such a broad and complex topic, I have narrowed it down to five key elements of the average wedding ceremony. So without further ado:
“The Five Necessities for Here
Comes the Bride”
Weddings are the climax of a relationship. Your couple has been dating for X years and now they are tying the knot. Naturally, the couple’s family and friends all want to be there for the wedding and possibly in the wedding too for bridesmaids and groomsmen. But depending on your couple and their relationships with others, their audience dynamic may be different from the usual proud parents and overjoyed friends. The element of the audience may seem unnecessary, but it plays a part of showing the emotions of the couple by how their families are reacting. For example, if the bride’s grandmother openly dislikes the groom, this may put the groom on edge and make it uncomfortable for others attending. By adding the body language of dislike and discomfort (e.g. side glances, awkward shuffles, whispers, and fidgeting), you have added this undertone of emotion for your reader to pick up on and for your bride and/or groom to observe and add to their wedding jitters. Or your audience can be all smiles and constantly aw-ing at the bride and groom as they happily exchange vows including sweet moments from when they were dating.
Do you see what this image has done? You have imagined a
happy setting and then contrasted it with the awkward feeling from the previous
example. All I did was change the reaction of the audience, yet the reader has
comprehended the scene and it’s tone differently.
The march is the bride walking down the aisle. Your audience will most likely rise out of respect and watch with tears in their eyes as she passes by. This part can be written from either the perspective of the bride as she walks down, or from the perspective of the groom watching. Either way it can be written very tearfully and emotionally. Here, your audience’s level of emotion will be evident by both bride and groom as they now are looking at all their friends and family who have gathered. However, you will now want to turn your reader’s attention away from the audience and onto the couple. As the bride walks down the aisle, eye contact will be maintained with her groom at the other end. Their eye contact is filled with smiles and possibly happy tears from both. This is a silent conversation that the reader understands. Now, by highlighting the anticipation and happiness of the bride and groom, you have moved your reader’s eye off of the audience and any pre-wedding jitters and onto the couple themselves.
This one is spread throughout the wedding ceremony.
Traditions vary from culture to culture and even family to family. What is
included in the ceremony itself entirely depends upon you and what your world
is like. I strongly suggest you do a bit of research into different cultures’
traditions. Not only are different traditions very interesting but, you could
find one that is what you want to add to make this wedding special or
different. For example, I knew a family where the daughters wore their mother’s
wedding dress on their special days. Each daughter had it slightly altered to
fit her and her style but the dress was still their mother’s. Talk about taking
something borrowed to a whole new level! Which reminds me, any added traditions
do not necessarily have to be something between only the bride and groom,
though they usually are because of symbolism, they can also include the couples’
parents or family.
The vows are very flexible, but should be very personal. This part is emotional for both the couple and audience and should be written carefully. Your couple is promising “Till death do us part” which is very serious, but do not be afraid to bring out the deep love and affection that the couple has for each other. A promise for forever is not something to fear, so do not add fear to it. Your couple is happy and publicly stating that they love each other. Whether you have the couple write their own vows or repeat traditional vows from your world, remember to write it with smiles and happy tears and holding hands. I suggest again, doing a bit of research into the different versions of the traditional “In sickness and in health” vows and finding what works best for your couple. You could even through in a line or two that the couple has told each other often that is the equivalent of “I love you”. Not only, does this remind your reader of the close bond your couple shares, but it also reminds sneakily reminds your reader all that they have gone through and brings all sorts of FEELS.
Now, your couple has said their vows and they are sealing the deal with a kiss! This maybe their first kiss or their 100th, but that doesn’t make this kiss any less unique. As with any written kiss, do not be overly descriptive and ruin the sweet moment. An overly passionate kiss during a wedding is extremely uncomfortable for both the audience and your reader. If you find the kiss difficult to write, try writing it without using the word ‘kiss’. This forces you to think differently about describing it. Or you could revert to the audience again and have them react to it with clapping and aw’s. The audience’s happiness at the kiss will give your reader the satisfaction that the wedding took place and your couple (and their OTP) will live happily ever after.
There you have it, Anony! I hope these were helpful to you as your couple takes the next step together. Remember that weddings are serious, but they are also full of joy and fun! Keep the mood light and full of happiness. Also, if you occasionally switch from the perspective of the bride/groom to the perspective of the audience, you will be switching it up so that your reader does not get bored from the repetitiveness of the wedding. Do a bit of research and have a bit of fun with it!
P.S. I did some research for this and did you know the average wedding cost around $31,200? Maybe have your couple start saving early for this? Or just have a really small and adorable wedding?