When Moffat and Gatiss turn queercoding into a joke, don’t acknoweledge their own queerbaiting and reduce the matter to people “fantasizing”, they give me a reputation for being delusional.
When you give me and other queer people a reputation for being delusional, you pass that reputation onto what we have to say about queer rights.
It doesn’t stop to people believing that I am crazy to think two characters could get together in a TV show. When I talk about being attracted to girls, being agender, trans people not being perverts, the validity of poliamory, not f/m couples parenting, etc. people are going to think that those opinions are crazy too. Spoiler, this is already happening in my life.