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anonymous asked:

What's wrong with Muslim women admitting to being feminists? The Quran gives women all of their rights, and women are highly valued in Islam, and referred to as spiritually equal before God. So anyone who follows the teachings is a feminist..

Does Islam regard men and women as equal?
Is there a mention of the equality of women in the qur'an?

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:

This word – equality – which many thinkers in both the east and the west advocate in various fields of life is a word which is based on deviation and a lack of understanding, especially when the speaker attributes this idea of equality to the Qur’aan and to Islam.

One of the things that people misunderstand is when they say that “Islam is the religion of equality”. What they should say is that Islam is the religion of justice.

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

“Here we should note that there are some people who speak of equality instead of justice, and this is a mistake. We should not say equality, because equality implies no differentiation between the two. Because of this unjust call for equality, they started to ask, what is the difference between male and female?’ So they made males and females the same, and then the communists said, ‘What difference is there between ruler and subject? No one has any authority over anyone else, not even fathers and sons; the father has no authority over his son,’ and so on.

But if we say justice, which means giving each one that to which he or she is entitled, this misunderstanding no longer applies, and the word used is correct. Hence it does not say in the Qur’aan that Allaah enjoins equality, rather it says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Verily, Allaah enjoins Al‑‘Adl (i.e. justice)”

[al-Nahl 16:90]

“and that when you judge between men, you judge with justice”

[al-Nisa’ 4:58]

Those who say that Islam is the religion of equality are lying against Islam. Rather Islam is the religion of justice which means treating equally those who are equal and differentiating between those who are different.

No one who knows the religion of Islam would say that it is the religion of equality. Rather what shows you that this principle is false is the fact that most of what is mentioned in the Qur’aan denies equality, as in the following verses:

‘Say: Are those who know equal to those who know not?”

[al-Zumar 39:9]

‘Say: Is the blind equal to the one who sees? Or darkness equal to light?’

[al-Ra’d 13:16]

‘Not equal among you are those who spent and fought before the conquering (of Makkah, with those among you who did so later’

[al-Hadeed 57:10]

‘Not equal are those of the believers who sit (at home), except those who are disabled (by injury or are blind or lame), and those who strive hard and fight in the Cause of Allaah with their wealth and their live’

[al-Nisa’ 4:95]

Not one single letter in the Qur’aan enjoins equality, rather it enjoins justice. You will also find that the word justice is acceptable to people, for I feel that if I am better than this man in terms of knowledge, or wealth, or piety, or in doing good, I would not like for him to be equal to me.

Every man knows that he find it unacceptable if we say that the male is equal to the female.”

Sharh al-‘Aqeedah al-Waasitah, 1/180-181

Based on this, Islam does not regard men and women as equal in matters where regarding them as equal would result in injustice to one of them, because equality that is inappropriate is a severe form of injustice.

The Qur’aan commands women to wear clothes that are different from those worn by men, because of the differences in the ways each sex is tempted by the other. The temptation posed by men is less than the temptation posed by women, so the clothes that women should wear are different than the clothes that men wear. It makes no sense to tell women to expose the parts of the body that men are allowed to expose, because of the differences in the temptation posed by a woman’s body and a man’s body – as we shall explain.

Secondly:

There are matters in which men and women are treated differently in Islamic sharee’ah, such as:

1 – Qiwaamah (being in charge of the household)

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means”

[al-Nisa’ 4:34]

Ibn Katheer (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

“Allaah says ‘Men are the protectors and maintainers of women’ meaning that the man is in charge of the woman, i.e., he is the leader and head of the household, the one who disciplines her if she goes astray.

‘because Allaah has made one of them to excel the other’ i.e., because men are superior to women and are better than women. Hence Prophethood was given only to men, as was the position of khaleefah, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, ‘No people shall ever prosper who appoint a woman as their ruler.’ This was narrated by al-Bukhaari from the hadeeth of ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn Abi Bakrah from his father. The same applies to the position of qaadi (judge), etc.

‘and because they spend (to support them) from their means’ refers to the mahr and the spending on women’s maintenance that Allaah has enjoined upon men in His Book and in the Sunnah of His Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). So a man is inherently better than a woman, and he is superior to her because he spends on her. So it is appropriate that he should be in charge of her, as Allaah says, ‘but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them’ [al-Baqarah 2:228].

‘Ali ibn Abi Talhah said, narrating from Ibn ‘Abbaas: ‘Men are the protectors and maintainers of women’ means that men are the leaders of women and they should obey them in areas where Allaah has enjoined obedience. Obedience may mean treating his family kindly and protecting his wealth.”

(Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 1/490)

2 – Testimony or bearing witness. The Qur’aan states that the testimony of one man is equivalent to the testimony of two women.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And get two witnesses out of your own men. And if there are not two men (available), then a man and two women, such as you agree for witnesses, so that if one of them (two women) errs, the other can remind her”

[al-Baqarah 2:282]

Ibn Katheer said:

Two women are to take the place of one man because women are lacking in reason, as Muslim narrated in his Saheeh… from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “O women, give in charity and seek forgiveness a great deal, for I have seen that you form the majority of the people of Hell.” A wise woman among them said, “Why is it, O Messenger of Allaah, that we are the majority of the people of Hell?” He said, “Because you curse too much, and you are ungrateful to your spouses. I have seen none lacking in common sense and failing in religion but (at the same time) robbing the wisdom of the wise, besides you.” The woman asked: “O Messenger of Allaah, what is wrong with our common sense and our religion?” He said: “Your lack of common sense (can be well judged from the fact) that the evidence of two women is equal to that of one man, that is a proof of the lack of common sense, and you spend some nights (and days) in which you do not offer prayer and in the month of Ramadan (during the days) you do not observe fast, that is a failing in religion.”

(Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 1/336)

There may be some women who are wiser than some men, but this is not the usual rule and such women are not in the majority. Sharee’ah is based on what is general and most common.

The fact that women are lacking in reason does not mean that they are crazy, rather their reason is often overtaken by their emotions, and this happens to women more often than it happens to men. No one would deny this except one who is arrogant.

3 – A woman inherits half of what a man inherits.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Allaah commands you as regards your children’s (inheritance): to the male, a portion equal to that of two females”

[al-Nisa’ 4:11]

Al-Qurtubi said:

Because Allaah knows better than they do what is in their best interests, He made the division of inheritance based on differentiation, because He knows what is in their best interests.

Tafseer al-Qurtubi, 5/164

For example, a man is obliged to spend more than a woman, so it is appropriate that he should have a larger share of inheritance than a woman.

4 – Clothing:

A woman’s ‘awrah includes her entire body. The least that can be said is that she should not uncover anything except her face and hands, and it was said that she should not even uncover that.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allaah is Ever Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”

[al-Ahzaab 33:59]

The ‘awrah of a man is the area from the navel to the knees.

It was said to ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Ja’far ibn Abi Taalib, “Tell us what you heard from the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and what you saw of him, and do not tell us about anyone else, even if he was trustworthy.” He said, “I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say, ‘The area between the navel and the knee is ‘awrah.’”

Narrated by al-Haakim in al-Mustadrak (6418); classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5583.

Other examples include the following, which is not a comprehensive list.

There are other differences between the sexes, including the following:

· A man can marry four women, but a woman can only have one husband.

· A man has the right to issue a divorce and it is valid if he does so, but a woman does not have the right to issue a divorce.

· A man may marry a woman from among the People of the Book (Jews and Christians), but a Muslim woman may not marry anyone but a Muslim.

· A man may travel without his wife or any of his mahrams, but a woman may not travel unless she is accompanied by a mahram.

· Prayer in the mosque is obligatory for men, but not for women; a woman’s prayer in her house is more beloved to Allaah.

· A woman may wear silk and gold, but a man must not wear them.

Everything that we have mentioned is based on the difference between men and women, because the male is not like the female. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And the male is not like the female”

[Aal ‘Imraan 3:36]

The male is different from the female in many ways, in his strength, in his body, in his toughness and roughness, whereas women are soft and gentle.

And men are different in intellectual terms, for men are known for their strength of understanding and their memory as compared to women. Women are weaker than men in memory and forget more than men do. This is well known, for most of the reputable scholars in the world are men. There are some women who are more intelligent and have better memories than some men, but this does not cancel out the general rule. Most cases are as we have described above.

With regard to emotions, men speak of them when they get angry or when they are happy, but women are affected by the slightest emotional effects, so their tears flow at the slightest emotional provocation.

Jihad is obligatory for men, but jihad in the sense of fighting is not obligatory for women. This is the mercy of Allaah towards them, and consideration for their nature.

In conclusion we may say that the rulings for men are not like the rulings for women.

Thirdly:

Islam regards men and women as equally obliged with regard to many acts of worship and interactions with others. For example, women do wudoo’ just as men do, they do ghusl as men do, they pray as men do, and they fast as men do, except when they are menstruating or bleeding following childbirth. Women pay zakaah as men pay zakaah, and they do Hajj as men do, except for a few differences in the rulings. It is permissible and acceptable to buy from a woman, and if a woman gives charity, that is permissible. It is permissible for a woman to set free the slaves that she owns, and there are many other similar cases because women are the twin halves of men, as it says in the hadeeth:

It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was asked about a man who finds some wetness (on his clothes) but did not have an erotic dream, and he said, “He should do ghusl.” He was asked about a man who had an erotic dream but did not find any wetness, and he said, “He does not have to do ghusl.” Umm Salamah said, “O Messenger of Allaah, if a woman sees that, does she have to do ghusl?” He said, “Yes, for women are the twin halves of men.”

(Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 113; Ahmad, 25663. Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 98)

Conclusion:

Women are like men in some aspects and they differ from them in others. Most of the rulings of Islam apply to men and women equally. In cases where a distinction is made between the sexes, the Muslim regards that as a mercy from Allaah and a sign of His knowledge of His creation, but the arrogant kaafir sees it as oppression and injustice, so he stubbornly insists on claiming that men and women are the same. So let him tell us how a man can carry a foetus and breastfeed it? He stubbornly ignores the weakness of women and how they bleed during their monthly period, and he stubbornly beat his head against the rock of reality. But the Muslim is still at peace with his faith, surrendering to the command of Allaah.

“Should not He Who has created know? And He is the Most Kind and Courteous (to His slaves), All‑Aware (of everything)”

[al-Mulk 67:14 – interpretation of the meaning]

And Allaah knows best.

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

Feminism stands for equality of men and woman so you know. May Allah bless you and protect you. I got this from Islamqa.

Teladan wanita sholehah

🌹 Wahai Ukhti, untuk menjadi wanita solehah, istri solehah, dan ibu solehah Wanita Mana yg Engkau Jadikan teladan?

🌹 Bagaimana ingin menjadi wanita, istri, dan ibu solehah, jika wanita sekelas Khadijah, Maryam, Asiyah, Fatimah tidak anti kenal? jangankan ditiru, tahu pun tidak.

🌹 Setiap kita butuh teladan, begitupun dengan wanita solehah. Jika kita mau mempelajari, ternyata istri-istri Rasulullah mewakili semua karakter wanita yang ada.. dan sesungguhnya mereka dan sohabiyah-sohabiyah lah sebaik-baik teladan bagi wanita solehah.

🌹 Siapakah yang hendak jadi wanita solehah, belajarlah dari Ummu Sulaim? Dia menikah dengan Abu Talhah dengan mahar iman. Abu Talhah, yang seorang kafir ketika itu, jatuh hati kepada Ummu Sulaim yang masih muslim. Ummu Sulaim berkata: “Jika hendak menikahiku, maka jadikanlah Islam dan imanmu sebagai maharnya.” Maka Islamlah Abu Talhah. Sehingga ada sahabat yang berkata, “Aku belum pernah melihat seorang wanita sama sekali yang lebih mulia maskawinnya dibandingkan dengan maskawin Ummu Sulaim.” Malah, dia mentarbiyyah suaminya, sehingga suaminya menjadi seorang sahabat yang setia. Siapa yang tidak kenal dengan Abu Talhah? Dialah yang menyambut semua panahan yang ditujukan kepada Rasulullah SAW pada hari Uhud dengan belakang tubuhnya.

🌹 Siapa yang ingin jadi wanita solehah, belajarlah dari isteri kedua Rasulullah SAW, Ummu Salamah? Bagaimana cerdiknya dia, bijaknya dia sehinggakan dia menjadi penasihat yang baik kepada Rasulullah SAW. Ketika peristiwa Perjanjian Hudaibiyyah, ketika Rasulullah mengarahkan semua sahabat-sahabatnya menyembelih hewan dan bercukur rambut, tak ada seorangpun yang bangkit menyahut arahannya. Rasulullah SAW, lantas kembali ke kemah lalu berkata di hadapan Ummu Salamah, “Kenapa mereka berbuat begitu?” Ummu Salamah berkata, “Jangan kau hiraukan mereka, cukurlah rambutmu, dan sembelihlah hewanmu.” Ketika Rasulullah SAW melakukan, semua sahabat mengikuti.

🌹 Siapa yang hendak menjadi wanita solehah contohlah isteri Rasulullah SAW, Aisyah r.a? Ketika peristiwa Hadith Ifki terjadi, menumpahkan fitnah ke atasnya, mengotorkan namanya, dia tetap teguh, yakin kepada Allah SWT. Tidak sedikitpun dia bersangka buruk kepada Allah SWT ketika ditimpa cobaan.

🌹 Siapa yang ingin menjadi wanita solehah, contohlah Asma’ binti Abu Bakr?! Dia digelari Zat An-Nitaqain kerana membawa makanan kepada Rasulullah SAW dan bapaknya Sayidina Abu Bakar r.a ketika persembunyian di Gua Thur. Dialah juga yang disiksa oleh Abu Jahal kerana tidak mau memberitahu posisi Rasulullah SAW dan bapaknya ketika hijrah. Dialah juga yang mentarbiyyah anaknya, Abdullah Ibn Zubair RA, sehingga menjadi seorang sahabat Rasulullah SAW yang berani.

🌹 Siapa pula yang ingin menjadi wanita solehah, bisa belajar dari Khansa? Dia mempunyai empat orang anak. Dia mentarbiyyah empat orang anaknya dengan baik. Apabila mendapat seruan jihad, diantarnya anaknya yang sulung. Anak sulungnya syahid. Diantar pula yang kedua. Yang kedua juga syahid. Diantar pula yang ketiga. Yang ketiga juga syahid. Begitu jugalah juga dia mengantar anaknya yang keempat, dan yang keempat itu pun syahid. Akhirnya dia menangis. Orang berkata, “Khansa kesedihan kerana kehilangan semua anaknya” Tetapi tahukah kalian apakah jawapannya? “Diamlah kalian, sesungguhnya aku bersedih kerana aku tidak punya anak lagi untuk diantar berjihad di jalan Allah.”

⏳ Wahai wanita, wahai ukhti, hari ini, siapakah diantara kamu yang mengingat mereka?

🍁 Wahai ukhti, hari ini wanita mana yang kamu puja dan puji? Wahai akhi.. , hari ini wanita bagaimana yang kamu sanjung?

🍃 Ya ukhti, hari ini wanita mana yang kamu ikuti dan contohi? Ya akhi, hari ini wanita yang bagaimana kamu idamkan untuk jadikan isteri?

🍃 Sesungguhnya wanita-wanita dalam lipatan sejarah ini telah dilupakan. Mereka betul-betul wanita-wanita yang telah dilupakan. Sedangkan pada diri mereka, terdapat kemuliaan dan suri tauladan yang tiada tanding.

JAMI’ at-TIRMIDHI: The Book on Salat (Prayer): Hadith 313

Madan [bin Talhah] said:
“I met Abu Ad-Darda, and I asked him what I had asked Thawban, so he said: ‘Perform prostrations, for I heard Allah’s Messenger saying: 'No worshipper performs a prostration to Allah except that by it Allah will raise him a level, and erase a sin from him for it.”

JAMI’ at-TIRMIDHI: The Book on Salat (Prayer): Hadith 241/304

Narrated from from Aboo Sa'eed al-Khudree (رضي الله عنه):

Allāh’s Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم said, “There is not a servant who fasts a day in the way of Allāh (sincerely), except that Allāh removes his face from the Fire by the distance of seventy years because of that.”

—  [Reported by al-Bukhārī and Muslim (no. 1153). Translated by Aboo Talhah Dāwood Burbank رحمه الله رحمة واسعة]
MAHAR DALAM PERNIKAHAN

🎀 Mahar adalah mas kawin pemberian wajib dari calon suami kepada perempuan yang akan dinikahi, baik berupa materi ataupun non materi.

💐 Allah berfirman, “Dan berikanlah mahar kepada perempuan-perempuan yang kamu nikahi sebagai pemberian dengan penuh kerelaan (An Nisa:4) 💐

🎀 Para ulama bersepakat bahwa mahar adalah rukun nikah. Akan tetapi, menyebutkan mahar bukan merupakan syarat dalam akad nikah. Seandainya akad nikah dilaksanakan tanpa menyebutkan mahar, pernikahannya tetap sah dan sang suami tetap berkewajiban memberi mahar kepada istri. Akan tetapi, Ibnu Taimiyah menjelaskan bahwa menyebutkan mahar saat akad nikah bermanfaat untuk menghindari perselisihan dikemudian hari.

🎀 Menurut Dr. Yusuf Qardhawi, ada empat hikmah disyariatkannya mahar.
🍂 1. Menunjukkan kemuliaan wanita, karena wanita lah yang dicari laki-laki, bukan laki-laki yang dicari wanita. Laki-laki yang berusaha mendapatkan wanita meskipun harus mengorbankan hartanya, bukan sebaliknya.
🍂2. Menunjukkan kasih sayang seorang suami kepada istri, karena mahar itu sifatnya pemberian, hadiah atau hibah. Dalam Al Qur'an disebut dengan istilah nihlah yang artinya pemberian yang penuh kerelaan (Q. S. An Nisa: 4)
🍂 3. Menunjukkan kesungguhan, karena menikah bukan perkara main-main atau perkara yang bisa dipermainkan. Jika belum menikah saja seseorang sudah rela memberikan hadiah sebagai bukti kesungguhan cinta, apalagi semestinya saat menikahi dan setelahnya.
🍂 4. Menunjukkan tanggungjawab suami dalam kehidupan berumah tangga dengan memberi nafkah.

🎀 Karena mahar itu pemberian wajib dari calon suami, maka apa bentuk mahar yang akan diberikan sebaiknya dibicaraan kedua belah pihak sehingga ketika menerimanya, sang calon istri diliputi kebahagiaan, saling meridhoi dan tidak memberatkan salah satu pihak.

🎀 Beberapa prinsip berikut hendaknya diperhatikan ketika menentukan mahar.
🍃 A. Mahar hendaknya sederhana.
Tidak ada batasan baku tentang besarnya mahar. Namun demikian, bukan berarti kita boleh berlomba-lomba dalam besarnya mahar.

💐 Rasulullah saw berfirman: "Sungguh sebaik-baik kaum perempuan adalah yang paling ringan tuntutan maharnya. (H. R. Ibnu Hibban dari Ibnu Abbas).

🎀 Bukannya Rasulullah ingin meremehkan wanita dengan rendahnya mahar, namun beliau tidak menginginkan timbulnya kesulitan dalam sebuah rencana pernikahan dikarenakan beratnya mahar.

🍃 B. Hendaknya mahar memberikan manfaat yang optimal.
Mahar boleh berbentuk uang, barang, ataupun sesuatu yang bersifat nonmateri. Jika mahar itu dalam bentuk uang maka pilihlah nominal yang pantas, diukur dari kemampuan kedua belah pihak. Boleh saja kita memilih nominal sesuai tanggal pernikahan atau angka-angka yang lain asal tidak justru menyulitkan untuk mendapatkannya. Jika mahar berupa barang, pilihlah barang yang sekiranya akan bermanfaat, bukan sekedar barang yang unik atau antik yang nantinya tidak bermanfaat. Mahar juga boleh berupa nonmateri, hal ini terjadi pada Ummu Sulaim yang meminta mahar kepada Abu Talhah berupa keislaman Abu Talhah itu sendiri, karena sebelumnya beliau belum berislam.

🍃 C. Mahar tidak boleh diambil kembali
Setelah akad nikah, apalagi ketika telah terjadi hubungan suami istri, mahar tidak boleh diminta lagi oleh pihak suami. Ketika belum terjadi hubungan suami istri dan terjadi perceraian, sang suami boleh meminta kembali. Karena mahar adalah harta yang mutlak menjadi milik istri, maka sang suami harus memikirkannya dengan matang. Misalnya seorang laki-laki memberi mahar rumah kepada istrinya. Maka, kepemilikan rumah itu seutuhnya berpindah kepada istri. Ketika terjadi perceraian, sang suami tidak boleh meminta rumahnya kembali dan ketika sang suami meninggal, rumah tersebut tidak termasuk kedalam harta warisan suami yang akan dibagi.

🍃 D. Mahar tidak harus cincin.
Mahar pernikahan tidak harus cincin dan bertukar cincin bukanlah suatu hal yang diwajibkan dalam islam. Jangan sampai kita mensakralkan cincin pernikahan hingga menganggap bahwa melepasnya adalah hal yang dilarang.

Sekian kulsap hari ini, semoga bermanfaat. (rm)

🌷Sumber: Disarikan dari tulisan Ust. Cahyadi Takariyawan.

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The Haa'iyyah Poem - Ibn Abi Dawud as-Sijistani - حائية - ابن أبي داود السجستاني

(1) Hold tightly to the rope of Allaah and the guidance,
And do not be an innovator, so that you might be successful.

(2) And practice your religion based on the Book of Allaah and the Sunan which have come from the Messenger of Allaah so you will be saved and earn reward.

(3) And say: Not a created thing is the Speech of our great King,
Such was the religious position of the pious ones (before us) which they clearly expressed.

(4) And do not be a person who takes no position on the Quran,
As did the followers of Jahm, and they had been too lax (to take the right position).

(5) And do not say that the Quran is created, meaning: its recitation,
Since the Speech of Allaah, through its recitation, is made clear.

(6) And say: Allaah will make himself visible to the creation, openly,
Just as the full moon is not hard to see, and your Lord (will be seen) more clearly.

(7) And He was not born, nor has He fathered anyone,
Nor is there anything similar to Him, exalted be the Glorified One.

(8) A Jahmee rejects this, however, we have
As a testimony to the truth of what we say - a hadeeth that clarifies it.

(9) Jareer narrated it, from the words of Muhammad,
So say what he said about that, and you will be successful.

(10) And certainly a Jahmee will deny His Right Hand as well,
While both of His Hands are giving out all kinds of bounties.

(11) And say: The Ever-Compelling descends each night,
Without asking how, magnificent is the One God and most worthy of praise.

(12) Down to the lowest heaven, granting bounties from His Grace,
As the gates of the heavens are opened and spread widely.

(13) He says: Is there anyone seeking forgiveness who would like to meet a Forgiver?
Or anyone seeking bounties of goodness and provisions, so he could be given (what he requests)?

(14) A group have reported this whose reports are not to be rejected,
But sadly some have went wrong and did not believe them, marring themselves.

(15) And say: Indeed the best of the people after Muhammad
Were his two deputies of old, and then ‘Uthmaan, according to the most correct position.

(16) And the fourth of them was the best of creation after them,
'Alee, the companion of goodness, through goodness he was successful.

(17) Those are the people, those who we have no doubt about,
Upon the great camels of Firdows, shining brightly and roaming about.

(18) Sa’eed, Sa’d, Ibn 'Awf, Talhah,
Aamir of Fihr, and Zubayr the praiseworthy.

(19) And speak with the best terms about the Companions, all of them,
And do not be one who speaks ill of them, pointing out their faults and criticizing,

(20) Since the clear Revelation has spoke of their excellence,
And in (Soorah) al-Fath are verses about the Companions, praising them.

(21) And regarding the pre-ordained Qadr, be convinced, since it is
The pillar that combines many affairs of the Religion, and the Religion encompasses much.

(22) And do not reject, out of ignorance, (belief in) Nakeer and Munkar,
Or the Pool or the Scales, surely you are being advised sincerely.

(23) And say: Allaah, the Great, will remove, from of His Grace,
Out of the Fire, people, burned severely, who will then be tossed

(24) Into the river in Firdows, wherein they will regain life by its water,
Like a seed taken by a flood that comes and wipes things away with its abundant water.

(25) And surely, the Messenger of Allaah will intercede for the creation.
And speak about the punishment of the grave, that it is the truth, made clear.

(26) And do not make takfeer of those who pray, even if they commit sins,
Since all of them commits sins, while the Owner of the Throne forgives graciously.

(27) And do not hold a belief like that of the Khawaarij, for it is
A position held by only those who desire it, and it is destructive and disgraceful.

(28) And do not be a Murji’, one who plays games with his religion,
Surely, the Murji’ is joking about the religion (ie. not taking it seriously).

(29) And say: Eemaan (faith) consists of statements, intentions (i.e. belief of the heart)
And Actions, according to the explicit statement of the Prophet.

(30) And it decreases sometimes, due to disobedience, and sometimes
Because of obedience it grows, and on the Scale it will outweigh (other things).

(31) And keep yourself from the opinions of people and their stances, 
Since the stance of the Messenger of Allaah is more befitting and comforting to the chest.

(32) And do not be from those who play games with their religion,
Attacking the people of hadeeth and reviling them.

(33) If you keep the belief contained within this poem all your life, O my companion, You will be upon goodness, day and night.

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Among the great Muslim women who are known for their strength of character, lofty aspirations and far-sightedness in their choice of a husband is Umm Sulaym bint Milhan, who was one of the first Ansar women to embrace Islam. She was married to Malik ibn Nadar, and bore him a son, Anas. When she embraced Islam, her husband Malik was angry with her, and left her, but she persisted in her Islam. Shortly afterwards, she heard the news of his death, and she was still in the flower of her youth. She bore it all with the hope of reward, for the sake of Allah (SWT), and devoted herself to taking care of her ten-year-old son Anas. She took him to the Prophet (peace be upon him), so that he could serve him (and learn from him).

One of the best young men of Madinah, one of the best-looking, richest and strongest, came to seek her hand in marriage. This was Abu Talhah - before he became Muslim. Many of the young women of Yathrib liked him because of his wealth, strength and youthful good looks, and he thought that Umm Sulaym would joyfully rush to accept his offer. But to his astonishment, she told him, “O Abu Talhah, do you not know that your god whom you worship is just a tree that grew in the ground and was carved into shape by the slave of Banu so-and-so.” He said, “Of course.” She said, “Do you not feel ashamed to prostrate yourself to a piece of wood that grew in the ground and was carved by the slave of Banu so-and-so?” Abu Talhah was stubborn, and hinted to her of an expensive dowry and luxurious lifestyle, but she persisted in her point of view, and told him frankly: “O Abu Talhah, a man like you could not be turned away, but you are a disbelieving man, and I am a Muslim woman. It is not permitted for me to marry you, but if you were to embrace Islam, that would be my dowry (mahr), and I would ask you for nothing more.”1

He returned the following day to try to tempt her with a larger dowry and more generous gift, but she stood firm, and her persistance and maturity only enhanced her beauty in his eyes. She said to him, “O Abu Talhah, do you not know that your god whom you worship was carved by the carpenter slave of so-and-so? If you were to set it alight, it would burn.” Her words came as a shock to Abu Talhah, and he asked himself, Does the Lord burn? Then he uttered the words:

Ashhadu an la ilaha ill-Allah wa ashhadu anna Muhammadan rasul-Allah.”

Then Umm Sulaym said to her son Anas, with joy flooding her entire being, “O Anas, marry me to Abu Talhah.” So Anas brought witnesses and the marriage was solemnized. Abu Talhah was so happy that he was determined to put all his wealth at Umm Sulaym’s disposal, but hers was the attitude of the selfless, proud, sincere believing woman. She told him, “O Abu Talhah, I married you for the sake of Allah (SWT), and I will not take any other dowry.” She knew that when Abu Talhah embraced Islam, she did not only win herself a worthy husband, but she also earned a reward from Allah (SWT) that was better than owning red camels (the most highly-prized kind) in this world, as she had heard the Prophet (peace be upon him) say:

“If Allah (SWT) were to guide one person to Islam through you, it is better for you than owning red camels.”2

Such great Muslim women are examples worthy of emulation, from whom Muslim women may learn purity of faith, strength of character, soundness of belief and wisdom in choosing a husband.

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The Muslim woman who understands the teachings of her religion has wise and correct standards when it comes to choosing a husband. She does not concern herself just with good looks, high status, a luxurious lifestyle or any of the other things that usually attract women. She looks into his level of religious commitment and his attitude and behaviour, because these are the pillars of a successful marriage, and the best features of a husband.

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     1. Reported by al-Nisa'i with a sahih isnad, 6/114, Kitab al-nikah, bab al-tazwij ‘ala'l-Islam.

     2. Fath al-Bari, 7/476, Kitab al-maghazi, bab ghazwat Khaybar.

Imaam al-Barbahaari (rahimahullaah) said:

All praise is for Allaah who guided us to Islaam and blessed us with it and placed us in the best nation, so we ask Him to grant us that we keep to that which He loves and is pleased with and avoid that which He hates and which angers Him.

Know that Islam is the Sunnah, and the Sunnah is Islaam[1] and one of them cannot be established without the other.

NOTES

1.) The Prophet said, “He who turns away from my Sunnah is not from me.” Bukhaaree (Eng. trans. 7/1-2/no.l), Muslim (Eng. Trans. 2/703/n0.3236) and an-Nasaa'ee.

Abu Hurairah said that Allaah’s Messenger said, “All of my Ummah will enter Paradise except those who refuse.” It was said, “Who will refuse?” He replied. “Whoever obeys me enters Paradise and whoever disobeys me has refused.” Bukhaaree (Eng. trans. 9/284/n0.384).

Imaam az-Zuhree (the famous taabi'ee, d.124H) said,“The people of knowledge who came before us used to say,‘Salvation lies in clinging to the Sunnah.’” Daarimee in his Sunan (no.96).

Kitaab Sharh us-Sunnah
By: Al-Barbahaaree
Trans: Abu Talhah Dawud Burbank (Rahimahullah)

anonymous asked:

can you give me characteristics about aisha

Asalaamualaykum,

We pray this message finds you in good emaan & well being! We ask you to please respectfully remember the right upon the believers and begin your message with the salaams.

We would be more than happy to give you some characteristics of our beloved Umm nul momineen Ā’ishah (radiAllāhu ‘anha).

Her Virtues:

1. Abu Musā Al-Ash’ari (رضي الله عنه) reported that Allāh’s Messenger (ﷺ) said:

“There are many persons amongst men who are perfect but none is perfect amongst women except Maryam, daughter of Imrān, Aasiyah, wife of Fir’awn, and the excellence of Ā’ishah compared to (other) women is that of Tharīd over all other foods.”[1]

2. Abdullāh bin Ziyād Al-Asadi narrated that ”when Talhah, Az-Zubayr, and Ā’ishah moved to Basra, ‘Ali sent Ammār bin Yāsir and Hasan bin ‘Ali who came to us at Kufa and ascended the pulpit. Al-Hasan bin ‘Ali was at the top of the pulpit and Ammār was below Al-Hasan. We all gathered before him. I heard Ammār say, “Ā’ishah has moved to Al-Basra. By Allāh! She is the wife of your Prophet (ﷺ) in this world and the Hereafter. But Allāh has put you to test whether you will obey Him (Allāh) or her (‘Ā’ishah).”[2]

3. Amr bin Al-Aas (رضي الله عنه) narrated: “Allāh’s Messenger (ﷺ) sent me as the commander of the army of Dhat-us-Salāsil.” Amr bin Al-Aas continued, “(On my return) I came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said, ‘Which people do you love most?’ He replied, ‘Ā’ishah.’ I said, ‘From among the men?’ He replied, ‘Her father (Abū Bakr), I said, ‘then who is next?’ Then he counted many men, and I became silent for fear that he might regard me as the last of them.”[3]

4. Ā’ishah (رضي الله عنها) said, “Allāh’s Messenger (ﷺ) used to ask, in his fatal illness, ‘Where will I be tomorrow? Where will I be tomorrow?’ intending Ā’ishah’s turn. His wives allowed him to stay wherever he wished. So he stayed at Ā’ishah’s house till he died while he was with her.”

Ā’ishah (رضي الله عنها) added: “The Prophet (ﷺ) died on the day of my turn in my house and he was taken unto Allāh while his head was against my chest and his salvia mixed with my salvia.”[4]

If I were to recount all her virtues, then space would be insufficient. What has been enumerated is sufficient. She has combined (in herself) all that would distinguish her above other women. She said: “I have been given nine (virtues) that were not given to any woman after Maryam bint Imrān: Jibrīl descended with my picture in his sleep until Allāh’s Messenger (ﷺ) was commanded to marry me; he had married me while I was a virgin and he never married any virgin besides me, his soul was taken while his head was on my lap and he was buried in my house. The angels had surrounded my house, I am the daughter of his Khalīfah and his Siddīq; my excuse was revealed from the heaven. I was created pure. I have been promised forgiveness (of sins) and noble provision.[5]

Footnotes:

1. Sahīh: Reported by Al Bukhāri & Muslim
2. Sahīh: Reported by Al-Bukhāri and Ash-Shaykh Al-Adawee adjudged it Sahīh. Fadhā’il As-Sahābat An-Nabiyy (p. 3).
3. Sahīh: Reported by Al Bukhāri & Muslim
4. Sahīh: Reported by Al Bukhāri & Muslim
5. Reported bu Abu Bakr Al-Ajrī. Adh-Dhahabī said: its chain is good. Siyar Aalam An-Nubalā 2/241.

[Source: Men & Women around the Messenger (ﷺ). Author: S’ad Yusuf Abu ‘Aziz. Translator: Suleman Fulani, pp. 572-573]

She was intelligent with a knowledge to rival the closest of companions to the Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ), pious, kind, benevolent, brave, and a woman that all believing women should strive to emulate. May Allāh be pleased with her.

We hope the above was helpful to you In shā’ Allāh. JazakumAllāhu khayr wa BārakAllāhu feekum.