anonymous asked:

Hey I'm just wondering if you have any tips for someone who is empty inside ? Thank you I love your blog so much 💖🌟

🌸 Take risks. text someone first, join a new class, audition for a role, take up a new hobby, tell someone you love them. If the end result could be good, try it. The accomplishment from overcoming your fear of failure can be exciting, and can make you feel alive again.

🌸 Don’t stay in bed. Don’t stay on social media if you’re rotating between the same apps. Go outside and look at the dogs in the park. Walk on the street and observe people passing you by. Go to a coffee shop and wonder about the stranger’s lives. Feel the sunlight on your skin. Wish strangers a good day. Say hello to the girl you want to befriend. Be part of the world, don’t isolate yourself from it. Emptiness can stem from a feeling of exclusion, so surround yourself with people who love you, and distance yourself from negativity or people who don’t appreciate your worth.

🌸 Make new beginnings. It’s ok if you’re not where you want to be. You can start new, whether it’s a new study routine, a new exercise goal, starting recovery, or a new act of self care. You are in control of your life, and you can turn your life around by changing your mindset and habits.

🌸 Don’t dwell on it. Don’t think about the future and scary possibilities. Don’t let failures determine your future. Don’t overcontemplate unanswerable questions. Don’t get anxious about your grades. Don’t wonder what could have been. If something can’t be changed, don’t focus on it. Let it go, move forward, trust that you’ll be ok, and trust yourself to grow from it.

🌸 Start loving who you are. You may not be the smartest in your class, but you can definitely make people’s days by existing. You may not be pretty like them, but you’re pretty like you. You may have made mistakes, but you are strong and can learn from them. You may have upset people, but you also made people extremely happy to be alive at the same time as you. Your body may not be what you want it to be, but you can dance in your room, sing in the shower, create art, hug people you love, run in the rain and think of amazing ideas. You don’t need to compare yourself, you are already enough.


moodboards: the losers club + colors of the rainbow

  • ben hanscom - orange

The color orange radiates warmth and happiness, combining the physical energy and stimulation of red with the cheerfulness of yellow. Orange relates to ‘gut reaction’ or our gut instincts, as opposed to the physical reaction of red or the mental reaction of yellow. Orange offers emotional strength in difficult times. It helps us to bounce back from disappointments and despair, assisting in recovery from grief. With its enthusiasm for life, the color orange relates to adventure and risk-taking, inspiring physical confidence, competition and independence.

How much has changed since you were five?
Today is still the same.
Despite how long you’ve been alive,
it all is still a game.
Let’s play pretend and try on clothes
that are too big to fit.
So this way you are not like those
the crowd wants to omit.
Cling to the dice, it’s your lifeboat.
Release it when you’re sure
you’ll take a risk, yet stay afloat.
Those troubled, you’ll ignore.  
You make up words with small, square tiles
because you cannot spell,
and hope this trick is masked by smiles,
an act you hope to sell.
When no one sees, you’re quick to cheat,
without it, you can’t win.
You say it’s better than defeat,
to you, a worthwhile sin.
If all of this is just a game,
I don’t think I should play.
The world is not to take the blame,
unless I choose to stay.
—  Kristen Costello, “Grown-Ups”

6 Things to Remember Before Start Your Day.

1. Clean your mind from whatever that already happened. Make peace and acknowledge your past, accept it. It’s important because your day won’t be productive if your soul still feeling blue. Dare to let go, better days are waiting.

2. Concentrate to value the time. It keeps running. Stop doing something that is not beneficial. Focus on your dream. Execute the priority.

3. Take more risk, because doing something is better than nothing. Life’s lessons can be learned from experience. Experience is a compilation of mistakes that become self-guidance. And to gain experience you need to take action.

4. Manage your tasks well. Big success starts with the way we arrange our daily task.

5. Manage your stress. Stress and depression are normal, just don’t be too fragile. A lot of tasks can be done when we remain calm. If I can suggest, meditate.

6. Reward yourself. It’s part of recharging energy. Don’t be so hard on your body. There is a limit.

2017 Fic in Review Tag Game

Thanks for the tag, @chriscalledmesweetie !!

Total number of completed stories: 72

Total word count: 544 710

Fandoms written in: 69 fics in the Sherlock fandom, 2 in the skam fandom and one in the cmbyn fandom

Looking back, did you write more fic than you thought you would this year, less, or about what you’d expected?

I wrote less this year, mostly because of s4. But 2016 was the year I really started writing, and back then, I used to write each sunday for smut sunday, so I have a lot of short, smutty fics.

What’s your own favorite story of the year?

That’s a hard question, but I’d say Without a Word. It started as something very small and grew and grew and grew, and I’m really happy with the fic it ended up being. 

Did you take any writing risks this year?

I went outside the Sherlock fandom, so yeah, big risks! But I’m glad I did for sure!

Do you have any fanfic or profit goals for the new year?

For now it’s very hard to say. I haven’t been feeling like writing lately…. but:

I’m writing a fic with @lizlemo Three, Two, One which is currently in hiatus but I’m hoping to get it done this year. 

I’ve always wanted to write an Arranged Marriage but also always had a problem with the concept, but I had an idea this week about a good prompt, so maybe?

Best story of the year?

Without a Word once again!

Most popular story of the year?

Most kudos and hits, Without a Word 

Most comments, Our Deal 

Story of mine most under-appreciated by the universe, in my opinion:

Not easy to answer, but I’d say A Lifetime Of Almost which is my first fic in the fandom, and one I still feel like says the most about my writing and how much it changed. 

Most fun story to write:

Our Deal is the one I enjoyed writing the most with @lizlemo​ !! 

Story that shifted my own perceptions of the characters & most unintentionally telling story:

I’m going with To Keep Quiet here. It was the first fic I wrote after s4 and it made me dig deep into Sherlock and John’s characters to get it right, somehow. I’m still not happy about it, mostly because of s4 and all it destroyed.

Biggest disappointment:

I’ve started Of Challenges, Seduction and Love at First Sight months ago and somehow never managed to finish. I’m really hoping to finish it this year, really, really hoping to.

Biggest surprise: Some amazing Cover Arts <3

[Cover Art] for Room 89: Sex by Salambo06

Cover Art for ‘What we are’ by Salambo06 

Cover Art for 'What we could have been’ by Salambo06

I’m tagging @lizlemo @astudyinsnoggy @astralcasper @mssmithlove1 @prettysherlocksoldier @weeesi @vitruvianwatson

anonymous asked:

I agree I don’t think Harry hated 1D or his time in it but it hating it is not the same as wanting to go back to it. He suggested the break up and clearly had plans to go solo and he’s well on his way with a multi album deal and touring, etc. there is no way I see him dropping that to go back to having to compromise everything he wants to do from the music, aesthetics, performance and promo style. He’s already set himself so far apart from the way 1D operated and will only continue to do so. 1

The way I see it 1D stayed together and tolerated the bad sides of it because they didn’t know another way and they were so successful. It had to be scary to break away from that and take risks but now that they’ve all had a taste of what it’s like when they get to call their own shots and make their own choices and music I would think it would be even harder to go backwards and put up with all the downsides again of being in a group. Harry also seems to want industry respect that 1D never got 2

yeah i get this

anonymous asked:

(part 1) ive suspected i have adhd for a while now and idk I'm just frustrated and i don't know what to do. both my brother and my mom have it but the only person who wants to talk to my doctor about it (my mom) doesnt have custody of me so she can't really do anything. i see a therapist because i might have depression but they seem unwilling to help me with anything else mental health related. ...

(2) I’m scared to go to my school counselor about it because I get good grades (though last year everyone had to take a short “depression risk” quiz and i got a high score so that would help my case) and i just feel uncomfortable about it and even if i did i don’t know where id go from there. even if it turns out i dont have adhd just knowing would help.. Obviously if this is like… too much you guys don’t have to answer it but some advice would be greatly appreciated… thank you all so much

From September 24 2017

So I’m guessing your dad doesn’t want to take you to the doctor at all. That sucks.

I think you have a couple of options here. I’m going to just outline them and you can see what sounds most do-able.

One option is that you can talk to your therapist about it. Actually describe your symptoms, remind them that your mom and brother have ADHD and that it’s got a genetic component, and ask if they can help you get assessed. They might say no but they might say yes; no way to know until you try.

Another option is to go to your school counsellor. I know you said you’re scared to do that; however, they may be able to make a case to your dad about it. Tell them about your symptoms and the things you struggle with, and that ADHD is in your family (don’t tell them who has it; disclosing for other people isn’t cool—it’s okay with the therapist because they have to keep it confidential) so you were wondering if that might be it. Explain also that your dad doesn’t want to get you assessed, and ask if they can help you figure out what to do.

Your third option, I’m not sure if this is normal or whatever, but I think you can write to the judge who gave your dad custody and tell them that you want to be assessed to see if you have ADHD (explain your symptoms and that you have immediate family members who also have ADHD) but your dad doesn’t want to do it. The court can require your father to have you tested. This would be a last resort though, and not something you should do right away. Try the other things first.

Followers, what do you think? Also, if anyone knows more about the law than I do, please jump in on that last option I gave! Normally I’d ask my husband, but it’s the middle of the day on a Monday and he’s at work.


“Pagdating sa love, ready na ako mag take ng risk. Hindi naman ako natatakot masaktan, natatakot ako makasakit.”

I don’t know if you’re being selfish or not. Sino bang gusto makasakit? Sino bang gusto masaktan? Nung una pa lang, handa na kong sumugal sa’yo. Hindi ka pumayag. Naiintindihan ko naman, kasi takot ka.

Ngayon, mas natatakot ka. Kasi busy kang tao. Baka hindi mo mabigay yung oras na kailangan ng taong handang magmahal sa’yo. Pero hindi mo ba naisip na kahit sa isang oras na ibigay mo sakanya, okay na sya dun?

Sobrang unfair lang, kasi okay ako sa kaya mong ibigay. Okay na ko sa atensyon na binibigay mo. Kuntento na ko sa gabi gabing usap natin. Kuntento na ko kahit sobrang busy mong tao, pero ikaw yung pilit na kumakawala kasi takot ka.

Hindi mo ba naisip na, takot din akong saktan ka pero pilit akong sumugal? Kasi mas nakakatakot yung lumayo ka pagkatapos ng sayang binigay mo sa’kin? Mas nakakatakot mawala yung mga ngiting binalik ko sa’yo na pinagdamot sa’yo ng tadhana? Mas nakakatakot mawala ka, kesa masaktan ka.

H O G W A R T S   H O U S E   P E R C E N T A G E

repost, don’t reblog. from here.

What’s Your Muse’s Hogwarts House Percentage?

You Are 38% Slytherin || 28% Gryffindor || 19% Ravenclaw || 15% Hufflepuff!

You are relentless in your pursuit of success, making you a perfect fit for Slytherin, but your willingness to take risks makes you somewhat compatible with the typical traits of Gryffindor house. People who don’t know you well are often intimidated by your reserved demeanour, and you have very few close friends. You are loyal to few, and definitely prioritise personal success over close relationships.

Your slight compatibility with Ravenclaw house hints at an appreciation for knowledge and wisdom, though they are not priorities for you.

tagged by: @truthseeked (Thank you <333)
tagging: @ciircumserpent, @sonicanary, @youusedme, @invincibleshellhead, @vvaytofall, @xgamora, @natstxrk, @oncelcved, @epeolxtry (for Maria), and anyone else who wants to do it!

It is a part of our nature to learn and to grow.  And one way we do this is by taking risks.  When we learned to walk, we risked falling down.  We are constantly striving to better ourselves and our lives, and we can’t do that by standing still.  Our instincts urge us to move forward, to see what is ahead, to peek around the corner not knowing for sure what we might find.—Lissa Coffey
—  Mariama
If you’re an artist, then this is for you.

This year, I want you to be unapologetic when you create.

Don’t apologize for your writing, drawing, music, designs, films, sculptures, cosplays, knitting, sewing, cooking, and anything else I might’ve missed.

Don’t apologize for the quality.

Stop being afraid of what you can accomplish. You might think you can do so much better, well guess what? You will. You’re always improving. But if you start to apologize for the best you can do at this moment, then you might restrain yourself, stop yourself from taking risks that will help you.

I know this is a hard thing to stop. I do it all the time. When I submit art to people that I’m not so confident about, I’ll apologize in advance.

This year, I challenge you, and myself, to stop doing it.

House Stereotypes


Gryffindor: It’s not fun unless you die.

Hufflepuff: I just want lunch, please.

Slytherin: I’m willing to kill a man for a potato chip.

Actual Houses

Ravenclaw: Yeah, I failed that course, but it’s fine, I had a nice stroll through the Forbidden Forest.

Gryffindor: Right well, I’d love to endanger my life, but we could also not do that?

Hufflepuff: I haven’t slept in two days because they said I couldn’t do it, but I refuse to lose.

Slytherin: Can everyone please stop yelling? We can just talk everything out, it’ll all be fine, and then we can get back to painting landscapes, okay?

This is super random and not related to anything but; why do the heroes in movies stay on the phone while the villain threatens them??

It seems really obvious that the moment the villain goes into threatening mode, you should just like… hang up… Now ya don’t know what the villain was trying to get you to do, so any threat is inconsequential. The villain has to find a new way to get the information to you. You got more time to figure out how to defeat them. Win-win.