I don’t want to get too personal here, but people constantly bombarding me with messages that my experiences aren’t real as an asexual person is no different from me telling my parents that they were hurting me and my dad, in a mocking tone, telling me ‘no I didn’t!’ over and over even though I was crying and in distress.
That’s what continually happens to me.
I literally could care less about what people think is or is not gaslighting. I’m going to continue to call it like I see it, and I think it’s highly disrespectful to take that power away from me because you want to win an argument on the Internet. I’m not saying it’s gaslighting for shits and giggles, nor am I disrespecting “real survivors.”
I did survive that. I am surviving that, and I’m further exposed to that on a daily basis by people who speak over me, trying to tell me what is real and what is not. If your objective is to deny whatever happens to me as an asexual person, then you’re participating in that kind of abuse. You don’t actually know me.
You can’t possibly know what kind of shit I’ve been told as an asexual person, beyond the strawman arguments you construct to justify yourself in attacking me. So what makes you think you have more a right than I do to determine if what I myself am experiencing is or is not abusive? You dont. So stop, otherwise you’re taking pride in this.
Like, sorry I’m still heated over this but this kind of shit needs to stop in order for me to be okay.