take no harm

anonymous asked:

I try really hard to understand opposing views to my own. I draw the limits at extremism and views that hurt innocent people.

If you think my simply believing that homosexuality is a sin and that I don’t agree with the lifestyle is “extremism”, then I don’t think you honestly know what extremism actually is. And I’m not saying that with any sarcasm, I’m just being very honest. Extremism with regards to homosexuality is hating people purely for being homosexual, wishing harm on homosexuals, and/or actually taking action to harm homosexuals. Which is what you see happening in the Middle Eastern countries under Islamic rule where it is legal to publicly mutilate, hang, and throw homosexuals off buildings. That is extremism. That involves the hurting and torment of innocent people.

It is not extremism to merely say you disagree with homosexuality - and mind you, that statement is being said purely out of care for others. And I am not trying to force anyone to do anything - the decision is ultimately up to the individual as to whether they decide to embrace sin or follow Christ. I can’t force someone to accept Christ, nor would I want to. That has to come naturally from their own heart.

This mentality that disagreement with homosexuality automatically equates to hatred is very frustrating. Yes, there are some people who disagree with homosexuality with hatred as their motivator. But if someone is truly a follower of Christ, I can assure you that a person stating that they don’t support homosexuality isn’t coming from a place of hatred and they’re not getting any personal satisfaction out of saying it.

I don’t know where this recent idea came from that fiction has to be perfectly healthy anyway. Fiction is not inherently healthy and never has been, its not real, its for exploration and imagination. Fiction is separate from reality and that is why we like it. What you write about is not what you condone, Stephen King is not serial killer for writing about murder. People are not being “abuse apologists” for shipping two characters in a less than healthy way.

I’m sick of this new trend.

You don’t have to like a ship but you want to know what is actually hurting people? What is not promoting healthy behavior? Harassing shippers, telling them they’re disgusting over fiction, that kind of shining behavior antis exhibit.


Edited: because people actually reblog this, the context of this is abusive ships and abusive relationships in fiction. Thats it, thats what I was talking about. I’ve addressed the same thing numerous times so chances are I won’t reply to anything on this post.

Something someone reads or writes about in fiction is not representative what they want in a relationship or their stance on issues irl they take. It is not harming survivors of abusive relationships and a lot of us use it to help ourselves. People can tell the difference between what is real and what is fictional.

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In April, 1977, Florida State Representative Paul Nuckolls wanted to make it a misdemeanor to harm, harass, or capture a Skunk Ape. Part of the bill read that “Any person taking, possessing, harming or molesting any anthropoid or humanoid animal which is native to Florida, popularly known as the Skunk Ape, or doing any act reasonably capable of harming or molesting such animals" would be charged with the misdemeanor. However this bill never passed.

College Life 101

Alrighty folks, here are some nifty tips on how I survived (and could have better survived) college: 

  • As soon as you have your schedule, email your professors. Everyone. Especially if you have questions about the course, if you’re going to miss, etc. also make sure you do it from your school email, many professors will not check an email if it isn’t from a school address. 
  • On move in day, bring a door stop.  moving in is so much easier when you don’t need someone to hold the door for everything. 
  • Shoe racks and command strips/hooks will be your best friend. Use the racks for misc. things like utensils, seasonings, Keurig mixes, hot chocolate, etc. 
  • Bring a whiteboard/corkboard. Write down your classes and anything you need to get done for those classes and make sure that you keep it updated. On the cork side post up papers with important numbers, a map of campus, and other things you get. 
  • SIGN UP FOR ACTIVITIES (ESPECIALLY IF YOU’RE ON A SMALL CAMPUS) otherwise you’re not going to have a fun experience. Even if it’s just something you THINK you may have a slight interest in, try it! 
  • Go to one or two sporting events, just for the hell of it
  • Put important dates in your phone calendar or even a planner. Somewhere you will be reminded of them. Times and dates are critical. 
  • Eat. and eat well. 
  • Use chegg, upper classmen, or other resources for textbooks before you buy them. Campus bookstores are astronomically expensive and it can be a lot cheaper going somewhere else. I use Chegg and they also send you free tide pods, coffee samples, etc. 
  • Bring medicine that you’ve used in the last two years, even if you haven’t used it in a while just to be safe. 
  • If you’re gonna do laundry on the weekends Friday and Saturday nights OR Sunday mornings are prime time. Be prepared for staying up late or getting up early to do laundry 
  • PUT. A TIMER. ON. YOUR. LAUNDRY. Seriously, when you have to share a laundry room there is nothing more annoying than someone who won’t move their laundry out for other people. 
  • On a related note DO NOT THROW OTHER PEOPLE’S LAUNDRY ON THE FLOOR. Fold it up, leave it on the dryers or w/e with a little note. Don’t be an asshole. 
  • Keep extra pads and tampons around everywhere you go. Help yourself and/or ya menstruating friends out. 
  • Bring a phone/laptop charger with you throughout the day. I know I personally have some long breaks between my classes where I do homework and w/e
  • Use Google docs for your assignments, or other programs that back up your work to the cloud. My laptop broke halfway through the semester and the only thing that saved me was Google Docs because my school uses gmail
  • Download Groupme. Right now. Do it. It’s a great way to create group chats, keep them in one place, and keep them backed up somewhere, you’re gonna have some for group projects, your dorm, any programs, etc. 
  • Bring a three hole punch, scissors, glue, tape, notecards, and binders. Also get pocketed folders for any important research papers you may need to turn in. 
  • ALSO DRY ERASE MARKERS ARE A LIFE SAVER. bring them around for studying in empty classrooms it’s v helpful
  • COLOR CODE YOUR BINDERS/NOTE BOOKS/STICKY NOTES. Your binder for one class and all its accessories should be one colors. Color organize your notes. (If you’re colorblind, use patterns or something simple for you.) 
  • Try typing up your notes after classes, save them to your laptop and whatever online thing you use. Sometimes you’ll need your notes and you either won’t have your notebook, laptop, or both and it can be very important to keep your notes accessible. 
  • Make use of tutoring services or other students/friends that are good in your classes. C’s get degrees and if people can help you understand it better then WOO
  • Try not to miss too many classes, but if you do make sure you contact your professors about it (or someone in that class.) 
  • Sleep is v important, but can also be too good so set alarms at least a half hour before your classes to get ready and go. 

Take deep breaths. Make friends. Take no shit, do no harm

((These are based off of my personal experiences, feel free to add on if you think of something))

You know what, I’m getting fuckign tired of this 

Lets come up with some hypothetical scenario. Say I wanted to make a gender bend, say I wanted to turn Lance Mcclain from a user of he/him pronouns, to a user of she/her pronouns. Lance as a boy, looks like this

So, I’m gonna genderbend this character, ready? The picture of Lance below is now Lance Mcclain but now they will be a girl

Are you surprised? Well I wouldn’t be surprised if you were, since common genderbends usually make that character into stereotypes for that gender

When you genderbend a character you are implying that

  • All people fit on the gender binary
  • All characters are cisgendered
  • Someone who uses she/her pronouns must look traditionally feminine while a user of he/him pronouns must look traditionally masculine
  • And when you Change Lance’s name to Laura or Lily or whatever the fuck, your implying that names have to change with your gender identity

So artists, your art is amazing and lovely and you have great skills! But when your idea of a gender-bend is turning a teen aged boy into a character with big boobs and an hourglass figure, guess what, that is harmful! 

I know making art is hard and it’s very time consuming and I’m greatful artists with such great skills wanna draw for our fandoms! Your amazing! But you have to know your media will spread and when someone who’s young sees that art and starts thinking that in order to be a girl you must look ‘feminine’, that affects how they view the world! And they take those stereotypes with them.

You want proof? You don’t believe me? I used to be that child! I was young and impressionable and I saw these amazing drawings and for a while I thought that in order for me to be a girl I had to look like those girls in the pictures! And when I looked at the girls section of the clothes store and I didn’t want to wear anything that was there, It did tremendous damage on my self confidence! 

EDIT:

I was going through reblogs and reading tags and @occultgoths brought to my attention that genderbends are also intersexist! Since the implication that in order to belong to a certain identity, you have to have a certain pair of genitals or ‘look like’ that certain identity is also harmful to intersex people! Thank you to that person for bringing this to my attention! 

TL;DR: GENDER-BENDS ARE HARMFUL! AND AWFULLY CISSEXIST AND TRANSPHOBIC! PLEASE STOP MAKING THEM! NO MATTER WHAT FANDOM YOU ARE IN!

- Your local demigirl

Why taking honey doesn't harm bees

Bees actually dont spend their entire lives collecting honey! Bees only collect honey for storing at the very end of their life. For most of their lives they are nurse bees, or collecting pollen and nectar for short term storage (like feeding their brood) Baby bees actually eat a mix of uncured nectar and pollen, not honey.

A bee colony in an area like texas will need about 50 pounds of honey to make it through winter with more to spare. Because these bees were bred to store more honey than they naturally need, colonies often produce upwards of 80 pounds of honey a year.
A good beekeeper will not harvest honey from a first year bee colony because they need a surplus to build comb with. After the first year the bees will produce very little, if any, brood comb as it is already large enough to sustain a good population. A second year bee colony will produce far more honey than necessary.

Lets say you were to just leave the bees alone, letting them build up honey.
Firstly, your bees would swarm. Swarming is a dangerous thing for bees, very few swarms survive. They risk being sprayed by humans or moving into bad places (such as inside someones house)
Another thing that can happen when youre colony swarms is small hive beetle. Small hive beetles take advantage of any unguarded honeycomb (after a swarm there will be less bees guarding the comb) and they will wreck havoc. I have seem this first hand and its is awful. Too much honey is not a good thing.
It’s irresponsible to let the bees run out of room like that, which is why taking honey is useful. You take a box of honey, and you put an empty one on. Now that the bees have more space to build comb, their swarming instict will be surpressed. A honeybound hive is easily at rist of collapse.
Although it sounds nice to “leave all the honey for the bees” it honestly is not helping them. They have absolutely no need for such a surplus they were bred to collect.
I know this sounds like a dumb human who acts like they know more than the bees, but its true.

i need to be honest here (factkin/otherkin/fictionkin)

Just learned about this whole “factkin” thing and very disturbed. This whole “factkin” thing is not a healthy coping mechanism for what you may have to deal with - you do not know this person you are identifying as. You are going off of how they present themselves to the public, which is oftentimes entirely different from how they genuinely are as people. You are not this person, and you will never be this person, no matter how much you claim to identify with them - especially if they currently exist. You are stealing their identity and parading yourself around as that person. That is not okay. You need to find new coping mechanisms that are not unhealthy or dangerous to yourself or to anyone else.

While I’m at it, I can say the same for the few otherkin who take it too far (eating dog food/raw meat, trying to “photosynthesize,” staying underwater for excessive periods of time, trying to eat diamonds, getting high in attempt to feel “astral limbs,” etc.) Identifying strongly with something non-human is one thing, but treating your physical human body as if you are actually that thing is not healthy, and you could very well die. If you genuinely believe that things like that are good for you, please seek help. While it may make you feel good mentally, physically it can destroy you. You have a human body. You can’t treat a human body as you would treat a dog’s body. Two different kinds of bodies, two different needs.

One more thing - while fictionkin does not seem inherently dangerous, the same pretty much goes. Whatever your kintype may be, your body is human and you need to treat it as such.

Sometimes I feel like tumblr is just a giant contest for who can be the biggest special snowflake.

You are a human being. You are your own person.

Please take care of yourself.