I don’t know how long ago the rest post about muscular trans women was posted or when these amazing people posted their selfies but when I saw them, something washed over me.
All of you looked so happy and feeling gorgeous and confident that i got inspired to draw you all! I’m sorry in advance if those selfies were posted on earlier stages of your transition, I can always take down the drawing, I have no problem on doing so!
In order that are @rocketmermaid@lady-feral@snarlahazard and @sogay4rey
I hope you all are having a great day, you have lighten up my day just by being yourselves.
((NOTE: from the text post I reblogged the only one ibdid not post was @/that-dyke because she left tumblr and it feels disrepectful to post it here. If anyone knows if she would like to see the drawing please contact me.))
i still struggle with self confidence but some things that i remind myself for reassurance are that 1) focus on where you are in the current moment, never on the past 2) list your strengths, successes, personal compliments, etc.; you are your best encouragement. you control your mood so focus on how to control how you feel. keep in mind criticism, but don’t turn that into negativity and become an enemy to yourself 3) speak up for yourself and your opinions. choose for yourself and do not worry about pleasing others. focusing on yourself is so important when building confidence. put yourself first. always. learn to not be afraid of putting the focus on yourself. it’s not called being selfish. treat yourself, too. it can be little things but know that you deserve to feel special. 4) be your own person. never try to be anyone else bc you are so special. you can be original. trying to be like/look like someone else is exhausting. don’t listen to the unrealistic standards that people and you place on yourself 5) surround yourself with people that provide an upbringing to an equal flowing relationship: you both affirm and support each other. being with toxic people (or being a toxic person) does nothing to build your self esteem, and nothing to help who you are as a person. recognizing toxic behavior is so important. like i mentioned earlier, you have to provide support to other people, too. always try to help others, but don’t exhaust yourself. know your limits 6) see mistakes as a part of learning, not a part of failing.
be honest with yourself and know that you are constantly growing 7) don’t focus entirely on whether or not you have the ability — think instead about the value you bring to the table 8) know that building up confidence takes time, so be patient. know that the person trying to give you tips on self confidence is not fully confident in herself. but practice these things and know that you were placed on this world for a reason and that it is your job to prove to yourself that you are worth so much. you are so so so beautiful and strong. you deserve so much and you deserve to love yourself. everyone does.
i didn’t realize how long this would end up being, sorry! if any of you need more advice (insecurities, body confidence, etc) send me an ask or a message! ahhhh i feel like there’s so much more to talk about!!
“I wish I could take Morgana with me. She’s the woman I wish I was. She’s confident and self-assured and, you know, determined, and I’m just a bit picky and actressy, so there are a lot of times that I wish I had more Morgana around.”