tagging people i need to discuss this with

i’m tired of “how to help a partner with [x mental illness]” guides that assume that the other partner has no issues of any kind; i want more discussion of how to balance the differing mental health needs of multiple people in a relationship

ODE on a fandom

Do you want a fandom where cannibalism and love and fluff are tags that appear all in the same fanfiction?

Do you want a fandom where everything is extremely serious, but in some way it’s not and you can joke about it?

Do you want a fandom where fanfictions, drawings, gifs, manipulations, edits, and every other form of art is amazing?

Do you want a fandom where deep and insightful discussions about love, feelings, life, sex, decisions, metaphors, history, art, mythology, psychology are an everyday matter?  

Do you want recipes? You don’t necessarily need to use people to prepare them, I promise.

Do you want a fandom that explains a split-second gif in twenty different ways?

Do you want a fandom where the actors and the producer of the show are the first fans of the show themselves?   

Do you want your dash being filled by images of beautiful men and women, great actors and actresses, great scenes from movies and then, suddently, a penguin or a dog (or a penis shaped pizza) appears and it makes perfectly sense?

Do you want to wake up one day and discover that you know everything about mongooses, but you don’t know what the hell is that animal’s name in your own language?

Do you want to feel the same thrill and passion every single time you rewatch the show, because it’s so amazing it doesn’t matter if you already know how it goes, you just are astonished?

Well, join the Hannibal Fandom.

You will be blessed with the first fandom (that I know of) that’s as good as the show itself.

Reggie Mantle Stan
  • What they say: I'm fine.
  • What they mean: I'm not fine, why do people think he's clueless clearly he's a smart lil bean that needs to appreciated more. He lives for attention because he doesn't get any at home. His parents work for good causes but forget all about him. He doesn't get the whole teen scene because he's never really had people with him and his pranks is what he enjoys to do for attention. My boii got a dog from a shelter for god sakes because he was lonely. He names it VADER could he be any more of a dork. You would think someone with his built would pick a different dog but he picked the smallest one that needed a home because he knows what it's like being lonely and having to fend for himself. He doesn't love Midge he likes the idea of someone like her in his life loving him for who he is. He has such a big heart but nobody knows because he hides it so well and I just want to grab him and hug him and tell him everything is gonna be alright and that he will find happiness.
  • *Catches Breath*
27kra analysis frame by frame, turns out fake + turns out a footage taken from a horror movie - ???

Hello TJLC conspirators and all people still digging to find some explanation for all that season 4 mess. Although I checked out your blogs and read metas from a long time, I didn’t have my own account, and the reason I decided to start one is something I recently noticed, which may or may not give some clues about something, i don’t know. I may be right, I may be terribly wrong, whatever, but the whole conspiracy itself is already one big madness, so I might as well drop something which may seem crazy or irrelevant to me…

People probably already analyzed it a hundred times, but I’d like to come back to the subject of thelostspecial.com and the whole 27kra thing. It’s unknow whether it’s a real official site established to mess with our minds, or an incredibly well done and entertaining fan made, but I think there’s something weird going on and the site’s content is definitely worth checking out. When you type thelostspecial.com/27kra/ you get a rather spooky, The Lost Highway-ish kind of gif which consists mainly of VHS-type glitches. Since I’m a huge fan of VHS, super 8, analog formats and all those glitches and deformations related them, I decided to split the gif into frames and look at them closer. Here I’m going to analyze what is visible on those frames (or maybe, what I can see). I won’t go on with guessing 27kra name, I’ll concern strictly on the gif’s content. There’s something that I noticed that I didn’t see mentioned anywhere on Tumblr (though I may be wrong and it could have been written already, and then I’m sorry for making sensations over old news). Okay, here it goes.

I’m going to post the frames in order. I’m going to write what I see on those pictures, which of course doesnt mean it’s right or anything cause other ones might see it completely different, and of course we cannot be sure of anything at all.

First off, we see something that looks like an entrance, or an exit, and a chunk of the corridor behind the “door”. That’s the first thing that came to my mind. It somehow made me think of Sherrinford, all that simple architecture, corridors and portals, etc., probably because of those numbers visible on the top and the bottom of the footage, it all reminds me of some sort of CCTV footage.

Next frame is just glitches… or maybe something more? If you look closer it seems like some very blurry footage of some room. You can see the black doors in the right corner of the photo, and just next to doors (or maybe a window?) on the left you can see a dark rectangle which might be a tv screen. Then there’s something dark on the left side, and on the bottom there’s something like a… white bottle??? Or just a bottle-looking glitch, which seems more probable. I swear at first I considered it just a composion of glitches, but now I see it as a room.

Then there’s THIS WEIRD SHIT. It appears at least four times in different variations, so I’m going to discuss it later. To see description scroll this writing. Now I’ll pass onto the next frame.

Glitches… anyone can see something in there?

“TV room” comes back again.

What the hell is that. A table with some books/CDs/packages (with some metal holders?)? And with something round? And on the left side there’s something like a floor and the wall? It seems as if someone took a photo of table (or whatever it is) standing just by this table. Table. Why am I even calling it a table? What the fuck is that? SOmEBODY HELP

Beautiful colorful smear of I don’t know what. Althought some people claim to see something in there.

A more blurry version of the “table”. I know it’s not a table - I hope someone enlighten me wtf it is.


And then there’s something that probably everyone already noticed. An eye. Or THE eye. I’ve seen people writing it’s Moriarty, well, that’s also the the first thing that came to my mind. I tried to find some photo of Moriarty looking down (sort of) so I could compare those pictures - I admit you guys are better at finding needed photos/screencaps, here’s the best I could find:

I cut it just to have an eye in the center. Not exactly the same position, but it doesn’t matter. I think they didn’t show him with eyebrows cause it wouldn’t be easier to see the similarity (IF there are some THEY, IF it is who we think it is.) Containing Moriarty in the footage would be a real sign that something wicked this way comes.
But, I don’t know. Someone told me it might be John Watson’s eye, which would fit the shot-in-the-eye theory. What do you think about it?

Another (or the very same room). A kind of cluttered room…

This one seems like a look at the room from above, maybe another CCTV angle. I think it’s the more visible version of the previous.What the fuck is that? A sofa? A coffeetable? Why am I seeing tables everywhere? And what’s that purple thing?


Please let me paste the frame which I passed
Here’s what follows just after the CCTV-looking frame

I may be going mad but ISN’T IT A FUCKING FACE IN HERE?! I mean-

That’s how i see it. The face seems to be tilted back. If you look at the higher resolution screen you can see it seems nose-like and eye-like. The “hair” seem to be long and straight, so it’s a woman? Not a woman? Eurus? Not Eurus? Whoever? Or is it just glitches? But if you look at other frames by the end of the gif you can see “the face” sort of MOVES:

It’s tilted back a little bit more and turned in its left a little. Here’s the same thing in negative:

The things that follow:

BUT! I just now got this one idea… a crazy, fucked up idea, it definitely is insane and probably wrong, but…

Of course, of course I know it might me fake, something put together by some Sherlock fan, or whatever the fuck else. But something tells me it’s not. This COULD be the real thing, right? So, what does it tell us, fans/The Great Game players? At best: something’s coming, something’s happening, you’re on the right path. At worst: someone’s mocking us and though to me it’s highly enjoyable, it’s not Mofftis and we’re seeing things (IT’S JUST THAT THERE’S TOO MUCH OF THOSE SUPPOSEDLY NONEXISTENT THINGS TO SEE, COUGH COUGH). Either way, we’re being experimented on. I don’t know about you, but either way it’s awesome. For the first time from a long time i’m having real fun, and trust me, that’s a lot.
But, for real. If it’s just a fake and we’re all wrong, I would be highly disappointed. THIS ALL IS TOO GREAT, TO GENIUS, TOO ENJOYABLE TO RESULT IN NOTHING. And it means I’ve spent four hours on putting together a writing about something that doesn’t exist. To be honest, I’ve spent too much time on analyzing unreal things and searching for subliminal satanic messages in something very fucked up just to aknowledge it was all in vain. And now I’m just too mindfucked over this and other things that all of you post every day…
Maybe I got excited over something not relevant or already discussed, i don’t know, you decide. But i needed to throw it out somewhere. Please tell me what you think about it, and if you have something new to add about it or ask me about anything don’t be afraid to do it. I’m more than eager to discuss with you guys. Maybe I sound like a crazy person but it’s their fault, not ours, right?

originally posted by allthesherlockgifs

I’m new here but I decided to tag people that I followed before I even made and account and that I consider awesome meta writers - I’m not asking for attention, I just want to get in touch with people interested in investigating this difficult and mysterious™ case. So here it goes:

the-7-percent-solution   tjlc    jenna221b   inevitably-johnlocked     waitedforgarridebs       marcespot   marcelock

Congratulations and thanks to those who got through it and are still with me. Don’t judge me too hard, I’m shy and confused but yeah, here’s all of that, maybe someone finds it interesting.
- Bloody


UPDATE: Guys it’s solved. There’s nothing in there. It turned out that most of those glitches
can be easily found on Youtube as free samples of vhs glitches, except for the supposed
“Moriarty’s eye”. I apologize for raising hopes and making some of you excited about the concept, but it all turned out absolutely fake. I’m sorry. So sorry.

To somehow not to leave you irritated/disappointed entirely, here’s one last thing that still could be relevant…  There still could be some spark of hope because of the “Moriarty’s eye”. I couldn’t find it anywhere in premade popular glitches so it still could be a thing, maybe they just decided to do it easier way and paste one important frame between some easily-found shit from Youtube. Though i would except more from them. But… isn’t it all about spreading confusion? Maybe it’s MEANT to be that way… It does make me wonder why is it just like that, and well, the aim of all this investigating is to make us wonder, so… you never know. Sometimes it’s all about finding ONE IMPORTANT THING between irrelevant pieces and chaos, so if you want to believe this theory, we have this one important thing, we have Moriarty. I don’t know what to think of it all, right now I’m a little upset, so i can’t tell anything else.

That was my more positive take on all of this, at least i tried to find some proof it wasn’t entirely fake/irrelevant, maybe you have something wiser to add here. But personally i’m disappointed. I feel like an idiot now. Seems I’m as bad wannabe-detective as Anderson. Or even worse. I apologize again. :(




  Unfortunately yes, I’ve seen it there. Even more frames. People on YT were guessing

it might be one of those cheap old idiotically-colored porn videos. Hmm.


  asked if it isn’t actually Mary’s eye. Here’s my answer:

Damn you might be right. The main recently reoccuring “secret” not secret villain is Mary, not

Moriarty, or Eurus, or Culverton. They seem to be almost minor compared to this hell that’s

currently going on with Mary. You know, the Murderous Mary, cofusion about “happy-housewife-Sherlock’s-best-friend-who-cares-i-shot-him” image presented in S4. She’s actually a most hated

character in fandom (aside from Irene Adler, lol) and her so called “development” in S4 is one of these things that make no sense.

This is all the logical and thinking part behind it. Now let’s have a look at photos for some comparision and, well…

I added the same sample of noise from the eye frame. The still is from Miss Me video message.

Glitches are confirmed fake but eye case is still open. What do you think?


Guys there’s something completely fucked up about this gif. It started from @memrysapendragon pointing out she found a short clip including vhs glitch stuff on twitter, this particular clip: https://twitter.com/secretcinema/status/793098416444375040  Then i found most of those trames on Youtube by searching “vhs glitches” tag. The video can be found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OUoA-dKQhtc

It doesn’t contain Moriarty/Mary eye and I think it doesn’t contain a frame with a “sofa and tables” from the CCTV angle above the room, which i compared earlier to Baker Street. Now i read the comment section again and i noticed some people claimed the footage was stolen from a movie called V/H/S/2. I googled it and it appears to be some shitty horror/gore movie made from a few separate stories, and one of them included someone finding old vhs tapes with “scary shit”.

A really shitty movie, i can tell from screens i’ve seen in graphics, and what i read about it in general, so i don’t recommend it, don’t waste your time if you’re not actually a fan of things like that. Couldn’t bring myself to watch this shit, so i can’t confim it’s true but some people wrote it’s from V/H/S/2. I don’t know. Others however didn’t even know the source of the footage and this youtube short is widely considered to be just a collection of samples which people download for their purposes. Hell, it’s been used in some promo video on this Twitter account, while this whole “Secret Cinema” account has nothing to do with horror movies.

Does it mean thelostspecial.com is fake? Or there is some purpose behind this confusion? It’s getting weirder and weirder tbh

So I’ve really been trying to stay out of this weird Katie McGrath discourse. But things keep popping up on my dash and I look through the Katie McGrath tag pretty regularly. Apparently, we all need a discussion on how to act like normal functioning adults. And this is the only time I’m going to post about this. Because I didn’t think we needed to talk about this. But apparently…

For people that say they’re fans of a person, some of you are disrespectful as hell. I could get around the “Kashy McGra” thing, even though I’m personally really bothered by it. I’ve never like it and you’ll never find me using that tag. But hey, when an actor/actress starts gaining more prominence, jokes like that surface more and I understand that was lighthearted fun. But when some people start digging up pictures and making a big deal out of something that is a person’s job. Well. Let’s just say that it’s probably good Katie doesn’t have social media and honestly, I don’t think she should ever get on it if this is how some people are going to behave. 

Look, I’m as relatively as new of a fan of Katie as the next person. I knew of her because of Merlin but didn’t really follow her career until Supergirl. Yeah, I think her back tattoo is a little unfortunate, but that’s not really a reason to drag her over it. Yeah, her goth phase was interesting. But who can really say they never had one? Besides, it was a method of self-expression for a younger Katie. I don’t think we should be making fun of that. And don’t even get me started on that anal thing. That’s just downright disgusting, in terms of what that scene started. And where some people took it. I also don’t really understand why this goth thing was such a big deal. We all knew she had a goth phase, and arguably she still has a little bit of it in her personal fashion. At least, I thought we all knew. 

It’s been really surreal to watch this all unfold and continually be amazed what people are willing to post in public about a person they don’t really know. Especially one who tends to be pretty private. Or at least as private as you can be when you’re an actress. 

Yes, it’s a part of every individual’s growing fandom that you’re going to get some people who just do that. It’s the price of an actor/actress gaining exposure. And to some extent, we all have to just deal with it. But some of you really need Jesus. I’d really rather not get PMs over this, but if you have to, don’t tell me “it’s just a joke.” Because it’s really not that funny. Some individuals in the fandom really need to grow up and let Katie be herself. And not make a spectacle over the stupidest shit.  

I want to address something;

I decided that I wanted to make a post in regards to the situations recently.

Mark uploaded the video RESPECT today, and I had my own personal problems with it at first. I did not initially take the video with the ideal that we’re talking about basic human decency, but rather actual respect.
In my opinion, respect is something that is earned. You are given respect and you are able to lose it, so if it’s lost it’s not something that’s supposed to be given out like candy.
Do I respect my abuser? No. Would I call her an ambulance if something horrible were to happen? Yes.

When I first watched it, I felt as if he was telling me to respect everyone no matter what happened, and that’s a problem. I have always agreed that if someone does not give you respect, they do not deserve respect.

But that’s the difference between respect and human decency

I would not let someone I hate die, if I could help in avoiding it, just because I hate them.

Now, I feel this has divided the community drastically, so I wanted to put my own two cents into what you guys are doing with the Felix situation.

If someone is upset with Felix, don’t tell them not to be. That’s invalidating how they feel. Instead ask them why and discuss it, perhaps, or just leave it. Don’t tell them they are wrong for that. Human emotions are tricky and having them is not wrong. Do not invalidate someone’s feelings over the situation.

If you are upset with Felix, just stop watching. Block the pewdiepie tag and anything connecting to him. If someone brings it up to you, ask them to not talk about it. If they disagree, give them a stern warning: “I will not talk to you right now if you keep pressuring me to discuss this.” What you should not do: death threats, trashing on his girlfriend or friends, attacking people who do like him. Do not attack or threaten to attack anyone connected to him.

Moral of my post is, if you’re going to listen to Mark; state we need to treat one another with decency, then do it within the fandom, too. Don’t just attack people and say they need to treat someone who will never notice them with respect.

p.s. if you didn’t get it: people can be treated with decency without giving/getting respect. If someone doesn’t want to ‘respect’ someone else, as long as they’re treating them with basic human decency, then it doesn’t matter. 


First, this is going to be long post. Beware and I hope I don’t offend anybody in anyway.

Um hi… I’ve been participating in many SuMO giveaways since December. I’m very grateful for all the time and effort each blog puts in for each giveaway. You guys have inspired me to make graphics for fun and to give back to the community in some way. So, I was thinking I could possibly help, if needed. 

Below are some examples of what I can do. These are just simple templates/ideas I’ve come up with. I put a watermark so people don’t steal :>

If you would like me to make you something or anything for your GA, please PM me so we can discuss! Also, please note that I live in Hawaii because I’ve noticed a lot of GAs use CST/EST :x

I am not trying to take advantage of the GAs by knowing which pokemon will be given which is incredibly silly imo. I just want to help! D:

I won’t be tagging all the blogs I follow. I hope you guys will reblog so others will see this.

@scionadventures, @sawsbuckgiveaways, @tapugiveaways, @ninjaskueen, @cynthiaofsinnoh, @lillies-giveaways, @profsycamore, @vivillon-giveaways, @roseradetea, @shinysnivygiveaways, @shiny-pokemon-giveaways, @articuno-giveaways, @pokemon-weekly-giveaways, @shynhex, @tifflolxkat, @kain-giveaway, @professor-shiny-toke, @entei-giveaways, @golden-tree-giveaways, @metagiveaways, @weskyspokemongiveaways, @saigiveaways, @gothorita-giveaways, @professorsinnoh

I used to hide over at polyamory-resources and have the people come to me for advice or guidance. But now that I am branching off, I decided to look under the polyamory tag and I was so completely unaware of the hate in our community and how people are treating other people. With topics like “Does polyamory fall under the LGBTQ+ spectrum?” or “Is unicorn hunting bad?” or “Are hierarchies inherently evil?”, I can see the universal, polyamorous “us” bickering among ourselves rather than supporting each other and helping each other up. While I have my own opinions on these topics, and love discussing them with people, we are focusing on the wrong things.

We need to stop those who are abusing the term “polyamory” (when it’s not ethical at all or they are manipulating) and we need to help those who don’t know their rights in a relationship to know them. We need need to help those who cannot be out know that we are here and we will do what we can to support them. We have a long road ahead of us as we fight for representation and marriage/union equality… all while fighting all the horrible stigma that surrounds the way we choose to love.

There is enough hatred in this world.

-Mimzy ( @polyteaparty )

Okay, I’m going to write a longer post about Cathy here because I think there needs to a lot more discussion about it, I’d love it if you could publish (and maybe tag) it, though I think it’s too long for a confession:

Today is Equal Pay Day and Cathy did a post on instagram using it as a setup to promote aboutyou, a site that sells clothes. Do I think it’s good and important that people talk about income inequality? Of course! But then instead of talking about her own experiences with it (or using her insta as a platform for other women to do that), she uses it to promote herself and a site she has a collaboration with.

She wears a “Grrl Power” hoodie on women’s day, but then she turns around and calls Salma Hayek “cheap looking” because she “has large breasts” or calls Halle Berry “not elegant” for wearing her natural hair texture. This is not merely something she said out of ignorance, these are official statements she made in articles she got paid for, in a field she claims to be an expert in. The same way she chose to work for BILD (a newspaper known for its racism and sexism) and got paid by them for her remarks about how “Brazilians steal so much”. She directly profits from being racist and attacking other women (especially women of color) for their bodies. And then she claims to be a feminist when it suits her to promote herself.

It’s not the only time she has done stuff like this. For example, she has worked with PETA against fur in clothes, but the fashion label where she is a designer (The Mercer) still uses fur, she still has no problems wearing leather shoes and handbags, but then she claims to be an animal rights activist to promote herself.

Cathy Hummels has repeatedly gotten jobs that would have normally gone to more experienced and more educated women (sky, Stern and BILD usually only hire top-of-the-class graduates that have studied a field related to journalism/media and have done multiple internships), then she usually abandons these things after 6 months - 1 year, opportunities that other women work decades to have one shot at. And afterwards Cathy claims to be a dedicated, independent woman.

I don’t care who she’s married to, but her appropriating social issues for her own financial gain without having the slightest idea about these issues while simultaneously also (financially and otherwise) benefitting from racism and sexism are actively harmfult to other women. Namely those who are in less privileged positions than her.

I have a serious question.

Please feel free to pile on I know I’m opening a can of worms.

When did it become not ok to be critical of OUAT?

Since I joined the fandom I’ve both flailed and criticized it. This isn’t new. People both in replies and on anon feel the need to reign in any and all criticism lately.

Not just here, I’m seeing it on my forum too.

Why is that?

Fandom and shows are not perfect. It’s ok to call out things you don’t like, isn’t it?

I understand people not wanting to see it on their dash. Which is why I typically tag if I feel a post is particularly negative.

I don’t recall having this happen when we criticized Smallville back a few years ago on the forum I posted on.

Is this a new phenomenon?

I don’t mean just discussion, I mean people being dismissive and rude in the name of positivity.

Well… He there Tumblr :) i am kinda new here and I really want to find new friends or maybe soulmate (who knows maybe I will be lucky enough) who are as obsessed about Cophine as I am. Will be happy to talk about these wonderful puppies or discuss anything actually. So guys let’s chat! Will be happy to become an active part of orphan black Fandom. I desperately need to talk to people and to get to know other human beings all the time so if you are interested let’s be cophine trash or just friendly together

so, lance’s treatment in fanworks is something that’s been discussed recently and i thought i’d chip in

i run @ao3feed-safeklance which means i see every fic tagged as keith/lance that gets posted to ao3, and the amount of fics in which lance gets hurt (dies, gets assaulted, tortured, etc.) is staggering - for every fic in which keith gets hurt as a main plot point, there are at least like six or seven fics in which lance gets hurt as a main plot point

i’m not saying that people shouldn’t explore those themes

what i’m saying is that i think people (especially white people) need to consider why they’re more compelled to harm lance, a dark skinned character, over the lighter skinned characters

anonymous asked:

Hey so I'm a Bellarke shipper but I totally support Clexa and I rly liked Lexa but I feel like I can't be remotely Bellamy-positive without someone (usually a clexa shipper) telling me I'm being homophobic or that they're completely platonic and I can't ship it. And listen, I'm gay and it's amazing to see queer women in a relationship on mainstream television but I just wish the culture around it online wasn't so toxic!

Hey there. First of all, I think if there is one word you shouldn’t use, that word is toxic. As you, being gay, are perfectly aware of (or should be), queer women in relationships on mainstream television are few and far between, and they usually die — as Lexa did. We’re hungry for representation, which practically doesn’t exist nowadays, so when such minimal representation disappears, the impact is much, much, much greater. So yes, of course some people take it too far. But that happens in all shipping fandoms, even those who have literally zero cultural relevance. So I wouldn’t call it toxic; I would call it tragic.

Secondly, of course you can be Bellamy-positive. Just stay in your lane, don’t tag or say Lexa or Clexa’s name in your posts, for example. You don’t need to discuss Bellamy with us. I’m sure there’s plenty of Be|larke shippers who will be eager to gush about Bellamy with you. What we get rightfully annoyed at is when Blarke shippers compliment Bellamy by insulting Lexa. And believe me, that happens a LOT. And it’s stupid. Bellamy has his flaws, Lexa has her own, but some comparisons are just laughable. I mean, discussion is fine, but let’s please be reasonable about it. Don’t try to excuse what Bellamy did by paralleling it to what Lexa has done. It’s just plain stupid. There’s no valid argument for it. There’s no comparison whatsoever. And when Be|larke shippers try to do that, it (rightfully) annoys us, because it’s like a) we haven’t watched the same show, or b) those people are way too biased for a healthy discussion.

Thirdly, as of now (who knows what the future will bring), Be|larke IS platonic. If there is nothing canonically romantic, then it is platonic. That’s a simple matter of definitions. We’re not trying to insult you when we state that fact. But can you ship it? Of course. You could ship Clarke with a chair for all I care, that’s the beautiful thing about fandom and shipping. I mean, have you ever taken a look at all the ships in the Harry Potter tag on AO3? It’s honestly scarring.

ma-yo55  asked:

Okay. Sorry. Get ur killer of innocent people out of the anxiety tag lmao

I’m guessing that I also need to spell it out for you too that the answer is NO. Hope that helps. Lol.

Let me share an anxious reaction I have with little snots who harass others minding their own business discussing any and all people who have suffered anxiety. I have this tendency to get triggered to tag ‘anxiety’ much more often in my posts. So, I think your messages have been counterproductive to the results you hoped for. In any case, you’re the only one on that tag making a stink. Seeing as you don’t own or run it, it’s a bit juvenile and pointless. Have a nice day. 😏

So about that biphobic joke on The Real O'Neals...

Yeah, as a bisexual female, it kinda hurts. But really…it makes sense.

No, really, think about it: Bisexuality, despite having a very real place in history, is still a subject of controversy not only in the straight community but in the gay community as well. The whole “Pick a side” thing comes from gay and lesbian persons, not just heteros. The LGBT+ community isn’t as accepting as everyone would like to believe.

Plenty of gay men don’t feel comfortable dating bisexual men because the belief is that he’s “confused but will eventually decide he’s gay.” Plenty of lesbians won’t date bi women because they don’t wanna date someone a dick has been in. On top of that, some people have trouble grasping that bisexuality doesn’t just go away even if you “pick a side” to date.

While I don’t exactly think it was necessarily intentional, I think that by painting Kenny as one such kind of guy and showing that not all members of the queer community are as entirely accepting or even accepted, we’re opened up to a commentary about how some identities are lambasted by the very community that was supposed to provide them a semblance of understanding.

That, and Kenny is still new to the LGBT+ community himself: The most queer people he’s interacted with at once was the Halloween party in relative brevity and the most constant he’s had before Brett was a lesbian classmate. His exposure, exploration and understanding of queerness is still fledgling level at best. And we know Kenny is lowkey vain so he’d probably only find it necessary to focus on gay male understandings rather than the whole scope of male queerness in general. So while I’m not impressed by his stance on bisexuality, I think this is a decent possibility. Not a great one, but one nonetheless.

Like I said, I kinda doubt this was the intention but if they do eventually address the biphobia present in both straight and queer communities, I’m hype because people don’t talk about this enough. At the very least, it’s something we ourselves need to talk about in real life so that shows don’t need to throw out those kinds of jokes just to get people to talk about them.

TL;DR-Biphobia exists in the LGBT+ community and it needs to be discussed. Stop acting like it’s this overly accepting group whose ideals should be completely reflected in The Real O'Neals because there it is: bisexuality isn’t as accepted as you’d like to think.

anonymous asked:

Hi shrinksfromhell, I have a question for you, if you don't mind. If you do, I apologize. Alright, so I live somewhat in an impoverished family and I don't believe they'd have enough money to send me to a therapist- what do I do?

Questions are perfectly O.K.!

So I assume you live in a country where any therapy costs money? If so, the other options I see are:

- support groups: see if there are any in your area for your mental disorder or just mental health in general. talking with people who have a similar experience to yours can be extremely helpful and healing
- groups online: the #actually tags on tumblr (#actuallydepressed, #actuallybipolar, #actuallyanxious etc); discussion boards; reddits…a google search should help you find the ones you need. if you’re having trouble you can always ask me to help you find them: i’ll just need to know what you’re after/what disorder you’re diagnosed with or think you might have.
- friends and family if this is an option for you? someone you trust, to whom you can go and say “hey, can i talk to you about something?” and explain how you’ve been feeling to
- books and workbooks: if you’re depressed, for example, reading books on the topic can help you see how it affects different people, learn more about the disorder, and learn coping mechanisms. there are also plenty of workbooks (like CBT workbooks) that give you tools and exercises to do to try and manage your disorder the best you can. you might find some of them second hand online or at your local library hopefully.
- resources online: I usually recommend the website mind.org.uk for their great clear and concise descriptions of different mental disorders. but there are so many more.

I hope this helps, anon. If any of my followers have any other suggestions, please do not hesitate to add them in replies to this post.

A few years ago (5+ years), if I remember the details correctly, AVEN had created sub-threads for romantic asexuals but left out aromantic asexuals. The assumption was that our needs were already covered in the main threads, and/or that we should seek out separate aromantic-oriented forums. 

We needed a space for aromantic asexuals to come together, because no – our experiences couldn’t simply be covered by discussing asexuality “in general” nor could we simply seek out forums that did not exist for aromantic asexual people at the time. We needed aromantic asexual spaces. 

We still have trouble finding reliable forums and resources that are inclusive of and appropriate for aromantic asexual people. The tags meant for people who are both asexual and aromantic are sparse in comparison to other ace community tags. 

The idea that aromantic asexuals are automatically catered to is false. It shows in how unwilling romantic asexuals have been in fighting for our representation, and how comfortable they are in erasing us or throwing us under the bus in order to combat stereotypes and misinformation about asexuality. 

I try to discuss my experiences with asexuality and aromanticism separately because I know that they can be unique experiences separate from each other. However, I am both. I cannot be expected to separate them. When I speak about asexuality, I am speaking from the perspective of an aromantic asexual. 

I can’t change that, nor should I or anyone be expected to change that. 

Network Updates 04/17

Ahhhh!!! We all have less than a month until exams :O But don’t stress, because you’re definitely not the only one when there’s this great network of people who are stressing with you :)

  1. network tag is #gcsenetwork - tag any of your original posts to be reblogged onto the network
  2. I forgot to ask for pronouns in the form!!!! I have amended it now but still need pronouns for the members  page - PLEASE MESSAGE ME WITH YOUR PRONOUNS IN THE [NOMINATIVE]/[ACCUSATIVE] FORMAT (eg she/her. he/him, they/them) OTHERWISE YOU WILL NOT BE IN THE MEMBERS PAGE
  3. we have a pretty neato kik group where we discuss exams and revision, and you can join it by searching for #gcsenetwork in ‘public groups’ - i highly recommend that you join it, and make kik for it if you must
  4. I’m looking for Year 10 student(s) to take over the blog next year so watch this space this summer (I’ll probably choose based on previous applications)

Good luck with your exams, everyone !!! I’m sure we’ll all do great xoxoMona