Social justice is about destroying systematic marginalisation and privilege. Wishing to live in a more just, more equal world is simply not the same thing as wishing to live in a “nicer” world. I am not suggesting niceness is bad or that we should not behave in a nice way towards others if we want to! I also do not equate niceness with cooperation or collaboration with others. Here’s all I am saying: the conflation of ethical or just conduct (goodness), and polite conduct (niceness) is a big problem.
Plenty of oppressive bullshit goes down under the guise of nice. Every day, nice, caring, friendly people try to take our bodily autonomy away from us (women, queers, trans people, nonbinaries, fat people, POC…you name it, they just don’t think we know what’s good for us!). These people would hold a door for us if they saw us coming. Our enemies are not only the people holding “Fags Die God Laughs” signs, they are the nice people who just feel like marriage should be between a man and a woman, no offense, it’s just how they feel! We once got a very nice comment on this site that we decided we could not publish because its content was “But how can I respect women when they dress like – sorry to say it, pardon my language – sluts?”. This is vile, disgusting misogyny and no amount of sugar coating and politeness can make it okay. Similarly, most of the people who run ex-gay therapy clinics are actually very nice and polite! They just want to save you! Nicely! Clearly, niceness means FUCK ALL.
And their definition of “lesbian” and “bisexual”. Notice how “a lesbian is currently only having sex with a woman, even if she has had sex with men in the past." So…bisexuals cannot be monogamous with a woman? In fact…to be bisexual is to constantly be having sex with BOTH men and women at the same time? It doesn’t say "a lesbian is currently only having sex with women” it says “a woman”, implying there can be no same-sex monogamy with bisexuals. It further states that a lesbian is a woman who …has sex with another woman, even if it is only sometimes.“ So bisexuals are by default lesbians??
This is literally the government standard definition. Nah, fuck your biphobia.