One of my favorite parts of Michael Makai’s book “Dominance & Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook” had to do with empowerment. Makai posed the questions “Have I empowered you? If so, how?” to his current and former submissives. Here are some of the answers I enjoyed the best:
“You empowered me by forcing me to be independent at times, even when I wanted nothing more than for you to handle certain things for me. By directing me to carry out tasks I would have normally avoided, you taught me that I am smarter, stronger and far more resourceful than I ever thought possible.”
“You empowered me by trusting me with your flaws, weaknesses and secrets. I know you don’t share these things with just anyone, and the fact that you share them with me makes me feel very special. This knowledge could hurt you, even destroy you, and yet you trust me with it.”
“You empowered me with the authority to act and speak for you in certain situations. When I am weak or indecisive, I am able to draw on your judgement and guidance and say "My Master would not be pleased if I were to do what you’ve asked of me.”
“You empowered me with the ability to learn and grow, and to reach my full potential - whether it is my education, career, personal goals or as a submissive. You make me want to be a better person, not just a better submissive, because I want you to be proud of me.”
“You empowered me by showing me those little things that make a difference in your life and bring you joy. Others may THINK they know you, but they don’t know you like I do.”
Powerful stuff eh? These things and so much more are what our Dominance can mean to the life of a submissive. And THAT, friends, is TRUE power - wisely, lovingly and purposefully used.