Never followed this couple, but this gif always breaks my heart. Because you watch it all unfold in heartbreaking detail…
The camera’s on them, she goes to look at him, expecting-anticipating his eyes will turn to find her, like she’s turning to find him. Then the realization hits, he’s completely preoccupied, and it’s not with her. And you see it wash over her face… she was thinking of him, but he wasn’t thinking of her.
I think a lot of girls can relate to how shitty that moment feels.

Sympathy’s easy. You have sympathy for starving children swatting at flies on the late-night commercials. Sympathy is easy because it comes from a position of power. Empathy is getting down on your knees and looking someone else in the eye and realizing you could be them, and that all that separates you is luck.

Rats have an unwarranted bad reputation. However, rats have been known to exhibit sympathy. Scientists set up an experiment in which a rat would pull a lever to be rewarded with chocolate. If the rat pulled the lever, another rat in the section beside them would be drowned. It was revealed that most of the rats refused to pull the lever and receive the chocolate once they realised that the other rat would suffer. It was also revealed that the rat’s who had gone through the near-drowning experience were more likely to protect the other rats.


The Difference Between Empathy and Sympathy 101

The words empathy and sympathy are often confused for each other as they are feelings concerning other people and are usually used in similar contexts. Whilst closely related, they have subtle but vital differences between them.

Sympathy is literally “feeling with” - compassion, distress, sorrow for or commiseration with another person. In sympathy, the emotions are recognised.

Empathy, by contrast, is literally “feeling into” - the ability to project one’s personality into another person, i.e. when you understand and experience another’s feelings for yourself. In empathy, the emotions are felt.

In summary, empathy is more specific and personal as it involves putting yourself in that person’s shoes and knowing what they are going through. Sympathy is a more general feeling of compassion or sorrow (etc) for another person’s situation. Both involve the sincere recognition and acceptance of another person’s emotional state which is often followed by the desire to alleviate their suffering.


The word sympathy comes from the ancient Greek word sumpátheia (sún, “with, together” + páthos, “suffering”). This was modified in Late Latin to sympathia and then in Middle French to sympathie

Empathy was coined in 1909, about (~300 years after the introduction of the word sympathy) by British psychologist Edward B. Titchener. While the word’s spelling borrows from the ancient Greek word, empátheia, which meant “physical affection, passion, partiality”, Titchener used “empathy” for the purpose of translating a German word (Einfühlung) and its concept of shared feeling. Interestingly, in modern Greek, empátheia no longer has positive connotations. It instead refers to negative feelings or prejudices against another person.

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[James R. Eads - Us, Over Time, Passing By]