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Trump just called for a “good” government shutdown. Here’s what happens if the government shuts down.

  • Trump — angry that Democrats came out the winners of the upcoming government funding bills — called for a government shutdown Tuesday.
  • Trump’s call for a shutdown is at odds with other members of his administration, including budget director Mick Mulvaney, who told Fox News, “Shutdown is not a desired end.”
  • The fact is that government shutdowns have a vast negative impact on millions of Americans.
    • When the government is shut down, veterans’ disability claims are not processed, a huge blow to veterans who are already impacted by massive backlogs in claims.
    • Federal employees don’t get paid when the government’s lights are out. Essential employees, such as some Justice Department employees like judges and prison guards, must go to work. But they don’t receive their paychecks until the government reopens.
    • The most sweeping problem caused by a shutdown is the economic impact. The 2013 shutdown inflicted a $24 billion loss on the U.S. economy. Read more (5/2/17)
Newcomers Pt 8.1

Pt 8.1


There is a saying “silent as the void” for there is no sound in the void, but unlike it’s name it is not empty, as the Benemar discovered all those centuries ago. Their culture was a bloody one and their history more so, genocide and slavery were the norm and often how power changed hands was for a child to kill their parent and claim their title for themselves.

A brutish piglike race that would often referred to as savages and barbarians. But they were not without honour, their code of conduct was vital to the running of their culture and mainly the reason why their wars were bloody but brief. They often fought their wars in a single battle, both sides would field their forces and whoever won that battle would gain he others territory. Efficient really but meant they faced every obstacle with only the short term goals in mind. Because of this in the Alliance they rarely if ever rose to commanding positions leaving that to the other races as long as there was a battle to be won. The Elong who ran the Alliance were fine with this, a race they could control and send against the ever growing Gal who never seemed to run out of their own troops.

This arrangement lasted centuries with all parties benefiting from it.

But then a new race appeared, the Newcomers.

First contact was slow, the Newcomers expanded but never at a rate the Alliance thought to be a problem and kept sweeping the problem under the rug until in an explosion they expanded into seven separate systems. These worlds had often been believed to be uninhabitable but the Newcomers made themselves quite at home as to them the climate was quite tolerable.

The Benemar though, were restless. The Gal had not launched any incursion into Alliance held territories and the Benemar’s numbers were growing as were their contempt for peace. These Newcomers gave them a new enemy to direct their energy against. And with the Alliance’s blessing they went to war.

Their outlining worlds fell quickly and their inhabitants were slaughtered, no true remains could be analysed as the Benemar defiled them, cutting them up and hanging their parts on their walls and drinking from their skulls. What they failed to notice is those Newcomers they had mistaken for their military were in fact just law enforcers, their military was elsewhere.

No one knows how they found the Benemar homeworld but however they did it they were quick to act. Their fleet broke into 2 unequal parts, the smaller would engage and hold the Benemar as they cut through their space while the rest went for Bento Prime.

Never in the 400 years since the Benemar took to the stars had their world ever been besieged and it was here they saw the Newcomers for what they were. Their defence fleet was cast aside, their satellites did not even get a chance to fire a shot before being destroyed. Then the Newcomers ground forces came, thousands and thousands of them. Still the Benemar outnumbered the Newcomers 4:1 and sent their armies against them. They lost every battle, they were continuously outmanoeuvred or simply out gunned and the Newcomers advance never slowed, never faulted and never stopped.  

When the Benemar fleet finally heard that their world was under attack they almost didn’t believe it and in that moment they were attacked by the Newcomers first fleet sent to stop them from aiding their homeworld. The entire sector looked to be on the edge of collapse and intern the whole flank of the Alliance would be open to the Gal.

They had to intervene.

They approached the Newcomers with the offer of peace saying the Benemar had illegally entered the Newcomers territory and thus started the war. To make up for that transgression the Humans would be offered a number of planets as well as the return of all the worlds the Benemar had taken from them. The Newcomers said little during these initial talks and refused to even show their faces but eventually they agreed and they left Bento Prime and the Benemar retreated from Newcomer territory in shame.

It would be nearly a hundred years before the Newcomers would speak to the Alliance again, they came forth to negotiate trade agreements and a decade later were accepted as members of the Alliance and would go on to serve on Alliance ships and in their fleets.

These Newcomers, came to be known as the Humans and they never forget and they rarely forgive.

So, for shits and giggle (and because i’m sort of sick, poor, and desperate) I got these Near-sighted Myopia Glasses from Amazon to see if they’d help with the fact that everything past my elbow is a blur lately.


I put them on.

And it was like waking up from a dream and you were there, and you, and you, and Oh my god why is there so much dust and cat hair?!

This is probably very obvious to everyone else, but it just clicked for me, so…

The Angry Identitarian Left is the way it is, in part, because its practices are optimized specifically for college campus activism

Within a university, the world is controlled by a nigh-omnipotent authority.  If you are a student, it is probable that the authority basically likes you and wants you to succeed; even if the administrators find you annoying, they fundamentally regard you as community members who should be receiving a good education, not as vermin or monsters or fifth-columnists.  If you are a leftist or liberal, it is probable that the authority basically shares your fundamental values; the administrators are basically you, thirty years down the pike.  But the authority is lazy and venal and (especially) worried about disruptions and embarrassments.  By default, you will be denied a lot of the political things you want, because that’s the easiest and cheapest thing, because the most convenient way to keep donors happy usually involves sweeping problems under the rug and not shelling out money. 

Under these circumstances, the most flexible strategic plan seems to involve a two-pronged social assault, with the prongs consisting of “moral suasion” and “extortion.”  You speak with as much holiness and self-righteousness as you can muster, in hopes that you can guilt the administrators into acknowledging the merit of your points, which has a good chance of working because deep down the administrators probably do see the merit of your points.  (They really, genuinely don’t want to be racist or sexist either!)  And you make yourself as annoying and obstreperous as you can, with the implicit promise that you’ll stop as soon as you get what you want, in hopes that appeasing you becomes the easy way out. 

There’s not much to be gained by persuading anyone of anything, or by looking to compromise with anyone, because there’s not really any principled opposition with whom to engage.  There’s also no real downside to using nasty rhetoric and dirty tactics.  In the wider world, that shit causes people to hate and fear you, it alienates potential allies and cements the resolve of your enemies…but within the college, you have no genuine enemies and you don’t have much use for allies.  All that matters is whether you can break through the sloth and self-interestedness of the decision-makers. 

Moon aspects: ~Female~ friendships

(Use your own) natal placements:

Moon to Sun
Harmonious aspect: I need friends who positively supports who I am, but I also need friends who can take a joke. I like my friends to be confident, fun and jovial.
Disharmonious aspect: I need friends who reaffirm who I am. I like witty relationships but not at the expense of hurting each other. I don’t like having egotistical, dominating people who can’t take anything seriously as friends.

Moon to Mercury:
Harmonious aspect: I need friends who are witty, funny and can hold a conversation. I need friends where I can talk about any topic under the sun. I even enjoy a little debate now and then. People who aren’t interested in learning or discovering bore me.
Disharmonious aspect: I need friends I can talk to and laugh with, but I despise “intellectuals”. People who talk too much, and gossip or discuss trivial topics can also irritate me too. I’d rather keep the conversation on something relevant to the both of us.

Moon to Venus:
Harmonious aspect: I don’t want drama filled friendships, I just don’t see the point in being friends with someone if you don’t get along? It should be easygoing and relaxed. If I’m friends with someone I want us to both complement each other.
Disharmonious aspect: I prefer harmonious friendships like everyone else, but drama isn’t always bad and it’s better to have an “argument” than to sweep problems under the rug. I like having friends who all express their own beauty differently

Moon to Mars:
Harmonious aspect: I need assertive friends. Friends with strong willpower and courage. I like friends I can be honest and straightforward without accidentally hurting anyone’s feelings. I don’t like having cowards as friends. Confrontation can be a pleasant conversation, not always arguments.
Disharmonious aspect: I don’t like overly moody or temperamental friends. But I still despise those with absolutely no strength or courage, better to have a little than to have none, I’d rather drop them on the spot than to continue associating with them. I want friends who listen to me and my opinions.

Moon to Jupiter:
Harmonious aspects: I need jovial, optimistic friends. Friends who I know can keep the mood light and the humour continuous. I don’t see the point in a friendship if you don’t uplift each other?
Disharmonious aspects: I enjoy humour an fun in friendships but that shouldn’t override the need to discuss actual serious issues. I don’t like people who are too bubbly, or fake or can’t take anything seriously. I don’t want friends who would rather be preachy than actually helpful.

Moon to Saturn:
Harmonious aspect: I admire ambition, I want friends who have so much strength and discipline that it inspires me to become better myself. Discipline in friendships also accounts for smooth sailing and the lack of misunderstandings which is a bonus.
Disharmonious aspects: I admire ambition too but people who are overly ambitious just seem condescending. I don’t want to be in a friendship with people like that, they only put me down and lower my self esteem. They restrict me because they only care about their own goals. Friendships shouldn’t be so serious.

Moon to Uranus:
Harmonious aspects: I enjoy friends I can be open with, where I can be accepted for who I am. I don’t like people who are overly law abiding, they’re judgemental and don’t let anyone have any freedom. I like having friends from all walks of life.
Disharmonious aspects: I like having friends with unique and different personalities too, but in close friendships I’d rather be friends with people who are like me so we can actually form an intimate bond. I don’t like people who are too rebellious. You can have fun and respect rules at the same time.

Moon to Neptune:
Harmonious aspects: I need friends who will unlock my fantasy world. Friends where conversations about dreams and stories predominate. They’re just more fun that way. I enjoy having friends who are dreamy, arty, and open to the spiritual. We deal with the mundane too much already
Disharmonious aspects: I also enjoy storytelling and fantasy but letting things like that predominate a relationships is just impractical. People that are chaotic or have their heads in the clouds end up irritating me. I’m also not a fan of people who get drunk too often. None of that can create a good foundation for a good friendship.

Moon to Pluto:
Harmonious aspects: I want “ride or die” friendships. I need friends who I count on, who will do a lot for me - possibly even go to the end of the world with me. I need friendships with extreme trust, loyalty and privacy. Where discussions involve deeper and darker topics. It goes both ways of course. There’s no point in friendship if you aren’t going to be this close
Disharmonious aspects: I also want privacy and I want trust too, although trust can be hard for me so I usually have more light hearted friendships. I don’t like friendships that are too intense - where I’m being controlled or bossed around. I don’t want a friendships where it feels like I’ve signed a contract and have to do things I don’t want to. If that happens it’s not a real friendship anymore.

Moon to Ascendent:
Harmonious aspects: I need friends who have similar opinions and world views to me. I’m allowed to be discerning and I don’t see the point in forming a friendship with someone that already know I don’t have much in common with.
Disharmonious aspects: I prefer friends with similar opinions to me but it isn’t a must. In fact, it can be more fun when the opinions and views are so diverse

Moon to Midheaven:
Harmonious aspects: I love flaunting my friends because I believe friends should be good for our public image. After all, if they’re your friends they represent you too. I don’t like associating with people who make me look bad, because that’s not who I am so I don’t need anyone else thinking that.
Disharmonious aspects: My friends are usually pretty different from one another and we love spending time (publicly) together. But at the end of the day, friendships are something that are sacred and private. How people view us could be spot on or completely wrong with what we’re actually like, I couldn’t care less to be honest.

*conjunctions can be either disharmonious or harmonious (but are usually harmonious unless a malefic is involved). oppositions technically considered disharmonious but there is a tug of war with oppositions - the individual dislikes but needs friendships like the ones stated above. they can oscillate between craving and despising the type of relationship explained.

Enneagram 9

The Nine in Profile

Healthy: Deeply receptive, accepting, unselfconscious, emotionally stable and serene. Trusting of self and others, at ease with self and life, innocent and simple. Patient, unpretentious, good-natured, genuinely nice. / Imaginative and creative, attuned to nonverbal communication. Optimistic, reassuring, supportive: have a healing and calming influence—harmonizing groups, bringing people together. A good mediator, synthesizer, and communicator. At Their Best: Become self-possessed, feeling autonomous and fulfilled: have great equanimity and contentment because they are present to themselves. Paradoxically, at one with self, and thus able to form more profound relationships. More alive, awake, alert to self and others.

Average: Become self-effacing and agreeable, accommodating themselves, idealizing others and “going along” with things to avoid conflict. Have a “philosophy of life” that enables them to quiet their anxieties quickly. Submerge themselves in fulfilling functions for others. In their reactions, they are unresponsive and complacent, walking away from problems and “sweeping them under the rug.” Become passive, disengaged, unreflective, and inattentive. Thinking becomes hazy and ruminative, mostly about their fantasies, as they begin to “tune out” reality, becoming oblivious. Emotional indolence, unwillingness to exert self (and stay focused) on problems: passive-aggressive and indifferent. / Begin to minimize problems to appease others and to have “peace at any price.” Become fatalistic and resigned, but also stubborn and resistant to influence. Practice wishful thinking and wait for magical solutions. Inadvertently create conflicts with others by their denial and obstinance.

Unhealthy: Can be repressed, undeveloped, and ineffectual. Do not want to deal with problems: become depressed and listless, dissociating self from all conflicts. Neglectful and dangerously irresponsible. / Wanting to block out of awareness anything that could affect them, they dissociate so much that they eventually cannot function: become numb, depersonalized. / Becoming severely disoriented and catatonic, they abandon themselves, turning into shattered shells. Multiple personalities possible.

Key Motivations: To have serenity and peace of mind, to create harmony in their environment, to preserve things as they are, to avoid conflicts and tension, to escape upsetting problems and demands on them.

Examples: Abraham Lincoln, Joseph Campbell, Carl Jung, Ronald Reagan, Gerald Ford, Queen Elizabeth II, Princess Grace of Monaco, Walter Cronkite, Walt Disney, George Lucas, Garrison Keillor, Sophia Loren, Kevin Costner, Keanu Reeves, Woody Harrelson, Ron Howard, Ringo Starr, Whoopi Goldberg, Janet Jackson, Nancy Kerrigan, Linda Evans, Ingrid Bergman, Perry Como, Jim Henson, Marc Chagall, Norman Rockwell, “Edith Bunker,” and “Marge Simpson.”

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Enneagram Type 9: The Peacemaker

The Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, and Complacent Person

Healthy. Healthy Nines are deeply receptive, open, unselfconscious, emotionally stable, and serene. Accepting, trusting of self and others, easygoing, at ease with self and with life. Patient and gentle, but also direct and unpretentious, they have an innocence and simplicity about them, and are genuinely kind people. Their attitude is optimistic, reassuring, and supportive; they make people feel comfortable and have a calming, healing influence, harmonizing groups and bringing people together. When healthy, Nines are also powerful and dynamic when they need to be. Their steadiness, common sense, and quiet strength are reassuring to others. They easily can see other people’s points of view, making good mediators, negotiators, and counselors. Their sense of well-being comforts and sustains others. Have enormous dignity, deep serenity, and real peace that come from acceptance of their human condition. At their best: Become self-possessed and have great equanimity and genuine contentment. Feel autonomous and fulfilled, paradoxically at one with themselves yet able to form more profound relationships because of their union with themselves. Become powerfully alive, awake, grounded, alert to self and others. Develop an indomitable spirit, like a force of nature — dynamic, connected, truly at one with life. They are exuberant, vital, and self-possessed. 

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eren is blind, im sorry universe

okay so let me tell you about this thing skyfireflies and i were talking about today

backstory: eren is blind and jean is the dude in his class assigned to help him get around sometimes. jean approaches this like, ok, well, i should be nice to the blind guy, but it’s hard because eren is his usual annoying self. for e.g. he rages at mikasa whenever she tries to baby him. (she’s just trying to help, eren. jeez.) and so they end up having a good-bad relationship–they’re always arguing and fighting with each other but it kind of makes them close too. like. jean can make these totally un-PC blind jokes and eren laughs at them. that kind of thing.

anyway. one day eren decides he wants to know what jean looks like. so he gets armin to explain. and armin explains really well. maybe too well. also mentions that he is kind of handsome. and eren is like OH NO why does he have to be hot. (wait. what does that even mean.)

then one day he asks jean to let him touch his face so he can “see” It and YES THIS WAS JUST AN EXCUSE TO WRITE GENTLE FACE TOUCHING I ADMIT IT

quick disclaimer: I am not blind. Hopefully nothing about my representation of blindness here is offensive but if it is, please educate me. :)

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anonymous asked:

Many of us nerds aren't great at saying what needs to be said. Our silence causes harm. It's easier to keep quiet and watch those who stand up for themselves or what they believe in face an endless chorus of negative voices. It's easier to sweep problems under the rug than to stick your neck out. No one stands with the brave and they start thinking everyone hates them because all they get is negativity. Break the cycle. Tell someone they're appreciated today, even if it's behind closed doors.

anonymous asked:

Omegaverse au headcanons for alpha! GOM + Kuroko and Kagami, what's it's like when they find their omega soulmate and what they're like in the courting phase and in a relationship. (Sorry if this is a lot! You can choose not to do some parts if altogether it's too much. Love your blog!)

My first Omegaverse AU! I hope you like it.

Kuroko

Courting - He would be gentle with his omega soulmate. Since they would be timid by nature he would show them he isnt aggressive unless need be. When he does find them he’ll become protective as all alphas do. Though its not common he will put their feelings into consideration. He does not want to be over bearing, or possibly scare them. He wants them to know he is their protector. He knows just because they are soul mates doesn’t mean that they should fear them. 

 •In a relationship - He will love them unconditionally. He will bring little gifts for them, shower them with affection and make sure they are completely engulfed in his scent. He won’t mark them unless they want to be marked. During their heat he will purposefully leave something of his at their home so they can be around his scent when he isn’t there. He will be gentle and calming. If they are incapable of even getting up and bathing themselves he will help them. He will bring them their favorite foods and pleasure them when they want it. He will not force himself on them, or hurt them. He prefers to have the OK from them, even if it hurts him holding back. He showers them with kisses and loves to show the world he has found his soul mate.

 Akashi

Courting - He will become VERY over protective. Since he had lost his mother, who was an omega herself, he will want make sure they are by his side. He will show them he is the best for them. If anyone so much as looks at his omega he will growl and be ready to fight. He holds them dear and will treasure them. They may fear him at first, but they will stay by him.

 •In a relationship - He will be by their side. They have to be touching. Be it holding hands or just the brush of shoulders as they walk. He will walk them home every day. During their heat he will have them stay indoors or take suppressants. He won’t want them to leave the comfort of home. Though he is an alpha he will try his best and make a nest for them if they don’t have the strength to do so. If he has to leave their home so he can get them food he has beta bodyguards trained especially for these things outside of their home. He will not take any risks when it comes to his omegas safety. 

 Aomine

Courting - Forceful. He wants to show them he cares but it doesn’t always come out right. He doesn’t mean to force himself on them in an emotional way. He just wants to be there with and for them. He will hold back from jumping them right then and there. If he so much as sees another alpha talking to them he’s already in between them, growling, eyes full of rage and a need to protect. His omega’s fear will disappear once they are in danger and he comes to their rescue.

 •In a relationship - He never has them out of his sight for too long. He has them with him during practice and even on the rooftop when he takes a nap. Since he has a high sex drive there is sex every day or every other day. During their heat he will be on them the minute he smells them. He will mark them everywhere, he will be rough during sex and make sure that after everyone knows they are his omega. If he were to hurt them he would instantly feel horrible and do anything he can to make them feel better.

 Kise

Courting - He would be very flashy. He likes to show off, and he would practically be a peacock to try and impress his omega. There are times when he does scare them, when another alpha looks at his omega he is instantly angry, growling and ready to fight. Its not until he starts spoiling his omega and helping them that they start growing closer to him. 

 •In a relationship - He loves to show them off. Whether others are jealous or not. Like Kuroko he showers them with kisses and hugs. He even helps then make a nest if they’re too weak in their heat to do so themselves. Even though it’d be early in the relationship he starts thinking about children and what they will look like. Every morning and night he tells them he loves them. Even though he is surrounded by betas and omegas even other alphas because of who he is he knows to always make sure to let his omega know that he is only theirs.

 Midorima

Courting - When he finds his soul mate he looks at a loss. Inside he is filled with happiness, but doesn’t show it. Causing his omega to think he wants nothing to do with them. Since its hard for him to show his emotions he’ll leave them little things like food if he feels they haven’t eaten enough. He’ll take their lucky item to them or leave it in their locker. He’ll leave little notes on their desk since its the only way he feels he knows how to tell them how he feels. He’ll ease his way into their bubble, he doesn’t want to be intimidating. With the time he took to give them gifts and little notes feelings will grow for him.

 •In a relationship - Once they are in a relationship he will become protective of them. When they are sick he will take food to them, give them medicine. He’ll even do their class work for them. In their heat he tries really hard not to scare them with his dominance. He will always be gentle and take things slow. After all is said and done he always whispers a small ‘I love you’ before they go to sleep tired and worn out from their activities

. Murasakibara:

 •Courting - He will be very overbearing. He wants his omega all to himself. He isn’t controlling he just wants to be near them. Just like Midorima he will leave things on their desk. Mostly snacks. At first they are intimidated by the very tall alpha. But having his hand in their’s makes them feel safe and very secure. 

 •In a relationship - Murasakibara is almost like a giant great Dane. He just wants to be near them all the time making sure they are covered in his scent. When they are making their nest he finds them in the weirdest of places. One time it was in a treehouse in their backyard. Another time it was in the walk in pantry in the kitchen. He makes them sweets when they are in their heat. During their first heat he has to stop himself from going too rough. Every sound they made he’d stop thinking that he had hurt them. 

 Kagami:

 •Courting - He wouldn’t go near them at first. Just the thought of finding his omega made his face heat up. Because of this his omega will think he doesn’t like them. Its not until they are in their heat and made the mistake of going to school his when he is on them. Protecting them from any alpha that comes near them, including teachers and staff. He will then take them home and try to leave before he does anything drastic. 

 •In a relationship - He will cook lunch for them and take it to school. No if, ands, or buts. They always eat together and spent time together. His omega is his own personal cheer squad. He loves them to death and tells them every moment he can without getting flustered. In their heat he has no problem sweeping them off their feet and making them feel amazing. The marks he leaves on them are able to be hidden but are easy to spot. During sex he will growl out of habit and mark them as they climax.

A Defense of Shimotsuki Mika

First things first, she’s written to be strongly disliked, so she won’t have as many redeeming quality traits as the main characters. I won’t defend the traits “annoying” and “bitchy” (which seems to be the main problem people have with her) and so forth, as she was purposely made to provoke discussion regarding the morality of the Sibyl System and how the world of Psycho-Pass operates.

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Ladies and gentleman, some sage relationship advice

Ladies, be a good partner to your man. Whether you both work, or he stays at home and you work, or you stay at home and he works; be a good partner, help each other out.
Build a foundation of trust and understanding. If he had a rough day, try and do something for him. Make his favorite meal, order his favorite take out, give him a foot/back/neck rub, let him watch his favorite show, let him talk about it if he wants, or try to make him laugh.
If he’s overwhelmed, try to ease his burden a bit. Do some extra chores around the house that are usually his job. Make time for just him and you, doing whatever y'all like to do as a couple. Do something he likes to do. Help care for him when he’s sick. Get up early and make him breakfast. Thank him for everything he does for you.
Compliment his shoes, his tie, his shirt, his hair, his butt, whatever. Men like compliments too, even if they don’t show it well. Ask him what you can do for him without expecting anything in return. Do something selfless.
When you have an argument, stay calm. You’re adults, talk it out, be reasonable and compromise. Compromise is not something weak people do in weak relationships.
And always be willing to genuinely, and humbly apologize.

Men, be a good partner to your woman. Whether you both work, or she stays at home and you work, or you stay at home and she works; be a good partner, help each other out.
Build a foundation of trust and understanding. If she had a rough day, try and do something for her. Make her favorite meal, order her favorite take out, give her a foot/back/neck rub, let her watch her favorite show, let her talk about it if she wants, or try to make her laugh.
If she’s overwhelmed, try to ease her burden a bit. Do some extra chores around the house that are usually her job. Make time for just her and you, doing whatever y'all like to do as a couple. Do something she likes to do. Help care for her when she’s sick. Get up early and make her breakfast. Thank her for everything she does for you.
Compliment her shoes, her nails, her shirt, her hair, her butt, whatever. Women like compliments, even if they don’t always show it well. Ask her what you can do for her without expecting anything in return. Do something selfless.
When you have an argument, stay calm. You’re adults, talk it out, be reasonable and compromise. Compromise is not something weak people do in weak relationships.
And always be willing to genuinely, and humbly, apologize.

Listen to each other. If your partner raises an issue that needs to be resolved, work on it or leave.

If you sweep problems under the rug, get violent, throw blame at your partner, don’t lift a finger to help around the house or make sacrifices for each other, then you are children who haven’t grown up and need to move back in with your mommy. Pay attention to each other.

If you did not get into a relationship to have a life partner, then let them go. They’re not going to sign adoption papers and take care of you; leave and let them find an adult worthy of their affections.

There are too many good men and women out there who are scared to love somebody because they’re afraid they’ll be tricked again, manipulated again, used and abused again. It’s time to grow up.

And y'all, if you are with a partner who hits you, spends more time talking to whoever is on their phone than they do with you, sits around the house doing nothing, never appreciates you, doesn’t have adult conversation with you, or acts more like you’re a sponge to squeeze their needs out of than you are a unique human being who also has needs, then you need to VANISH from their life.

Treat your partner right.

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The signs from Gemini perspective

Aries: forever my spontaneous buddy. we can do absolutely nothing yet say we had the most fun. lol your witty insults are the best though sometimes harsh. i love that you are so caring and will do anything to make your loved ones smile.

Taurus: you want to be friends with everyone and you are too concerned with being popular. I dont trust these kind of people but you are so funny when you are comfortable. you are the worst texter so i call you right away when i see you writing me back

Gemini: so damn loud. you have good advice. i always go to you when i need a good drag. you seem detached but somehow you are always sensitive about something. you are a loyal friend, we cry together and i love you so much. I hate that you clam up when youre upset but i understand what youre going through. Im a gemini, i do the same. But other people dont understand that so its better to communicate your negative feelings aswell

Cancer: its true, you are moody! but i love teasing you out of your bad mood. and it always works! we flirt constantly. well i do, you are straight forward about your feelings and flirting is too complex for you haha. but when you flirt, you flirt with your eyes and smile. wyddd stop!! nothing compares to your touch and kisses! ure very jealous and possesive though, but just holding your hand and only looking at you in a room full of people makes that all go away. you are the best lover i have ever had. because unlike me you dont live in your head and that makes me want to live in the moment with you

Leo: so freakin passionate! I love it. you are perfect because i can have deep conversations with you and still keep it light. you are a mixture of my two favorite signs: cancer and aquarius. youre charming and a go-getter but sometimes a little competitive. why? just like me you are always ready to go out and look for the next adventure

Virgo: you have the kindest heart! i love your love for animals, but youre a little sneaky sometimes and you dont even realize you start real problems between people. youre too afraid of new things, i feel accomplished when i get you out of your comfort zone every other blue moon. i respect your intellect although it differs from mine sometimes. i feel i understand you better than you understand me.

Libra: hah! you are my best friends! we can chat for hours and still not be done talking. we have great banter, lots of inside jokes and we even understand each others body language. we like to organize parties together, entertain people and win them over to our friend circle. we’re proud of each other and give that little push to go for our dreams. one annoying thing is that we try to please each other all the time.

Scorpio: we are always ready to start some drama. we will throw people a bone and watch them argue. then we’ll be standing in a corner looking at them and ask each other why we are so evil and laugh about it all night. we’re always joking until one of us insults the other, hell cracks open a little bit but we get over it in a second like it never happened. normally i dont talk about my private life but with you i spill it all. it took you a while to tell me about yourself and our friendship became really strong after that. i feel you love me more than my mom does hahah love you scorp!

Sagittarius: can you stop showing me funny videos, youre making my stomach hurt from laughing. haha the internet would be boring without you! you are shy at first and its hard to make eyecontact with you but oh boy once you come out of your shell.. i like shy boys but your fiery side makes me too sad. Your shade is real and hits hard. i wish you were more careful with your words because you cant take them back once youve said them and i hold grudges so bad combo there :(

Capricorn: how do you appear so calm and collected on the outside but are so damned nervous inside? i always feel capricorns’ nervousness. youre like an alligator; quiet and meticulous. working on your next master plan to win power over people. youd be the best puppet master! youre very concerned with status but i like you best when you are not because you know how to have fun. youre one of my kinkiest friends ;) ;) lol. I like that you are accepting of people and very forgiving. Youre always there for the people you REALLY REALLY REALLY care about and thats a small tight circle of people, im glad im one of them

Aquarius: where do I start? i admire your intellect. talking to you is like having sex for the first time! all aquarius i know are effortlessly handsome and pretty. how? you make me want to be a better person. people dont often see your sensitive side, but i know your feelings can get intense. one thing i dont like though is that with other people you live in your head and bottle everything up inside until you boil over and spew out of control with them. dont do that! You are so freakin perfect. oh and you have a hate-love relationship with my cancerian friends, whyyyy

Pisces: you are like real life dolls! you are angelic and innocent looking with always a mischievous smile on your face. But behind that cute bubbly energy there is a really nasty side to your personality. you can be awefully mean when you act on your impulse and unfortunately you do it often :( you like to sweep problems under the rug because talking about it gives you heartburn! But it makes you look like you are not self-aware even when you are. People think you are detached from reality and selfish, but I see you use escapism as a coping mechanism. you are very smart! you love to learn and give. what i love the most about you is that you are patience with me and you can feel my energy without mistaking it for what its not.

OC Questions

1.  Which oc is unabashedly selfish?

2.  Which oc would serenade another character to earn brownie points?

3.  Which oc sweeps all their problems under the rug?

4.  Which oc is most likely to create a living abomination in the kitchen when asked to cook?

5.  Which oc would win in a cooking or handicraft contest?

6.  Which oc tries to re-sew a button to their shirt and screws it up?

7.  Which oc tries to tackle too many things at once?

8.  Which oc has a spare bed in their place for their friend/relative who always ends up crashing there?

9.  Which oc is the one who always crashes at someone else’s place?

10.  Which oc crashes high-society parties?

11.  Which oc throws high-society parties?

12.  Which oc probably owns a theme park?

In college, there isn’t shades of gray, it is black and white. If you don’t show up to practice and they put someone else in your seat and that boat moves even just a little bit faster, you just lost your seat and it is going to be you fighting to the top again and that is never fun. So unless you’re in bed throwing up, show up.
—  My coach to our team

anonymous asked:

1 Lauren immaturely rants about politics. 2 Disrespectful to people (including fans) 4 Ego 5 Easily lies to people's faces. conclusion: BITCH. No wonder why she loses followers her MOM even unfollowed her because she can't deal with her shit She's RUINED her friendship with Lucy Lucy unfollowed her She RUINED her relationship or friendship with Camila. She sweeps her problems under the rug because she doesn't want to deal with them and breaks everyone's heart in the process

okay question: why have the anons in our ask box been in an “i wanna fight lauren” mood lately? i mean did she actually do something or are some of you just bored and taking out your stress on her?

-A