Any book recommendations that won't make me vomit from ingrained sexism?
YES. They are few and far between, but all of them are so worth reading:
Parasite, by Mira Grant (Sci-fi/horror, one of the only novels set in the future that doesnt hold the same sexist/racist/homophobic views of contemporary society)
The Hunger Games, by Suzanne Collins (Dystopian fantasy, Asexual, disabled, poor, coloured main character. Makes extremely accurate and terrifying statemnt about our society.)
A Great and Terrible Beauty, by Libba Bray (The whole trilogy, actually. Main characters include representation of every possible oppressed group, including a sexual abuse survivor [tw] and they are not the defining features of their characters, just single aspects of multifaceted and well developed humans)
Everyday, by Daniel Levithan (genderfluid main character, amazing story, tackles issues surrounding gender roles, mental illness, and emotional permanence)