surviving stress

Can’t Sleep Without You

a/n: Not requested, but something that just popped into my head. A lot of stress and not enough sleep makes me want Shawn in my life so much. 

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It has been a few weeks since your last solid night’s sleep. You honestly are not really sure what has been going on with you or why you haven’t been able to sleep well. You’ve spent so many nights tossing and turning in bed, unable to get a peaceful rest, but then the morning comes and you practically feel like a zombie. These last four days have been the worst, and it doesn’t help that you’re in the middle of midterms so you have a lot of exams and presentations. For some reason, no matter how tired you are, you just can’t sleep well when night comes. It could be due to stress, since these last few weeks have been uncharacteristically stressful, or because you’re missing your boyfriend who you haven’t seen in a month, and you’re just tired of having to sleep without him every night. 

The one good thing that has come out of the fact that you haven’t been sleeping more than a few hours a night for the past four days is that you’ve been awake to text your boyfriend whenever he has a free minute. He’s off traveling in Europe for work so the time difference is pretty big considering you’re in LA. Normally this would mean you barely get to talk to him much, since you’re both so busy. However, every night this week, Shawn’s texted you at about three in the morning LA time because that is when he’s been free, and you’ve been able to respond because you’ve been awake. He, of course, questions why you’re awake in the middle of the night, but you’re unable to offer him much of an explanation because you’re never quite sure yourself, considering you’re so exhausted, but yet sleep won’t come.

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Reminder that you do not need to be experiencing frequent vivid flashbacks or nightmares of trauma to have post traumatic stress disorder. There are a plethora of other symptoms, such as dissociation, frightening thoughts, memory loss, trouble concentrating, depression, and hyper-arousal. If you’ve experienced a traumatic event but don’t have flashbacks, and because of this you’ve ruled PTSD out, please research PTSD anyway.

IM BACK! tumblr no longer hates me! :D

also here’s some updates:

  • i’m uploading a new commission post in a few (w/ more options!)
  • i’m doing another ask bash (where i finally answer as many asks as i can)
  • i’ve disabled my asks (for a few days, a week at most!) since i wanna focus on answering the older ones. :)
  • i’m getting the tattoo on my chest (hopefully) and it’s moved to early dec. hopefully i’m not broke by then since we have an appointment already. :’D
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AP LANG EXAM SURVIVAL GUIDE

1) The AP College Board, who makes these tests, are MOTHERFUCKERS. They may give you a prompt that they KNOW you give zero fucks about. So you better get ready to fake those fucks.

2.During the allotted 15 minutes to read your prompts don’t spend all your time on Synthesis sources. You will get down and intimate with those prompts later. Read ALL prompts AND pre-write ideas. You will be tired! PRE-WRITE. Synthesis LAST. LAST. It’s an easier puzzle to piece together in a time crunch.

3. If the argument or synthesis asks you to write a letter or to argue your point to a specific group…DON’T WRITE A LETTER! HOE DON’T DO IT. If you do you’ll use too much first person and personal opinions and it will lose its argumentative style. THEYRE NOT YOUR FRIENDS, THEY ARE YOUR ENEMY. Don’t make them love you - make them scared of you because of your solid AS FUCK argument.

4.HAVE A MINT. HAVE ANOTHER. SUCK THAT MINTY SHIT BITCH IT STIMULATES YOUR BRAIN SHIT. LIKE WEED BUT MORE LEGAL.

5. Don’t spend a year in each multiple choice question. Some problems are on a curve. If they feel impossible, it probably is. (Unless you have Jesus. Phillipians 4:14 “I can do all things with Jesus” But you’re at an AP Exam - this is hell and Jesus is not nearby.) So it’s okay if they’re too hard babe.

6. If you can’t think of book references for an argument - think of the news, appropriate films, and personal experience. If you have none, make one up. THIS IS NOT MORALITY. THIS IS SPARTA. DONT BE KILLED by lack of literary references.

7. Remember that you are a deep thinker. Most teenagers are baby pool shallow. So if your writing is ass - dig out that insight and prove you are at LEAST 5'6 deep. NOW GO FORTH MY YOUNG NIGGA.

Merry Christmas! Happy Birthday Viktor!

I’m still crying over the fact that YOI has ended (for now). ;__; This beautiful series was the whole reason I was able to survive this stressful semester. I’ve never cried waterfalls for an anime until this. Usually, it’s for kdramas, but there’s a first for everything haha.

I wanted to draw these lovebirds doing the “love shot” that I see at weddings and sometimes during drinking scenes in kdrama. Hope everyone enjoys their day! ^____^

I’ve finally felt comfortable enough to watch the HBO documentary about Carrie Fisher and Debbie Reynolds, and I’ve managed to make it through it with only a few tears here and there. Debbie really was fading health-wise, so it’s all the more understandable that she couldn’t survive the stress and grief of losing Carrie. They really were quite a pair, and their absence has left a hole in the world that I’m not sure is ever going to totally heal.

Here’s a side effect of the documentary that I didn’t expect: Carrie had a lovely singing voice, and now I have a new Star Wars head canon that Leia used to sing baby Ben to sleep.

anonymous asked:

I'm that guy who cries all day. I don't think I can fix it. I don't think it's possible. I probably haven't been outside in 4 months. I quit my storyboarding job about a year ago because I was accused of sexually harassing a co-worker and I couldn't deal with the stress. I survive off comissions now, and I don't want anyone that knows me to see how I live. I have no friends in my city. I've gained and lost significant weight. I think I'm dying, and this is the first time I've told anyone.

You can make small changes that will start to break the chain. Just walk around the block and that is good for the day. Then go eat in a restaurant. Then go walk to a mall and look around it for a bit. You’ll see that you’re fine. Also see a doctor. Tell someone exactly every piece of how you feel and become comfortable with that. You’ll get through all this. You’ll feel really good someday soon and plow through your goals. Just start! It really happens! I swear, my guy!

Hey ladsヾ(・ω・o)

Im moving out today and my new place doesnt have a internet connection yet, and I dont know when Ill get it so Im just letting yall know I might be offline for some time. (A week? Maybe just for one day? Who knows.)

Stay safe and have a wonderfull week!

Muffin out. |ω・`)ノ

Feeling guilt for not being productive, but also for doing tasks?

If you were often criticized, shamed, interrogated, ignored and dismissed, or compared with someone while doing some basic tasks (like making food, doing assignments, having fun, resting, procrastinating) it’s likely that you feel guilty of something for doing pretty much anything. You could feel guilty for doing it too late, not doing it good enough, or in a correct way, or feeling like you’re doing something awful no matter what you’re trying to do. 

There’s often a sense of “ruining your own life” if you do procrastinate tasks, don’t push yourself to be productive every single moment of your life, take rests, naps, don’t put maximum of your energy and time into chores and assignments, don’t do everything someone asks you to do. 

Now this means you’ve been operating on someone’s standards and rules, someone set out for you just how good you have to be, when do you have to do things, how much you’re allowed to rest, how hard you have to try. And for the most part, these standards are impossible, unachievable, and not humane. Person who set these standards for you? They did not have your well being in mind. It could feel like they were set on you in order for you to succeed in life, but this is a lie. You can’t succeed in life while generating massive amounts of guilt for not achieving standards that human being can’t possibly achieve. It’s a way to generate misery, low confidence, always feeling like you’re late with everything, like you’re not good enough. Often capitalism and society will set these standards without you noticing, we’re subtly expected to work constantly, to the point of exhaustion. 

If you feel like you set these standards yourself, because you wanted to be successful and do your best, it’s likely that you felt you had to do all you possibly could to make your life situation better, and you ended up creating a system you felt you could follow, but now you found out you can’t, and you feel incredibly disappointed in yourself.

So what now? It’s time to redefine success and make some new rules! I am going to describe rules  I made for myself, but these don’t have to be anything like rules you make for you! You know yourself the best and what will work for you, my only advice would be to make them humane and possible for you.

Definition of a success? A person who is able to enjoy life. The idea that you need to be successful in professional world, achieve glory or get rich in order to be a successful person is bullshit. You’re going to feel good if people around you appreciate and value you, if you’re able to use your abilities to contribute to society and have that acknowledged. Do you need to be the absolute best at something and insanely successful in order to have this? No. You need some decent people who appreciate you as you are. You can be the best and still feel like shit. 

Rules for life: Feeling great about what I’m doing as long as I’m not hurting anyone. Spending entire day in bed? Didn’t even get a chance to hurt someone. Procrastinating? Literally no harm done to anyone, not even me, because imma get that shit done in last second. Not doing a task the way it’s supposed to be done / the correct way? Who cares! I’ve done it. It is done. I took three times as long for a task that should be done quickly? Who cares! No harm done. Taking 8 hour long nap? I likely needed it and did a favour to myself! No harm done. Refused to do a favour to someone? I need my time and energy for myself and I stopped them from messing up my recovery. There could have been harm if I’ve gotten out of my way to do it and then had to recover from that for days! So again, no harm done. I made a thing but it’s shitty? I practiced in order to achieve greatness! No harm done. Cried for hours? It’s healthy for me! Good thing done. Didn’t achieve expected milestone like job, marriage, car, housing in the expected point in life? What’s the hurry! You’re not hurting anyone by taking your time and keeping your own pace. And you don’t even have to do those, you can literally be self employed forever, never marry, travel however you feel like, and live wherever you feel good.

So rules are, do whatever the hell you want, when you want, as long as you’re not hurting anyone, nobody is allowed to give you shit or to pressure you into changing your rules and system. Of course people will try to, they always do. Keep in mind they do not do that for your well being, or out of honest concern, they’re messing with your values and your personal happiness and they need to be shown out. Someone making you feel bad for procrastinating/ resting/ crying/ not doing them a favour/ not having a job? They’re a piece of shit. It’s an attempt of controlling you and how you feel about your own life and it is not acceptable, no matter what they say their intentions are. You have the absolute right to decide your own values and standards, and as long as you’re not actively hurting someone, nobody has the right to give you shit for how you live your own life.

Why does the sound of rain gently tapping on the roof and windows instantly relieve stress? It is a reminder of survival, an appreciation for being safe, dry, and warm, the most basic of needs. Therein lies a secret to contentment; to remind ourselves regularly of the satisfaction of our basic needs, to appreciate another moment of survival, and forget the extraneous factors that cause us undue stress.

One leading cause of chronic memory problems is stress. When we are constantly overloaded with work and personal responsibilities, our bodies are on hyperalert. This response has evolved from the physiological mechanism designed to make sure we can survive in a crisis. Stress chemicals help mobilize energy and increase alertness. However, with chronic stress our bodies become flooded with these chemicals, resulting in a loss of brain cells, and an inability to form new ones, which affects our ability to retain new information.

So take a break! And remember to thank yourself later.

From the TED-Ed Lesson How memories form and how we lose them - Catharine Young

Animation by Patrick Smith

Yuuko investigates! If you could take [any of the characters] along to an uninhabited island? Best 5 [Tsubasa Caractere Chronicle]

[page 142]
If you were together, it wouldn’t be scary!?
[The person] chosen as a buddy is…?

1st place: Mokona Modoki
Native country: ???

To make survival less stressful, how about Mokona? Mokona, who can deliver not only luggage, but also smiling faces, might become your biggest supporter.

[Mokona’s] talent for teasing Kurogane is the best in the whole world. If we add the point that [Mokona] can move across dimensions, there might not be anybody who equals [Mokona]?

2nd place: Fay D Flourite
Native country: Valeria Country

When it comes to meals, you won’t be in trouble! Because Fay has such extensive experience, he seems very wise.

3rd place: Kurogane
Native country: Nihon Country

In whatever circumstance, he would powerfully clear the way for you, [and] he’s a reliable existence.

4th place: Imonoyama Nokoru
Native country: Piffle World

It’s not impossible that he would purchase every uninhabited island for you…

5th place: Yuuko
Native country: ???
It’s fine, but it’ll cost you?

[Is it] a drawback that it seems as if she won’t do anything for you, although she could?

Pick up!! The compass that guides you to your destination

[This is] the compass that Sakura was using in Tokyo. If you used this, would you also no longer be lost!?