surrogacy

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For poor surrogates, a loaded bargain
In Kmounch village on the outskirts of Phnom Penh, at least six women have rented their wombs to foreigners over the past two years. There is little economic activity in the village itself, where women sit braiding each other’s hair, cooking over open fires or playing cards.

In Kmounch village on the outskirts of Phnom Penh, at least six women have rented their wombs to foreigners over the past two years. There is little economic activity in the village itself, where women sit braiding each other’s hair, cooking over open fires or playing cards.

But each of the six surrogate mothers could receive up to $10,000 for her trouble – more than six and half times what a garment worker could make in a year on minimum wage.

In Cambodia, information about commercial surrogacy tends to spread by word of mouth, with women drawn to the industry through the recommendation of others. The first surrogate was recruited in the village almost two years ago, and gossip about payments for surrogate mothers spread like wildfire.

Now, the gossip is likely about how much longer such opportunities will exist in Cambodia. The government recently announced that it considers commercial surrogacy to be illegal, and is drafting legislation to ban the industry completely.

Australian Tammy Davis-Charles – the founder of agency Fertility Solutions PGD – and two Cambodian nationals were the first to suffer the legal consequences: Two weeks ago, they were arrested by Cambodia’s anti-trafficking police and charged for acting as an intermediary between adoptive parents and a pregnant woman.

There are at least 10 Western-run surrogacy agencies currently operating in Cambodia, according to Sam Everingham, the director of Australia-based organisation Families Through Surrogacy. He estimates they have facilitated more than 300 pregnancies to date.

At about $50,000 per pregnancy, that means the industry could be worth at least $15 million – and that’s excluding the work of the unknown number of Chinese-owned agencies and clinics operating in the Kingdom. There are 23 pregnant surrogates that have been recruited by Charles-Davis’s agency, meaning that her company alone could have collected at least $1 million.

Meanwhile, in Kmounch village, six women are trying to survive on the surrogacy “salary” they’ve earned. 

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When cartoonist Charles Danziger and his partner decided they were going to have a baby through surrogacy, Danziger knew he wanted a way to tell their children the story of how their family came to be. Thus was born “All Our Wishes,” the beautiful story of two mouse-spouses who want to have a baby. Check out the BuzzFeed article about Charles for the rest of the story! 

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ALRIGHT! I’m very surprised by the amount of guesses that surprise I mentioned earlier got, but I think it’s time to put the apparent curiosity to rest now.

So, what was the whole thing I had planned for Luna in this NextGen!verse? Well, it’s quite simple, really.

She’s the surrogate mother of Discord and Celestia’s first cub, Vega. Why? Let me hash out some headcanon for ya. ;D

So I dunno if I told ya’ll, but I’ve actually have it headcanoned that Celestia is not able to have children. She’s able to produce eggs that are able to be fertilized, but actually give birth and keep a pregnancy? She’s unable to do it. This is something she and Luna have known for most of her life (the Sun princess isn’t a virgin, and she has tried to have a family on a few occasions), but Discord only found out when she told him when the topic of future foals came about. Luna, on the other hand, CAN have foals, however she has absolutely no desire to have foals of her own, and she completely lacks the desire for sex and a romantic relationship. Now, despite all of that said, she still chose and offered to be the surrogate mother to her sister’s and Discord’s first child. Her main reason for this decision was because she knew how much Celly wanted a foal of her own. The first image there is essentially the sisters having feels after Celestia accepts Luna’s consent to be the surrogate mother of her first kid.

The second image is a little after the pregnancy takes. Despite carrying Discord and Celestia’s foal for them, Luna still feels pretty awkward about the pregnancy as a whole, especially when she’s asked permission to feel the foal kick. She doesn’t mind Celestia asking too much and often indulges her sister, but with Discord she more often than not refuses to let him touch her tummy, even when he tries giving her puppy-dog eyes.

The third image is of Celestia happily cradling her brand new egg. After a while Celly and Discord wants another kid but decide to do something different than asking Luna to suffer through another pregnancy on their behalf. Discord worked long and hard to create a spell to allow Celestia the experience of being pregnant…. in a sense, anyway. What they did was use method similar to IVF, but instead of placing the fertilized egg back into a womb, Discord used his inpromptu spell to form it into a literal egg (similar to a dragon’s egg) in a way that it can properly develop without the risk of miscarriage. He gives this egg to Celestia, who essentially keeps it on her virtually at all times. She’s a very happy camper. C:

Sooooooooooooooooooooo yeah. There’s the surprise plus a little extra headcanon; hopefully it was worth the guessing and wait. x3 Feel free to ask any questions if you have them, but other than that thanks you guys for indulging me! ^.^

So-called surrogacy provides a perfect example of the mind-body distinction which is a creation of  patriarchal philosophical discourse. It is not only a child who is “bought” - whether with money, gifts, or through emotional and psychological gratification. It is not only a uterus that is “bought” as a receptacle to house the pregnancy until the commissioned child is born. The woman’s bloodstream, her oxygen system, her nutrient system, her whole physical self becomes part of the transaction.

A woman may be persuaded, just as women who “sell” other parts of their bodies are persuaded, that her mind remains her own: she defines her mind as the centre of her autonomy, which is not for sale - or exploitation.

If she succeeds at distancing herself (her mind), thusly, from herself (her body), she engages in a centrally destructive feat: mind and body cannot be separated, are not separable. I am my body. I am myself. Myself is my body. In the very process of attempting to evade the inevitable: that one’s self is being “used” by others for their own ends, the woman divides herself from herself, her mind from her body. Thus the autonomous self is dictated to by the exigencies of the moment. The autonomous self is occupied by others.

If she does not succeed in dichotomising herself in this way, the woman recognises herself as occupied territory: the commissioning parents have first call (whether by legal contract or moral understanding) not only upon the developing child, but upon the woman herself.

—  Whose Surrogacy? Surrogacy, Ethics and the Law by Jocelynne A. Scutt.

If you still miss the crew of Serenity, if you want to know what ever happened between Mal and Inara, if you’re curious about why Shepherd Book knew so much about the Alliance… well, it’s basically because your brain processes these people as your friends.

And, understandably, you miss your friends.

“A truly all-inclusive book, What Makes a Baby uses bright, bold illustrations to teach children about all the different places children come from, including adoption, IVF, and surrogacy. Every kind of family can find their own origin story on its pages, whose characters aren’t specified in color or gender, while learning about others’ stories, too. The newly released follow up for older children, Sex is a Funny Word, uses a comic book format to tackle the topics of sex, boundaries, gender identity, and much more.” 

From 30 LGBTQIA-Positive Children’s Books That’ll Teach Kids How Beautifully Diverse The World Is  

See the full reading list on Bustle.com

“This suit will be your costume.” Lao Ting pointed to the black skirt and jacket hanging from the coat rack in the corner of his office. “You will tell people you are the vice president of the company. They may see you as a sex object, and this will be advantageous in business negotiations. I have noticed that American businessmen are very easy to manipulate. Has anyone ever told you that you resemble Christie Brinkley, the American supermodel of the nineteen eighties?”

I said a few people had. I did look like Christie Brinkley, and like Jacqueline Bisset and Diane Sawyer, I’d been told. I was five foot nine, 116 pounds, with long, silky light-brown hair. My eyes were blue, which Lao Ting said was the best color for someone in my position. I was 28 when I became the surrogate vice president. I was to be the face of the company at in-person meetings. Lao Ting thought American businessmen would discriminate against him because of the way he looked. He looked like a goat herder. He was short and thin and wore a white linen tunic and a belt of rope around his beach shorts. His beard was nearly white and hung down like a magical tail from his chin to his pubis. My previous job had been as a customer-service representative for Marriott Hotels, taking reservations over the phone at home. I’d been living in a studio apartment above a Mexican bakery in Oxnard. The view out my window there was a concrete wall.

“Your last name will be Reilly,” Lao Ting told me. “Would you like to suggest a first name for your professional entity?”

I suggested Joan.

- Excerpt from The Surrogate. Read more.

One thing that I have found refreshing about working in an international context is that women from other countries, particularly in the developing world, have no illusions about their so-called rights. International feminism is not terribly liberal. Surrogacy could never be defended as a woman’s right to control her own body in Bangladesh. It would be recognized immediately that surrogacy only gives women the “right” to give up control of their bodies, and promotes a traffic in women from the developing countries to the west. By focusing on a rarefied and reductionistic realm of rights, U.S. reproductive liberals are circumscribing the new reproductive technologies to the U.S. domestic arena, when the issues of the reproductive use and abuse of women are being played out on an international marketing and medical stage.
—  Janice G. Raymond, “Reproductive Technologies, Radical Feminism and Socialist Liberalism”, Reproductive and Genetic Engineering: Journal of International Feminist Analysis, Volume 2 Number 2, (1989) [PDF]
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GloZell Babysits for Gay Dads and their Four Kids
GloZell Green’s recent path to parenthood via surrogacy has been widely documented - from People Magazine to her own docu-series. Perhaps less known is her tremendous support for the LGBTQ community.

YouTube comedian GloZell Green has been chronicling her journey to parenthood via surrogacy. Now, in preparation for her own baby, she spends the day with gay dads, Anthony and Byron, and their four children: identical twins Jackie and Jasmine, Jake and baby Mariah.

And while not everything goes as planned, the biggest lesson learned is that love does comes first.

Watch the video here!