i'm sorry i feel like i worded it wrong.. what i should have asked is, is men's drive to dominate women natural? is that why women across cultures are oppressed? i still can't grasp why male supremacy was pervasive before western colonialism if it wasn't natural.. please bear with me
Tbh I go back and forth on that, so I can’t really give you a satisfying answer. The radical feminist view is that men are not naturally violent and aggressive (toward women and toward each other) but rather it is woman-hating, male supremacist culture that socialises men to dominate others (particularly women). I agree with this; it’s true that men are taught, in ways both blatant and subtle, that they are superior to women and that women belong to them. So they act according to what they believe. Acknowledging male socialisation means feminists and feminist allies can address the way that boys are raised into masculinity and come up with solutions to change that. However, I don’t think this is necessarily an either/or situation. Maybe men are innately more cruel than women, and their male supremacist socialisation merely exacerbates the problem. I’ve come across radical feminists who feel that men can’t or won’t change, and female separatism or matriarchy are the only viable solutions. The more I see and hear of men, the more I feel the same. The fact that a conservative anti-feminist man and a self-professed “feminist” man are equally likely to be abusers or rapists; the fact that the kindest, most loving, most compassionate, most pro-feminist women have vile, horrible sons; and the fact that boys who are barely out of their toddler years bully and harass their female peers tells me a lot about what a waste of time it is to “reeducate” boys and men. Is there something fundamentally wrong with the male brain? Is the Y chromosome like a defect? Does testosterone make you more aggressive? There isn’t, as far as I know, any scientific consensus on that last one because the studies on it are inconsistent. I know it’s not the popular radical feminist opinion but it’s a possibility worth considering, and I don’t think saying that men’s behaviour might not be 100% due to societal indoctrination is saying that biology is destiny, nor do I think it undermines the importance of socialisation. If you’re interested, there is a book called Delusions of Gender that discusses in depth the socialisation aspect of sex differences, and it’s very interesting and informative. The author is a lot more optimistic about men than I am, but it’s an excellent book and maybe it can help you find an answer to your question.