problematic muses are very interesting to play as they, when portrayed correctly, as they’re generally complex individuals who ARE problematic because of one thing or another that occurred either in their past, with their relationships, etc. also, in real life, there are problematic traits && people out there. so playing as a “problematic” character is, really, quite realistic.  

HOWEVER, problematic characters and their traits that deem them as “problematic” SHOULD NOT be romanticized. 

in no way, shape, or form is it ever cool or healthy or okay for one party to guilt trip, suicide bate, or any combo of the both to make another party stay with them. 

never is it okay to use things like suicidial tendencies / intentions or depression as a way to make your muse more viable for sympathy from other muses. 

never is it okay to slap on mental illnesses to a character ( && i’m not saying that this makes the muse problematic, but rather the addition of these without careful consideration or thought is problematic ) for the sake of making them more “loveable” or to be used an an excuse for problematic behavior.

&& really, to say that love will save them is unrealistic. it would mean, to say, that those traits given to your character were only ADDED ONTO SO THEY COULD BE LOVED. which, once again, is romanticizing and that, once again, is not okay. 

more often than not, change ( true change ) is not dependent upon others by rather by one OWN’S WILLPOWER. && this change can unconsciously be influenced by the presence of others, but once a character’s emotional or mental state is DETERMINED by the existence of another character, that’s when it crosses the line to co-dependent. which is problematic. && should not be romanticized. 

at the end of the day, portraying these problematic tendencies can turn very one-dimensional, very OFFENSIVE, very quickly. && yes, as a roleplay community is IS a saying that it’s “your blog” && you should “do you” which, of course, is okay. That’s 100% valid. But we also cannot ignore the fact that PEOPLE WILL GET HURT or OFFENDED or feel UNCOMFORTABLE by certain topics or instances && we can’t stop that. yes, the simple solution is to unfollow && forget, but we can avoid that issue all together if we, as a community, help to become more respectful to those who have either been in those situations involving problematic people, or who have those mental illnesses that are being used simply as a justification for a character to be “problematic”. 

so yeah, that’s all i have to say. i hope you guys have a wonderful week !! stay guuci !! 

[The] most significant reason for the abrupt rise in suicide [in countries that were part of the Soviet Union] after 1991-2 was the state of social anomie triggered by the collapse of the Soviet regime. ‘In the case of economic disasters, indeed, something like a declassification occurs which suddenly casts certain individuals into a lower state than their previous ones. […] Time is required for the public conscience to reclassify men and things. So long as the social forces thus freed have not regained equilibrium, their respective values are unknown and so all regulation is lacking for a time. The limits are unknown between the possible and the impossible, what is just and what is unjust, legitimate claims and hopes and those which are immoderate.’
This passage, written by Emile Durkheim in 1897 to define situations of anomie, can still shed light on the events in the Soviet Union after 1991. The collapse of the regime prompted enormous changes within a very short period of time, the transition from a totalitarian state to a democratic system, and from a centrally planned economy to one that was market based. The network of state services, which, since 1920, had provided full employment, controlled prices, basic education and free health care, disintegrated leading to a doubling of the unemployment rate and massive poverty. After having been isolated for centuries from the rest of the world, Russia was invaded by mass media from the West and values that, until then, had been condemned, like individualism, economic success and an entrepreneurial spirit, spread rapidly. This meant that many citizens of the former Soviet Union countries not only felt poor and insecure but also disoriented, confused and homeless.
—  Barbagli, Marzio (2015) Farewell to the World: A History of Suicide, Cambridge: Polity Press, p186