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Heey! Ya las he terminado :D ya me he quitado otro dibujo de encima

Estoy muy contenta con el resultado, aunque no podría decir lo mismo del fondo, no sabía que hacer y además de que yo no se hacer fondos, me parecía un dibujo tan sencillo que creo que tampoco me merecía la pena hacer uno, ¡Espero que os guste!

Senpai os ama <3

~Bellatrix Farron

6 Simple Ways to Make Your First Sugar Date the Best He’s Ever Had

Any POT might have been on dozens of dates with young, attractive women before he meets you. So you want to take full advantage of you first sugar date with a POT to make yourself stand heads and shoulders above the competition.

Here are 6 simple ways guaranteed to make it the best sugar date he’s ever had:

1. Channel a Mood

Ever notice how you could have a relentlessly long day at work, be absolutely pooped and then hear a favorite, upbeat song on the radio and instantly be in the mood to go paint the town red?

Or how ’bout when you’re rushing through your day, from one appointment to the next and you catch a whiff of a delectable scent that instantly takes you back to a sweet, not-yet-forgotten memory?

All of us have experienced this ability to instantly transform our mood. The smallest things can do it – a song, a scent, and even lingering on a memory.

We love taking advantage of this awesome ability we all have right before a sugar date. It doesn’t take long – you can do it just a few minutes before you meet the POT.

Here’s how: Before entering the meeting place, find a quiet place and choose a favorite memory – select one that’s fun, funny, outrageous, something that still makes you laugh and fills you with confidence. Now hold that memory ’til you are feeling the fun, lighthearted mood of that memory…and then walk in and introduce yourself to the POT.

Moods communicate – sometimes better than words – and you’ll be guaranteeing that his very first impression of you is one of absolute delight.

2. Arrange an Unusual Dinner or Event

Fun circumstances create fun memories. And fun memories tend to linger in a SD’s mind. So how do you create these fun memories?

The easiest way is to set unusual circumstances. Unusual things take us out of our comfort zones. They cause us to – if only just for a moment – see the world through slightly different eyes. They differentiate themselves from the minutiae of everyday life and as such, are easily remembered and not-so-easily forgotten. And they also have the effect of making us feel closer to the person we’re sharing the moment with.

All of these reasons are why we’ll always choose a slightly unusual setting for first sugar dates. It’s almost a guarantee that you’ll make yourself stand out among the other sugar dates he’s had and have a uniquely memorable time together. Not to mention – every time he thinks of that unusual experience, he’ll remember who he had it with.

So what sort of unusual circumstances should you aim for?

It doesn’t have to be extravagant – there’s no need for trapeze artists searing banana flambe with their toes. Just a simple twist on the usual. Here are some suggestions:

  • There are so, so many upscale restaurants. He’s been to them all. Why not suggest a cuisine he’s probably never tried? Like…maybe something you guys can eat with your hands? Ethiopian food is superb, can be eaten with your hands, and provides plenty of things to talk about.
  • Somewhere with belly dancers is always fun. The presence of curvacious women swinging their hips through tables heaped with food lends an atmosphere of sensuality that’s not easily forgotten.
  • Human sushi platter, anyone? Sushi restaurants serving their sushi atop naked women are far and few – and guaranteed to be a very memorable experience. Oh, and the natural sweat of the human body is meant to lend the sushi a unique flavor. You’ll never know if it’s true ’til you try it

3. Be Genuinely Curious

Isn’t it a lovely feeling when you know that someone is genuinely interested in knowing more about you as a person? SDs love this, too.

For the duration of the date, make him feel like the center of your attention.

You can do this simply by asking questions. Lots of questions. But…they have to be open-ended, thought-provoking questions.

Avoid typical, small-talk, dead-end questions like: “What do you do for work?” or “Where do you work?”

And go for open-ended, thought-provoking questions like: “Why’d you decide to start your own business?” or “Was becoming a lawyer your childhood dream? Oh, what was your childhood dream?” or “So…what do you want to be when you grow up?

And listen to his answer with curious, attentive eyes.

Approach the question-asking from the mindset that you’re genuinely interested in getting to know the core of the person sitting across from you – that his resume, his on-paper qualifications don’t matter squat – and you’re super curious to find out what makes him tick, what excites him, what his various idiosyncrasies are, etc.

This sort of attention is addicting. He’ll soak it up. And more often than not – he’ll be back wanting more.

4. Stay Mysterious

Some SBs may disagree with us on this, but we don’t advise giving much of yourself away, especially on the first date.

So while you should lavish attention and genuine interest on your POT and learn as much about him as you can, also do your part to selectively reveal only bits and pieces of yourself.

You can do this by staying on the conversational offense.

When he asks you questions, answer honestly but keep it simple and lighthearted and then toss a similar question right back at him.

Him: What’s your major?

You: Accounting. What can I say, I love money. What about you – what’d you major in? Did you end up working in something related?

And then follow up with related questions…”If you could do college again, what would you choose?” “What’d you enjoy the most about university?” And so on…

The point of this is not to be closed off – do answer questions and be honest and open. But be selective in what you reveal. Any fascinating and unusual things about you? Talk about those. As for the rest of your life, make him curious to find out more.

5. The Art of the Playful Tease

It’s your first meeting. You barely know each other. So how do you establish rapport in these first few moments of contact?

There are a lot of ways to build rapport, like through asking questions, attentive listening, and finding shared interests. And there’s always mimicking the other person’s body language and doing what you can to put them at ease.

But the simplest, funnest way to instantly build rapport and connection is by through the art of the playful tease.

Teasing, of the silly, playful variety (not the mean, snarky kind) is one of the most useful tools a sugar baby can have in her arsenal. It invites the SD to joke, have fun, and open up with you. The act of playfulness establishes rapport and connection like nothing else can. And this playful, unpredictable nature he sees in you keeps him on his toes and so interested that he hardly notices that he’s becoming attached on an emotional level with you.

Playfulness does all that. It’s a wonder that it’s not talked about as much as it should be.

To get you started, here’s an example of gentle teasing:

Him: You mentioned in your profile that you’re an aspiring actress?

You: Yes, but don’t worry – I won’t drop you once I make it big.

Him: Umm…thanks.

You: I’d wait a few weeks.

At the same time, remember that playful teasing is an art and not a science. Make sure you know how to toe the fine line between fun teasing and snarky meanness before you use this on a POT.

And always – always – smile.

6. The Law of Reciprocity

There’s this little law that we absolutely love making use of in any and all social situations. It’s called the Law of Reciprocity and it works charmingly on SDs.

To use it on a first date, spend a little time getting to know your POT’s interests. You’ve probably already emailed back and forth and chatted over the phone. Go over what was talked about to suss out something interesting about this guy.

And…get him a little gift for the first date.

It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant or expensive – the most we’ve ever spent was less than $20. We don’t do it for every first sugar date – just with the most promising ones. Some of the stuff we’ve gifted:

  • A POT said one of his most awesome memories was jungle trekking atop an elephant in Thailand. He was incredibly pleased when I showed up for our first date with a little wooden elephant I’d found in a local ethnic shop. Told him I thought of him when I saw it. We’re still friends to this day.
  • For a POT who claimed to share my affinity for all things sweet: a set of 3 adorable cupcakes. We shared them after dinner.

Even if these things seem to be small investments, they have amazing returns.


‘Cause you just can’t help but like someone who has done something nice for you. Even if you never asked for that nice thing. That’s just how the Law of Reciprocity works.

Use it in your favor.

anonymous asked:

Do you think Alfred is one of those grandparents that carry those old-people candies like the candy with the strawberry wrapping that you don't know where he gets it from but they are always in his pockets for the grandbabies?

I think Alfred has an entire briefcase full of basically everything. After Bruce started the whole Batman thing and adopted all the kids, Alfred has learned to expect anything and everything. Meaning he has a briefcase that has snacks (for hungry kids and low blood sugar), bandages, sewing materials, tools, you name it. Alfred is the most prepared when it comes to this kind of stuff; after all, when you’re basically the granddad to a bunch of rambunctious kids who tend to get hurt a lot and are constantly hungry, you have to be prepared.

Pop-Rock in the Late 90s

By the end of the 1990s, alternative rock as a mainstream flash point had stretched itself out into a very, very thin umbrella term that covered a lot of different sounds. In terms of radio and the charts–both the Hot 100 and ‘Modern Rock’–the arena-sized aftermath of grunge was petering out by '96, but it would take a few more years before nu-metal really came to dominate radio and the garage rock fad led by The Strokes and The White Stripes took off. These were also the final years before Napster, a peak point in major label album sales (as well as some of the highest sales of singles since their peak in the early 80s), so there was a lot of financial room for labels to take on upstart bands with maybe a decent song or two and try to make something of them. Because 'alternative’ as an idea was so broad and ill-defined at this point, there was a fair amount of novelty, miniature fads, and free-flowing crossover between top hits on modern rock radio and the wider pop charts. There seemed to exist a certain brand of artist who fit into the cracks and glued these different worlds together. The term pop-rock has been used perennially to describe bands that do this, but from 1997-1999 there was a slippery yet distinct flavor that seemed to unite them even more.

We’re not talking about ascendant indie bands or, really, anyone with much connection at all to the underground. These were almost all bands with explicit pop ambitions, and as you can see from the above playlist, most of them were one-hit wonders. The songs were upbeat and generally sunny, even when they dealt with darker subjects (“Semi-Charmed Life” is about crystal meth addiction, “The Way” is about an elderly Texas couple who were found dead in a ravine, etc.). In terms of imagery and videos, it was very common for acts at this time to invoke a lot of mid-century suburban Americana: white picket fences, Airstream trailers, driving in convertibles (or, if you’re really young and hip, mopeds), dressing in thrift store bowling shirts or ironic matching suits, and going to pools, beaches, or amusement parks. There was supposed to be a little bit of snark to it—subtly skewering their parents’ generation to position themselves as young, edgy, and ‘alternative’—but it never really came off that way because there was nothing very rebellious or political about the music. Looking at it now, this imagery plays more like jokey homage and warped nostalgia, with a lot of young people having fun the same way young people in America have for decades. Think of it like the way The Simpsons at the time was both a loving mockery of middle America and a fairly straightforward sitcom that appealed directly to it.

Musically, this stuff exists in a kind of middle ground between different sounds that were prevalent at the time. They run the gamut from really simplistic guitar pop like Everclear or Semisonic to what was essentially dance pop from acts like Len or Fatboy Slim, who although he was part of the breakbeat thing that was exploding at this time, was played alongside these pop-rock bands with much higher frequency than, say, The Prodigy or The Chemical Brothers. There were a handful of pop punk bands making big waves on the modern rock and pop charts at this time, as well as a slate of mellower, more acoustic and ‘grown up’ acts that were also scoring hits. Today, a lot these sounds wouldn’t overlap or bleed into each other in the same way that they did on the radio and on MTV or VH1 in the late 90s somewhere under this vague canopy of ‘alternative.’ That’s one of the big reasons I tend to lump them together as a kind of stop-gap genre.

I was in middle school from ’97-’99, so while it’s true that FM radio played a much bigger role in most peoples lives than it does today, it was also my main personal gateway to pop music. At that point, I don’t think my sense of taste was developed enough to distinguish between what I actually liked and disliked and what was a function of social interaction and peer weight. None of this stuff was seen as particularly cool or uncool at my school, but it was more socially acceptable for boys to like Blink-182 and Green Day than, say, Sugar Ray, whose appeal was too close to boy band territory for the comfort of most of us. Besides, Mark McGrath was/is a huge tool and Sugar Ray had inflicted “Fly” on the world, still one of the stupidest and most annoying hits of my lifetime. Fatboy Slim, Semisonic, and Fastball were all OK, but when it came to one-hit wonders most of us preferred the novelty of “Tubthumping” or “One Week.” Third Eye Blind’s “Semi-Charmed Life” was all over TV and movies in those years, so everyone knew it and would hum the “do-do-do, do-dodo-doo” part, but I liked “Jumper” a little bit more because of the drumroll part, which appealed to me as a beginning percussionist. Everybody loved “Sex and Candy.” In the bigger picture, though, these bands weren’t touted as huge favorites. Britney Spears and N’Sync were happening, as well as Puff Daddy, Aaliyah, DMX, and the beginnings of Destiny’s Child, all of which carried far more weight among students at Discovery Middle School.

And hey, it turns out those acts still carry more weight in the history of pop than something like Everclear or Cake. This pop-rock stuff didn’t have a lot of value beyond its moment, not because it wasn’t particularly deep or artistic—though it wasn’t and isn’t—but because there were bigger and more culturally significant things happening elsewhere. The upside to the disposable nature of this music is that you can use it for your own ends as long as it holds up. For me, it evokes memories of the late 90s, but it doesn’t radiate them so brightly that I can’t appreciate these songs as simple, successful pop either. I’m surprised how well the songs on the above playlist still hang together. Some of that comes down to my own editorial picking and choosing—and some of these songs did indeed receive the Pitchfork stamp of approval when they put up their big 90s list a few years ago—but history isn’t going to and doesn’t need to celebrate or even vindicate these bands. They serve as an aesthetic marker for what was happening in music and how Americans were feeling at the end of the 20th century, through good songs and bad ones. Also, when sideburns and soul patches make a comeback in a few years, we can point to this and know why.


1. Third Eye Blind - “Semi-Charmed Life” - June 17, 1997
2. Everclear - “I Will Buy You A New Life” - September 27 ,1997
3. Marcy Playground - “Sex and Candy” - November 4, 1997
4. Fastball - “The Way” - February 24, 1998
5. Semisonic - “Closing Time” - March 10, 1998
6. Harvey Danger - “Flagpole Sitta” - April 21, 1998
7. Fatboy Slim - “The Rockafeller Skank” - September 22, 1998
8. Cake - “Never There” - October 13, 1998
9. New Radicals - “You Get What You Give” - November 10, 1998
10. Third Eye Blind - “Jumper” - November 24, 1998
11. Fatboy Slim - “Praise You” - February 16, 1999
12. Sugar Ray - “Someday” - June 15, 1999
13. Len - “Steal My Sunshine” - July 22, 1999

Sugar Baby Power Tool

The Power of the prospect of Pussy is unreal.

Know this ladies

Use it & don’t abuse it!

Keep your pussy to yourself until you have secured your Daddy fully. Don’t take a fucking cent until you get exactly what you want.

Get what you want, or walk.

You’re worth it.

The prospect of potentially having your pussy is what fuels men to date Sugar Babies.

Use this power and your inherent charm to woo, convince and emotionally engage your Daddy.

Train him to please you. Because if he pleases you…he might get the pussy….

Do this and get more than what you’ve imagined.

Never sell yourself short!

Ciao! 💋

Quick tip for the sugar babies out there, if a man is talking about another woman that he’s been with DO NOT fall into the trap of comparing yourself to her or trying to seem better than her. Men will immediately jump on that and use it to devalue you. Instead, give him no option but to compliment you. Say something along the lines of “You must have fabulous taste in women! She sounds completely captivating” at that point he has a perfect opportunity to compliment his own taste AND you which pretty much any person with half a brain will jump on. 

💚🔮💸Lazy witch gets the job

Long overdue witch post yall:

So i was applying to jobs the week after i got back into town (recent grad, very limited job skills other than not letting a bunch of kids murder each other at a ren faire knife throw and skilful hot glueing)
So i went to the witchy store the day after two interviews, i cleaned my tiny 1’ square ikea shelf altar, laid down my green fabric i got from a donation bin, i wrote the name of the job i wanted most all over my resume, poured a shitton of mortons salt, honey, and sugar (my favorite tools cos i always have them for tea anyway) and a dash of my Louisiana Slap Dat seasoning on my 69 cent green candle, lit my newly witchified candle, and let my magic do its work. Three hours later i got my email, and i am now officially an employee of probably the best possible retail job i could have hoped for.

Luck and chance and shit were on my side, and i still have to learn a lot to do this job, but my point is that, me, the laziest spellcaster around, did my thing with limited space and materials that amount to maybe $3.
And it worked !!!!!
Magic is about intent and real life ass hauling (and hey, i really think my Christian mom praying for me does help with the good luck i’ve had even if im not on good terms with *traditional* religion im not gonna be ungrateful for some cosmic help when it comes from a good place)
But like…my point is that you dont have to have your deity/ies, your practice, or your methods 100% figured out to use magic. It is a practice and we all use it and treat it differently. You dont need a beautiful space, or fancy tools and ingredients, just useable ones that work for YOU.
And also, you do not have to be ashamed to help yourself! The most freeing thing about magic for me is that I get out of it what i put in without the *guilt and sin* factor. Its like stretching, or cooking. You dont have to be great or fancy, you just have to take care of yourself and learn and Practice.
Ive never said Blessed Be, so something more fitting: holler if you need something, ill be in the kitchen spillig salt, making a mess, and learning about my magic💚💜💙