such an interesting and emotional adaptation

Maladaptive Daydreaming.

“Everybody does it!”

Oh. Does everybody pace back and forth for hours; index finger automatically clicking the volume up, louder, until they feel the music leak into every possible corner of their brain?

Do they see their characters dance, fight, make love or sing along with the songs they so carefully chose?

Can they watch a movie without imagining their own movie in their heads?

Does it take them hours longer to complete chores? (Dirty laundry is much less interesting than playing pretend).

Are their universes as complex as a novel? Do their character’s emotions ebb and flow like verses of poetry?

Do their daydreams terrify them?

Do they feel what their characters feel? Do they feel the slightest bit insulted that they call their teammates, their creations, their friends and family simply…characters…?

Do they think that their daydreams tease them with images of lives far more grand and exciting than the mundane grey word they’re forced by physics to live in?

Oh, dear.

Everybody daydreams.

But not all dreams are adaptive.

10 Abusive Men’s conversational tactics every woman should be aware of:

1. Domination of conversation - at any cost

It simply doesn’t matter what it takes - making up a story, repeating the same issue over and over again, increasing the volume of his voice, calling you out on unrelated-unreal issues, taking on a threatening pose to get your attention, getting angry if you don’t carefully listen to what he has to say, throwing a tantrum, accusing you of talking too much, beating down your words, I have even seen abusive men cause fights because they wanted to dominate a conversation with a woman. Last time I tried to talk to a woman, while abusive man was standing next to her, he actually physically dragged her away, just so she wouldn’t be able to get my attention, because I refused to give it to him instead. In their minds, this is reasonable, because they feel we owe them that much, and if we refuse to make them the center of attention, it’s aggression on our part, and any action to beat us down to submission is acceptable and “nothing else should be expected of him”.

2. “What I have to say is important at the moment - every moment.”

You were trying to tell a story? He immediately comes up with a vaguely related story that happened to someone he knew that is somehow suddenly more relevant than what you wanted to say. You were trying to prove a point? He’s going to prove a different point. You have a problem that bothers you? His much smaller problem is bothering him much more, to the point where you have to feel bad for bringing your problem up in the first place. You have an achivement you’re proud of? Wait until you hear what he has done at some point in time that right now feels more relevant to him. In his mind, what you have to say simply doesn’t matter and it’s on him to figure out how to slowly bring that down to you, so you’d finally shut up and accept that his confidence is to be worshipped, yours beaten down.

3. Personal attack

Focus will be on you only if it makes you look bad. If you dared to insist that you’re heard and given a basic bit of attention, or, heavens forbid, said something that goes against his opinions and actions, you will immediately find yourself under a personal attack. You’ll be called out on things that have nothing to do with the subject. You will be deemed unfit to even speak about issues that matter to you. Suddenly, even the issues that you have personal experience and endless statistical data and proof, are not yours to speak of because “he knows better”. You’ll be called slurs, humiliated, discredited, all your knowledge of the subject will be perceived as “silly” and “wrong”, not to mention you’re a horrible person for daring to speak your mind on the subject. The point of personal attack is to make you look bad, but you’re not supposed to notice how it makes him look way worse, you’re supposed to feel rightfully called out and humbled, and fail to notice how your basic human right of speech is being trampled on, how you’re being silenced and hurt by emotional and psychological abuse by a man who found himself threatened by truth you pointed out.

4. Double Standards

“I’m a man” is an excuse not to listen, not to sympathize, not to offer compassion, not to take responsibility for his actions, not to bother with “woman logic”, not to question the consequences of his actions, not to feel guilty for indulging in primarily male behaviour that harms women but is excusable because “all men do it”. “You’re a woman” is an excuse to hold you responsible for men’s actions, and obliged to please men, to maintain your social value and appearance up to certain standards, to fulfill all male expectations and fantasies and ideas about what you should be, otherwise what good you are for? And even if you do all that, you’ll end up reduced to a slur and disposed of whenever it pleases a man to do just that. And don’t be surprised, what did you expect? They’re men.

5. Social Truth

Logic, statistics, experiences, facts, consequences and practical knowledge all have zero value before men’s social perception of what’s going on. Men have already decided that it’s them who’s suffering the worst. They’ve already decided they’re the one who need better treatment and more privileges and liberation from oppression. Men have affirmed this with each other, they’ve agreed amongst themselves that women are oppressive, bother them too much, ask for too much, don’t give them enough, don’t do enough for them. How could women expect for their issues to be taken seriously when men don’t feel like they’ve done enough for them? Men will offer you countless examples where he was expecting something from a woman and she didn’t fulfil it, so how dare she imply she could be the one who’s oppressed? How dare any woman claim anything about her life, her body, her experiences, her problems? Men have already agreed they know better, they feel confident about it because his friends and male relatives and co-workers and bosses and acquaintances will all confirm to him he’s exactly right, he’s telling the truth, how could some miser woman now claim differently? She must be stupid. Truth commonly accepted among men will ignore all evidence, all male privilege, all objective truth, all statistics, all proof. They don’t examine it critically more than “is this going in our favour” and that’s all they need to yell it from rooftops, to violently shut down every woman’s voice claiming differently, speaking from different perspective. They have support. They have backup. Countless men will agree with them. It’s all they need. Truth doesn’t matter.

6. What they don’t consider lying

Nothing is lying. If a lie needs to be told in order for a man to get something out of a woman he otherwise wouldn’t get - it’s considered fair play, in his mind. How could you blame him? After all, if he didn’t lie, he wouldn’t get what he wanted? Isn’t this how all people do things? Isn’t it a way of life? How could you expect him to tell the truth when it wasn’t going in his favour? He won’t even feel guilty. But instead, if you don’t react to his lie the way you should have - in his mind - then you are the bad one. How could you not believe his word, give him your full trust and obedience and perfect reactions he so deeply deserves? How could you even consider that he would lie to you? You don’t know what’s real, you can’t act like he’s lying when you don’t even know if he is. He is excused in saying any lie at all, but you aren’t allowed to doubt it, otherwise how will he get what he wanted and feel completely free of guilt while doing it? You should enable that much to a man, to lie and get away with it, get all he wants, and to feel like a genius for tricking everyone in such a cunning way. Oh, and you shouldn’t feel cheated and lied to because, you know, it wasn’t personal, it was just so he could get what he wants, you weren’t a person to him in this entire scheme, just a prop, you should feel stupid for falling for it, but you know, it’s his win.

7. “I’m reasonable” voice tone

All your passion and emotions that get out of you while you speak that would normally be a proof of how important and valuable talking about this issue is to you, yet he decides to perceive as you obviously spouting nonsense from being too emotional. Does he know you’re telling the truth? Of course he does. Does he know how being invalidated and accused of being “too emotional” and “hysterical” hurts you? Of course he does. Does he care? No. All he wants from you in that moment is to adapt to perspective that benefits him, rather than the one you’re presenting - you know, the one that actually expresses what’s going on and leads to acknowledgment and resolving of your problems. He isn’t interested in you being in less pain or you speaking out the truth, or you struggling less or you bringing to light how much you’re struggling with. Be reasonable. Adapt male perspective. See yourself how men see you. Quit having your own perspective, you know that’s not reasonable. Quit showing emotions about an issue that is of a big personal value to you. Look at me. I’m reasonable. You mean nothing to me. Your struggles mean nothing to me. Be like that. Don’t mean anything to yourself. Be only a benefit to me. Then you too can pretend all your issues are made up. After all your pain means nothing in comparison to benefits we get from it. It’s easy to speak with “I’m reasonable” voice and straight, emotionless face while talking about an issue that doesn’t affect you whatsoever, and you don’t care about the one who is affected, and benefit from what they’re suffering from.

8. “How can you call me out when there’s worse men”

You should be grateful he isn’t worse. He could do worse. He knows he could. He saw other men doing much worse, and thought to himself “damn, I’m nice, this is how things are done when women don’t listen” instead of, you know, intervening and saving someone from abuse like a decent person would do. He saw how cruel men are in other parts of the world. He made sure to remember it and inform women what they could expect from worse men, to remind them to be grateful that he, a nice man, isn’t like that. Now, if you’re going to call anyone out, you should first make sure to call out every guy who is worse, otherwise how is this fair towards him? If a guy who did worse isn’t called out, but he, the “nice” guy is, that is the greatest injustice ever done to mankind, and he will feel hurt and things will be unfair for him. What about you, you ask? What about him hurting you that caused you to call him out in the first place? Oh what’s fair to you doesn’t matter, you are the one who needs to make the world fair for him, or, you know, he might get worse, and it will be entirely your fault, since you didn’t arrange the world to be absolutely and completely fair towards him.

9. “I decide how you should react/your reaction is a provocation.”

Your behaviour is decided by his rules, and every single emotion, thought and action you make should only be made in his convenience. It lies on the premise that only he gets to be a human being and show his emotions freely and react the way he wants, you unfortunately, do not get the human privileges, if you react the humane way - get upset when you’re hurt, get angry when things are unfair and infuriating, point out double standards, argue and demand that your word matters too, want to have your feeling acknowledged or even argue that you have a say in how you should be treated - you’ve overstepped, and suddenly you are all wrong and whatever he does to you in return is what you deserved by provoking him. That’s, right, you being a human being is a provocation, it’s a dangerous straying from the object you’re supposed to be - that you are in his eyes, and you have to be “shown your place”, because after all, his convenience is more important than your life, and you’re only there to obey him and make him feel good about himself. Even while he’s hurting you. Even while he’s using you. Even while you’re reduced to a less than a human being.  

10. “You haven’t considered this issue from my perspective enough”

After all, you should look at things from his perspective. But you do. There’s never been a moment you didn’t consider his perspective. Just as there’s never been a moment he has considered yours. And the mere idea of taking a moment to consider your perspective - if he’s even aware that you can have one, and that your words aren’t just there to be crushed until he gets his way - is offensive and crazy to him. Instead, you get called out for not seeing things his way enough. As if you’re the one who is inconsiderate and refusing to acknowledge that he is just a human and that you can’t expect that much from him. But you’ve never forgotten that he’s a human. And you never expected that much, just to not be continually hurt and used by him, and to be treated like a valued human being. But suddenly this is too much? Too much to expect from a fellow human being? Isn’t it a lot like he’s forgotten you’re a human being, and calling you out on something that he actually did? Cruel hypocrisy that he doesn’t even seem to notice because it’s so natural and normal to him to call you out for his own wrongdoings, and to attack you if you’re not willing to obediently take blame.

@women: If a man is talking in this fashion he will get worse, not better. Ditch him at any cost.

@men: this was a list of abusive behaviour, if you don’t do any of these, there’s no reason for you to feel called out, if you do feel called out, I have bad news for you.

MBTI Types’ Shadow

“The shadow is a moral problem that challenges the whole ego-personality, for no one can become conscious of the shadow without considerable moral effort. To become conscious of it involves recognizing the dark aspects of the personality as present and real. This act is the essential condition for any kind of self-knowledge.” ~ Carl Jung

ESTP

Flexible and tolerant, they take a pragmatic approach focused on immediate results. Theories and conceptual explanations bore them – they want to act energetically to solve the problem. Focus on the here-and-now, spontaneous, enjoy each moment that they can be active with others. Enjoy material comforts and style. Learn best through doing.

  • ESTP  Shadow: ISTJ.
    Can become stubborn about their perception of the past and fixated on its relation to the present (Si). Can become critical, disgruntled with disorder, illogical, or inefficiency (Te). Rigidly following a belief system or what they personally think is important, with accompanying childish and/or selfish behaviour (Fi). Over-reading between the lines, often misinterpreting someone’s actions and seeing negative intentions where there are none (Ne).

ISTP

Tolerant and flexible, quiet observers until a problem appears, then act quickly to find workable solutions. Analyze what makes things work and readily get through large amounts of data to isolate the core of practical problems. Interested in cause and effect, organize facts using logical principles, value efficiency.

  • ISTP Shadow: ESTJ
    Can become stubborn about organising things and insist on a systematic approach (Te). Prefer not to focus on the past but can be quite critical of past performances and overuse negative experiences to inform decisions (Si). Interpret situations in a naive way, inferring malice where none exists (Ne). Spend money and time on things that are unimportant and care little about the value of things (Fi).

ESFP

Outgoing, friendly, and accepting. Exuberant lovers of life, people, and material comforts. Enjoy working with others to make things happen. Bring common sense and a realistic approach to their work, and make work fun. Flexible and spontaneous, adapt readily to new people and environments. Learn best by trying a new skill with other people.

  • ESFP Shadow: ISFJ
    Can become stubborn about their perception of the past and fixated on its relation to the present (Si). Can be quite critical and disgruntled about the expectations of the group to the point of rebellion and disengaging (Fe). May make statements or believe in ideas that are contradictory and illogical (Ti). Over-reading between the lines, often misinterpreting someone’s actions and seeing negative intentions where there are none (Ne).

ISFP

Quiet, friendly, sensitive, and kind. Enjoy the present moment, what’s going on around them. Like to have their own space and to work within their own time frame. Loyal and committed to their values and to people who are important to them. Dislike disagreements and conflicts, do not force their opinions or values on others.

  • ISFP Shadow: ESFJ
    Stubborn about how others affect them and resist being pulled into being responsible for others feelings and choices (Fe). Prefer not to focus on the past but can be quite critical of past performances and overuse negative experiences to inform decisions (Si). Interpret situations in a naive way, inferring malice where none exists (Ne). Caught up in pointing out others’ inconsistencies, with a dogmatic tendency to adhere to one principle rather than seeing its distinctions (Ti).

ESTJ

Practical, realistic, matter-of-fact. Decisive, quickly move to implement decisions. Organize projects and people to get things done, focus on getting results in the most efficient way possible. Take care of routine details. Have a clear set of logical standards, systematically follow them and want others to also. Forceful in implementing their plans.

  • ESTJ Shadow: ISTP
    Can be stubborn about the models and principles they’ve adopted, categorising everything simplistically and robotically following the principles (Ti). Go on about “facts,” blocking others’ proposed actions, or get caught up in the moment and engage in impulsive behaviour (Se). Envision how something will play out and ignore signs that it won’t work out, foreseeing disaster or nothing at all (Ni). Convinced others don’t like, appreciate, or need them, and over-accommodate others needs (Fe)

ISTJ

Quiet, serious, earn success by thoroughness and dependability. Practical, matter-of-fact, realistic, and responsible. Decide logically what should be done and work toward it steadily, regardless of distractions. Take pleasure in making everything orderly and organized – their work, their home, their life. Value traditions and loyalty.

  • ISTJ Shadow: ESTP
    Stubborn about going on impulse and insist that they have an accurate read of the situation (Se). Prefer not to articulate operating principles and can get stuck in models and frameworks they have learned or adapted (Ti). Over-address others’ concerns and feel disappointment over a false sense of closeness (Fe). Make dire predictions with certainty and mistake deep symbolism as a guidepost for life (Ni).

ESFJ

Warmhearted, conscientious, and cooperative. Want harmony in their environment, work with determination to establish it. Like to work with others to complete tasks accurately and on time. Loyal, follow through even in small matters. Notice what others need in their day-by-day lives and try to provide it. Want to be appreciated for who they are and for what they contribute.

  • ESFJ Shadow: ISFP
    Be stubborn about values as they crusade for a particular cause, turning off people instead of mobilising them (Fi). Go on about “facts,” blocking others’ proposed actions, or get caught up in the moment and engage in impulsive behaviour (Se). Envision how something will play out and ignore signs that it won’t work out, foreseeing disaster or nothing at all (Ni). analyse, lash out if others criticise their logic with emotional arguments, and make subjective arguments (Te).

ISFJ

Quiet, friendly, responsible, and conscientious. Committed and steady in meeting their obligations. Thorough, painstaking, and accurate. Loyal, considerate, notice and remember specifics about people who are important to them, concerned with how others feel. Strive to create an orderly and harmonious environment at work and at home.

  • ISFJ Shadow: ESFP
    Stubborn about going on impulse and insist that they have an accurate read of the situation (Se). Dwell on conflicts in beliefs, being critical, and locking into their desires by bulldozing others (Fi). Spend unnecessary time establishing order, planning, and misguide themselves and others in the process (Te). Make dire predictions with certainty and mistake deep symbolism as a guidepost for life (Ni)

ENTJ

Frank, decisive, assume leadership readily. Quickly see illogical and inefficient procedures and policies, develop and implement comprehensive systems to solve organizational problems. Enjoy long-term planning and goal setting. Usually well informed, well read, enjoy expanding their knowledge and passing it on to others. Forceful in presenting their ideas.

  • ENTJ Shadow: INTP
    Can be stubborn about the models and principles they’ve adopted, categorising everything simplistically and robotically following the principles (Ti). Oblivious to unspoken potentials and get off track with inferences and interconnections (Ne). Cling to what they are used to; repeat themselves in ritualistic fashion (Si). Convinced others don’t like, appreciate, or need them, and over-accommodate others’ needs (Fe).

INTJ

Have original minds and great drive for implementing their ideas and achieving their goals. Quickly see patterns in external events and develop long-range explanatory perspectives. When committed, organize a job and carry it through. Skeptical and independent, have high standards of competence and performance – for themselves and others.

  • INTJ Shadow: ENTP
    Be stubborn about responding to emerging information and locking on to a hidden meaning (Ne). Prefer not to articulate operating principles and can get stuck in models and frameworks they have learned or adapted (Ti). Over-address others’ concerns and feel disappointment over a false sense of closeness (Fe). Get stuck in impressions of how things were and resist change; waste time reviewing the impact of the past (Si).

ENTP

Quick, ingenious, stimulating, alert, and outspoken. Resourceful in solving new and challenging problems. Adept at generating conceptual possibilities and then analyzing them strategically. Good at reading other people. Bored by routine, will seldom do the same thing the same way, apt to turn to one new interest after another.

  • ENTP Shadow: INTJ
    Be stubborn about perceptions of how the future will be, and lock onto a vision that won’t happen (Ni). Can become critical, disgruntled with disorder, illogic, or inefficiency (Te). Rigidly following a belief system or what they personally think is important, with accompanying childish and/or selfish behaviour (Fi). Excessively seek physical stimulation or following the urge to do nothing; zero in on isolated details, acting impulsively on them (Se).

INTP

Seek to develop logical explanations for everything that interests them. Theoretical and abstract, interested more in ideas than in social interaction. Quiet, contained, flexible, and adaptable. Have unusual ability to focus in depth to solve problems in their area of interest. Skeptical, sometimes critical, always analytical.

  • INTP Shadow: ENTJ
    Can become stubborn about organising things and insist on a systematic approach (Te). Indulge negative thoughts of how events will unfold (Ni). Dwell on the perceived “realities” of a situation; act highly impulsively (Se). Spend money and time on things that are unimportant and care little about the value of things (Fi).

ENFJ

Warm, empathetic, responsive, and responsible. Highly attuned to the emotions, needs, and motivations of others. Find potential in everyone, want to help others fulfill their potential. May act as catalysts for individual and group growth. Loyal, responsive to praise and criticism. Sociable, facilitate others in a group, and provide inspiring leadership.

  • ENFJ Shadow: INFP
    Be stubborn about values as they crusade for a particular cause, turning off people instead of mobilising them (Fi). Oblivious to unspoken potentials and get off track with inferences and interconnections (Ne). Cling to what they are used to; repeat themselves in ritualistic fashion (Si). analyse, lash out if others criticise their logic with emotional arguments, and make subjective arguments (Te).

INFJ

Seek meaning and connection in ideas, relationships, and material possessions. Want to understand what motivates people and are insightful about others. Conscientious and committed to their firm values. Develop a clear vision about how best to serve the common good. Organized and decisive in implementing their vision.

  • INFJ Shadow: ENFP
    Be stubborn about responding to emerging information and locking on to a hidden meaning (Ne). Dwell on conflicts in beliefs, being critical, and locking into their desires by bulldozing others (Fi). Spend unnecessary time establishing order, planning, and misguide themselves and others in the process (Te). Get stuck in impressions of how things were and resist change; waste time reviewing the impact of the past (Si)

ENFP

Warmly enthusiastic and imaginative. See life as full of possibilities. Make connections between events and information very quickly, and confidently proceed based on the patterns they see. Want a lot of affirmation from others, and readily give appreciation and support. Spontaneous and flexible, often rely on their ability to improvise and their verbal fluency.

  • ENFP Shadow: INFJ
    Be stubborn about perceptions of how the future will be, and lock onto a vision that won’t happen (Ni). Can be quite critical and disgruntled about the expectations of the group to the point of rebellion and disengaging (Fe). May make statements or believe in ideas that are contradictory and illogical (Ti). Excessively seek physical stimulation or following the urge to do nothing; zero in on isolated details, acting impulsively on them (Se)

INFP

Idealistic, loyal to their values and to people who are important to them. Want an external life that is congruent with their values. Curious, quick to see possibilities, can be catalysts for implementing ideas. Seek to understand people and to help them fulfill their potential. Adaptable, flexible, and accepting unless a value is threatened.

  • INFP Shadow: ENFJ
    Stubborn about how others affect them and resist being pulled into being responsible for others feelings and choices (Fe). Indulge negative thoughts of how events will unfold (Ni). Dwell on the perceived “realities” of a situation; act highly impulsively (Se). Caught up in pointing out others’ inconsistencies, with a dogmatic tendency to adhere to one principle rather than seeing its distinctions (Ti).
step away from the microphone karen

>steven, you’ve said that the moment that john is wounded in the three garridebs is your favorite moment in the stories. what was your thought process when it came to adapting that emotional climax in the final problem?

>sherlock employs the narrative device of mirroring to great effect–irene adler, for instance (one of my favorite lesbian characters, by the way) presents us with such an interesting lens into sherlock. how do you create mirror characters that still have their own distinct personalities? what are your top priorities when you first start imagining a mirror? do they always come in pairs?

>sherlock and john have spent a lot of time apart these past two seasons. what does that add to the story? do you think that sherlock holmes works just as well with other characters in the “watson” role? in fact, does sherlock need a watson at all?

>let’s discuss the elephant in the room. how do elephants add to the show’s aesthetic?

>for mark, in the past you’ve talked at length about your disdain for modern horror films like saw, and wrote a poem when a dissenter compared sherlock to the action-packed james bond. what compelled you to pay such extensive homage to these films in the final problem? 

>how do you think sherlock’s repressed memories of eurus influenced him in series one?

>in your opinion, what are the most major events to influence sherlock’s character development over the course of the series, and how did they change him?

>what was the thought process behind having certain scenes and shots repeat and change in t6t and tld?

>several characters in the lying detective draw attention to john’s diminishing role and his blog’s decreasing quality. is this at all self-reflective? if so, why not fix the flaws rather than draw attention to them?

>why name the floating hellprison after sherlock’s first draft name?

>how do you think john felt over the course of series four?

>did mrs. turner’s married ones survive the patience grenade?

>did I survive the patience grenade

How I imagine BTS when it comes to love and relationships:

(This took so much time and research oml. Based on astrology.)

Jin: Needs a deep bond with emotional intimacy. Partner will be very important to him; he will try be reliable and helpful. Rather than being a crazy, passionate lover, Jin will be affectionate, tender and sensual. Might be a mixture of hot and cold, although being devoted, he cannot help but get lost in the clouds and may sometimes seem aloof. He needs to know he is trusted, respected and loved. He responds greatly to positive feedback and compliments. He has a fear of commitment in truth, but once he does commit he will be warm, caring and loving. Takes charge quite easily and won’t find it difficult to make executive decisions, especially with things like travelling. He wants fun and will joke with his partner. He needs a partner who he can be spontaneous and adventurous with. He’ll want to take them around the world. Can easily read his partner and will be very thoughtful towards them.

Yoongi: Yoongi can be a bit of a difficult boyfriend to figure out. At times, he can be very straightforward and blunt, and at other times he can be extremely sensitive and impressionable (gives into your wants easily). Although his sex style can be very direct, spontaneous and passionate, he needs a loving, warm and sentimental partner who makes him feel safe. Yoongi is one complicated dude, right? But that makes it all the more fun. Again, he has a contradiction between his need for independence and space and also being incredibly needy towards his partner. He can be moody and volatile, a bit dramatic actually- this is when his inner child will come out and he needs his patient partner to sooth him with their warmth and wisdom. Flirtatious but still reserved. One day, he can be incredibly attached and attention seeking, the next he can be flirtatious and mysterious and the next he might just be aloof and in his own world. He is actually a very romantic man but tries to protect his heart, causing him to open and close himself to his partner. Unpredictable. Insecure.

Hoseok: Very sensitive and romantic! Seriously, Hoseok will put a very, very high importance on his partner’s pleasure, and will love to entertain, amuse and inspire them. He will keep up a very light-hearted appearance, often hiding his deep sensitivity from his partner. Understands and respects his partner’s freedom and individuality, and will highly encourage them to do what makes them happy. But, of course, needs an attentive lover. Sounds like the perfect boyfriend, yes? Yes. Falls quickly but hesitantly, the time before actually becoming his partner might be quite confusing and will create a lot of tension and passion, making things kind of explosive when he or his partner finally makes a move. Although he is very people-orientated and very friendly, it will still take a lot of time and effort to crack open his reserved nature- his partner will be one of the few to really be lucky enough to indulge in his whole, complex character. Can be contradictory with sex. He can see it as an emotional experience where he can release an almost overwhelming amount of emotions and sentimentality, or he can be quite cool and intellectual about it- making him seem a little detached. He is charming and playful, but can be quite tricky to please as he needs both freedom and vulnerability.

Namjoon: Very much desires, actually rather needs, affectionate and emotional expressions from his partner, and will give that back as well. He is reserved and protective of his heart, but once he makes a deep and special connection with his partner, he will do almost anything to protect and cherish it. He will develop an almost intimidating sense of unity with his partner, and will rely heavily on the silent expressions of love- meaning he will need an intuitive partner. Namjoon is very much a feeling, sensitive and passionate lover rather than a logical one. He will be very respectful and warm to his lover; he will admire them and wants the same. Because he is so sensitive and feeling orientated, he might become broody and silent when hurt- leaving his partner to figure out what’s wrong. Fights may come from him being insecure and scared to get hurt, even because he’s scared of his own intense feelings, he will need a patient lover who doesn’t make him feel bad in these situations. Namjoon will find it more difficult than most to ‘share’ his partner and can be very possessive, but at the same time he is very accepting and understanding. He might react very emotionally before taking the time, which he will do, to understand and forgive his partner. He will rely too much on his partner being able to ‘read his mind’. Sex is very important to him and he is very giving in bed.

Jimin: Very emotional and committed, he will put a lot of effort into nurturing his partner and their relationship. He needs a very expressive partner as he can be extremely insecure. He might smother his partner a little bit, he just loves them so, so much and needs to know they love him back. Jimin is similar to Namjoon in the fact that he expects his lover to be very intuitive to his feelings and needs, and this is influenced by the fact that he is very intuitive to his partners feelings. He picks up on his lover’s energy easily. He might find it difficult to verbally communicate, which flows into his sex life- he relies on sex heavily to show his love and prove his connection. Sex will be almost otherworldly intense. He is very sensitive and his feelings run very deep, meaning his partner will have a lot of control over him, and he will want to do anything for their praise. Although he might anger quite quickly, he is actually too forgiving. His partner needs to be extremely, and I mean extremely, loyal and he must feel they are absolutely committed. In this case, he will thrive and be endlessly happy- as romance makes him feel complete in a way. He can get extremely possessive and jealous. 

Taehyung: On the surface, Taehyung might seem like quite a flighty and light-hearted lover, but deep down he is very earthy and sensual, putting a high importance on his romantic connection. He is very passionate. He will be a very fun and entertaining boyfriend, but also a very grounded lover who needs security. He will want to have a very intellectual relationship, and cleverness, maturity and stability actually really turn him on. He is a mixture of being surprising and spontaneous and also being very supportive and loving. He will be a great boyfriend as he is thoughtful, caring and fun with an interesting and unique mind! He might be a little too stable and dependable, sometimes not being sensitive enough to the emotional partner he needs. He can be a confusing lover as he is unpredictable- a strange mixture between sensitivity and aloofness, capability and stupidity, spontaneity and groundedness. He will always be surprising his partner, keeping thing fresh and youthful, but also confusing. Although he needs quite a bit of space and freedom, he can be very possessive over his lover. He will be in it for the long run, if his partner can adapt to his unique and lovable personality. He is versatile and ever changing but can also be very logical and full of common sense when it is needed.

Jungkook: Jungkook has a huge heart. It is youthful, spirited and passionate. He is also intelligent and is attracted to people with these same traits. He likes space and freedom to explore, even within his romantic relationships. He is very curious. He doesn’t like being possessed but, in stark contrast, can be highly possessive himself. He needs to be stimulated by intellectual things, but he also needs more gentle and subtle ways of expressing love. His partner needs to be his friend as well as his lover, or it won’t work. He can be insecure and will be put off if his partner is uncommunicative or dull. He can be difficult to please as he needs a spontaneous, youthful and fun partner, but also one who is grounded and dependable and not too outgoing. He is a real big flirt, but what’s truly wonderful about him is that he almost always delivers on even the smallest of promises. He can be moody or indifferent, these moments will confuse his partner especially because of their contrast as well as them being different to his normal warm and loving nature. He literally loves emotional and physical affection, and needs a ton of physical attention- sex giving him a buzz and giving him energy. Although he is passionate and intense, he can also be very logical, rational and fair. Making him a great boyfriend. His emotional and sexual needs often get mixed up and it can be difficult for his partner to know what to give him. He might find it difficult to be fully satisfied unless both his emotional and sexual needs are met, which means he might need to wait a few years before being in a committed relationship.

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You Clearly Don’t Understand. Play You.

(Or: Things that everybody thinks make Sherlock canonically straight but they really really really don’t and why don’t you see that, because it’s so beautiful!!!)

Apologies to my Doctor-Who followers for this ongoing Sherlock intermezzo, but I just need to vent a little longer: I. Loved. Series. Four!!! 

In particular, I loved The Final Problem. I loved Sherlock calling John family, I loved the smashing of the casket, the touching of non-existent glass, the air plane metaphor, Mycroft outside his comfort zone, etcetera etcetera etcetera. I loved the whole bloody thing.  

But my favourite, favourite moment was the one when Eurus asks Sherlock to “play you”. And he plays the theme of The Woman. 

Because it is the bravest thing Sherlock has ever done. And it makes this moment incredibly powerful. 

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A Weirdling Bestiary: Part 1- Beasts of City and Suburbia

Some notes to start off with-

This is all a part of my personal UPG and world-view, which is a culmination of my individual experiences, upbringing, influences, and research. Although much of this personal mythology is based off of the biology and behaviors of the creatures in question, you may have different associations and feelings about these animals, and that’s totally ok. 

There are some animals commonly found in cities and suburban areas which have been left out of this section (like foxes, bats, deer, rabbits, snakes, toads, and all insects) because I’ll be covering them later in other chapters.   

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~Birds~

Blue Jay- Blue jays are fierce, clever and have complex social lives. They have deep ties with oak trees, which are regarded in several cultures as the Tree of Life, the king of trees, and sacred to many gods of thunder, lightning, and sky. They are excellent communicators, both vocally and physically, and can imitate the calls of other birds. Even though they’re quite common, much of their habits remain a mystery to those who study them. The beautiful blue color for which they are known is not a true pigment, but in fact an optical effect of light scattering within the cell structure of their feathers. They are birds of magic, illusion, mystery, and complex familial ties, and are emblematic of the element air and the realm of the sky. a well as bright, lively daytime energy. For offerings, give them acorns.

Canada Goose- Geese are the mortal enemies of business people and all Suits. They travel in formation and are loyal to their mates and comrades. As such, they are good animal guides for anyone who identifies strongly as part of a group or community and those who function as a team. Goose magic is great for sticking it to The Man. As they migrate in spring and fall, they also represent transitions and cycles. Admire them from afar and stay the fuck away from their babies if you don’t want to die a very painful death.

Crow- If you are outside, it is unlikely you are out of site of a crow. Fittingly, insight and observation are among their primary associations. Crows are smart, mischievous, and extremely common. Because they’re ubiquitous pretty much everywhere, they’re a reminder of the constant presence of magic in the world. 

Although each crow is very much an individual, they live in family groups and cooperate with and look out for those within their groups. At the same time, they regularly engage in bitter rivalries and battles with crows from other families. In spite of that, multiple families will come together and roost at night outside of the breeding season to socialize, network, and learn. Theirs is an entire society that exists alongside our own- both Other and familiar.

Do not take the presence of crows for granted. They are the little bits of the Other-realm that fly about by day. They are wonderful sources of magic, wisdom, and humor, and should be treated with respect. They’ll remember if you wrong them. They’ll remember those who were good to them. They are always watching. Crows are favored familiars among practitioners of the occult and any who seek to understand and manipulate reality at a higher level, as well as any interested in death magic or hedge witchery. 

Duck- Although their primary elemental association is water, ducks unite the elemental realms of water, earth, and air due to their ability to move through each. Ducks represent family (particularly parent/child relationships), adaptability, cheerfulness, emotional connections with others and at times- obliviousness. If you are having difficulty adapting to change and embracing new circumstances, or if you’re having trouble with family, ducks are helpful guides. They spend much of their time floating along on streams, totally comfortable half-submerged in that state of continuous change and renewal. They can help you learn to go with the flow.

If you wish to give offerings to ducks, choose cut up grapes, corn, peas, seeds, and oats- bread is bad for them and their environment and therefor bad for you and your workings.

House Sparrow- Although wild animals, these are birds whose natural habitat is outside of, on, and around man-made environments. They are ever-present wherever there are people, and tend to be quite tame. Their energy is significant because it’s so closely tied to our own, these birds having spread with us and our civilization as we’ve advanced across the world. If you wish to gain a connection to nature by feeding a wild bird from your hands, this species is a good place to start. Due to their intrinsic and obvious ties to the home, they can be regarded as home-guardians and fitting familiars to hearth and cottage witches. House sparrows are social, enjoy singing to one another, and will flock with other types of birds, and so embody a spirit of friendship, acceptance and joy.

Hummingbird- Hummingbirds are largely solitary and territorial little creatures. They’re highly intelligent and have exceptional memories, and the largest brain-to-body ratio of any bird. They are insanely fast and are able to hover in place and  maneuver almost instantaneously in any direction. They groom themselves meticulously, build exquisite, tiny nests of lichen and moss, and feed mostly on sugary nectar. They come in a dizzying array of beautiful and jewel-like colors and will  fearlessly defend what’s theirs. Their energy is fiery, valiant, joyous, vibrant, individualistic, and creative. As an autistic witch, I relate strongly to hummingbirds. They make great animal guides for creative people, introverts, bold individualists, a range of people on the spectrum of neurodiversity, and anyone who wants to bring some flash and vibrancy to their lives. 

Mourning Dove- Mourning doves are fairy birds. With their muted pastel and iridescent feathers, melancholy calls, and lifelong partnerships, they embody magic, romance and devotion. They have strong ties with Aphrodite and love goddess archetypes in general, and their feathers are excellent for use in love and beauty spells. You may be blessed in love if a pair nests close to your home. If you wish to bring their energies into your life, offer them seeds, soft words, and safe places to build their nests.  

Pigeon- Pigeons are place guardians, observers, and navigators. Pigeons Know The Way. Seek out locations where pigeons gather (those which are not obvious sources of food), for you can be assured there’s magic to those places. The gratitude of pigeons is a wellspring of magical power to be drawn from, so be both respectful and wary of Pigeon People. Pigeon magic is of finding things, of home, love, and attuning with the spirits of places. If you wish to bond with the spirit of your city or town, carry pigeon offerings like seeds or other morsels, and be especially kind to any one-footed pigeons, should you spot them.

Seagull- Gulls are bold, opportunistic, and equally comfortable in sky, sea, or urban sprawl.They’ll snatch food from the mouths of larger animals, grab it from the hands of humans, and are even known to steal milk from lactating seals. In spite of many unflattering nicknames, they’re graceful and adaptive creatures. They are most iconic when pictured in the liminal space of the horizon- between sea and sky. From gulls, one can learn to make the most of what they have and to take nothing for granted. They can teach us to soar above all limitations and to fly along the currents of life’s events and emotions with ease, transcending all worldly concerns. They make good animal guides for beach bums, dreamy sea witches, and cerebral literary folk.  

Starling- Starlings are gregarious, social, communicative, and can imitate human speech and a variety of other sounds. They live in huge flocks and defend their nests fiercely. They represent the power of social ties and group identities and the safety in numbers. Interestingly, starlings wouldn’t even exist in North America if it weren’t for a group of Shakespeare enthusiasts who released a flock of a hundred in New York, with the desire for America to have every species of bird ever mentioned by their beloved playwright. In a way, they can be seen as representations of the power of dreams and fantasy to reshape the real world. Their feathers have a multicolored sheen and their eggs are a vivid, beautiful blue. Starlings are fitting animal guides for outgoing, sociable, extroverted, and theatrical types.  

Tufted titmouse- These cute, inquisitive little mohawked birds are known to remain in their territory in pairs and small family groups throughout the year, hoard food to prepare for the harsher seasons, and to curiously look in on human habitations through windows. They make comfortable homes for themselves in tree holes, and often line their soft nests with the hair and fur of other animals. They’re another excellent bird familiar for those focused on the keeping of their hearth. Their energy can assist in making one’s house truly feel like a home, and in making sure you never lose interest in what’s going on in the world around you. 

~Mammals~

Coyote- Coyotes are monogamous and tend to mate for life. Originally from plains and deserts, they’ve since spread and are now thriving in many urban areas across North and Central America. They’re omnivorous and opportunistic feeders that eat everything from carrion to bugs to berries. Coyote has figured prominently in the mythologies of many cultures across North America, in a vast array of roles. From savior of humanity, to teacher and trickster, to coward, to inventor of death, it’s hard to find an archetypal role which coyote has not, at some point, embodied. As such, their element seems to be chaos- both harmonious and discordant. The prevailing essence of coyote within the collective unconscious is that of humor, intelligence, carnality, and expression. They have a broad array of vocalizations, many of which sound eery, otherworldly, and almost fae-like. They are ideal animal guides for waste witches, desert druids, and punks. 

Opossum-  Possums are the ultimate survivors. They’re omnivorous, so they can live off a broad range of foods. They have opposable thumbs and prehensile tails, and are equally at home in trees, on the ground, in burrows, and in man-made and man-altered environments. They are highly resistant to a variety of poisons and toxins as well as rabies, and manage to rid themselves of most ticks and parasites. When threatened, they play dead and exude disgusting scents, repelling threats with minimal effort. Females have bifurcated vaginas, and males have dual-pronged penises, making them interesting symbols of duality and taking different paths in life. 

As they are nocturnal and often nomadic, they make good animal guides for people who travel off the beaten path in life. Mystics, drifters, and anyone living off the grid or involved in nightlife would do well to consider possum their kin. Honor opossums by spreading knowledge of how wonderful they are, as they are often the targets of human cruelty.

Raccoon- Raccoons are portal masters, the roamers in the night whose clever hands can open gateways, pick locks and catch that which lurks out of sight. They are highly tactile, mostly nocturnal, and very smart. With their masked faces, dexterous paws, tenacity, and nocturnal tendencies, they are the ideal animal guides for thieves, foragers, craftspeople, and anyone who makes use of obscurity. Their hook-shaped penis bones make powerful magical charms, especially useful for protection, potency, and invisibility. Raccoons also have ties to liminal and magical spaces. It’s easy to imagine them disappearing into a trash can on one side of town, only to emerge from a dumpster on the other side. Follow raccoons at your own risk, you might find yourself lost somewhere just sideways of here. 

Rat- Rats are fantastic animal guides and companions for the misunderstood and the underestimated. Although they can and do act as vectors of disease in some environments, they are still themselves smart, adaptable, social, and caring creatures who watch out for their own, sometimes even at their own expense. They are wizards when it comes to getting into and out of tight and difficult situations, and in the lab and home are known for their ability to navigate mazes and learn tricks. Domesticated rats are often very clean and sweet animals that “laugh” when tickled. Wild rats are enterprising survivors. Rat energy is powerful when it comes to overcoming adversity, hatred, and poverty and making the most of limited resources. They love to nest and hoard, so they’re another good familiar for the homey witch, as well as the grungy witch and the standard witchy witch. Really, you can’t go wrong with rats- just never have only one. 

In spite of being wonderful creatures, the negative perception of rats and the darker side of their nature makes them conceptually very useful in dark magic. One could, for instance, imagine a rat carrying one’s curse to a target like it would a parasite or disease, or use the image of a rat as a servitor in hexwork. 

Skunk- Skunks are masters of alchemy and pacifist defense. They do not have to fear, nor must they take violent action to protect themselves. Look to skunks for unconventional solutions, self-assurance, calm in the face of adversity, or as animal guides if you’re a chemist or alchemist. Skunk magic is also great for use in spells meant to repel others or keep them at bay.

Squirrel- Squirrels are creatures of balance and resourcefulness. Not only do they balance themselves expertly as they run along branches and leap from tree to tree, but they balance their time between play and planning, activity and rest. Even though much of that activity is spent burying nuts they’ll never find, those same nuts will grow into trees which will one day house and feed the squirrel’s numerous decedents. Ultimately, none of their time is wasted. Squirrels are the animal guides of people who both work and play hard, and squirrel energy is useful to anyone who’s trying to adjust their work/life balance or just learn to have more fun and enjoy themselves.

ISFP (FiSeNiTe)

Introverted Feeling (Fi):

  • Tuned in to the mental and emotional atmosphere
  • May be introspective or constantly in a state of trying to sort out how they really feel
  • Values their own sense of fidelity and life stability
  • Tries to treat others with fairness and decency
  • Highly reliant on their attitude toward others when making decisions
  • This can sometimes lead them into difficult situations
  • Enjoys building connections but chooses friends carefully
  • Seeks a mutual respect for others in developing friendship bonds
  • Desires to interact with empathy, compassion, and loyalty
  • Values mutual understanding above all things
  • May be skeptical or distrusting toward strangers
  • May be private, uncommunicative, or individualistic
  • May feel they can see into others’ motivations or characters
  • Inclined to judge harshly and quickly
  • May have difficulty forgiving past transgressions or react coldly to those they see as immoral or reprehensible
  • May struggle between friendliness and distrust
  • Prides self on emotional sincerity
  • Prefers honest, forthright discussion when working through conflict

Extroverted Sensing (Se):

  • Eagerly seeks out new experiences
  • Is highly attuned to their sensory environment
  • Desires to “engage” rather than “observe” activities
  • Needs little foreknowledge to adapt to new situations
  • May be confrontational or physically aggressive
  • Enjoys challenging others toward acting in ways they feel is in their best interest (driving them toward greatness)
  • Can come across as matter of fact or direct
  • Is interested in success in the material world
  • May practice a variant of “tough love”
  • Enjoys challenging themselves, but may struggle beneath excessive self-criticism and unreasonable self-expectations (FiSeNi)
  • Has a keen sense of style and seeks aesthetics for pleasure
  • Sometimes inclined to retreat from and avoid others
  • Highly proactive and prepared to engage or push others toward an active state

Introverted Intuition (Ni):

  • Sees life as a gradual process of learning and new experiences
  • Tends toward inner reflection in making sense of experiences
  • Desires to discern what lessons or methods for self-improvement experiences have taught them
  • Can orient themselves toward long-term thinking
  • Shows interest in the future consequences of present decisions
  • Can focus on a long-term goal or vision for their life
  • Desires to be less impulsive and avoid later regret
  • Decisive in dealing with immediate situations
  • May fear “running out of time” to accomplish things
  • Trusts their “gut instincts” about people and situations
  • Has flashes of profound insight about others
  • Can sometime accurately get a “sense” of a person’s true self

Extroverted Thinking (Te):

  • Often unconfident in their ability to gather and apply new information related to productivity or life conditions
  • Unsure about how critically evaluate new information
  • May turn to others for explanations or information
  • Often unaware of and un-inclined to think in terms of the best or most efficient way of getting something done
  • Has difficulty conceptualizing what schedule, activity, or methodology they should follow to meet goals
  • May struggle to evaluate whether they’ve done enough or if their work is effective
  • Often admires efficiency in others
  • Tends to act on their feelings
  • Shows authoritarian behavior under stress
  • Prefer concrete explanations to theory
  • May see little point in endeavors that cannot improve their well-being
  • Often deeply invested in learning useful skills to assist them in daily life
  • Can be straightforward and prefers other blunt individuals

Compiled from MBTI / Socionics definitions by Charity.

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Sherlock Holmes on Elementary is definitely a jerk. But he’s also a good person with a deep sense of empathy. Let’s explore how Elementary fits into the legacy of Holmes Adaptions, and how the character is depicted in these complex, contradictory ways.

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ATTENTION WRITERS

GIVE ME FAT CHARACTERS. GIVE ME FAT DISABLE CHARACTERS. FAT PEOPLE OF COLOR. FAT MOTHERS AND FATHERS. FAT KIDS WHO STRUGGLE WITH BULLYING BUT HAVE RICH INNER LIVES. POPULAR FAT KIDS. FAT HEROINES AND HEROES. FAT ANTAGONISTS. FAT/SKINNY ROMANCES. FAT LGBTQ. FAT MEN AND WOMEN BOYS AND GIRL. WEAK AND POWERFUL FAT CHARACTERS. GIVE. ME. FAT. CHARACTERS.

If you think overweight characters aren’t fun, relatable, healthy, good idols, interesting, emotional, romantic, strong, lovable, or dynamic then I present to you My Fat, Mad Teenage Diary by Rae Earl and its TV adaptation, My Mad Fat Diary.

Your Moon Sign and Your Mother

A little bit of predictive astrology (even though I have stated I am skeptical of it) your Moon Sign can actually describe your bond with your mom and what your mother is like. 

Aries Moon: Might possibly have a closer relationship with your father than mother. Relationship with mom has a connection to creating a strong individuality. Fights with mother could have been frequent when young. Associated with having an outgoing mother, possible inconsistencies with discipline, a mother that pushed assertiveness. Bond with mother can strengthen with mutual respect and admiration and recognition for who each person really is. 

Taurus Moon: Had a highly dependable and consistent mother. Changes/surprises can strain your relationship. Your mother was likely all about the rules and family values. Your mother could have had a rigid side. Relationship with mother is strengthened through crisis. Likely had a hardworking and practical mom. Mother could show affection more with material things.

Gemini Moon: Associated with siblings sharing a very unique experience together with their mother, good, bad, or just influential. Likely shared a lot of the same interests and hobbies as your mother. Mother was more relaxed, highly supportive. Associated with having your mother be inconsistent, friend-like, and possibly (at worse) being resentful. Going after a shared opportunity and supporting each others dreams/goals creates a stronger bond with your mom.

Cancer Moon: Likely had a closer relationship with your mother than father. Mother was highly nurturing, understanding, and patient. Your mother was possibly highly sensitive and protective. Can easily test each others emotions. Had to learn to adapt to mom. Can get closer to your mother by having children of your own and/or with more open communication.

Leo Moon: Likely had a very dominant mother. Either a good leader and role-model or possible drill sergeant. Highly confident mother. Easily trusts your mother, mom was likely mentally stable, but you were likely to rebel against your mom who could have been controlling. Your connection with your mother can grow through mutual respect and giving each other your own space and sovereignty. Your mother was likely always financially stable.

Virgo Moon: Mother was likely very caring, cautious, detail-oriented, and was thought out in her parenting style. She nurtured your intellect. Likely had a mother who was highly critical, easily disappointed, and a huge worrier. Mother could have pushed you too hard or keep you back from opportunities. Bond with mom grows stronger through learning more about your relationship in past reflection or by taking care of your mom. Has an association with taking classes with your mother to strengthen the bond or seeking out a counselor.

Libra Moon: Mother treated you fairly and like an equal at a young age. A mother who also put you in charge of aspects in the home. Associated with mother teaching you about the ins and outs of balance and unbalance, even unintentionally. Rebellion against mother was usually associated with defining yourself in some way. Mom could be inconsistent with discipline. Bond with mother is strengthened through conflict resolution and a balance of alone time and quality time. Mother could show affection more with material things.

Scorpio Moon: Mother could have had a lot of her own secrets. You feel like you can tell your mom anything. Mom provides in every way she can. Is associated with mother controlling you with manipulation, fear, and/or aggression. Bond with mother strengthens over time through trials and shared emotional trauma. The truth connects you two as well.

Sagittarius Moon: Mother really pushed future planning, goals, and aspirations. Mother is confident and pushed certain values. Mother could have a temper and has a need for space and mental exercise. Mother could be younger. Mom likely encouraged independence. Could rebel against ideals your mother teaches or those values may be ingrained into you for life. Mother might easily get impatient or have a hard time understanding you. Bond with mother can grow stronger with embracing her values or with mom becoming more understanding and sensitive.

Capricorn Moon:  Father plays a huge role, possibly closer with him than with mother, looks up to him, bad relationship with your father is HUGELY detrimental. Mother was focused on family and financial security. Had an organized mom likely concentrated on her career. Mother could have been strict, a workaholic, distant with emotional cultivation, and overly practical with kids’ goals. Associated with having a mom who softens as they age, becoming more of a friend and mentor to her children. Bond with mother can be strengthened through maturity and time as well as a common practical goal. Mother could show affection more with material things.

Aquarius Moon: Mother is highly supportive and could actually relate to any rebellious tendencies. Possibly a very logical and practical mom. Mother was likely very unusual in her parenting and belief system. Was good at pinpointing child’s weaknesses. Could have had a bit of an emotionally detached mother. In negative situations authority and rebellion were issues. Relationship with mother strengthens by helping each other and by being giving towards each other.

Pisces Moon: Mother was likely patient, passive, clever, intuitive, and nurturing. But your mother could be secretive at times. Mother was self-sacrificing and giving but also possibly manipulative, paranoid, sensitive, and even negligent. Bond with mother can grow stronger through honesty and openness. A balance between rationality and emotions helps too.

Perks of honoring your highly sensitive nature

- We don’t need to do too much to feel stimulated.

- Music and art is a powerful stimulant for us, packed with all sorts of amazing energy.

- Our brains are wired to plan things ahead for long-term stable pleasure instead of opting for short-term risky pleasure.

- We make fantastic artists/writers/actors/mentors and our work can move others.

- We see various solutions for a problem from all angles. 

- It is easy for us to feel thankful.

- We notice tiny details that most people overlook and it amazes them.

- Babies and animals are attracted to our soft nature.

- At intimate situations, people are attracted to our energy and don’t understand why.

- Strangers may come to us and find it easy to spill their hearts out.

- We still have a sense of our child-like spirits.

- We’re not attracted cheap pleasure (only the wounded ones do, unfortunately)

- Even after being psychologically/emotionally traumatized, we are still capable of digging ourselves out of our own holes.

- We are more susceptible to receiving “AHA!” moments.

- HSPs who are into metaphysics can easily train their extrasensory abilities and tune into spiritual realms.

- Having conversations with other HSPs feels exciting and enriching. It feels amazing to banter our theories around and see it grow.

- If done right, sex is extra awesome.

- We are naturally meditative because of our open and honest energy. We are quicker to dissolve emotional blocks. People who hang out with us long-term soften their resistances without even realizing. (However, severely emotionally wounded people are paranoid when being around us.)

- We love to help others not because we have an ulterior motive, but because it makes us happy (but don’t be stupid enough to take advantage of that)

- We are able to spot and steer away from egocentrics, narcissists, sociopaths, histrionics, and psychopaths. (Although HSPs with low self-esteem attract them and keep them around for too long)

- We can pick up energies. Every location, person, and event feels different to us. We immediately know what’s right for us and what our body needs. We are allowed to jump to energetic conclusions (not grounded rationalizations) and judge whether or not we want to stick around. However, it’s tricky  verbalizing our judgements.

- We make excellent leaders, teachers, and motivational speakers for the younger generation as every generation is more sensitive than the last. 

- As extremely sensible people, we see the wants and needs of everyone in the room.

- We’ve all had some kind of paranormal experience at least once in our lives.

- We are excellent manifesters of our realities. At our best, we are naturally able to adapt, shift, and become without thinking about the “step-by-step” process. We are also able to notice synchronicities and emotional trauma cycles in our experiences a lot more frequently than most people.

- We understand things wholly without having to learn too much about it.

- We have interesting and elaborate perspectives and opinions.

- We know what foods are good for us and not good for us without anyone having to tell us.

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Distributed in 1988, Who Framed Roger Rabbit enthrall audiences with groundbreaking special effects and masterful storytelling. A box office hit grossing over $329,000,000 and winning much prodigious recognition, which includes four coveted Academy Awards. The critically acclaimed reception was considered very rare for an animated film during the 1980s. When moviegoers and film critics think of the crossover between real life and plastic celluloid - it is usually Jessica Rabbit that conjures in mind. In the original novel, Jessica is an immoral toon beauty who harbors loveless emotions for Roger. After all, it is Roger who commissioned a spell to make her fall in love with him and the effects lasted temporarily. The 1983 screen draft was more faithful to Gary K. Wolf’s work than the completed adaptation - instead of a cunning siren; Jessica is an ethical character who truly has her husband’s best interest at heart. [ x ]

Ratings for Aries in a relationship and why

Aries + Aries: 4/10 lack of understanding and both will get easily bored

Aries + Taurus: 7/10 need lots of compromise but is very productive together

Aries + Gemini: 10/10 (my otp) both are best friends and lovers at the same time

Aries + Cancer: 6/10 ego clashes and emotions get confusing

Aries + Leo: 9/10 works together really well and both strive for similar things

Aries + Virgo: 5/10 annoyed of eachother easily but can work together decently well

Aries + Libra: 8/10 will spend lots of time together and be very showy, hard to make decisions together

Aries + Scorpio: 7/10 powerful and mature together, won’t see eye to eye on things

Aries + Sagittarius: 9/10 they are adaptive, outgoing, and independent and get along well together

Aries+ Capricorn:4/10 arising conflicts, approaches things very differently which causes arguments

Aries + Aquarius: 8/10 similar interests, learn to grow together, independent

Aries + Pisces: 6/10 strong attraction, needs compromise, emotions get confusing

anonymous asked:

I have schizotypal and my therapist said me making everything about typology was an example of odd beliefs ahdhajshdhdhs I hate this

It’s not lol. This will be a long answer since it’s a frequent topic between my therapist and I.

My therapist and I understand it in a very different way:

typology helps a lot of people who have difficulty understanding others on the typical “human” level most people experience. People with low empathy autism, people with generally low or absent empathy with PDs (such as schizoid, schizotypal, antisocial and narcissistic) would be included in this lol.

A generally accepted and backed by science belief (which continues to be proven correct) is that something that makes humans different from animals is the ability to intuitively connect to an understand a person by synthesizing emotional states, and seeing things from their perspective as a person, not just logically (the logical ability to see from another persons perspective is cognitive empathy, which many low affective empathy people are very capable of, though often use it for detrimental or self interested purposes, thus the generally true stereotype that antisocials and narcissists are manipulative).

Emotional or affective empathy is pretty standard, and people without it are seen as “risks”, since they lack what is seen as the intuitive, though subjective moral compass based on affective empathy. Think “what would stop this antisocial person from murdering me since they won’t feel much, if anything about it?”. A surprising amount of people feel this way. That, or they pity us.

This brings me to my main point. Typology is a great system for being able to understand another persons point of view. It’s a very adaptive strategy. Typology helps you remember that other people are, well, people, with their own feelings, thoughts and motivations. Understanding typology gives you the intuitive insight that most people already have, but we have been deprived of. Instead of saying “oh my fucking god this person is so fucking dumb”, it becomes “man I hate fi. They have such weird reasons for doing things.”. “I fucking hate this person, they just keep stepping all over everyone, something is seriously wrong with them” becomes “ok, it’s an enneagram three, I don’t like threes or how they behave but I understand their emotional reasons for doing so”. “Why does this idiot keep ruining their life” becomes “SP blind spots are so odd, I don’t envy that lol”.

It’s not an odd belief either. People use stereotypes to understand others on a regular basis, a topic frequently explored in social psychology. I mean, it’s one of the main psychological reasons racism exists, or political ideologies and political loyalties. We just choose different stereotypes than most people. Same strategy, different system. It’s not an odd way of thinking. How often do you hear things like “liberals :/” and etc? Often. Very often. It’s just how people work.

Leads me to my annoyance with people that go “ugh why do you have to classify people with typology so much?” If I didn’t, I would continually think it’s a personal fault of someone whenever I didn’t like them, instead of “people with this function or type exist whether I like that or not”. It shifts your perspective to a more healthy one. If didn’t use typology, i would have absolutely no reference (other than my own) to understand someone’s emotional or non-logical subjective personal reasons for doing things.

Also, many low empathy people just lack the motivation and desire to get to know people as a way of discerning their motivations. “That person is an ISFJ and is probably doing that because they care about someone” is way easier for us than “oh let’s get to know this person and maybe then I’ll understand them.”

Also, for us sx users w/ low empathy out there, it’s a very helpful way of adjusting our behaviour towards specific people since we don’t get the “sense” of that person like other people do. OTHER sx users just kind of “know” the other person, we have to draw on frameworks so understand them, and the sx makes us want to do this– to adjust our understanding of the other person.

Thus why sx blinds with low empathy are so frequently distrusted… because they should be ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ they have no motivation to adjust their behaviour towards other people at all other than social acceptability, which is transparent and shallow.

Sx blinds with low empathy are very empty people, honestly… but without typology, how would I know that? Wouldn’t they just come across as distrustworthy and shallow for no reason? With typology, you can go “oh, that explains that” and not “HOLY shit this person is PRETTY EVIL”.

Ti users are fond of typology since it is a system of logical frameworks that work together to produce a coherent picture. Te users are fond of it as a quick efficient reference to understand a subject. Etc.

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How would Uber drivers rate or describe their experience with the rising signs? (lol random question I know)

Low Ratings

Aries Rising- For being too loud/obnoxious or getting in too drunk

Taurus Rising- For being too late or eating food in the car

Gemini Rising- For attempting to stuff waaay too many people in the Uber or making the driver feel uncomfortable with too much talking, weird jokes, flirting, or even asking too many questions

Cancer Rising- By being standoffish and/or rude 

Leo Rising- By asking to drive a super short distance or acting entitled 

Virgo Rising- For using Uber to run errands (excluding things like Uber Eats or grocery delivery of course) or nit-picking the driving/being a backseat driver 

Libra Rising- Not entering a destination in the app or running late 

Scorpio Rising- For acting too intensely towards the driver or for smoking/attempting to drink in the car 

Sagittarius Rising- For slamming the car door or spilling something on the seats 

Capricorn Rising- For criticizing the type of car they’re in or giving turn-by-turn directions (when the driver already has directions)

Aquarius Rising- For trying to bring something illegal in the car or putting in the wrong destination 

Pisces Rising- By telling the driver their life story/ranting/crying or being awkwardly cold 

High Ratings 

Aries Rising- For being a friendly and vibrant rider who knows exactly where they are going and what they are doing with the app 

Taurus Rising- For being calm, cool, and collected even when they almost got in that accident

Gemini Rising- For treating the driver like a pal and being communicative and positive

Cancer Rising- For being understanding about a bump here or a mess there and they are on the quiet side

Leo Rising- They are generous with a tip and come into the vehicle with a warm presence 

Virgo Rising- Never leaves a mess, is polite, and arrives on time 

Libra Rising- Not too loud, not too quiet, just right. Has an appealing aura

Scorpio Rising- With you “love them or hate them” you love them! They are interesting and magnetic yet at the same time chill with how the driver operates 

Sagittarius Rising- Likely to take the Uber a long distance and is flexible

Capricorn Rising- Likely a good tipper, never forgets to put in the address, and is very polite 

Aquarius Rising- The most interesting person they will give a ride to all day and might even relate to being an Uber driver themselves or asks for tips on becoming one 

Pisces Rising- Nice, might give plenty of compliments to the driver, and might adapt to the emotions of the driver 

Top 10 Movies Everyone Should Watch (For Anonymous).

I don’t know if anyone wants to know why I chose each of these movies but I will write a little bit about why anyway, to defend my choice, if nothing else.

10. Requiem for a Dream (2000)

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This movie looks at addiction. It’s kind of brutal on your emotions and got to me quite a lot but it’s one of those movies that needs to make you feel like that. It’s upsetting but it’s a very good movie.


9. Secret Window (2004)

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I haven’t watched this in a while, but if it’s as good as I remember it being then it is rightfully on this list. A very good adaption of the Stephen King story. A very interesting, mysterious kind of movie.

8. Inception (2010)

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This is a great movie, and even if it wasn’t, the scene pictured above makes it worth watching alone. The idea behind this is unique and it is so so so gripping. A lot of people are confused by it but I don’t think that’s a downside; it’s a very well thought out movie and if you are confused by it, I don’t think you’d at all mind re-watching it.

7. The Machinist (2004)

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This movie is very clever. The foreshadowing used in it is superb and It keeps you guessing until the very end. It ended up being a lot more moving than I initially expected it to be.

6. Filth (2013)

People may say I just like this movie because it’s set in Scotland and that’s where I live but I think this movie was absolutely fantastic regardless of that. It was advertised as a comedy but, though it is darkly hilarious at parts, it is not a comedy. This movie will get to you. It literally left me with my jaw hanging in the cinema and stayed with me for a long time after I watched it. James Mcavoy’s acting in it is also brilliant. Definitely, definitely worth watching. A fantastic movie.
It is released on DVD in the UK on February 10th.

5. Donnie Darko (2001)

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This was the first movie I ever saw that made me think and totally changed the way I looked at movies. It really moved me when I first watched it at the age of twelve and it still moves me when I watch it. It’s mysterious and dark and interesting and haunting: a great movie.

4. Memento (2000)

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This movie will fuck with you. I would probably say this movie is a masterpiece. It’s filmed in a fantastic way, and I don’t want to say too much about it but I have never seen another movie where everything was so different from what it seemed. Very unpredictable.

3. American Psycho (2000)

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This is a strange movie. I don’t think it got it’s point across as well as the novel did but it also isn’t as stomach-wrenchingly vile as parts of the novel was so that’s good. This movie is actually quite funny but it makes a much deeper, darker statement, it’s very enjoyable to watch and is very thought-provoking. It is different from the novel but is in no way disappointing. A fantastic movie from a fantastic book. Patrick Bateman is also, oddly, a very likable character, and Christian Bale plays him brilliantly.

2. The Butterfly Effect (2004)

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This was the first movie that ever really, really fucked with me, and it’s still the movie that fucks with me the most. Watch the director’s cut. This movie will take you on an emotional roller-coaster and will stay on your mind for a long time after you watch it but it is so worth it.
This is 100% a movie that everyone should watch.

1. Fight Club (1999)

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And, of course, here it is: Fight Club.
I don’t care if this is cliche. Fight Club is the greatest movie I have ever seen and probably always will be. Every second of this movie is enjoyable to watch. I don’t think I can adequately explain why this movie is so great so I’m not going to insult it by trying, but I will say this: this movie changed my life, and if you don’t ever watch it, you are truly missing out.
“It’s only after we’ve lost everything that we are free to do anything.”

Well thanks to anyone who read this, and please don’t insult my chosen movies; I know there are so many more amazing movies that aren’t on this list but I could only choose 10.

I’m as big a fan of Major Crimes as the next Shandy shipper, but I think it’s important to highlight why Rusty isn’t just simply pushed out of the picture. 

As a victim of abuse throughout his childhood, seeing how Rusty grows and adapts through situations can be more than just an interesting story for people. 

It’s important for other victims of abuse (emotional, physical and sexual) to see him grow and overcome his challenges. He is still facing problems despite being off of the streets for 5 years. That is completely typical for abuse survivors and it needs to be seen. 

I know it’s only a tv show. Its a crime show. But one of the special things about the show is how it focus’ on the Major Crimes team. It’s just as important to be seeing Rusty as it is Sharon. I would say that it is her story, but to try to exclude or get rid of Rusty completely goes against Sharons character and does not do justice to the abuse survivors that Rusty represents. 

Shandy shippers have to respect Rusty.

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Tomb Raider Casts Into the Badlands Star as Lara Croft's Partner
Warcraft star Daniel Wu has joined Warner Bros' Tomb Raider reboot as Lu Ren, a ship captain and Lara Croft's partner.

Lara Croft just found herself a partner. According to Variety, “Into the Badlands” star Daniel Wu has joined Warner Bros.’ “Tomb Raider” reboot as Lu Ren, “a ship captain who partners with Croft on a quest to find her father.”

Most recently, Wu appeared as Sunny in AMC’s “Into the Badlands,” a role he will reprise in the show’s second season, which airs this spring. His past credits also include “Warcraft,” “The Man With the Iron Fists” and more. He will join Alicia Vikander, who plays Lara Croft herself, as well as Walton Goggins, who will appear as the as-yet-unnamed antagonist of the film.

RELATED: Tomb Raider Reboot Adds Walton Goggins as Main Villain

Late last year, producer Graham King teased a few plot details, saying, “This is kind of what we call a ‘back to the roots story… This is a young Lara Croft in search to see if her father is dead or alive, so it has a very emotional part to it and I think that’s what Alicia [Vikander] found so interesting about it. I think the storytelling is really good and I think we’ve got the right crew and a great director and I think it’s going to be really fun making a film like this.”

Lara Croft’s last cinematic adaptation was 2003’s “Tomb Raider: The Cradle of Life,” the second outing for original star Angelina Jolie. Dark Horse Comics recently published an ongoing “Tomb Raider” comic book series by writer Mariko Tamaki and artist Phillip Sevy which follows the game’s rebooted continuity — a road the film is reportedly poised to travel down as well.

Directed by Roar Uthaug, “Tomb Raider” is slated to hit theaters March 16, 2018.

The good news is not only the casting, but that we are FINALLY getting a new Tomb Raider movie.

anonymous asked:

could you tell me any facts or ur experienes abt pisces please?^^

+ understanding, universal, empathetic, inspiring…
+ introspective, retreating to equalize and renew themselves
+ musically or artistically inclined, either through talent or appreciation 
+ mystically inclined, either interested or open-minded towards esoteric knowledge 
+ loving, devoting, compassionate
+ imagination becomes motivation, visionaries of a better world, adaptable to changes 

- self-concerned when not in tune with the collective as they should be 
- retreating and succumbing to escapism, weak-willed, indulging in their suffering
- inclined to substance abuse or emotional disturbance
- inclined to approach mystic practice dangerously and naively
- scared to love, or expects love but does not give it in return, self-pitying, hypersensitive, devotion becomes sacrifice for the wrong reasons 
- imagination becomes maladaptive daydreaming, does not follow through with visions, inconsistent and lethargic