Without quality time, your relationship will not survive.
You will both need security, comfort. A good relationship is built on compromise and a great deal of give and take on both sides.
Keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell and show your partner how much you need them, but don’t cling, as that can make your partner feel trapped.
Encourage them to listen to you, by showing appreciation when they do. By the same token, show interest when they talks to you.
Make them appreciate you. Don’t wait for a spontaneous compliment, but say something good about yourself and ask for their agreement.
Learn to do the one thing that is most likely to restore good feeling in your relationship - giving your partner a genuine, loving and approving smile.
Often those subtle quirks that first attracted you to your partner can, with time, turn around and become toe-curlingly annoying habits. Learn to love them, warts and all.
Hidden resentments poison a relationship; so if something bothers you, say it.
Learn that punishing your partner won’t work. It may make you feel better to give them a hard time, but it will actually make them dig their heels in more. A better tactic is to reward the things you like and ignore what you don’t like.
It happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.
I don’t believe in investing in hate or revenge. That shit is negative, and I don’t need that kind of energy. I value myself enough to know that simply dropping out of the lives of people who have done me wrong is enough.
I find it helpful to remind myself that every human is a mess on the inside. It’s easy to assume the good-looking and well-spoken person in front of you has it all together and is therefore superior. The reality is that everyone is a basket case on the inside. Some people just hide it better. Find me a normal person and I’ll show you someone you don’t know that well.