You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.
I’m sure this has been done before, but I thought I’d make a post!
While brewing your morning tea or coffee, boiling pasta, whisking, or anything that involves stirring- use these numbers to add a little magic to your beverage/food!☕️
Stir clockwise for the first meaning, and counterclockwise for the opposite:
1- new beginnings, inspiration//resist change, remain in limbo
2- money, prosperity//loss of money, debt
4- achieving goals, efficiency//setbacks, delays
5- new experiences, open-mindedness//closing doors, rejecting new ideas
6- harmony, loyalty//discord, betrayal
7- spiritual guidance, increased intuition//disconnect from spirituality, loss of intuition
8- order, career success//disarray, career setbacks
9- peace, selflessness//conflict, selfishness
These are just my own associations! Feel free to use your own, and enjoy!🥄
▫️Don’t be so hard on yourself. You have a lot going on in your mind that you can’t fathom, and it’s okay.
▫️You’re stronger than you realise. The way you carry yourself, whether you just burst into tears in front of your friends, or withheld your feelings until you got home, is a sign of the person you will become. I’m proud of you.
▫️Don’t even think about using those hair straighteners (too late, sadly).
▫️You don’t have to have everything figured out right now. Hell, even at the age I am now, I still get lost.
▫️You will lose close friends, and it still leaves a bitter taste in your mouth when you think about it, but it will enable you to flourish. Not everyone is meant to stay.
▫️You’re going to be successful. The setbacks are necessary sometimes.
▫️You give so much of your time and energy to others, and that can make you retreat in on yourself. Remember that you’re living for you, but don’t deny help to those in need.
▫️I know you hate how you look, but don’t go out of your way to change it. I swear you look better now.
▫️One day you’re going to be so sure of yourself, so annoyingly in love with who you’ve become, that you won’t remember what it took to get there. Tbh, I’m still working on it.
▫️Be yourself, whoever that may be.
People frequently will ask me, “Why do you so readily identify yourself as a Narcissist? Do you not want to get better? Do you want people to stay away from you? Who would openly admit to such a terrible thing?”
This is the exact reason I am so open about my diagnosis. If one searches “depression” online, they are greeted with hundreds of articles, support groups, blogs, scientific studies, websites, etc. all devoted to helping and supporting those with depression. Many of the contributors to this body of media are people who openly identify as having depression. With some negligible exceptions, those without depression who write about those with depression are writing about how to better understand and relate to their suffering. The same is largely not true for people with personality disorders, especially NPD and ASPD.
Searching “Narcissistic Personality Disorder” on Google will also gather many results. There are still articles, support groups, blogs, scientific studies, websites, etc., but funnily enough, not a single one of those resources seems to be led by actual Narcissists. Narcissistic Personality Disorder is discussed ad nauseum online, but almost entirely by people who are not diagnosed with it. Narcissists are constantly referred to in the third person, or worse, their diagnosis is used as an accusation and a condemnation (i.e. Exposing the Narcissist.) However, for how prevalent these writers seem to imply NPD is, there seems to be near zero online presence of people who identify as Narcissists. Unsurprisingly, widespread fear mongering and dehumanization of this demographic of people remains unchecked.
Because of this, I openly identify as a Narcissist. Barring situations where it would be seriously damaging to my overall wellbeing, I’ll tell anyone who asks about it; how I struggle, my setbacks, my successes, my growth. Not because I think my disorder is a positive thing or because I “don’t want to get better,” but because I won’t allow ignorant people to dehumanize and alienate people who share a diagnosis with me. The first step in reversing this widespread view of all Narcissists as heartless monsters is being present, being open, and being a clear refutation of this accusation. That way, when a group of people get together to discuss how terrible all Narcissists are, there will be people present to say “well, I know a Narcissist, and they would never do that.” If Narcissists can speak about their disorder without fear of judgement and abandonment, maybe they can start a process of recovery so that one day they’ll no longer demonstrate the behaviors that are so widely demonized in the media.
Watch the Trailer for Firsts, TIME’s New Video Series on #45GroundbreakingWomen
On Sept. 7, #TIME will unveil Firsts, a multimedia project featuring candid interviews with 45 groundbreaking women. Some of these women — #Oprah Winfrey, #EllenDeGeneres , #ArethaFranklin — you know well, and will get to know better through their stories of setbacks and success. Others, you may be meeting for the first time. All of them are extraordinary.
As you explore these exclusive interviews with pioneering athletes, scientists, lawmakers, entertainers and entrepreneurs, join the conversation on social media. Look for the hashtag #SheIsTheFirst in the coming weeks, and use it to share stories about the groundbreaking women in your life. Has a woman or girl you know been a “first”? The first to win the science fair? The first in her family to attend college? The first to become mayor of her town? Share your photos and stories with us using #SheIsTheFirst. We may feature you in TIME.
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To be fully motivated to start the new week and achieve what you want. To be the Elle Woods of your life :D !
Even if things are hard, you can’t quit. It’s all part of the game. You wouldn’t enjoy your success if everything was getting handed to you.
If you encounter some hard times or setbacks, don’t give up ! You can do it, it will be hard of course but not impossible. The more you focus on why you are doing what you are doing and the amazing results you want, the more you will actually succeed.
Great things take time and hard work. But it will all be worth it in the end, when all of the pain will be over and you’ll be glad you never gave up.
Stay strong my friends, you are doing it for a reason and I can’t wait to see you succeed !
You probably read the title of this post and think “Yeah, cool. you’re in med school, they might not matter for you but they definitely matter for me”. But hear me out.
Your grades don’t determine how suited you are to be a doctor. Yes, your grades may determine how likely you are to get into med school this year but not whether you should or shouldn’t be a doctor. Did you know a solid proportion of my med class is made up of people who didn’t get in the first time they applied? I was one of them.
But how can you deal with potentially bad grades and set backs?
First of all, you need to forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for not getting 100% in every single test and exam, for not doing as well as you wanted to. It’s ok.
But don’t just take my word for it. Research shows
that doctors who are kinder and more forgiving to themselves have higher rates
of patient satisfaction and better clinical outcomes. It’s not just good for
you, it’s good for your friends, family and future patients.
Second of all, recognise that most people won’t be happy with their grades. I know people who would cry over an 80% result as much as they cried over a 60% result. Being the sort of person who wants to get into med school means being addicted to never reaching your own expectations of yourself. Even in medschool, the “smart” people who get in, still struggle to meet their own expectations of themselves. It’s normal. You will get used to it with time. You will come to accept yourself. On that note..
Give yourself a goddamn break. You’re not a superhuman (as much as you might want to be) and you can’t study every single waking hour of the day. You need to watch some TV, eat some junk food and hang out with friends. You should do some of that now.
Don’t think that just because you did badly (or not as well as you wanted to) in one specific paper (or even in all of them) that it means you’ll never do well. I didn’t get a single A+ until my second semester of 2nd year. Then suddenly I changed my study style and A+s became the majority of my grades. I couldn’t believe it. This leads onto the next step.
Try and figure out why you got a bad grade. This could be a tough one. The answer to this is almost never “I didn’t study enough”. You wouldn’t be here, reading this if the answer was that. If the answer is clearly that, you know it’s not important to you. You might THINK the answer is that but most likely it’s because you didn’t study right. It is a skill, believe it or not. You need to figure out how to study and what works for you. I have heaps of resources and posts on this topic so either look through my blog or flick me a message :) this is something I can help with. And now onto the last step.
Don’t give up. This is going to be a motivational quote dump of all my favourite quotes. Please read each of them carefully, write them onto a piece of paper, write them onto the wall, burn them into your brain because you will need them now and you will need them forever.
Failure CANNOT cope with persistence. If you fall down but if you keep trying and trying and getting up and going on, you WILL achieve your goals.
You can be unstoppable not because you don’t have doubts or failures but because you continue on despite them. Not a single successful person became successful without setbacks. Not a single one. The setbacks are kept personal and usually not public. But everyone has them. This might be yours. It might be your first one. How will you deal with it knowing there are more to come?
Carve your success in stone, write your failures in sand. Acknowledge them but let the tide wash them away.
You can survive any fire burning around you if the fire inside you burns brighter. Let your passion for your future fuel your motivation to get back up, dust yourself off and get back out there.
Last but not least: When you think you’ve exhausted all the possibilities, remember this: you haven’t.
I know it’s difficult getting yourself up of the floor and getting back out there but you need to. You can do it, even though you might not believe it. The key is to do it one step at a time. First you think about what you could do, then you do it, then you do it without even questioning it.
For all it’s worth, there are many amazing doctors who didn’t get in first time. There are amazing med students who didn’t get in first time (or second time for that matter). They’re gonna make amazing doctors and they’re amazing people and it’s a privilege to be in a class with them.
You will grow from this experience, you will meet new people and you will get new opportunities. When I was in first year I didn’t think I could improve my grades, even though I kept trying to. I didn’t believe in myself but passively kept studying. I didn’t care about what I could do later on or all the “life experience” I would have if I applied as a postgrad. I just wanted to get in and I didn’t care about anything else. My mental health was also basically non-existent and I broke down at the smallest hint of adversity. I did not cope well with failure. It was only when I learnt how to cope with it that I began to do well; in life and at university. Let the mistakes of my story be the lessons of yours.
Learn to forgive yourself and write your failures in sand. Then walk all over them as you get up and chase your goals.
“ I have spent my entire life fighting for what I believe in.
I’ve had successes and setbacks and sometimes painful ones.
[…] please never stop believing that fighting for what’s right is worth it.
And so we need — we need you to keep up these fights now and for the rest of your lives.
And to all the women, and especially the young women […] never doubt that you are valuable and powerful and deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world to pursue and achieve your own dreams.”
“Ho speso tutta la mia vita a lottare per quello in cui credo. Ho incontrato successi e battute d'arresto, alcune volte molto dolorose. […] per favore, non smettete mai di credere che lottare per quel che è giusto ne valga la pena.
Abbiamo bisogno- abbiamo bisogno di tenere il passo con le battaglie che intraprendiamo oggi e per il resto della nostra vita.
E a tutte le donne, specialmente alle giovani donne […] non dubitate mai di essere valorose e potenti e meritevoli di ogni occasione e opportunità nel mondo per perseguire e raggiungere i vostri sogni.
Riconoscimento della sconfitta di Hillary Clinton
To the young people in particular, I hope you will hear this: I have spent my entire adult life fighting for what I believe in. I’ve had successes and I’ve had setbacks, sometimes really painful ones. Many of you are at the beginning of your professional, public and political careers. You will have successes and setbacks too. This loss hurts. But please, never stop believing that fighting for what’s right is worth it.
Hillary Clinton’s concession speech, November 9, 2016
As we eagerly approach the end of the year, we cannot forget that wildlife conservation is a never-ending story. Major successes and minor setbacks reveal the continued fight to save species from extinction. Before we ring in the new year, take a look at some of San Diego Zoo Global’s highlights from 2016 to ignite passion for wildlife in the year ahead—and support for the planet and all of its creatures. Visit EndExtinction.org to learn more. (source)
These last few weeks have been good for your equilibrium. It was a question of becoming a bit more involved in life than usual, and showing what you're capable of. Most likely you had a mixture of successes and setbacks, but on the whole, improvements have been steady. You may have noticed that this or that about yourself needs improvement, but isn't that true for everyone?
It's never very agreeable to have to question oneself, but this is the main objective of today's celestial aspect. You'll soon be launched into new adventures. Take advantage of the energy generated by this planetary configuration to look within and find the source of some of your failings. This isn't an easy exercise, to be sure, but it will do you some good. Just be honest with yourself.
The great period of meditation that started for you a few weeks ago is now finished. This means that you are going to have to get back into the real world again! You are going to have to test out how the "new and improved" you operates in everyday life. Get ready. You can expect some real changes!
If you have grievances to voice about your love life, this is the day to speak up. Indeed, anything less than total honesty won't be tolerated today. You can expect to confront the “other," whether mate, friend, or family member, on the basis of truth and righteousness. Know that you'll command their attention! But be careful that the weight of your words doesn't surpass that of your thoughts.
Are you thinking of switching careers, or traveling to the other side of the world? Perhaps you just want to pull a “Greta Garbo” and stay home with the shades drawn tight. A series of small incidents you've recently experienced at work is likely to inspire the most outlandish ideas. It must be that you sense your need for a change of scene.
You're likely to find people somewhat irritating today. It's as though nothing is good enough and nobody seems to know exactly what he or she wants. You'll reign supreme within this conflict and dissatisfaction. You may even be asked to step in and restore order. If the conflict is on the domestic front, go ahead. But tread carefully if you're asked to take on the role of sheriff!
You may have felt an oppressive mood hanging in the air when you woke up this morning. Unfortunately, that haze of misunderstanding and conflict is likely to last all day. However, it makes this an ideal time to speak up about anything that's bothering you! Don't be shy about going on the warpath today. If you don't, you're likely to be the target of a surprise attack.
The mood you're in today is the stuff of which memorable encounters are made. You'll be wary at first, perhaps even somewhat hostile to someone who dares to intrude on your freedom. Then suddenly you'll realize that this person is someone special, intriguing, and definitely out of the ordinary. Finally, you'll see that the qualities they offer just happen to be what you need most right now.
More than ever before, you'll feel as though it's time to take matters into your own hands and build your future. You're fed up with living on hope and putting your happiness off until tomorrow. Your determination will be so strong that you may even surprise yourself. You'll refine your approach and make it more concrete in the coming days. Today is the first day of a new life for you.
This is an ideal moment to address once and for all the questions that have been on your mind for the last few weeks. Pay particular attention to questions that touch on your sentimental life. If you're currently involved in unsatisfactory relationships, don't be afraid to leave them behind. If you're fretting about an unanswered request, let it go. No response is forthcoming.
Something is coming to an end concerning your lack of confidence in yourself. You've been hesitant to stand in the spotlight for quite a while now, perhaps feeling you weren't quite ready. Well, no more excuses! Ready or not, you're going to have to push forward. The only thing you risk losing is your pride, and that is your most resilient asset.
It's possible that the last few weeks have allowed you to become a little bit clearer concerning certain questions you have about your vocation. You may even have a little more clarity about your feelings regarding what you think your destiny is. It would now be better for you to stop thinking about such things and let life take over. You're well armed for this!
And to the young people in particular, I hope you will hear this. I have, as Tim said, spent my entire adult life fighting for what I believe in. I have had successes and I have had setbacks. Sometimes really painful ones. Many of you are at the beginning of your professional public and political careers. You will have successes and setbacks, too. This loss hurts but please never stop believing that fighting for what’s right is worth it.
It is. It is worth it. And so we need―we need you to keep up these fights now and for the rest of your lives, and to all the women and especially the young women who put their faith in this campaign and in me, I want you to know that nothing has made me prouder than to be your champion.
Now, I know we have still not shattered that highest and hardest glass ceiling, but some day, someone will, and hopefully sooner than we might think right now. And to all the little girl whose are watching this, never doubt that you are valuable and powerful and deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world to pursue and achieve your own dreams.
Hillary Clinton speaking to the younger generation and young women during her conception speech
Teaching my first yoga class to the public on Monday and I’m both stoked and ready to shit my pants. Not only is it my mom’s birthday but also a lunar eclipse, lucky me! This yoga teacher training hasn’t been for the bitch made. I couldn’t have fathomed from the way this year started that this would be the journey I’d embark on. I’ve cried, had epiphanies, experienced success and setbacks, learned how to use my voice and share my gifts with others while being open to receive good things as difficult as it may be sometimes to accept that I’m deserving of all the good this world has to offer. I’m still struggling with controlling my vices particularly with the likes of the sauce and bad boys with an affinity for the devil’s dandruff but I’m learning when to say when and that’s a victory in itself.
I’ve had the opportunity to teach a few small groups and the feedback from my tribe and teachers has been phenomenal. People enjoy my voice, offerings and presence and it’s so mind blowing to think that I have that impact on others. They think I’ll be a great yoga teacher and I’m kinda starting to believe it myself. What an honor and blessing it is to share the gift that has given me so much in so little time. I’m not perfect. I’m not always zen and I certainly don’t have my shit together yet but I’m trying. That’s all I can do. Trying to love and accept myself more. Trying to love and accept others more without expectations. Trying to set healthy boundaries and exercise bottom lines in my friendships and relationships. Trying to embrace the ebb and flow while not succumbing to the heavy weight of the waves.
The complete text of Hillary Clinton’s speech/email to supporters:
Last night, I congratulated Donald Trump and offered to work with him on behalf of our country. I hope that he will be a successful president for all Americans.
This is not the outcome we wanted or we worked so hard for, and I’m sorry we did not win this election for the values we share and the vision we hold for our country.
But I feel pride and gratitude for this wonderful campaign that we built together –- this vast, diverse, creative, unruly, energized campaign. You represent the best of America, and being your candidate has been one of the greatest honors of my life.
I know how disappointed you feel, because I feel it too. And so do tens of millions of Americans who invested their hopes and dreams in this effort. This is painful, and it will be for a long time. But I want you to remember this: Our campaign was never about one person or even one election. It was about the country we love – and about building an America that’s hopeful, inclusive, and big-hearted.
We have seen that our nation is more deeply divided than we thought. But I still believe in America –- and I always will. And if you do, too, then we must accept this result -– and then look to the future.
Donald Trump is going to be our president. We owe him an open mind and the chance to lead.
Our constitutional democracy enshrines the peaceful transfer of power, and we don’t just respect that, we cherish it. It also enshrines other things –- the rule of law, the principle that we’re all equal in rights and dignity, and the freedom of worship and expression. We respect and cherish these things too – and we must defend them.
And let me add: Our constitutional democracy demands our participation, not just every four years, but all the time. So let’s do all we can to keep advancing the causes and values we all hold dear: making our economy work for everyone, not just those at the top; protecting our country and protecting our planet; and breaking down all the barriers that hold anyone back from achieving their dreams.
We’ve spent a year and a half bringing together millions of people from every corner of our country to say with one voice that we believe that the American Dream is big enough for everyone – for people of all races and religions, for men and women, for immigrants, for LGBT people, and people with disabilities.
Our responsibility as citizens is to keep doing our part to build that better, stronger, fairer America we seek. And I know you will.
I am so grateful to stand with all of you.
I want to thank Tim Kaine and Anne Holton for being our partners on this journey. It gives me great hope and comfort to know that Tim will remain on the front-lines of our democracy, representing Virginia in the Senate.
To Barack and Michelle Obama: Our country owes you an enormous debt of gratitude for your graceful, determined leadership, and so do I.
To Bill, Chelsea, Marc, Charlotte, Aidan, our brothers, and our entire family, my love for you means more than I can ever express.
You crisscrossed this country on my behalf and lifted me up when I needed it most –- even four-month old Aidan traveling with his mom.
I will always be grateful to the creative, talented, dedicated men and women at our headquarters in Brooklyn and across our country who poured their hearts into this campaign. For you veterans, this was a campaign after a campaign – for some of you, this was your first campaign ever. I want each of you to know that you were the best campaign anyone has had.
To all the volunteers, community leaders, activists, and union organizers who knocked on doors, talked to neighbors, posted on Facebook - even in secret or in private: Thank you.
To everyone who sent in contributions as small as $5 and kept us going, thank you.
And to all the young people in particular, I want you to hear this. I’ve spent my entire adult life fighting for what I believe in. I’ve had successes and I’ve had setbacks -– sometimes really painful ones. Many of you are at the beginning of your careers. You will have successes and setbacks, too.
This loss hurts. But please, please never stop believing that fighting for what’s right is worth it. It’s always worth it. And we need you keep up these fights now and for the rest of your lives.
To all the women, and especially the young women, who put their faith in this campaign and in me, I want you to know that nothing has made me prouder than to be your champion.
I know that we still have not shattered that highest glass ceiling. But some day someone will -– hopefully sooner than we might think right now.
And to all the little girls watching right now, never doubt that you are valuable and powerful and deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world.
Finally, I am grateful to our country for all it has given me.
I count my blessings every day that I am an American. And I still believe, as deeply as I ever have, that if we stand together and work together, with respect for our differences, strength in our convictions, and love for this nation -– our best days are still ahead of us.
You know I believe we are stronger together and will go forward together. And you should never be sorry that you fought for that.
Scripture tells us: “Let us not grow weary in doing good, for in due season, we shall reap, if we do not lose heart.”
My friends, let us have faith in each other. Let us not grow weary. Let us not lose heart. For there are more seasons to come and there is more work to do.
I am incredibly honored and grateful to have had this chance to represent all of you in this consequential election. May God bless you and god bless the United States of America.