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Don’t assume that a person is an attention seeker if they tell you that they feel ugly. You have no idea how many times they have cried, looking at themself in the mirror, just wanting to stay home. It’s not their fault that society have teached them what’s pretty and what’s not.
The Preschool Chapter - Chapter 11

Just an author’s note before you read this chapter…

I spent hours…hours…researching information for this chapter. We are beginning the time of the story involving the legal proceedings of Jack’s custody. As you all know, I always try to make my stories as detail-accurate as possible, which is part of why it is more believable and relatable, I think. Not being from England, only knowing how things work here in America, I wanted to try to get the details of the custody proceedings as accurate as possible, but there was only so much info I could find. So please forgive me if you know something to be inaccurate, and enjoy the story anyway. Thanks for reading! xo

Grab your tissues, my loves!

Shelli

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anonymous asked:

What might a character with extensive hand to hand combat skills (from say a special ops background) be shaky on when learning swordfighting skills? What kind of "mistakes" might someone with that background tend to make? Thank you!

The tricky thing about people who come from Special Forces backgrounds is, they tend to be very adaptable. A lot of the time, people get the perception that Special Forces get lots of specialized training that no one else has access to, and this allows them to be more effective. That’s kinda true, but it can easily lead to a distorted perspective of what makes them useful and effective.

What makes special operators useful isn’t their rote ability to kill people. It’s not the specific techniques they’re trained in (though, those do help). It’s the mindset their training screens for and then encourages. You can, as it turns out, teach nearly anyone how to use a gun. The hard part is finding someone who can think on their feet and come up with solutions to their current problems quickly.

This brings us back to your question. Someone who’s trained in hand to hand will take a little time to get used to the idea of a sword. It’s just not something they’ve spent a lot of time with. Someone who has trained in knife fighting will have to learn a new approach as well. But, these are things you can learn from, and adapt to. For someone coming out of a special forces background, their training and outlook should put them in a much better situation to identify and address weaknesses that come with learning a new skill. It won’t always, but it does put them in the right mindset.

Special operators aren’t unbeatable, they’re not omnipotent, but they have been trained to identify problems and find ways to solve them. I’m not being euphemistic here. I don’t mean, “problems” in the sense of, “oh, hey, I need to kill those guys.” That is a part of it, but also things like: “I need these pages somewhere I can see them quickly;” proceeds to tape them to the wall. When you’re approaching a character like this, it’s someone who is very good at identifying problems, both life threatening, annoying, and everything in between, and then looking for a way to solve them.

Also, from what I’ve seen, if an ex-operator doesn’t have any problems to solve, they’ll get bored, then set their sights higher, and start working towards a new goal. Again, this is part of the mindset.

Now, we are talking about human beings. Just like everyone else, sometimes they’ll miss details, overlook something, or forget pieces of salient information. They’ll try not to, particularly on forgetting things, and if they identify it as a problem, they’ll try to find some way to work around it, but it happens.

This also means, any mistakes they make, when learning a new martial style, are something they’ll seek to learn from. Someone from that background will make mistakes in training, the same kinds of things anyone will, poor initial stance, imperfect technique, the kinds of mistakes you will see from every student in that field. The difference, and why this question is so tricky, is that they will work to address those mistakes as quickly as possible, and to their best to learn everything they can from those mistakes.

As for making mistakes in the field? Yes, that can happen. But it will be based, entirely, on the situation at hand, and the information they have. If they’re trying to solve a problem and they don’t know about something, they can’t account for it, and they can end up with a solution that does not work. But, that’s not going to be a problem with a sword or their technique (usually).

-Starke

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ISFP (FiSeNiTe)

Introverted Feeling (Fi):

  • Tuned in to the mental and emotional atmosphere
  • May be introspective or constantly in a state of trying to sort out how they really feel
  • Values their own sense of fidelity and life stability
  • Tries to treat others with fairness and decency
  • Highly reliant on their attitude toward others when making decisions
  • This can sometimes lead them into difficult situations
  • Enjoys building connections but chooses friends carefully
  • Seeks a mutual respect for others in developing friendship bonds
  • Desires to interact with empathy, compassion, and loyalty
  • Values mutual understanding above all things
  • May be skeptical or distrusting toward strangers
  • May be private, uncommunicative, or individualistic
  • May feel they can see into others’ motivations or characters
  • Inclined to judge harshly and quickly
  • May have difficulty forgiving past transgressions or react coldly to those they see as immoral or reprehensible
  • May struggle between friendliness and distrust
  • Prides self on emotional sincerity
  • Prefers honest, forthright discussion when working through conflict

Extroverted Sensing (Se):

  • Eagerly seeks out new experiences
  • Is highly attuned to their sensory environment
  • Desires to “engage” rather than “observe” activities
  • Needs little foreknowledge to adapt to new situations
  • May be confrontational or physically aggressive
  • Enjoys challenging others toward acting in ways they feel is in their best interest (driving them toward greatness)
  • Can come across as matter of fact or direct
  • Is interested in success in the material world
  • May practice a variant of “tough love”
  • Enjoys challenging themselves, but may struggle beneath excessive self-criticism and unreasonable self-expectations (FiSeNi)
  • Has a keen sense of style and seeks aesthetics for pleasure
  • Sometimes inclined to retreat from and avoid others
  • Highly proactive and prepared to engage or push others toward an active state

Introverted Intuition (Ni):

  • Sees life as a gradual process of learning and new experiences
  • Tends toward inner reflection in making sense of experiences
  • Desires to discern what lessons or methods for self-improvement experiences have taught them
  • Can orient themselves toward long-term thinking
  • Shows interest in the future consequences of present decisions
  • Can focus on a long-term goal or vision for their life
  • Desires to be less impulsive and avoid later regret
  • Decisive in dealing with immediate situations
  • May fear “running out of time” to accomplish things
  • Trusts their “gut instincts” about people and situations
  • Has flashes of profound insight about others
  • Can sometime accurately get a “sense” of a person’s true self

Extroverted Thinking (Te):

  • Often unconfident in their ability to gather and apply new information related to productivity or life conditions
  • Unsure about how critically evaluate new information
  • May turn to others for explanations or information
  • Often unaware of and un-inclined to think in terms of the best or most efficient way of getting something done
  • Has difficulty conceptualizing what schedule, activity, or methodology they should follow to meet goals
  • May struggle to evaluate whether they’ve done enough or if their work is effective
  • Often admires efficiency in others
  • Tends to act on their feelings
  • Shows authoritarian behavior under stress
  • Prefer concrete explanations to theory
  • May see little point in endeavors that cannot improve their well-being
  • Often deeply invested in learning useful skills to assist them in daily life
  • Can be straightforward and prefers other blunt individuals

Compiled from MBTI / Socionics definitions by Charity.

latimes.com
Harry Styles of One Direction seeks $8.5 million for his Hollywood Hills West crib
Harry Styles of One Direction has listed his contemporary-style home in Hollywood Hills West for $8.495 million.
By Neal J. Leitereg

Harry Styles is headed in a new direction. The singer-songwriter of One Direction fame has listed his contemporary-style home in Hollywood Hills West for sale at $8.495 million.

Tucked behind a motorized gate on a quarter-acre lot, the multi-level home boasts an open floor plan and pocketing walls of glass that capitalize on Southern California’s indoor-outdoor lifestyle. Views from the home, set above the Sunset Strip, extend from the downtown cityscape to the ocean.

The renovated home in Hollywood Hills West features multiple terraces, a covered patio and a swimming pool.

The 4,100 square feet of subdued living space includes a center-island kitchen, a screening room and a gym. The four bedrooms and six bathrooms include a top-floor master suite that opens to a private balcony.

Tall bamboo hedges form a natural screen around the swimming pool and spa. Expansive decking extends outward to create additional space as well as a covered lounge area below.

Styles bought the house a year ago for $6.87 million, property records show.

Justin Huchel of Hilton & Hyland holds the listing.

Earlier this month the 23-year-old Styles released the self-titled album “Harry Styles,” his first as a solo artist. He is set to make his acting debut later this year in the Christopher Nolan-directed war film “Dunkirk.”

1. Go to a Music Festival
2. Go boating
3. Get matching tattoos
4. Face your fears
5. Explore the city
6. Stay up until dawn
7. Start a scrapbook
8. Go to a Waterpark
9. Visit an aquarium
10. Visit a theme park
11. Thrift shopping
12. Take a road trip
13. Go to a Museum
14. Play Mini Golf
15. Marathon a TV Series
16. Put your hand/footprint in wet cement
17. Go to a Parade
18. Sing in the car with windows down
19. See fireworks
20. Go Rollerskating
21. Disney Movie Marathon
22. Crash a Wedding
23. Catch Fireflies
24. Camp in the backyard
25. Buy Matching Sunglasses
26. Build a blanket fort
27. Host/Attend a Bonfire
28. Bake all day
29. Attend a state fair
30. Dye your hair
31. Attempt a DIY Project
32. Make friendship bracelets
33. Make a Time capsule
34. Go Laser Tagging
35. Hide and Seek (Ikea Style)
36. Go to a drive-in
37. Go strawberry picking
38. Go skinny dipping
39. Go Hiking
40. Go on a Scavenger Hunt

Would anyone be interested if I set up a community Minecraft server?

A few friends and I have had a small server up and running for a few months now, and it was actually a really good bonding experience - I hardly knew some of them to begin with, and now we’re really good friends.

This server thingy is mainly going to be a fun place to hang and get to know each other, good for those of us (me included) who suck at casual conversation without a common medium like a game!

Development is still in progress (getting there!), but I wanted to see how many people would be interested in joining? O:
Questions, concerns, comments, warnings, etc are welcome too!

Server will be vanilla with added features. You’ll be able to connect without having to mod your client. The HUGE list of custom stuff is under the cut!

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anonymous asked:

can you please explain to me the reason kaneki is/was so suicidal? like what stemmed it all? was it bec. he "ate" hide and so to him hide is now dead? or bec. for the longest time now he doesn't know where he truly belongs? or maybe he's always been suicidal, even from the very beginning. it's just that the events that occurred afterwards kinds pushed him to his limit?

Kaneki tortured himself for six months by isolating himself from his loved ones, throwing himself into dangerous situations practically alone and forcing himself to consist solely on a putrid diet - all to become strong enough to protect the people he loves. And he thought that he failed. He thought that he had not only failed to save Koma, Irimi, and Yoshimura, but also that the monster he had become in order to protect his friends was the very thing that ate his best friend alive. Had Kaneki not gone mad from cannibalism, he would never have consented to eat Hide.

That’s just too tragic to bear. I really can’t blame Kaneki for seeking death after realising that his painful struggle was not only futile, but lethal to his loved ones.

From a narrative perspective, like a Chikamatsu-style protagonist, Kaneki seeks death after being unable to bear the agony of choosing between his conflicting sense of duty and his own emotional desires. He also recovers the memory of his mother’s abuse, which hardens his desire, believing himself to be something despicable - that the people he loves can only benefit from his pain, as his mother led him to believe.

Kaneki has had an extremely terrible life acting out as the puppet on the strings of a tragedy, and really Kaneki knows there’s only one way for a tragedy to end. By seeking death he aims to end his torturous entrapment at long last on his own terms. Liberty in death. Fortunately, he manages to find liberty outside of death by solving the Chikamatsu dilemma and allowing his duty and feelings to run parallel, thus breaking free of tragedy’s ‘egg’, the cocoon containing the One-Eyed King. 

See that crack in the moon’s surface there? On Kaneki’s first major step on the journey towards his Kingship, the moon that symbolises the eternal night of the tragic genre (and is comparable to an egg for that matter) begins to crack. If it is in fact The World that is wrong, to create a peaceful existence for the Ghoul, Arima and Eto needed someone who could break the very genre of the story and defy the will of the tragic world they inhabit. That’s what made Kaneki the only real choice for the One-Eyed King; if The World is the enemy, he’s the only one who can beat it.