(venty-healer) It's more that... well, in the case of the wizard, it's hard to tell how much is him being an asshole and how much is his character? He's one of those guys who plays almost identical characters everytime, and always has in-character justifications for the stuff he does that drives me up a wall, and uses them even if you're the DM telling him "No, that's /literally/not/how/that/WORKS/." (I know, I've DMed for him before.) He refuses to tell anyone at the table how much of what he
says is actually in-character, he’ll critique the style of the team “leader” (usually reluctantly assigned by an NPC) but then won’t say what he’s doing, LIKE WHEN THE PARTY SPLITS AND WE’RE SITTING THERE LIKE “THERE’S THREE GROUPS, WHICH ONE ARE YOU IN?” AND HE JUST “oh, well, you know… wherever…” I’ve been assigned the “leader” in the campaign with my healer, and this guy will. not. stop. his wishy-washy debating, while I’m sitting there like “Half the party has Wild Empathy, please don’t pick a fight with animals who could totally TPK us if they got ticked off?” and just… I’m gonna rip my hair out. The other characters I can excuse because their players are either trying out new classes they’re not used to or they’re new to the game, but when I say my character’s alignment is migrating, I mean I quite seriously believe that if this keeps up, she will be 100% capable of wrapping her hands around his wizard’s throat and /throttling/ him until he /stops/. I just… everything else about this game is really fun, but I’m so fucking tired of dealing with this. I’m gonna let his wizard get killed in a boss fight, then the DM will resurrect him, and he’ll use it as justification to whine and criticize my healer more. Or I’m going to murder him with my own two hands. I’m so tired. Help.
At this point? It doesn’t matter if his bullshit is IC or not. He’s disrupting the party, preventing you guys from having fun, and isn’t changing when people go to him with their complaints. If I was his DM, I would kick his ass out and tell him to find a group that would be fine with him being an unapologetic dick.