stuff: mine

This episode is great because it opens up a lot of discussion about mental health and mental illness in general, not just manic disorders. Now that i feel better, to go through the episode again and read some of the discussions on here about it, i just wanna say that, it’s VERY possible and common to have a healthy relationship with a person who has a mental illness. I am positive that Skam will show us how to deal with this entire process. 

Personally, I have been in a relationship with a person that has mental illness for over 5 years now. It was difficult to deal with in the beginning, especially since we were just fresh out of college and so young. I didn’t understand it, and it was so frustrating and exhausting and emotionally draining. But I loved them, and I wanted to understand, so I learned, I read and researched. Open communication is key but also picking up on nonverbal cues and changes in behaviour. Sometimes they might lash out, because you’re constantly straddling the line of partner, caretaker and “control freak” to them but show them support and that you care for them.  

Over the years, it became manageable to deal with, we worked out a system that allowed for both of us to be comfortable and healthy. The most important thing is to let them know that they have the freedom of choice with you. A lot of the times, a person who has mental illness feel out of control and their disease takes the freedom to choose away from them. Be understanding, be alert. Dealing with how they take their medication is also important, talk it out with them, understand their perspectives but also educate both yourselves on how the medications work to see if it’s the best solution. If you’re confused or don’t know how to be in a relationship with a person who has a mental disorder, seek out a professional. and do some research online. There are plenty of local organisations and youth programs that can help, don’t be afraid to talk to them. 

Most importantly, let go of the stigma that comes attached with having a mental disorder, they are just regular people with interests, feelings, passion and amazing personalities, who just happen to have a mental disorder. Educate yourself, create a support system around them, show them love and appreciate them. Take care of yourself as well, create your OWN support system and don’t neglect your own emotions while you try to be there for the people that you love. 

As for Isak and Even, I hope that they’d have the strength to be able to find that balance and work through it all together. It is definitely a process yes but I hope Skam’s writers would be able to show us a little bit of that. I hope that they show that people ARE willing to sacrifice things for love in 2016. I know that I have and I don’t regret it.