strong moms

dating advice: the “captain america” rule

Context: I grew up in a family of nerds, and superheroes were always a really big part of my childhood. Captain America was a favorite, and he kind of became my family’s standard for good behavior and just generally being a Nice Person. (If one of the kids started a fight they’d get hit with, “What would Captain America think of how you’re acting?”, stuff like that.)

So when I got to high school and started dating, my mom told me something that sounds funny but in retrospect actually turned out to be really good advice:

“Date someone who treats you the way Captain America would. Never settle for less.” 

And this has actually helped me so much in my dating life, through high school and into my adult years, because even if it’s a little silly, it’s been really helpful to have that standard in the back of my mind when I’m first going into a relationship. 

Would Captain America ignore my calls? Would Captain America forget my birthday? Would Captain America get mad at me for cancelling a date because a family emergency came up? If the answer is no, then I know that the person I’m currently dating does not meet my standards, and that I need to break things off before they get too serious.

And your standard absolutely does not have to be Captain America, specifically. It can be any person, male or female, real or fictional, who is known for being respectful and considerate. It can even be an imaginary “soulmate” that you make up yourself. The point is to have a specific idea of how you expect to be treated by your romantic partners, and to refuse to compromise or settle for less. (Just make sure you’re holding yourself to the same standards – you can’t expect to date superheroes if you’re going to treat your partners the way a supervillain would.) This is a really good way to keep yourself from falling into bad relationships where you aren’t treated with the respect and care you deserve.

TL;DR: You deserve to date people who are respectful and considerate of you. You deserve a Captain America. Don’t settle for less. 

I get so mad about people who insist that doctors went to med school so they can never be wrong about your health like ???? Some Doctors hate fat people??? Some doctors hate the mentally ill or give Helpful NT Advice instead of treatment??? My ob/gyn took four years and a strong arm from my mom to figure out I had pcos???

Doctors are not gods??????

Okay but like, what if Inko can only attract objects to her that she already has the strength to pick up herself.

She pulls a couch towards her with one hand. She flies Izuku’s hand weights without blinking for him. She’s exhausted but that car is now six inches away from a rabbit den near the park.

So when swimsuit season comes, sure she’s wearing a one piece but that doesn’t conceal her ARMS and All Might is just like “HOLY SHIT” and Izuku is just like “yeah she’s always been kinda ripped” because her beautiful Mom Fluff™ only serves to enhance and protect her Strong Mom Muscles™

Toshi kinda dies

Moon=Mother

Aries Moon- Likely be a mom who pushes independence and assertiveness. Needs their “me” time, is busy/active, and is expressive about wants. 

Taurus Moon- Likely a mom who nurtures in a very physical way, is stable, makes family feel safe, but can be highly unmovable.

Gemini Moon- Nurtures communication, intellect, and is a supportive parent. They can have a scattered energy however.

Cancer Moon- Highly protective and nurturing mother. Has a hard time letting children leave the nest. Is especially emotionally nurturing.

Leo Moon- Nurtures ego and self-esteem. Gives praise and attention. Likes to show off children. Is playful and generous too.

Virgo Moon- Caring mother who nurtures in a physical and mental way. Highly dependable and devoted. Can have high standards and stress easily.

Libra Moon- Mom who nurtures with expression, appreciation, and sometimes gifts. Pushes for harmony in the home. Can be too soft on children.

Scorpio Moon- Highly protective and strong mom. Wants to create a deep bond. But can be controlling and manipulative. Is instinctive.

Sagittarius Moon- Nurtures self-esteem and curiosity. Can be an energetic and busy mom. Might not always be reliable. Wants to be a role model.

Capricorn Moon- Nurtures in a physical way but has an emotionally cool side, is a proving mom, pushes kids to be successful, can be strict.

Aquarius Moon- Mostly nurtures independence, social skills, intellect, and communication. Can be a detached and unpredictable mom. Helps form their child’s individuality. Fights for their rights and freedoms.

Pisces Moon- Nurtures child’s imagination and emotions. Is protective, loving, sacrificing, sometimes unrealistic. Can coddle or hide away child. Is receptive to child.

Let's get real for a second

Being a single mom is hard. Like really hard.

Everything is on me, from things as small as cooking dinner to things as big as potty training. Every single day, every single minute I hear the constant whines, cries, laughter, and “mommy’s” I don’t know what silence is. I don’t know what it means to sit down and watch a 30 minute TV episode.

My house often goes unclean. Sometimes we eat Easy Mac for dinner. I usually go 3 days between showers.

New clothes, the cost of daycare, anything from Tylenol to toys to diapers is all paid for by me.

And the kicker? Society looks at single moms like WE’RE the ones that failed, that we couldn’t keep our legs closed, or we did something to make our man run away. But what society doesn’t see is the millions of articles I read to be a better mom, the time I’m taking off work so I can be at my son’s school party, or that I’m stretching myself thin to give my son everything he wants.

Single moms are by far the strongest beings on this entire planet and I think we deserve a little more recognition than we receive.

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kdrama women’s week, day 8: age of youth lovefest
↳ favourite couple: yoon jin myung x kang yi na

If you hurt her, I will not break you, or hurt you, or injure you. I won’t even need to get involved. Because I raised my daughter to be independent and skilled enough to break you for herself, and her way is a lot more painful than anything I could even dream of. She may share her mother’s mind and my heart, but everything about her is individually, confidently, completely her own and that is a very dangerous combination to mess with. I raised my girl to be a wolf so she can deal with predators, not a flower to be admired, then trampled upon. Remember that.
—  My Feminist Dad to my Decidedly Not Feminist Ex | Nikita Gill
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today is mothers day, but if you are somewhat like me who doesn’t have a great mother that wasn’t in your life and you feel kind of empty and sad today.

Let me tell you - your mother and her flaws do not define you! 

You not having a mother does not make you any less of a person.

You are your own beautiful self and anything she has or hasn’t done is not what makes you as a person.

You are loved and you are good enough!

There are people around you who love you so very much, trust me on this ok?

If you need someone to talk to, I am here for you. I can try to be there <3

I love you and stay safe, sweetheart!

I hate crying in front of people because my abusive mom always called me a drama queen and accused me of trying to manipulate her. When I can’t help but cry, I’m so ashamed. The tears, the shakiness, the trembling, feels so fake and staged even though I have no control over it. I can’t be comforted by other people anymore and it’s all her fault. I just want to be able to cry in someone’s arms without feeling like a monster.
—  Posted by Anonymous
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Lady Bird dir. Greta Gerwig (2017)

Christine “Lady Bird” McPherson (Saoirse Ronan) fights against but is exactly like her wildly loving, deeply opinionated and strong-willed mom (Laurie Metcalf), a nurse working tirelessly to keep her family afloat after Lady Bird’s father (Tracy Letts) loses his job. Set in Sacramento, California in 2002, amidst a rapidly shifting American economic landscape, Lady Bird is an affecting look at the relationships that shape us, the beliefs that define us, and the unmatched beauty of a place called home.