strong and tough

Three non-stereotypical things about the signs

Aries: they are secretly romantic, great listeners and they are not as confident as they may seem

Taurus: they set high standards for themselves, they are more rational than emotional and they are organized 

Gemini: they are pretty sensitive, unable to say “no” to their friends and they love staying indoors sometimes

Cancer: they are very resilient, extremely complex and they have some of the most diverse sense of humor

Leo: they place others’ needs before their own, they are incredibly clingy and they are really smart people

Virgo: they are up for any adventures, they have intense trust issues and they never forgive

Libra: they are heavily educated/ informed, they notice the smallest details and they aren’t always optimistic

Scorpio: they are super shy and bashful when they first meet people, they are hilarious and all they want is true love and to start their own family

Sagittarius: they are undeniably poetic, they are committed when they find the right person and they are caring

Capricorn: they know how to let loose and party hard, they have contagious laughs and they are compassionate

Aquarius: they are in-tune with their feelings deep down inside, they are charismatic and they forget easily

Pisces: they fear loneliness, they are tough/strong and they have huge ambitions

What’s really incredible about Mad Max: Fury Road is that our titular, brooding White Male Lead in an Action Movie™ is given no opportunities to appear badass or heroic unless he’s working as a team or directly helping the women.

We see Max alone in the desert, all brooding and action-hero-y, clearly haunted by a tragic past… and he’s immediately captured, chained, humiliated and spends the next half hour tied up and useless while Furiosa is off getting shit done.

Then he gets free and he comes in waving a gun around and embarrassing himself. It’s not until Furiosa calms him down, wins him over, and he starts following her orders that he’s allowed to appear properly badass - in an action sequence that begins with him handing her a gun, and which progresses with the two of them working as the ultimate team while the girls help him as much as he defends them.

Then they’re in the Night Bog. Max fails to hit the Bullet Farmer and instead becomes a prop to steady Furiosa’s shot. Then he runs off on a solo mission and it doesn’t even merit screen time. Some dude lone wolfing it to kill a scary bad guy? Who cares. Let’s watch Nux running in front of the rig and the girls cooling down the engines instead.

Then comes the final chase. Max is undeniably awesome, but he is only allowed to be awesome because all of his efforts are dedicated to helping and protecting his weird new family. And the instant he hears Furiosa is hurt, all of his badass moments are pivoted around reaching her. He fights a hundred war boys, jumps over trucks, swings off poles, sets of explosions, beats someone with a flamethrower guitar, just so he can be there to catch Furiosa once she has killed the big bad Immortan Joe.

And, of course, his biggest heroic moment in the film isn’t even a cool action sequence or taking out a villain - it’s saving someone’s life. It’s being selfless and compassionate. It’s expressing love and humanity. It’s acting as a nurse and donating his blood. Max’s triumph is fixing something that’s broken.

Then, at the end, instead of being rewarded with a sexy girl and something else cool like most action heroes, Max gets nothing. He gives everything to Furiosa - his love, his loyalty, his fighting skills, his blood, his name - and he takes nothing in return, nor does he feel he is owed anything. He is content simply to help her, and thanks to this love and selflessness he was able to achieve some kind of redemption. 

In Fury Road, a man’s heroism is not determined by how strong or tough he is - it is defined by how willing he is to love, help, support and protect others, particularly women, while demanding nothing in return. 

I’m sure someone has already said this more eloquently than me but can we just talk about how diana bucks the Strong Female Character stereotype? too many people seem to think that Strong Female Characters = tough as nails, smartass, feisty, would never dream of crying, rejects all things feminine, not like other girls. diana IS tough but she’s also warm and kind and compassionate. she gets excited over a baby, she’s upset by the treatment of the horses, she doesn’t reject her feelings for steve, she’s visibly unsettled by the sight of wounded soldiers and crying children… and none of this is demeaned or treated as weakness or girlish naivety. I just thought that was so important and refreshing and beautiful 

“I don't know if I can ever let Papyrus into the Royal Guard.”

So, I’ve always seen Undyne’s unwillingness to allow Papyrus into the Royal Guard a bit differently than I think the usual consensuses are. While it seems to be taken as a way of showing Papyrus is cinnamon roll too precious too pure innocent bean so oblivious protect him, I always felt like it was more… the opposite?

I could (and almost did, a few times) go into a larger rant about this, but I think if you play UT without knowing anything about it, vs knowing a little about it, Undyne and Papyrus are both meant to be seen a bit negatively until various turning points. Papyrus is probably meant to be seen as stupid and inept and weak, all things that he is not, and through his fight, his date, his friendship and calls, and eventually Undyne’s confession, the fact that he is not all of that is revealed. He’s not in the Royal Guard because he’s too nice. Not because he’s weak. Not because he’s stupid. Not because he’s inept.

(but if you go in already knowing Papyrus is (and monsters as a whole are) nice/sweet/cinnamon roll, I think it has the opposite effect of making him seem weak because he is nice. I don’t think that’s the message at all the scene is meant to convey.)

That moment is supposed to be a final affirmation of who Papyrus is as a character, a nice guy who isn’t the right fit for his dreams because of his morals and good character, not because of his (supposed lack of) abilities. This moment is also the start of softening and revealing Undyne’s character, showing the level of care and concern she has for the people around her, which, to this point on a pacifist run, you likely would not have seen.

So basically, what I’m saying is, I don’t think this was meant to be a sign that Pap needs to be coddled and infantilized, but a sign that he doesn’t need to be. He’s tough, he’s competent, but he’s just not a solider. 

But there’s more to it than just that…

While Undyne cites the fear that Papyrus would just let himself be killed as a motive for why she doesn’t want to let someone so nice into the Guard, I feel like this was also an early hint at the nature of LOVE. LOVE changes souls and causes them to harden and change, and it’s effects on a human are strong enough to be noticable, but it seems likely that monsters, who are more in-tune with their souls, would react even more to gaining LV. Wanting to protect Papyrus and his innocence and niceness likely goes beyond just a worry that he would allow himself to be killed if placed in that position. 

Because if it’s kill or be killed, and Papyrus did kill (because Undyne trained him seriously as a solider, instead of just cooking lessons and roughhousing), he would gain LV and probably lose the part of his personality that Undyne admires. That nice, innocent, friendly part of Papyrus’s soul, would be chipped away, and Undyne perceives that that would be her fault for placing him in that position. 

So I think it’s a lot more than just Papyrus being seen as too stupid to protect himself. I think Undyne’s considered both options, but the other doesn’t come up because you aren’t meant to know the nature of LOVE at this point, and because she’s not going to go into the minutia of her hard-thought decision to an eight year old.

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I’d like to think that Otabek was there to comfort Yuri after his breakdown. I also like to remind myself that Yuri is 15 years old and is still very much a child and people give him way too much credit for his strong and tough self, he’s so vulnerable and tries his hardest and wants to be loved the way he’s learned to love throughout the season ok plskthxbai.

I was supposed to finish this earlier but Carrie Fisher passing away really shook me and I cried and I was just lost for a good long while.

lance has killer upper arm strength u guys. think about it. that big ass gun bayard?? it’s gotta be heavy. not as heavy as hunks but heavy nonetheless. lance may not work out as much as shiro but the boy is strong!!! He could benchpress Keith and keith wouldn’t be surprised!!! he knows his boyf is strong!!!

Men are so often mocked for acting too much like women.
I remember the single act that really got me thinking about the quiet, engrained, and socially sanctioned sexism in our society was a man mocking his friends.

A man working at Home Depot saw some of his buddies working down a specific aisle and he called down to them in a ribbing and “I love ya so I’m going to insult you” manner, “hey ladies! Why don’t you get to work?!”.

He called them ladies. Like, a man being a lady implies he’s weak, slow, unable to work, and a whole host of negative imagery.

Another example I can think of I have personal experience in is during football season… A man I know calls the Vikings the “Viqueens” when they play his favorite team. Again, feminizing them in order to bring them shame and to show their inferiority.

No one uses being manly as an insult except when it’s being directed towards a woman to imply she’s not feminine enough to be pleasing to look at or trying to take a man’s place in whatever she’s doing.

Women in America undoubtedly have more opportunities and more rights than we ever have before. But it’s this undercurrent of thought that women and femininity is the lesser of things to be.
It is weak.
It is frail.
It is inferior.
It is subpar.

It is because men, and women too, are taught these things, not overtly… But very subtly, that women have less opportunity.
They don’t deserve harder jobs because they can’t really handle them.
They don’t deserve higher wages because they don’t do the job as well.
They don’t deserve my vote because they’re too emotional or irrational.
If they’re being strong or though it’s obviously an act/for show because women aren’t strong and tough.

Sexism isn’t always a slap on the ass by a stranger.
Sometimes, sexism is the worldview of those you love most.

protection chant

(since I wrote this for myself, it is semi-gendered and also uses the word “bitch”)

Do not fuck with this witch,
I am one badass bitch,
touch me and your hands will burn –
come near me and your stomach turns
as I say it, it shall be:
now stay the fuck away from me.

(when threatened whisper/chant quietly or repetitively think on this chant. This one makes me feel really strong and tough and I enjoy the colloquial language in it a LOT.)

When Hera Calls Kanan 'Love'

I’ve honestly been a little surprised this week by the wide variety of reactions to Hera calling Kanan ‘Love’ in the Rebels season three finale.

This is my take:

Kanan and Hera’s canon relationship status is established from their very first scene together in the pilot, in which Hera calls Kanan—you guessed it, 'Love.’

Hera continues to call Kanan 'Love’ or 'Dear’ repeatedly throughout the first season of the show as our heroes fight the Empire around their home base of Lothal and beyond. But then the season ends and so do the terms of endearment, vanishing entirely from her lips until we reach “Zero Hour.” (And we all collectively groaned “Whhhyyyyyyy????”)

This is where I think it gets interesting and says so much about Hera’s character. The real key, to me, is what happens at the end of season 1: the Ghost crew joins the Phoenix Squadron/greater rebellion—a move which was, first and foremost, Hera’s idea. And she quickly becomes a ranking member of the military group.

Suddenly, they are no longer just the space family roaming about solo anymore, they are part of something larger, and their missions, rather than being personal, are now professional, even when they are not with the rest of the fleet. Since before A New Dawn, Hera has been, is, and always will be devoted to and driven by her larger goals in life, and she quickly embraces the professionalism of her new role.

Thus, because we nearly always see Kanan and Hera in the company of others and on a mission, 'dear’ and 'love’ vanish from her public vocabulary. If you happened to work with your significant other (especially in a highly structured or professional environment), you wouldn’t call them 'babe’, hubby’, 'wifey’, etc. at work either.

Over the course of the next two seasons, Hera’s professionalism continues; she grows as a leader and her sense of command expands, until we reach the crisis of “Zero Hour.” The imperial bombardment rains down on Chopper Base, and we watch Hera’s expression shift from confidence/hope to a visceral fear/terror. Before the bombardment, she tells Kanan “You need to get back to base immediately"—a command, an order, properly phrased and neutral. But afterwards (and in front of General Dodonna, no less) that shifts to: "Now please, come home, Love.”

Originally posted by old-type-40

In the face of their mutual near death experiences, Hera drops her professional guard and for a single moment, they are just them. She’s Hera, and Kanan’s the man she loves, whose safety matters more than anything else in the galaxy. The moment is both minuscule and enormous. It’s just one slip, but it reassures us—it tells us that no matter where they go, what they do, or who they work with, Kanan and Hera are still Kanan and Hera.

Their private life may be private, but they are still as in love and devoted as ever. And this is beautiful to me.

I also want to note that her admission isn’t a weakness, in any way. Just a little while later, when Thrawn threatens Kanan to try to get Hera to surrender (certainly inferring the nature of their relationship himself), she stands as strong as ever.

Tough as durasteel and always in love with her Jedi, that’s my girl.