Take a shower, wash off the day. Drink a glass of water. Make the room dark. Lie down and close your eyes. Notice the silence. Notice your heart. Still beating. Still fighting. You made it, after all. You made it, another day. And you can make it one more. You’re doing just fine.

anonymous asked:

Any advice on how to cope with stressful situations? I'm in my first year of college and it's finals week soon and I have this coping mechanism where I just shut down completely when I'm too stressed out and it's getting pretty bad and only making it worse but I don't really know how else to deal

yes i have a few!!!!! i’ve written about dealing with stress and staying motivated when things are overwhelming a few times! here here and here :) i hope you find any of those helpful. i so relate particularly to the feeling of shutting down or slipping into complete paralysis/lethargy when stressed and it can be such a difficult cycle to break. i think in particular the tips about getting out of bed or your typical work locations and going somewhere different as well as turning off tech have helped me with that. i hope you take care of yourself and that things get better soon x good luck with exams and everything else <333

Like, in the US, most obese people are POOR, because unhealthy, high calorie, high fat, high salt foods are actually much cheaper than healthy foods. Our food system and health system are fucked and bizarre. I can get a cheese burger from McDonalds for less than a bag of carrots.

You are fighting the good fight when you said this @fandomsandfeminism, but I just need to correct this bit of misinformation so you can continue fighting with the right facts on your side. [source thread; cw fat phobia]

Poor people, and especially poor people of color, are indeed more likely to be fat than their richer and/or white counterparts. But the reason is not because “unhealthy” food is cheaper. 

Food insecurity is one important reason that poorer people are fatter. But the processes by which food insecurity leads to fatness has less to do with the types of foods people eat and more to do with the metabolic changes that result from cyclical starvation. [source]

 Also, the stress of social oppression changes people’s biochemistry in such a way that becoming fat is more likely. Stress hormones tip the balance towards growing the fat organ, even when food is scarce and people are malnourished. [source]

And being fat actually offers protection against many of the diseases that are caused by the stress of oppression and poverty – including cardiovascular disease, cancer, type 2 diabetes, kidney disease, and others. Once people develop these diseases of social oppression, being fat is actually a good thing. [source]

 Also, white supremacy is based in part on valuing a thin body type that is more common among white people of European ancestry, whereas many of the racial and ethnic groups that are marginalized under white supremacy also happen to be fatter, or at least, prone to fatness under certain circumstances. Old timey racists basically latched onto fat phobia as a means of further oppressing and excluding the people they wanted to oppress and exclude. [source]

So basically, poor people are fat for a whole host of reasons that have nothing to do with the cost of McDonalds. That is actually just a fat phobic myth that allows privileged people to “blame” poor fat people for their body size and the poor health status that is incorrectly attributed to that body size. It’s easy to avoid responsibility for social oppression when poor people are just fat and sick because they make made food choices, am I right? Yuck. [read more]

I know you wouldn’t want to perpetuate that type of harmful and abusive ideology, so it’s a good idea if you – and all of us – stop spreading that myth around!

Stress Management Techniques for Reducing Test Anxiety

Technique #1: Challenge yourself–defeating thoughts

“If you knew you could handle anything that came your way, what would you have to fear.”
— Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.

The way you think about a situation dictates how you will react to it. If you are thinking about test situations in a negative, worried, or fearful way, you will likely have a high degree of test anxiety. You are scaring yourself by telling yourself you cannot handle tests. These thoughts are self–defeating.

To challenge yourself–defeating thoughts, first identify what you say to yourself about tests. These statements typically have “catastrophic” overtones. Once you recognize what you are saying to yourself, come up with a realistic coping statement. Coping statements allow you to problem–solve instead of panic.

Example : “I could never study enough for this test.” -> “I have a lot to study for this test, but if I stick to my schedule, I can do it.”

Technique #2: Thought Stopping

When you feel anxious, listen to what you are telling yourself. Interrupt your anxiety-producing thoughts by yelling “STOP” to yourself. Take a deep breath, and make yourself come up with a coping statement. Do this as often as necessary before and during a test. Use the following procedure to learn this technique.

Practice the thought–stopping technique any time you begin to feel anxious. Eventually, it will become a method that feels comfortable and almost automatic.

Technique #3: Recognize your control in the outcome of a test

It is self–defeating to tell yourself that your test performance is not in your control. These thoughts create anxiety and prevent you from studying effectively. Focus on what you can do to improve your test performance.

Technique #4: Deep breathing

Deep breathing is one of the simplest techniques you can use to reduce anxiety before, during, and after a test. Breathing provides you with oxygen necessary to think clearly and releases physical tension at the same time.

  1. Close your eyes.
  2. Breath through your nose. Breathe in deeply into your abdomen. Pause before you exhale.
  3. Breathe out from your abdomen slowly.
  4. Use each inhalation as a moment to become aware of any tension in your body. Use each exhalation as an opportunity to let go of tension.
  5. Repeat once, then return to the test.

Technique #5: Imagery and Visualization

Use this technique before a test to calm yourself and improve your concentration. Create a visualization that works for you. Remember, the purpose of visualization is to help you relax and cope.


  • Imagine a scene that feels pleasurable and relaxing.
  • Let  yourself stay with that scene for a few moments
  • Once you feel relaxed, imagine going in for your test.
  • Imagine yourself calmly sitting down, waiting for the professor to pass out the test. As you receive the test, you say to yourself “I am prepared. Relax. Concentrate.” You turn the test over and read the directions, planning your time carefully. You read and answer the first question…

Visualization: “Quick pics”

  • Think about something melting when you want to relax. “Melting” evokes many images:
  • snow melting in the sun
  • a flame melting candle wax
  • marshmallow melting in hot chocolate
  • butter melting in a pan
  • chocolate chips melting in Toll House cookies

Technique #6: Muscle relaxation

Progressive muscle relaxation is a very effective technique, which you can use daily as well as before and after a test situation

Technique #7: Avoid stress triggers

Avoid people or situations that create anxiety.

  • Avoid discussing course material with other students immediately before the test. Last minute cramming generally causes more anxiety and concern about how and what you studied.
  • Pay  attention to the time allotted for the test, but avoid excessive     clock–watching
  • Avoid getting to the test “just in time.” Plan to arrive early to settle in and  relax.
  • Avoid food or drinks that are stimulants and increase “jitters.” (This varies by individual).
  • Avoid believing rumors you hear about the test. Check it out with the person who really knows – your professor!
  • Avoid talking about your test grade with other students if this increases your anxiety. If you feel uncomfortable with being asked “How did you do”, respond with “I did as well as I expected.” or “I’d rather not talk about my grades.”
  • Avoid checking the progress of other students during the test. Remember: it doesn’t take long for someone to complete a test when he/she hasn’t studied.
  • Conduct your post–test review by yourself if discussion with your classmates increases your anxiety.

Hi everyone! I’ve seen a few floating around, but I wanted to make my own April Study challenge! Below are the questions, which can be answered in the caption of a photo post or as a text post. If you answer any, please tag me, #nkbstudies or #heynay, or @ me so I can reblog it! Have a fun month of April <3

The tag for this challenge is #aprilsc, so as not to interfere with the tags of other challenges.


1 (Sa). How do you stay motivated?

2 (Su). Do you prefer to study alone or with friends?

3 (M). What’s your favorite spot to study (outside of your usual study space)?

4 (Tu). What’s your least favorite subject to study? How do you keep yourself motivated to study it?

5 (W). What’s your preferred method for planning?

6 (Th). How do you keep your work organized?

7 (F). What is your favorite subject to study?

8 (Sa). What’s your favorite book?

9 (Su). What’s your study space like?

10 (M). What are some of your general study tips?  

11 (Tu). Do you like to snack while studying? If so, what sort of snacks do you like?

12 (W). What sort of goals do you like to make and focus on? (i.e. long term/short term, incentives, etc.)

13 (Th). What’s your aesthetic (or your ideal aesthetic)?

14 (F). Who’s the best teacher/professor you’ve ever had, and why were they the best?

15 (Sa). Who’s the worst teacher/professor you’ve ever had, and why were they the worst?

16 (Su). Do you prefer binders or notebooks and folders?

17 (M). What are some of your favorite studyblrs?

18 (Tu). How do you like to take notes? What method is your favorite?

19 (W). What’s your must-have piece of stationery?

20 (Th). Where are you hoping to be 5 years from now? 10? 15?

21 (F). What are some of your subject-specific study tips?

22 (Sa). How much noise do you like when you’re studying? Do you like to listen to music/white noise, or does it need to be silent?

23 (Su). What gets you out of bed in the morning?

24 (M). How do you like to study for tests? What methods are your favorite?

25 (Tu). Do you get nervous for exams? If so, how do you combat this?

26 (W). What’s in your pencil case?

27 (Th). What is your favorite thing to do outside of school?

28 (F). April is Stress Awareness Month! What tips do you have for balancing school and mental health?

29 (Sa). What is your favorite kind of weather for studying? What’s your favorite kind of weather in general?

30 (Su). How has the month of April been for you?

supersquiddy  asked:

Werid question but how do you get your traditional artwork to look so smooth but also sketchy? If that makes sense.

My main things are (this turned out to be a lot longer than I thought! Srry!)

Loose lines: draw with your whole arm if you can! (drawing anchored to your wrist can lead to Carpal tunnel syndrome.. and no one wants that)

Full lines: try to keep your lines fluid, fast and long (as opposed to short and scratchy lines that make one big line) look for YouTube videos on gesture drawing! Get things down quick and flesh them out later, usually the first thing we mark down will be the most accurate when doing gestures!

Sketch lightly: use heavy lines sparingly! They can really define a sketch but be sparing, there can be too much of a good thing. I always start sketches almost invisibly light to map out the bare bones of my drawings! Then because they’re so light, you don’t have to erase them if you don’t want to!

Shapes: shapes r your friends!! 🌸 use shapes to get the (figurative or literal) skeleton down!! Almost anything can be boiled down to basic shapes!

REFERENCE: IT! IS! OK! TO! REFERENCE! I can’t stress this enough, free reference photo databases are just a google away! Learn that anatomy fam! Even if you’re doing cartoons, it will be so much easier with the anatomical knowledge! Also, I have no problem with learning artists referencing my art when starting out with drawing.. 2 RULES TO REFERENCING PRE-EXISTING ART: 1) don’t claim it’s your art. 2) ask the artist if it’s cool first! Some aren’t okay with it and ya gotta respect it! ❤Also try to get off the crutch of referencing pre-existing art quickly! Referencing art helps you practice, but nothing beats referencing from real, organic life, because that’s where your style will come out.

Simplify: esp. pertaining to expressions, the more you complicate things, the harder it will be for it to read. It will get lost among the busyness. Look at the drawing as a whole as opposed to only paying attention for details. Don’t be concerned with making a masterpiece!! Sketchbooks should be messy!

Get back to basics: anatomy, colour theory and the elements of design!!! they help a whole heck of a lot!!! Never be satisfied with your knowledge of these basic things bc you learned them in like kindergarten,, okay????

A(cting)RT: you can convey a LOT if you have the mindset of telling a story with your sketch!

Cheap: don’t worry abt using fancy shmancy supplies! I get mine from the dollar store (sketchbook, erasers and mechanical pencils! Definitely get good paper if ur using copics or high quality markers but like I literally only sketch traditionally w pencil… ) I find I’m so scared to use expensive sketchbooks that I hardly draw in them and I hate everything I draw. I go through like 1 or more sketchbooks a month so… that would rack up quick if I was using like $20.00 sketchbooks instead of $2.00 ones.

Listen: Listen to music or podcasts or audio books or drawing tutorials if it helps!! It can sometimes even influence the mood of your drawing :0

Sketch often: every day if you can!! It’s a good habit if you want to get better!! And therapeutic!!!

Accept CONSTRUCTIVE criticism!!: It’s not an insult! It’s someone else’s view! Get critiqued often! And actually listen!! Know the difference between constructive and destructive!! Also join a community! Meet other artist! Collaborate! Art isn’t a competition! ❤

quick round!

Study art history: they’re famous for a reason!

Draw inspiration from everywhere!

When referencing, draw what you see, not what you know!

Think about drawing in 3D, more like it’s sculpting instead of drawing! Everything is made of flat plains and will cast shadows!!

If you’re up to it, challenge yourself! You’ll only get better if you step out of your comfort zone! Try to draw one new thing each sketching session!


Don’t stress!: most important drawing tip! Drawing is supposed to be fun and therapeutic because it doesn’t have to be anything! All art is art and everyone who makes art is an artist, it’s not some exclusive club, we all start somewhere! This is your art journey! Enjoy the ride!

I know you just wanted to know about how I sketch but I couldn’t help myself!!! Sorry! Hope this helps! 🌸
-hanna ❤


1. If something is stressing you out, take a break from it - homework, people, work, school (remember taking a mental health day is not a crime).

2. If you have to do whatever it is that’s stressing you out: change into something comfortable - pyjamas, jeans. If you feel most comfortable in a dress and makeup, do it!

3. Call someone you trust - talk about it, it WILL make you feel better.

4. Colour - seem’s a bit far-fetched, but you can get these really good colouring books for about £6-8 from Amazon and they are genuinely really nice to just fill in.

5. Do something you enjoy - Take a bath, go on tumblr, watch a movie, hang out with friends.

6. Find a distraction you like - Similar to the last one, but find something you want to do weekly or even daily: start a new hobby, decorate your room, tidy the house, go on a walk, go shopping, do anything except what was stressing you out.

7. Keep organised lists of things that need doing - That way, you’ll finish everything and not have a last minute realisation you didn’t do the grocery shopping or do that French assignment.

8. Don’t put your life on hold for something - You can’t hide in your room for hours every single day for the rest of your life trying to finish things. Go shopping for new clothes, take walks regularly, see friends when you can.

9. Remember stress is temporary - Stress is something you’ll regret later in life, you’ll think “god I wish I hadn’t worried so much over those assignment” like literally, its okay to be stressed: everyone gets stressed. Just avoid unnecessary worrying. :)

anonymous asked:

Hey, I really wanted to ask you for advice on how to write OC's that have been trough traumatic experiences, in a realistic way/without falling into too many clichés. If you have not answered that question yet, I'd really appreciate it, thanks!

Thanks for your question, love!  I’ve done some research for you :)  I’ve split it into two lists: details about psychological/emotional trauma and about PTSD, two separate but often comorbid situations.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Psychological/Emotional Trauma

There’s also my post on anxiety attacks, inclusive of trauma survivors :)

Anyway, that’s all I could find!  Sorry for the wait over the weekend </3  I hope you have a good week and easy writing ahead!

If you need advice on general writing or fanfiction, you should maybe ask me!

To those that keep Trying, 

It’s okay to take a break. It doesn’t mean you suck, or you’re a quitter. I think realizing, “hey, I’ve been doing my best and am fucking tired” and being okay with that mindset is important. Living every day isn’t always easy. Give yourself some credit and get some rest.

- someone who cares about you

1. Don’t Panic: If you’re reading this, you’re upset that you failed the class, and it’s good that you care. Don’t freak out, it’s not the end of the world. You either did or didn’t try your best, but there’s not much you can do about that now. 

2. Meet with an Advisor: There will be two options - either re-take the class, or move on (if it’s not an essential one). The plus-side to retaking is that it’ll be easier the second time around, the downside being that it’s going to take up time you could be using for another class. Moving on is a good option if it’s not going to mess up your GPA. 

3. Make a Plan:First of all, there’s a reason you failed. Figure out what that reason is. Was the class hard? Did you have extenuating circumstances? Or did you just not work hard enough? Regardless of the reason, figure out how you’re not going to fail again. 

4. Don’t Feel Guilty: It’s hard not to feel bad when you’re using your parents money for college, or you’re dealing with insane loans. But, you have to just move on. Continually stressing about it won’t change the failing grade, it’ll more likely contribute to future stress.


Have a system and stick to it!

  • Find a way that works for you in regards to school supplies and organizational methods. Some common ones include a folder for each class, a binder for each class, a notebook for each class, etc. Once you’ve found this system, and you’ve seen concrete evidence that it is effective (i.e. increased scores, less stress, etc) DO NOT CHANGE THE SYSTEM! The fact that the system is working is proof that you should continue what you’re doing!

Use a planner! Use a planner! Use a planner!

  • I can NOT stress enough the necessity to use a planner. Rely on the planner as if it is your own first born child, and your lifeblood. Planning is essential to staying on track with assignments and turning things in on time. Without them, you’re sure to not succeed.

Have a clean space

  • If your study space is not clean, then your thoughts will be as cluttered as the space is. Cleaning your study space will assist you in filtering out your schedule, and determining what needs to be done versus what will be done later. Filtering like this assists in the organizational process.

Keep your physical and mental health the main priority

  • There is absolutely, positively NO WAY to become organized if your physical and mental health are slacking. Your personal self needs to be prioritized over any assignment, ALWAYS. This is the key to success.

Normalize breaks

  • Many avid and dedicated studiers, especially within the studyblr community, work consistently with little to no breaks. I am here to discourage this as much as humanly possible. Taking breaks is essential to proper functioning and to excelling in academics. Normalize them, take them, and love them.

anonymous asked:

I sent this to someone who submitted to this blog about tips on stressing in customer service, and so I thought I'd send my tips in to help others. Try to separate your work self from your non work self (pretend you're an actor acting in a customer service job, it's not you, it's another person you're playing). If need be, style yourself (if you can) differently at work than what you would usually do. And remember, they would yell even if you weren't there. It's not you, it's them.

For People Who Experience Sleep Paralysis

These are some things I’ve learned over time about how to deal with sleep paralysis:

  • It usually happens when you’re stressed, sleep deprived, or when you try to take a nap at a time you’re not used to, so dealing with these problems first will decrease the chance of it happening to you.
  • For some people, after it’s over and they try to go back to sleep, it will keep happening over and over again. If this happens to you, get up for a while, turn your light on, go get some water, basically try to wake yourself up for a little while. It will usually stop it from happening again.
  • Another thing that helps for the above situation is moving a part of your body like your feet, toes, fingers, etc until you’re able to fall asleep again.
  • If you feel like it’s starting to happen, keep your eyes closed. Some people experience hallucinations that can be really horrible so it’s better to just not look okay?
  • While it’s happening, accept the fact that you’re going through sleep paralysis and remember that a lot of people have experienced it so it’s fairly normal.
  • Don’t panic and remind yourself that it will all be over soon.
  • Sleep on your side instead of your back.

These are all the tips I can think of at the moment. If you want to talk to someone about it I’m here :)

Study Tips // Alexander

Prompt : a list of study tips from Alex.

Alright alright le'z go!!


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[[ Alex ]]

- Try and study when you’re sleep or for the last 15 minutes you go to bed. Your brain will process to all night and you’ll wake up remembering it.
- Make a story or a rhyme with the information to help you remember it. When Esper was 4, she would repeat the sound ROYGBIV to remove the colours of the rainbow and she still remembers it now.
- You should study in a different place every day, it helps you a lot for some reason.
- After learning a new topic, quiz yourself. Find some questions online and take a test, see what score you got and you’ll soon knw if you need to keep studying or if you’re okay!
- Set yourself a study goal, for example ‘I’m going to study these three topics and get them right’ which will motivate you and when you’re done, treat yourself to something you like
- take small breaks every 20 minutes.
- listening to classical music van really help you study,  look up a piano loop on YouTube or the soundtrack to your favourite RPG.  Anything without words.
- Chew a unique flavoured gum while you study and take the same gum into the test with you - it will help you remember.