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15 things to remember:

1.   that thing you did that was kind of embarrassing and weird, everyone else forgot about that already

2.   you look fine today, if you can’t notice something on your face standing 6 feet from a mirror then nobody else will either.

3.   social lives can go through cycles sometimes, if you feel like your friends are all ignoring you for no reason they’re probably just busy with other things.

4.   if you can’t stop thinking about someone or something, read a book, paint your nails or watch a movie. it won’t solve any serious problems but you will feel better.

5.   listen with the intent to understand, not the intent to reply.

6.   if you want something, go get it. 

7.   drink lots of water, eat lots of fruit, exercise more, go outside, get enough sleep and think positive thoughts.

8.   if you don’t ask, the answer will always be no.

9.   throw away the idea of a perfect tomorrow and live in the moment.

10.  stop comparing yourself to others.

11.  a beautiful day begins with a beautiful mindset. It’s a privilege to simply be alive and healthy. Start acting like life is a blessing.

12.  act the way you’d like to be and soon you’ll be the way you’d like to act.

13.  you will change. You’re not the same person you were three years ago. you’re not even the same person you were three minutes ago and that’s okay. especially if you don’t like the person you were three minutes ago.

14.  you don’t have to open the curtains if you don’t want to.

15.  being happy is the most important thing.

anonymous asked:

How can I be happy?

- let go of the past. 

- forgive yourself.

- live in the present. 

- do things that make you feel good.

- be optimistic, focus on the good.

- surround yourself with people who love and care about you. get rid of the people who don’t.

- whatever your current situation is, learn to appreciate it.

- stop comparing yourself to others.

- stop being so hard on yourself.

- enjoy the little things - like the sunset, the warm weather, your favorite tv show, etc.

- know that good things will happen to you.

Stop comparing yourself to others; it’s toxic.

No one is thinking about what you’re wearing, the pimple on your chin, or how messy your hair is. No one cares.

Things happen at a different pace for everyone and that’s okay.

Stop looking at your old conversations with them. Stop checking their social media. Stop checking up on them. Stop.

Abstain from living by all these unspoken rules. Talk to that cute girl at the coffee shop. Ask more questions. Demand to be heard.

Have respect for yourself because you deserve it.

Ask for help if you need it, there is absolutely no shame in needing help.

Sometimes you’re not going to feel okay, sometimes you won’t feel okay for a long time, and that is okay.

You are more than all of this.

You shouldn’t be ashamed of the things that you enjoy. 

Not everyone is going to stay and you have to learn to be alright with this, grieve, and move on.

Learn to be kind with yourself. 

You shouldn’t waste time trying to live up to someone else’s ideal version of you. 

It’s normal to be scared, everyone’s scared sometimes, and that’s quite alright. 

Don’t let anybody else tell you how to live.

All that matters is that at the end of the day you feel accomplished. That you feel proud of who you are and how you’re living your life. What others are thinking does not and will not ever matter.

—  Things I’ve Learned Since Graduating High School
Dignity
/ˈdignitē/ noun

1. The moment you realize that the person you cared for has nothing intellectually or spiritually to offer you, but a headache.

2. The moment you realize God had greater plans for you that don’t involve crying at night or sad Pinterest quotes.

3. The moment you stop comparing yourself to others because it undermines your worth, education and your parent’s wisdom.

4. The moment you live your dreams, not because of what it will prove or get you, but because that is all you want to do. People’s opinions don’t matter.

5. The moment you realize that no one is your enemy, except yourself.

6. The moment you realize that you can have everything you want in life. However, it takes timing, the right heart, the right actions, the right passion and a willingness to risk it all. If it is not yours, it is because you really didn’t want it, need it or God prevented it.

7. The moment you realize the ghost of your ancestors stood between you and the person you loved. They really don’t want you mucking up the family line with someone that acts anything less than honorable.

8. The moment you realize that happiness was never about getting a person. They are only a helpmate towards achieving your life mission.

9. The moment you believe that love is not about losing or winning. It is just a few moments in time, followed by an eternity of situations to grow from.

10. The moment you realize that you were always the right person. Only ignorant people walk away from greatness.

—  Shannon L. Alder

3 Steps for Loving Yourself

Cases of self-hate are worryingly increasing among adolescents. In addition to the bad body image that the media portrays and the social expectations of perfection, some unlikely culprits are also fuelling self-hate. Identifying the problem will be the first way of turning that car around, driving away from the self-hate and into a haven of respect and love for oneself.

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1. stop comparing yourself to other people. embrace your differences. remember what you have to offer the world. make lists of your good traits. forget what other people can do better and remember what you do good.


2. tell your friends you love and appreciate them more. thank them for listening. thank them for being them. forgive them faster and stop letting petty things get in between your friendships.

3. stop going back to the ex who screwed you over. be friends if you want, but remember they don’t even deserve your friendship. remember you cannot be fixed by the one who broke you.

4. let go of the people who are bringing you down. if a relationship brings you more pain than joy, it’s a toxic relationship. stop putting effort into people who refuse to meet you half way.

5. compliment yourself at least one time every day. try to compliment others every day as well.

6. get serious about your health. eat wheat bread and less sugar. exercise, even if it’s just walking. don’t do this for a flat stomach; do it because it’s good for your health.

7. take care of your mental health. surround yourself with people who make the negative thoughts in your head shut off. ask for help. see a therapist if you need one. take your pills as prescribed.

8. stop letting little things bother you. ask yourself if you’re really going to care about it in five years, and if the answer is no, let go of it. stop wasting time feeling sorry for yourself. sometimes you can’t help but to get upset over things, but when you do, do everything in your power to try to cheer yourself up.

9. use the internet less. read more books. spend more time with your family. spend more time being present and looking people in the eye. look up and appreciate the beauty around you.

10. drink less alcohol. do things with people that doesn’t involve drinking. discover how to have fun sober.

11. start the career you actually want. switch majors, even if you will end up spending more time in school. go back to college if you’re not in it and you want a profession you have to go to college for. i know it’s expensive but the rest of your life is worth it.

12. stop watching life pass you by. learn to say yes and learn to say no. learn to make decisions for yourself. learn to say “i am unhappy where i am so i am changing it.” make the first move. take charge of your life.

13. save more money for things you really want, whether it be a vacation or a new pair of shoes. stop blowing money on things you don’t need. pay your bills on time and avoid the late fees.

14. appreciate the good things in your life. eliminate negative self talk (or at least try to). think about three good things in your life every morning before you get out of bed. stop dwelling on the bad.

15. give your all in everything you do. don’t settle for mediocrity. work every day to be a better person than you were the day before.

—  fifteen new years resolutions you can keep

15 things to remember:

1.   that thing you did that was kind of embarrassing and weird, everyone else forgot about that already

2.   you look fine today, if you can’t notice something on your face standing 6 feet from a mirror then nobody else will either.

3.   social lives can go through cycles sometimes, if you feel like your friends are all ignoring you for no reason they’re probably just busy with other things.

4.   if you can’t stop thinking about someone or something, read a book, paint your nails or watch a movie. it won’t solve any serious problems but you will feel better.

5.   listen with the intent to understand, not the intent to reply.

6.   if you want something, go get it. 

7.   drink lots of water, eat lots of fruit, exercise more, go outside, get enough sleep and think positive thoughts.

8.   if you don’t ask, the answer will always be no.

9.   throw away the idea of a perfect tomorrow and live in the moment.

10.  stop comparing yourself to others.

11.  a beautiful day begins with a beautiful mindset. It’s a privilege to simply be alive and healthy. Start acting like life is a blessing.

12.  act the way you’d like to be and soon you’ll be the way you’d like to act.

13.  you will change. You’re not the same person you were three years ago. you’re not even the same person you were three minutes ago and that’s okay. especially if you don’t like the person you were three minutes ago.

14.  you don’t have to open the curtains if you don’t want to.

15.  being happy is the most important thing.

yunqiann  asked:

dear kourtney i was wondering if you could give me some advice. how do you become a person you can appreciate and love? essentially, how do you love yourself? i find myself questioning this as i am struggling to not only make myself more appealing to others as a friend and someone to look up to, but also to appreciate myself and all the successes and mistakes that entail.

how to love yourself:

- accept your flaws. even the ones you dislike/hate. learn to love and appreciate them. compliment yourself. compliment your flaws.

- accept your life as it stands. you can’t change the past…you can’t alter the future. so you might as well accept how things are now. don’t beat yourself up for past mistakes - those are your stepping stones, your lessons. applaud yourself for your wins…and your loses. learn to appreciate when you “fail”, as you learn so much from your “failures”.

- be yourself. fully indulge in whatever makes you feel good, whatever makes you happy. 

- stop putting yourself down and stop comparing yourself to others. you are you own person. you are unique - looks wise, life wise, everything wise. 

- know that you deserve the best. don’t settle for what you know you don’t deserve. stand up for what you believe in. don’t let others sway you. be strong even in tough times.

- know that it’s okay to not be okay. it takes strength the admit you weaknesses, your flaws, your shortcomings. always find ways to channel this energy into positivity - talking to someone to trust, painting, reading, listening to music, taking a walk, etc. give yourself time to breathe. time for yourself to recover.

- look at the positives of the situations you may encounter. be optimistic. know that things will eventually get better.

Subtle reminder to stop comparing yourself to others. I hear it day in and day out (and even find myself doing it sometimes) because as humans, it is in our nature. But nothing good ever comes from it. I was not born to live his or her life, and they weren’t born to live mine.
Comparing yourself to others will always cause you to regret what you aren’t, rather than allow you to enjoy who you are. So be happy where you are in fitness, life, work, etc. because you’ve worked hard to get there and don’t let anyone take that away from you❤️

Everything I’ve Written About Ashton Irwin

// TEXTS: //

You try breaking up with him while he’s on tour

He buys you tampons

You two break up (Part 2) (Part 3) (Part 4) (Part 5) (Part 6)

He’s too distracted by you (Part 2)

He sees you get hate for dating him

He’s a jerk to you in front of the boys

He wants you back but you want to be friends with benefits (Part 2)

He says something that makes you insecure

You lost your phone

He tries to make you jealous (Part 2)

He’s drunk and Luke takes his phone (Part 2) (Part 3)

He wants you to stop comparing yourself to other girls

You don’t like when he spends money on you

You want to learn how to play the drums

Talk of his hair

You want to see him in Michael’s Han Solo costume

You tell him which celebrities you’d hook up with

// ONE SHOTS: //

Go to Bed Angry

Even Their Names Sound Good Together

Hotel Chelsea

Castle on the Hill

Two Homes

// SERIES: //

Knuckles (Part 2) (Part 3) (Part 4)

// BLURBS: //

That’s My Girl

Monday

CEO!Ashton

Heartless

// PROMPTS: //

“You owe me closure. You at least owe me that.”

// DEAR NO ONES: //

April 7, 2016


Michael | Calum | Luke | 4/4

How to be more confident! 9 ways & tips!

1. stop comparing yourself to others - What you see isn’t always real.
you are beautiful and unique in your own way!
Making comparisons is damaging and not necessary.

2. get rid of anything that make you feel bad about yourself - these might be negative thoughts, clothing that no longer fits or even mean friends that are bringing you down.

3. Identify your talents - everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, and then focus on your talents.                                Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Express yourself, whether it’s through art, music, writing, or dance.

4. Put care into your appearance and take care of yourself - take a shower on daily basis, brush your teeth, wash your face and brush your hair, you’re worth caring about!

5.  Dress for confidence - How we dress affects both how we feel about ourselves and the way others perceive us.
Don’t be afraid of some color! the color red will make you stand out and the color yellow will make you feel happy and shiny!

6. Learn - The more knowledge you acquire, the more confident you will be. Knowledge is power, and the more powerful you feel, the higher your confidence will be.

7. Take risks - great achievments involve great risks.
try to push yourself by doing risky things, go out from your shell, from the place you feel safe.                                                                                                       you will get no where if you will always be in the same place.

8. instant ways to boost your confident! - 

Stand up as tall as you can, like you’re a puppet and somebody just pulled the string that’s attached to the top of your noggin. 

Pull your shoulder blades down and back as far as possible. 

Pick your chin up and look straight ahead - stop looking down while         walking around, there’s a whole world out there for you to see.

9. Look in the mirror and smile - by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run. This will also help you feel happier about your appearance, and to accept the way you look.

anonymous asked:

Dear Archy, I graduated from architecture school and I have a paralyzing fear of applying for architecture positions and that my portfolio isn't good enough. I'm beginning to doubt myself more and wondering if the past five years was a mistake, which makes feel more embarrassed because I worked hard and sacrificed a lot to earn my degree. I feel stuck. Any advice?

Stop torturing yourself!

You have invested all this time and energy, your work convinced all the professors to give you a passing grade, you complied with all the requirements to earn a degree, how can you not be good enough? If you don’t feel your portfolio is the best ever you have two choices: either you stop comparing yourself to others or you improve it. What is it going to be? 

If you want an impartial opinion I would be willing to review your portfolio.

Originally posted by attack-clifford

anonymous asked:

I feel awful because my friends all take 4 classes a semester and work part time jobs, my siblings did too. I can barely handle 3 classes(so enough to be full time) and less than five hours of work a week. I need so much time to "recharge" when i get home before working on things, and it takes me far longer than it should to do anything. I spent all weekend on an assignment that took my classmates two or three hours. Does anyone else with adhd feel inadequate compared to their NT friends?

This is SO COMMON! And it’s so unnecessary! It’s really hard to stop comparing yourself to other people, but I have to say it’s one of the best things I ever did. I only compare myself to myself now, and I try not to compare myself to myself too much, either. Because I figured out that what other people are able to do isn’t a measure of my personal worth, and that what I could do yesterday has nothing to do with what I can do today (except for when I overdo it and blow my executive functioning circuits and need time to recover).

Everyone is different. I take one class at a time, distance ed. I don’t work full-time, and I work from home. I can’t manage working outside the home very well due to anxiety. I can’t seem to get my house cleaned up, and it was like this before I had a child, so I can’t blame him (not that I’d want to). Other people work full-time and have spotless homes and more than one child. That’s what works for them, and this is what works for me. Deciding to accommodate myself instead of pushing myself to be like what I thought everyone else was like was hard, but so worth it. I am able to enjoy my life so much more now.

It’s a process. For now, when you start comparing yourself to someone else, stop and remind yourself that you are a different person and have different needs, and that’s okay. Eventually you’ll start to really believe it.

-J