Envy and jealousy can sneak up on people and it can cause some serious damage emotionally and even physically!  Stop comparing yourself to others, because no life is exactly the same - we each have our own obstacles and challenges to accomplish.  So when you start to think the grass is greener on the other side, think about your own goals, nurture and take care of your side of the yard, because the more blessings you count in your life, the more beautiful flowers will flourish!!


no matter how cliché it sounds, we all know this to be true: its awfully hard growing up. many teens struggle with self esteem. having low self esteem sucks, but have no fear, there are ways to overcome it.

  1. learn to love yourself: every morning when you wake up, take a moment to look in the mirror and list things you like about yourself. it doesn’t necessarily only include your physical appearance, maybe you’re a gifted dancer or you can make the best mac & cheese in the whole world. no one hates everything about themselves, they just tend to focus on the negative qualities. focus on the positives instead!
  2. accept what you can’t change: if you don’t like your innate ability to procrastinate, you can set goals for yourself and work to change that. but there are some things you can’t change. instead of hating yourself for things that are out of your control, embrace them. your flaws are what make you unique.
  3. stop comparing yourself to other people: its oh-so easy to compare yourself to others, and just as destructive. how can you compare yourself to another human being when every person is as one-of-a-kind as a snowflake? no one is exactly alike, everyone has things they’re good at. no one can be the best at everything!
  4. take pride in who you are: there is no one just like you in the entire universe. everyone is talented, just not in the same way. when you find you’re feeling bad about yourself, think about all the wonderful things you’ve accomplished in your life. remember that you are YOU, and you is a wonderful thing to be♡

stay wonderful ORACLE friends & fans :-)

-Emma Catherine♡

Stop comparing yourself with others. If they are good at something, you too are good at something else. Self-confidence is not measured by your own capabilities versus that of others, but by your own needs.
—  Stephen Richards

until you stop comparing yourself to other people you will always feel inadequate and unfulfilled 

it’s up to you how long you continue to exhaust yourself focusing on what other people have instead of making the best of what you got

If you’re focusing on what other people have, you are not focused on yourself and what you should be doing to get what you want. What works for your neighbor isn’t going to work for you. We all have to follow our own path in life. Stop comparing yourself to others and start becoming the person you need to be to get what you want. If others can, so can you.

On this day, God wants you to know that you need to stop comparing yourself to other people. Some people are great singers, some are really smart and others are great athletes. But none of them are, or ever could be you. You are one of a kind. So stop comparing yourself to other people. You can’t be them any more than they can be you.
—  From God Wants You to Know app on Facebook
your art is better/gets more attention than mine and i don’t like it

here is the thing: when you comment on other people’s work (whether it’s art, writing, edits, etc) with something along the lines ‘’wow this is too good and what /i/ do is terrible and i’ll never be as good as you, i’m quitting’’ then guess what, it doesn’t make ANYONE feel good. you’re making us both feel bad.

i can’t just respond like ‘’WOW thanks for saying my work is good’’, and ignore the part where you put yourself down. but what do you want me to say? 

i can’t stress this enough, but everyone’s progress is different. you don’t know how long that person has been polishing their skills, it’s not like all the great artists are born with this ‘talent’ and whenever they pick up a brush or a pen, the magic happens! we all have to work for it, we have to spend hours and hours learning and watching tutorials and making bad art before it gets good! just as you do! 

the difference is in your attitude. this isn’t about other people and their work, this is about you and how you decide to deal with it. there is ALWAYS going to be someone better than you.

and you can either let them motivate and inspire you (and trust me, when you tell an artist that you admire their work and that it makes you want to improve, that’s the best compliment you can give them) OR you can be bitter and complain about how everyone is better than you and how you suck and expect people to console you. 

but what does that accomplish? why don’t you put that time and energy into trying to get better? why do you use it to make others (AND YOURSELF) feel uncomfortable and bad? 

oh trust me, there are times when i feel bitter when i compare myself to someone else, AND TRUST ME that the artist you compare yourself to, does as well. but what we do is take a breath and look up another goddamn tutorial and practice more 

there is so much more i have to say about this issue but this post is getting too long. i know this is nothing new, but it’s been bothering me recently more than ever. 

and i know for sure that there are people who might not realize they’re doing this, so for those of you who think this applies to them, please just think about it 

anonymous asked:

How do I stop comparing myself to other's success?

Hi love,

Some tips on how to stop comparing yourself to others:

  1. Comparisons are always unfair. We typically compare the worst we know of ourselves to the best we presume about others.
  2. Comparisons, by definition, require metrics. But only a fool believes every good thing can be counted (or measured).
  3. Comparisons rob us of precious time. We each get 86,400 seconds each day. And using even one to compare yourself or your accomplishments to another is one second too many.
  4. You are too unique to compare fairly. Your gifts and talents and successes and contributions and value are entirely unique to you and your purpose in this world. They can never be properly compared to anyone else.
  5. You have nothing to gain, but much to lose. For example: your pride, your dignity, your drive, and your passion.
  6. There is no end to the possible number of comparisons. The habit can never be overcome by attaining success. There will also be something—or someone—else to focus on.
  7. Comparison puts focus on the wrong person. You can control one life—yours. But when we constantly compare ourselves to others, we waste precious energy focusing on other peoples’ lives rather than our own.
  8. Comparisons often result in resentment. Resentment towards others and towards ourselves.
  9. Comparisons deprive us of joy. They add no value, meaning, or fulfillment to our lives. They only distract from it.

Helpful Links:

Things you need to remember:

  • - Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.
  • -Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not.
  • - This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this.
  • -You are not alone.
  • -You are enough.
  • -You are important.
  • -You are worth it.
  • -You are strong.
  • -You are not a failure,
  • -Good people exist.
  • -Reaching out shows strength.
  • -Breathe.
  • -Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you.
  • -Give yourself credit.
  • -Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones.
  • -Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend.
  • -Focus on the things you can change.
  • -Let go of toxic people.
  • -You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do.
  • -Try not to beat yourself up.
  • -Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next.
  • -You are not a bother.
  • -Your existence is more than your appearance.
  • -You are smart.
  • -You are loved.
  • -You are wanted.
  • -You are needed.
  • -Better days are coming.
  • -Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright.
  • -You have more potential than you think.
  • - Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.

Hun, I hope my advice helps. Please let me know if you’re ever in the need of some more help/advice. I’m always here and only an ask away. Take care and don’t forget to smile. :) xx

10 Tips for Developing more Confidence

1. Stop comparing yourself with others
2. Believe other people when they pay you compliments
3. Stop - and praise yourself - when you reach a personal goal
4. Relax, be patient, and accept that things take time
5. Look for the good in every situation
6. Focus on “what’s working”, and not on what is wrong
7. Laugh about your slip ups, and the stupid things you say
8. Do what you love, and what makes you feel alive
9. Hang out with people who can see the best in you
10. Accept and enjoy that great person – who is YOU.


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Stop comparing yourself with others. If they are good at something, you too are good at something else. Self-confidence is not measured by your own capabilities versus that of others, but by your own needs.
― Stephen Richards