stop trying to please people

i know this is an unpopular opinion but: jack and maddie are not abusive parents.

they’re not going to be winning parents of the year awards by any means, but they are not abusive. they are involved in both of their children’s lives but know not to push into their privacy. they trust their children to make good decisions and encourage them to pursue their interests even if jack and maddie aren’t interested. they don’t talk down to their kids when they’re arguing and speak to them at an age appropriate level. they aren’t emotionally or verbally abusive - even when danny is being disciplined, they are reasonable. they’re pushy when they’re concerned for his safety, but you can’t blame them when you see how dangerous amity park is.
it’s clear that they made sure that both jazz and danny knew the functions and operations of the lab, the ops center, and the home security system and that both of them knew the safety rules of both. they trusted their children not to abuse the equipment and to follow safety procedures (which danny did not do on multiple occasions).

do they have a violent and harsh approach to ghosts? yes, but ghosts that come through the portal are mostly violent and powerful. they are technically fighting a war - an invasion of poltergeists and mostly alone too. they are working to defend their family and city from a mistake they made. also, have you noticed that a lot of the weapons that they make only weaken and contain ghosts? that they haven’t actually made a single weapon designed to completely destroy a ghost? yes for the most part they have no empathy for ghosts, but they’re not out to destroy them. i do think that they put on a façade that makes them look harsher on ghosts than they really are - if jack hated and distrusted ghosts so much, he wouldn’t have released danny in million dollar ghost.

and yes, both jack and maddie get sucked into their projects, but they make sure their kids know where they are and will stop what they’re doing if jazz or danny need them. the only times they were shown as being completely neglectful is during the christmas flashbacks when they were so wrapped up in their arguments that they forgot their children (but also remember those were told by tucker/ghostwriter who are BOTH dramatic). they have both shown themselves to be more than willing to spend time with their kids and they were excited for it.

the fact that they don’t push into danny’s life when he is obviously wanting privacy isn’t abusive or completely neglectful. they make themselves available to him, spend time with him, and will do things in his best interest. they trust and respect their son and they keep an eye on him. the reason why they know so little about his problems at school are because danny doesn’t reach out to them. they have shown themselves open and willing to protect him, but danny internalizes his problems and refuses to talk to them. jack and maddie do try to have conversations with him and when he gets uncomfortable, they let him leave.

danny also knows all of this and he knows that they’ll love him no matter what (he even said so in bitter reunions and confirmed this in reality trip). there are a lot of reasons why he doesn’t tell his parents about his ghost powers (doesn’t want them worrying, doesn’t want they thinking they half killed him, doesn’t want them to accidentally reveal his identity, etc) and i think it’s the combination of those fears along with the worry that they might be scared of him/hostile towards him that stops danny from talking to them. even if you know something to be true (like your parents loving you unconditionally), there is always room for doubt and danny definitely suffers from that.

so no, i don’t think the fentons are abusive parents and i don’t think it’s right to try and label them as such.

advice for the signs
  • Capricorn: you work yourself waaay too hard.. take a break
  • Aquarius: you're too distant from your friends, let yourself trust !!
  • Pisces: stop thinking about love all the time
  • Aries: go somewhere peaceful and watch the sunset. it will help i promise
  • Taurus: if it was meant to happen it will so chillll
  • Gemini: you need to stop talking about it ok. people will get bored
  • Cancer: whatever they think it doesn't fucking matter, follow your heart
  • Leo: stop trying to please other people and start trying to please yourself
  • Virgo: you need to let people in or they won't understand
  • Libra: big decisions can't be ignored forever, you need to take some time to really think
  • Scorpio: it's time you told them how you feel before the time has passed
  • Sagittarius: maybe its time for a change? a new look for a new you

guys all im saying is to not go around looking for fights, because it will only result in you and the other person upsetting each other until you both get too fed up with the situation and leave. thats all. 

if youre really bent on discussing this with me, i have a personal blog

You can not and will not convince me to care about; BTS, Twice, BlackPink, or anything/anyone of NCT. I’m over it. They’re not my cup of tea and their fandoms are too damn dramatic and defensive for me to deal with. Stop trying to drag more people into your fandom problems. Please be glad I just ignore them and don’t bash like you all claim happens to them. 

Honestly I don’t have much of an opinion on Chr*s Pr*tt but gd is it annoying that whenever it’s trending on facebook that he did something religious all the comments are like “they’re gonna kick him out of hollywood now!!! Christian people can’t be out and proud about it without backlash!!” like a)no one is complaining b)the guy is pulling in half a billion at the box office every year, i highly doubt he’s going anywhere

please let gender non conforming people live without trying to tell them they must be trans or non binary. please guys please stop trying to tell people they must be this or that because of the way they dress or act. let them figure it out for themselves.

Advice for the signs
  • Aries: Take a step back and think. You are wonderful just the way you are, why do you have to be mean to others just to compensate for your lack of self-esteem? You care so much, I know that. But you have to let the others know that as well. You don't need to prove yourself to anyone. You're a hidden gem, aries and let someone find you instead of wrecking the surprise for them. You are loved and you know exactly how to have fun so keep reminding yourself that you are worthy of the adventure your life has to offer.
  • Taurus: Get out of your comfort zone and stop caring about what people think. I know that you're the best at giving advice but I think it's about time that someone takes care of you. You are not those stereotypes people try to label you with. You are candid. Don't forget your dreams and keep focusing on how to get there. Be social, let yourself be loved and remember that you can always learn from anyone. You're not alone and people can understand, if you let them in. Take in the sun, try something new and keep in mind the fact that you can live through anything. You represent grace. You are going to be okay.
  • Gemini: You have so many interesting things to say and don't let anyone ever shush you. You are a deep thinker, an innovator. Gemini, I know your mind is on overdrive but take a moment to slow down, on your terms. But after that, do as much as you can because you are capable of so much. Be sure of your opinions (stick to them!) and keep looking forward, you moment will come too. Discover yourself, your surroundings and let yourself be immune to all that is superficial. We all know you are authentic so why keep up the mask? We'll love you anyway and perhaps even more. You are going to be okay.
  • Cancer: You spread your love so much that at the end of the day, you have none left for yourself. So, when you're down, let yourself be nurtured as much you would nurture someone else. Your voice may be soft but every word has so much meaning. You are so kind, genuinely thoughtful and you are so rare. Keep your purity, don't let corruptions soak in your veins or crawl on your skin. Sometimes, it can be good just to stop caring and to live at the moment. The world's problems are not your responsibility. You are free. Always. You are going to be okay.
  • Leo: Keep being yourself, I like that. But remember, people's opinion about you does not impact your self-worth. You are special and you are whole just by yourself. It's okay to lose your cool sometimes and become humble and silly, it will feel refreshing I promise. You are so brave and one of kind. Keep standing up for what you believe in and never let anyone extinguish your fire. Go get what you want and keep fierce. You are going to be okay.
  • Virgo: You are so on top of everything and I admire you for that. I know that things are overwhelming right now but you have to realize that you are powerless to somethings. Live and let live. You are so talented, unique, sensitive, intellectual and grounded, why are you so hard on yourself? You are your very own prized position. Be proud of yourself and keep working hard, it's going to bring you places. Keep being kind and considerate. The fear you feel is only in your head and you hold power over it. You are going to be okay.
  • Libra: I cannot even begin to describe how wonderful you are, so stop trying to please so hard! The people who are truly good for you are the ones you will not compromise yourself for. You are aloud to be unhappy with something and voice your opinion about it. Discover your talents and expose them to the world. Sing, dance, laugh and don't let anyone rain on your parade. You are more than meets the eye libra. You are a force to be reckoned with. You are going to be okay.
  • Scorpio: Oh boy, there are so many things I want to tell you. I'll start by saying that people care about you as much as you care about them so stop pushing them away. When you're in the dark, let your hand be held. You know you are different but you forget that it's a good thing. You are so loyal but don't be with your demons. You are not who has hurt you so shake that thought out of your head. I love how you are able to strive even when your heart is shattered. Remember what your priorities are and make sure to include yourself. You are going to be okay.
  • Sagittarius: The world is your oyster so never limit yourself to only what is known. Be daring, keep being honest and don't let yourself taken over by things that are simply not worth your time. Be patient and the good things will come. Cherish your freedom and keep that laugh of yours just as loud. Remember your one liners and how many faces you have made smile. Do whatever you want your heart desires and stay candid. You are going to be okay.
  • Capricorn: You have so many plans and you know exactly how to make them happen. No matter what your achievements are, you will always be successful. Take a minute to look at the beautiful world around you. Show them they were wrong! You are so much more than what they tell you to be. Keep asking questions, competing but keep your mind open. You know that you have an emotional side to yourself and you will feel at piece once you acknowledge it. You are devoted but let someone but just as kind towards you. You are going to be okay.
  • Aquarius: Keep being weird and not caring about the differences that set you apart from the rest. Your brain holds so much knowledge and wisdom, don't let your pride get in the way of it. You can revolutionize, change the world, modify the norms. You are so peculiar and I know that it's hard to have your interest but I can promise you that if you look at everything without a filter, you will feel at peace. Be the exception to everything. You will be okay.
  • Pisces: Always follow your gut. Your thoughts speak nothing but the truth so never put them aside. You are so special already, you don't need to change to fit in. You naturally do. You are an old soul, the one who got away, the one who will take you home. Don't let yourself get taken avantage of, trust yourself and never stop dreaming. Keep doodling and listening. Remember how strong you are, that behind that sweetness hides a layer of tar that you need to discover on your own. You are multi-dimensional. You are going to be okay.
If you haven't guessed yet I'm pro-curse

Originally posted by bakamermaid


   People please stop trying to police others and their craft. How they do magic is not how you do magic, and that’s okay. You don’t need to recite the 3 fold law to others because you come off as pretentious. What does it matter if someone else curses? What they choose to do is none of your business anyways. one of the best parts about witchcraft is that you can choose how/what you do. Like sure there are guidelines and books that people have written, but sometimes those methods don’t work well for everyone so they venture away from it to do what feels right to them; Hence why its called a guideline. It is not your job to be the Path Police™ 

 Like, hell, I used to believe the threefold law. But then it didn’t feel right to be fearful of the powers of the universe when magic was what was helping me harness it in the first place. There are good/bad aspects to everything in life, just like everyone’s moral compass don’t always line up the same. Everyone is different. Everyone’s path is different. It’s not your job to tell people what is best for them or their path as only THEY can decide that. If you disagree that’s fine, but curse shaming isn’t going to get you anywhere fast and acting like you’re above someone because you choose to not curse just makes you a dick.

 So don’t be a dick, don’t police others or their practice. You do what is best for YOU and they will do what’s best for THEM. 

Bukan mudah mempunyai hati yang suci dan tak membenci. Kerana ia satu proses yang akan sentiasa kita pelajari sepanjang kehidupan. Tapi sekurang-kurangnya tutuplah kekotoran hati itu dengan adab dan akhlak yang baik, perkataan yang baik, dan pemikiran yang baik.

Jangan ditunjukkan pada khalayak apa yang kurang baik yang ada dalam hati kita. 😂

Stop the negativity please and try to see the beauty in people, things and life itself.

#berpesandengankebenaran
#berpesandengankesabaran

Listen though the most tiring thing is people who hate aces and aros pretending they want to “protect” ppl by hurting us like. When the “ace tumblr™ is so racist” chant got especially loud, you know how much protecting ace+aro PoC went on? Yeah maybe 2% as much as crapping on ace+aro PoC.

If it had really been about protecting us, people would have spoken about racism in the ace and aro communities kind of like how I generally see people address racism in the feminist community. Specify white aces and aros when talking about white aces+aros being racist, for starters. Not acting like white people outside these groups are somehow less racist than those inside and get to scoff at and “correct” our communities which include ace and aro PoC.

White “exclusionists” would have shut their mouths and focused on listening to and uplifting (ace and aro) PoC, rather than trying to erase us from our communities and using racism as a weapon against us at every turn, and only listening to PoC who were saying what they wanted to hear and could use for this purpose.

“Exclusionists” overall would have prioritized actually doing something about racism in the ace and aro communities, rather than focused on pointing at it and going, “See? Aces+aros are horrible and white, so white and racist. Everyone else gets to turn up their nose at them. This is why we hate them.”

They would not have told ace and aro PoC unhappy with what was happening to “stop tokenizing themselves”. They would not have told ace and aro PoC saying the ace+aro communities are not uniquely racist to “shut the fuck up” and to stop trying to please white people, as if we’re only a handful of puppets being used by evil (and white so white) Ace Tumblr™, unable to understand what’s happening and with no agency. They would not have tried so hard to erase us and to hurt us and to silence and get rid of us along with what they call “ace tumblr”.

And white people in this mess who hate aces and aros like to play savior. And it’s really uncomfortable. They will talk and care a lot about racism until one of us calls them on it. They will be all about protecting PoC from Bad aces and aros until those PoC are aces and aros who are being hurt by them. Then we can go to hell.

Shitting on aces and aros is not actually gonna help ace and aro PoC be more happy and safe in our communities, and the huge amounts of additional racism being thrown at us from outside of them and from within the anti-ace/aro crowd sure don’t help either.

But hey, it’s all about protecting people, not about despising and harming aces and aros

Am I the only one that still hasn’t forgiven Robert yet?

People have wrote such long, detailed and well thought out analysis’s on Roberts character. I am not that good at writing down my thoughts in a well-written matter like some of you but I will try. 

First of all I love Robert. Don’t get me wrong I love Aaron but Robert will always have that special place in my heart. I love everything about him, from his internal battle with his identity, to his snarkiness, to his immense loyalty and the fact he’ll do anything to protect the people he loves. I adore him and will forever. 

However…

What he did was wrong and disgusting, there’s no getting away from that. He knew how Aaron felt and that his biggest issue was trust, particularly when it came to Rebecca and he went and slept with her anyway. 

Yes, there are a multitude of reasons why he did this. Yes, he has deep seated issues with belonging in a family and having Aaron say he was no use to him would’ve messed him up, Yes, he was under a hell of a lot of pressure with all the extra responsibilities while Aaron was inside. Yes, he is self destructive and does things like this when he is hurting. Yes, he was drunk and upset but HE STILL DID IT! None of what he was going through changes the fact that he betrayed Aaron in the worst possible way. 

People say Aaron betrayed him as well and maybe you’re right but Aaron taking drugs for a couple of weeks to deal with the abuse and torture he was going through and STOPPING as soon as he had an argument with Robert about it DOES NOT compare to what Robert did (in my opinion). Compared to Robert, what Aaron did was nothing! 

Robert did the one thing Aaron was most terrified of, He did the one thing he had been promising for MONTHS not to do with the person he promised not to do it with. 

I have to say I’m one of the fans who has quite enjoyed Robert’s awful ‘abusive’ speeches to Rebecca. Robert is a dick through and through. Total and utter trashy bastard and I love him for it. I admit it! It’s one of the reasons I love him. All those scenes were in character for him so I don’t understand why people are trying to defend him! This is Robert. He can be a good and decent guy when he wants to be but if you wrong him then he will have no problems taking you down. He’s always been like that and I don’t understand why people are trying to pretend any different and defend his actions. There is no defending them! He’s a total and utter knob!

I know some people are comparing Adam and Robert. Now I didn’t actually watch the episode but I take it that Vanessa turned him down? Now let’s imagine that she didn’t, that Adam and Vanessa slept together…

I’d still be more sympathetic towards Adam. Don’t get me wrong, Adam’s an idiot and what he did was disgusting but that was more a drunken mistake while I feel (and this is totally my opinion) that Robert’s cheating was more malicious. Yes it came from heartbreak but being faithful is so important to Aaron and such an insecurity for him. Robert knows that and even used it in his wedding vows! For Robert to invite Rebecca over and say all that disgusting stuff to her to get her into bed just to hurt Aaron. It was just so vindictive. That’s what i’m struggling to get over. 

And yes I know it takes two to tango and Rebecca was more sober than him and shouldn’t have taken advantage. (I’m not getting into the consent thing. I’m just looking at it how Ryan played it.) But Rebecca didn’t make a vow to be faithful to Aaron did she? and if Robert hadn’t have made himself available, she wouldn’t have had opportunity. (Same as Aaron during their affair!)

Don’t get me wrong I love Robert and always will but he messed up bad. It was a mistake but whatever the reasons he betrayed Aaron and he deserves to pay for it. I want him to fully accept this and face the consequences and redeem himself. No letting him off because Aaron was on drugs or he was drunk or upset. No making excuses because he has issues and a bad childhood. Maybe then when he takes responsibility and redeems himself (which will be a first for this woefully underused character) he and Aaron will actually be able to get back to being the amazing couple we all know.   

And then i’ll be able to forgive him…

but for now…I’m nowhere near.   

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How can he ignore me like this?

North and South Nodes of the Moon

The North and South Nodes of the Moon are placements that take into account the relationship between the Sun, Moon and Earth at the time of our birth. The idea behind these two opposing Nodes of the Moon is that when we are born there are facets of our persona that are more developed (the South Node) and aspects that are less developed (the North Node). These two Nodes are represented by two opposing signs as these poles directly oppose each other. The North and South Node signs change every 18 months and a full cycle of the 12 signs occurs every 18 years.

South Node: Zodiac hometown

The South Node represents the more developed areas of your character that come naturally to you; your comfort zone. These characteristics and behaviours bring you a sense of comfort, familiarity and belonging.

North Node: Pushing the boundaries

The North Node (also called the Ascending Node) represents the areas of your persona that are less developed, these are the qualities that we may need to work on in order to find our inner balance. The North Node provides us with new experiences and challenges. Consciously striving to reduce the imbalance of our North Node can provide us with an increased happiness and fulfilment that we can lack if we count too much on the qualities of our South Node.

Often the South Node is seen as ‘negative’ and the North as ‘positive’ and many believe you should move away from the South Node in favour of the qualities the North Node offers us, others believe that the South Node presents a desire that can only be truly fulfilled through the energies and qualities of the North Node.

South Aries/North Libra: Your Aries South Node brings competitiveness, aggression and an egocentric mind. You want to win and often try to do this through playing dirty, however, you should play to your Libra North Node and embrace the power of compromising and cooperating. You benefit the most from negotiations and working with others than you do from aggressive battles to get what you want.

South Taurus/North Scorpio: South Node in Taurus leads to you being stubborn, materialistic and against change. Release your attachment to luxury and accept your Scorpio North Node and with it the appreciation to the immaterial qualities that Scorpios so value, such as knowledge, intimacy and trust. Through releasing control you will find the happiness and stability you crave.

South Gemini/North Sagittarius: The South Node in Gemini means that you tend to catch yourself gossiping, lying and fixating on details. Release your tendency to overthink, focus on details and second-guess yourself in favour of the bigger picture. Rather than exhausting yourself gossiping devote your energy to wider beliefs, adventure and honesty. 

South Cancer/North Capricorn: Your Cancer South Node makes you nurturing, empathetic and caring. You can often spend more time focusing on the emotions and problems of others rather than you own. You need to allow yourself to step back and allow others to overcome their own problem and focus on yourself for a while. Embrace a less direct method of supporting others and allow them to come to you for help. Help others but do not forget to also help yourself.

South Leo/North Aquarius: The South in Leo focuses greatly on them selves, they crave glory, recognition and respect. Play to your North Node in Aquarius and focus more on connecting with others and sharing your passion to inspire rather than dominate. Your appreciation for praise means you are good at offering praise to others. Get more involved in groups in order to find your team spirit and involve yourself in humanitarian causes.

South Virgo/North Pisces: Your South Node in Virgo brings out a perfectionism in you that can cause great anxiety when things don’t go as you planned. This can lead to you being rigid and disliking not having a sense of order. Embracing your North Node in Pisces, which represents spirituality and intuition, can allow you more creative freedom and allows you to see that things do not always need to follow your strict plan in order to be perfect.

South Libra/North Aries: Your Libra South Node means that you are often compromising and putting others before yourself; being the peacekeeper. The Libra craves relationships but these cannot be functional until they embrace their Aries North Node and learn to think about themselves; embrace your identity, prioritize your own goals and be comfortable being alone.

South Scorpio/North Taurus: Your North Node in Taurus represents an independence that you should strive towards. Reject your longing of fulfilment and empowerment from your relationships with those around you and instead focus on finding your own self worth, values and priorities. Once you have this sense of self actualization you will find your relationships with others will only benefit from it.

South Sagittarius/North Gemini: Your South Node in Sagittarius leaves you with a longing for more, a fixation on the future and a sense of wanderlust. Play to the strengths of your North Node in Gemini and focus more on the importance of the moment, listening to other’s ideas and connecting more deeply with them. Take things one and a time and don’t overload yourself with your need for more.

South Capricorn/North Cancer: The South Node in Capricorn can lead to you being detached from your emotions, focusing more on the outward signs of success and working hard to achieve those. However, you should focus more on your emotional achievements as, if you forget to, you can end up feeling unsatisfied and discontent despite all you seem to have to those around you.

South Aquarius/North Leo: The South Node in Aquarius represents the need to be liked and, therefore, allowing the energy of the group to carry you rather than your own. You should stop trying to find a sense of belonging through people-pleasing and instead allow you North Node in Leo to shine through, stop trying to blend in and express yourself and you will find that the right group of friends will find you soon enough.

South Pisces/North Virgo: The South Node in Pisces brings with it a wish for spirituality and creativity, however, ironically, in order to achieve this you need to stop viewing the world through rose-tinted glasses and focus more on details and facts. Only then will you reach your true spiritual and psychic potential.

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Hi Lits. It’s time for me to rant. This one’s about something really important to me. It’s been brought to my attention that someone/some people are reposting gifs without giving permission, but even worse: they stole someone else’s video and sped it up and are trying to claim credit for it. Now, I’m not going to place blame or name names because you know who you are but seriously? This shouldn’t be something anyone in the fandom should have to be worried about. I’m certain that you’re all creative, wonderful minds that can make some amazing things, please stop trying to take from other people because what’s the point? They always find out in the end and everyone is hurt by it. Please just stop being so rude and petty and start crediting the people who work their asses off to bring us such beautiful content. K thx bye.

anonymous asked:

"It's like removing a bicycle from a cyclist and making fun of the position." So you basically missed the entire point. Because people are addicted to their phones, they are not addicted to their bicycles.

I know what the guy was TRYING to convey he just did it in a bad way because how is a picture of a person looking at their hand a SHOCKING REALITY CHECK? It’s just taking it completely out of context because staring at your hand is supposed to make that couple seem unreasonable, silly and disconnected from reality, when it is not even remotely the same as staring at a phone which offers you endless possibilities to communicate with virtually everyone in the world.
This is one of those “damn you millenials with your technology and phones and ~pacman video games~ *shakes fist*” arguments that Old People™ like to bring up. Please just let people enjoy things and stop trying to make every technological invention sound like the devil himself sent it.
Edit: have you ever met a Dutch person, they are in very much addicted to their bikes

Imagine breaking up with Michael after you found out what happened between him and Charlotte right after you two had a fight.

“ so this is it? You don’t even try to give me a second chance to make it up for my mistake, you just want to drop it and forget what we had, all the plans, all the fucking things we had for us”

Michael speaks after a long silent beetwen you two, he tries not to fall apart in front of you but his voice cracks giving away his pain and sadness, meanwhile he looks everywhere but to you cleaning a small tear that fell on his cheek.

“ I love you Michael, I really do but I don’t trust you anymore, I tried to look past what happened but I just can’t, everytime I look at you I see her and not us anymore.”

You sighed holding back the tears that where close to fall and took a deep breath before continuing my speech.

“ So please stop trying to make people get us back together, it won’t happen. I dedicated myself to you from the first time I realised I loved you, I never cared once what people had to say about you because I knew you better than they did, but now look at this mess! You slept with charlotte and got her pregnant so she would have an abortion after and you even tried to hide that from me, knowing how much I hate lies and you lied to me. How can I trust someone that has hurted me in such a despicable way like you just did? How can I know you are not going to do this again if we fight about a random issue, I don’t know and that kills me!”

You look at Michael breaking your strong facade, tears that once you hold back where now falling like a waterfall and your tone of voice was full of despair and desesperation.

“ We can be friends or at least try to be so, but the chances of you and me together are non existence, I can’t love without trust and I can’t do just one thing in this relationship Mickey… I love you but right now… I love myself more”

You whispered the last part caressing his left cheek with your hand trying to smile before turning away, leaving him alone with the rest of the peaky blinders and members of his family , holding your purse against your chest feeling your heart shattered into million if pieces that you weren’t sure if you will be able to pick them up ever again.