stop trying to please people

i know this is an unpopular opinion but: jack and maddie are not abusive parents.

they’re not going to be winning parents of the year awards by any means, but they are not abusive. they are involved in both of their children’s lives but know not to push into their privacy. they trust their children to make good decisions and encourage them to pursue their interests even if jack and maddie aren’t interested. they don’t talk down to their kids when they’re arguing and speak to them at an age appropriate level. they aren’t emotionally or verbally abusive - even when danny is being disciplined, they are reasonable. they’re pushy when they’re concerned for his safety, but you can’t blame them when you see how dangerous amity park is.
it’s clear that they made sure that both jazz and danny knew the functions and operations of the lab, the ops center, and the home security system and that both of them knew the safety rules of both. they trusted their children not to abuse the equipment and to follow safety procedures (which danny did not do on multiple occasions).

do they have a violent and harsh approach to ghosts? yes, but ghosts that come through the portal are mostly violent and powerful. they are technically fighting a war - an invasion of poltergeists and mostly alone too. they are working to defend their family and city from a mistake they made. also, have you noticed that a lot of the weapons that they make only weaken and contain ghosts? that they haven’t actually made a single weapon designed to completely destroy a ghost? yes for the most part they have no empathy for ghosts, but they’re not out to destroy them. i do think that they put on a façade that makes them look harsher on ghosts than they really are - if jack hated and distrusted ghosts so much, he wouldn’t have released danny in million dollar ghost.

and yes, both jack and maddie get sucked into their projects, but they make sure their kids know where they are and will stop what they’re doing if jazz or danny need them. the only times they were shown as being completely neglectful is during the christmas flashbacks when they were so wrapped up in their arguments that they forgot their children (but also remember those were told by tucker/ghostwriter who are BOTH dramatic). they have both shown themselves to be more than willing to spend time with their kids and they were excited for it.

the fact that they don’t push into danny’s life when he is obviously wanting privacy isn’t abusive or completely neglectful. they make themselves available to him, spend time with him, and will do things in his best interest. they trust and respect their son and they keep an eye on him. the reason why they know so little about his problems at school are because danny doesn’t reach out to them. they have shown themselves open and willing to protect him, but danny internalizes his problems and refuses to talk to them. jack and maddie do try to have conversations with him and when he gets uncomfortable, they let him leave.

danny also knows all of this and he knows that they’ll love him no matter what (he even said so in bitter reunions and confirmed this in reality trip). there are a lot of reasons why he doesn’t tell his parents about his ghost powers (doesn’t want them worrying, doesn’t want they thinking they half killed him, doesn’t want them to accidentally reveal his identity, etc) and i think it’s the combination of those fears along with the worry that they might be scared of him/hostile towards him that stops danny from talking to them. even if you know something to be true (like your parents loving you unconditionally), there is always room for doubt and danny definitely suffers from that.

so no, i don’t think the fentons are abusive parents and i don’t think it’s right to try and label them as such.

How to have a more peaceful life

1. Recognise how much your thoughts affect your feelings – and work on changing your self-destructive thinking.

2. Stop trying to be someone you’re not meant to be.

3. Stop trying hard to please other people all the time.

4. Expect to meet hurdles and to experience disappointments.

5. Enjoy experimenting with your creativity.

6. See life as an adventure, full of possibilities.

7. Be grateful for the small things that brighten up your day.

Just a friendly reminder

If you have to deny canon to support your ship, then your ship is crack.

If you have to trash a character or take another character’s plot/themes to support your fav, then you’re clearly not a fan and/or don’t understand who your favourite character is.

You can’t just take the qualities of one person and project them on another and call it canon, people. That’s not the way this works.

If you’re feeling wildly insecure because the existence of one fictional character threatens your fictional ship, and you feel the need to lash out/insult/patronize someone who is a fan of this character you’re threatened by and who is not fictional and actually has feelings, then I suggest taking a step away from this fictional universe and consider finding another outlet for your issues. Perhaps knitting.

Cheers and have a nice day.

anonymous asked:

Hello, I'm just wondering,,, why do you give Frisk, who is a 7-12 year old in the game, a body type that is impossible for their age?? If it's because of your art style or your interpretation of Frisk, my bad, but I'm still wondering why you give them such feminine features when they should be looking like a child

this ignorance tho

http://kamilecn.tumblr.com/post/159401018216/what-age-do-you-see-frisk-in-game

http://kamilecn.tumblr.com/post/158090185241/why-does-your-frisk-look-like-an-adult-woman

http://kamilecn.tumblr.com/post/158090671756/that-should-have-been-obvious-that-your-frisk-is

advice for the signs
  • Capricorn: you work yourself waaay too hard.. take a break
  • Aquarius: you're too distant from your friends, let yourself trust !!
  • Pisces: stop thinking about love all the time
  • Aries: go somewhere peaceful and watch the sunset. it will help i promise
  • Taurus: if it was meant to happen it will so chillll
  • Gemini: you need to stop talking about it ok. people will get bored
  • Cancer: whatever they think it doesn't fucking matter, follow your heart
  • Leo: stop trying to please other people and start trying to please yourself
  • Virgo: you need to let people in or they won't understand
  • Libra: big decisions can't be ignored forever, you need to take some time to really think
  • Scorpio: it's time you told them how you feel before the time has passed
  • Sagittarius: maybe its time for a change? a new look for a new you

It took me a lot of years to try and stop pleasing a lot of people and allow myself to have fun. It’s the difficult thing of getting out of your own head. To stop going, ‘Oh, there’s something I should be doing, there’s a way I should be behaving, I should be dressing….’ All of those shoulds, you can drown in them.

guys all im saying is to not go around looking for fights, because it will only result in you and the other person upsetting each other until you both get too fed up with the situation and leave. thats all. 

if youre really bent on discussing this with me, i have a personal blog

billboard leaving kpop alone and minding their own business: a concept

i’m unfortunately seeing more ridiculous discourse on my dash, so friendly reminder that:

Except for Blubs and Durland, no Gravity Falls characters’ sexualities were ever confirmed outright in canon, and as such please stop trying to press sexuality HCs on other people. Is there some support in canon for certain characters being a specific sexuality, and sometimes support that characters could possibly be one of multiple different sexualities? In a lot of cases, sure. 

But dear lord please please PLEASE be respectful of each other, and of everyone’s headcanons. Not everyone is going to interpret something in the same way when the context is as fuzzy as it is for Gravity Falls. People connect to characters in different ways, and very often want to see a bit of themselves in the characters they love the most. This is important, and personal to each person. Respect this, please

As an example, I headcanon Ford as panromantic asexual. Sure, there may be some context I could read between the lines that might support this, but overall I HC him as this because I don’t have many characters I can see myself in. I want to see myself in my favorite character. I use exploring this HC with Ford as a lense through which I might better understand myself. But I certainly don’t get angry when other people HC him as straight or gay or bisexual or anything else because I can understand how other people interpret him differently. That’s perfectly okay. It’s a diverse world, and that’s beautiful.

People, the bottom line is… when we start arguments with people who don’t agree with our sexuality HCs, we look foolish, and we only further alienate the party we’re trying to get to agree with what we think. There will never be a single headcanon in any piece of media ever that everyone in a fandom agrees with, okay? That’s life. Respect it. And respect each other, for the love of pete.

If you’ve read this far and have considered my request, I thank you dearly. It breaks my heart to see people in my fandom fight over something that doesn’t need to be fought about. Wishing everyone a lovely and hopefully discourse free day. Go out, be proud of your diverse and wonderful headcanons, and be kind to each other.

You can not and will not convince me to care about; BTS, Twice, BlackPink, or anything/anyone of NCT. I’m over it. They’re not my cup of tea and their fandoms are too damn dramatic and defensive for me to deal with. Stop trying to drag more people into your fandom problems. Please be glad I just ignore them and don’t bash like you all claim happens to them. 

Advice for the signs
  • Aries: Take a step back and think. You are wonderful just the way you are, why do you have to be mean to others just to compensate for your lack of self-esteem? You care so much, I know that. But you have to let the others know that as well. You don't need to prove yourself to anyone. You're a hidden gem, aries and let someone find you instead of wrecking the surprise for them. You are loved and you know exactly how to have fun so keep reminding yourself that you are worthy of the adventure your life has to offer.
  • Taurus: Get out of your comfort zone and stop caring about what people think. I know that you're the best at giving advice but I think it's about time that someone takes care of you. You are not those stereotypes people try to label you with. You are candid. Don't forget your dreams and keep focusing on how to get there. Be social, let yourself be loved and remember that you can always learn from anyone. You're not alone and people can understand, if you let them in. Take in the sun, try something new and keep in mind the fact that you can live through anything. You represent grace. You are going to be okay.
  • Gemini: You have so many interesting things to say and don't let anyone ever shush you. You are a deep thinker, an innovator. Gemini, I know your mind is on overdrive but take a moment to slow down, on your terms. But after that, do as much as you can because you are capable of so much. Be sure of your opinions (stick to them!) and keep looking forward, you moment will come too. Discover yourself, your surroundings and let yourself be immune to all that is superficial. We all know you are authentic so why keep up the mask? We'll love you anyway and perhaps even more. You are going to be okay.
  • Cancer: You spread your love so much that at the end of the day, you have none left for yourself. So, when you're down, let yourself be nurtured as much you would nurture someone else. Your voice may be soft but every word has so much meaning. You are so kind, genuinely thoughtful and you are so rare. Keep your purity, don't let corruptions soak in your veins or crawl on your skin. Sometimes, it can be good just to stop caring and to live at the moment. The world's problems are not your responsibility. You are free. Always. You are going to be okay.
  • Leo: Keep being yourself, I like that. But remember, people's opinion about you does not impact your self-worth. You are special and you are whole just by yourself. It's okay to lose your cool sometimes and become humble and silly, it will feel refreshing I promise. You are so brave and one of kind. Keep standing up for what you believe in and never let anyone extinguish your fire. Go get what you want and keep fierce. You are going to be okay.
  • Virgo: You are so on top of everything and I admire you for that. I know that things are overwhelming right now but you have to realize that you are powerless to somethings. Live and let live. You are so talented, unique, sensitive, intellectual and grounded, why are you so hard on yourself? You are your very own prized position. Be proud of yourself and keep working hard, it's going to bring you places. Keep being kind and considerate. The fear you feel is only in your head and you hold power over it. You are going to be okay.
  • Libra: I cannot even begin to describe how wonderful you are, so stop trying to please so hard! The people who are truly good for you are the ones you will not compromise yourself for. You are aloud to be unhappy with something and voice your opinion about it. Discover your talents and expose them to the world. Sing, dance, laugh and don't let anyone rain on your parade. You are more than meets the eye libra. You are a force to be reckoned with. You are going to be okay.
  • Scorpio: Oh boy, there are so many things I want to tell you. I'll start by saying that people care about you as much as you care about them so stop pushing them away. When you're in the dark, let your hand be held. You know you are different but you forget that it's a good thing. You are so loyal but don't be with your demons. You are not who has hurt you so shake that thought out of your head. I love how you are able to strive even when your heart is shattered. Remember what your priorities are and make sure to include yourself. You are going to be okay.
  • Sagittarius: The world is your oyster so never limit yourself to only what is known. Be daring, keep being honest and don't let yourself taken over by things that are simply not worth your time. Be patient and the good things will come. Cherish your freedom and keep that laugh of yours just as loud. Remember your one liners and how many faces you have made smile. Do whatever you want your heart desires and stay candid. You are going to be okay.
  • Capricorn: You have so many plans and you know exactly how to make them happen. No matter what your achievements are, you will always be successful. Take a minute to look at the beautiful world around you. Show them they were wrong! You are so much more than what they tell you to be. Keep asking questions, competing but keep your mind open. You know that you have an emotional side to yourself and you will feel at piece once you acknowledge it. You are devoted but let someone but just as kind towards you. You are going to be okay.
  • Aquarius: Keep being weird and not caring about the differences that set you apart from the rest. Your brain holds so much knowledge and wisdom, don't let your pride get in the way of it. You can revolutionize, change the world, modify the norms. You are so peculiar and I know that it's hard to have your interest but I can promise you that if you look at everything without a filter, you will feel at peace. Be the exception to everything. You will be okay.
  • Pisces: Always follow your gut. Your thoughts speak nothing but the truth so never put them aside. You are so special already, you don't need to change to fit in. You naturally do. You are an old soul, the one who got away, the one who will take you home. Don't let yourself get taken avantage of, trust yourself and never stop dreaming. Keep doodling and listening. Remember how strong you are, that behind that sweetness hides a layer of tar that you need to discover on your own. You are multi-dimensional. You are going to be okay.
On fanart/fanwriting

I generally am cool with receiving stuff, y'all don’t really need to ask permission to make it- If it’s something similar to what I’d draw in theme then it’d be all fine. Genyatta, Mchanzo, etc- all good.

That said though, oh my god, please do not gift me adult oriented art or fic, or base such content off my stuff, without asking me in advance. Please do not do this to any content creator.

And I can’t believe this has to be said, but ESPECIALLY don’t do this if it’s abuse/noncon/dubcon/underage/incest.

ACTUALLY, DON’T EVEN BOTHER MAKING FAN CONTENT OF MY STUFF IF YOU INDULGE IN MAKING CONTENT WITH THOSE THEMES OR OPENLY CONSUME CONTENT OF THAT KIND.

I LOATHE that shit, I’d rather you just unfollow me. (And maybe delete and stick to private twitters so me and everyone else who also hates that content doesn’t have to see it in the tags. )

Thanks. Consume content responsibly.

North and South Nodes of the Moon

The North and South Nodes of the Moon are placements that take into account the relationship between the Sun, Moon and Earth at the time of our birth. The idea behind these two opposing Nodes of the Moon is that when we are born there are facets of our persona that are more developed (the South Node) and aspects that are less developed (the North Node). These two Nodes are represented by two opposing signs as these poles directly oppose each other. The North and South Node signs change every 18 months and a full cycle of the 12 signs occurs every 18 years.

South Node: Zodiac hometown

The South Node represents the more developed areas of your character that come naturally to you; your comfort zone. These characteristics and behaviours bring you a sense of comfort, familiarity and belonging.

North Node: Pushing the boundaries

The North Node (also called the Ascending Node) represents the areas of your persona that are less developed, these are the qualities that we may need to work on in order to find our inner balance. The North Node provides us with new experiences and challenges. Consciously striving to reduce the imbalance of our North Node can provide us with an increased happiness and fulfilment that we can lack if we count too much on the qualities of our South Node.

Often the South Node is seen as ‘negative’ and the North as ‘positive’ and many believe you should move away from the South Node in favour of the qualities the North Node offers us, others believe that the South Node presents a desire that can only be truly fulfilled through the energies and qualities of the North Node.

South Aries/North Libra: Your Aries South Node brings competitiveness, aggression and an egocentric mind. You want to win and often try to do this through playing dirty, however, you should play to your Libra North Node and embrace the power of compromising and cooperating. You benefit the most from negotiations and working with others than you do from aggressive battles to get what you want.

South Taurus/North Scorpio: South Node in Taurus leads to you being stubborn, materialistic and against change. Release your attachment to luxury and accept your Scorpio North Node and with it the appreciation to the immaterial qualities that Scorpios so value, such as knowledge, intimacy and trust. Through releasing control you will find the happiness and stability you crave.

South Gemini/North Sagittarius: The South Node in Gemini means that you tend to catch yourself gossiping, lying and fixating on details. Release your tendency to overthink, focus on details and second-guess yourself in favour of the bigger picture. Rather than exhausting yourself gossiping devote your energy to wider beliefs, adventure and honesty. 

South Cancer/North Capricorn: Your Cancer South Node makes you nurturing, empathetic and caring. You can often spend more time focusing on the emotions and problems of others rather than you own. You need to allow yourself to step back and allow others to overcome their own problem and focus on yourself for a while. Embrace a less direct method of supporting others and allow them to come to you for help. Help others but do not forget to also help yourself.

South Leo/North Aquarius: The South in Leo focuses greatly on them selves, they crave glory, recognition and respect. Play to your North Node in Aquarius and focus more on connecting with others and sharing your passion to inspire rather than dominate. Your appreciation for praise means you are good at offering praise to others. Get more involved in groups in order to find your team spirit and involve yourself in humanitarian causes.

South Virgo/North Pisces: Your South Node in Virgo brings out a perfectionism in you that can cause great anxiety when things don’t go as you planned. This can lead to you being rigid and disliking not having a sense of order. Embracing your North Node in Pisces, which represents spirituality and intuition, can allow you more creative freedom and allows you to see that things do not always need to follow your strict plan in order to be perfect.

South Libra/North Aries: Your Libra South Node means that you are often compromising and putting others before yourself; being the peacekeeper. The Libra craves relationships but these cannot be functional until they embrace their Aries North Node and learn to think about themselves; embrace your identity, prioritize your own goals and be comfortable being alone.

South Scorpio/North Taurus: Your North Node in Taurus represents an independence that you should strive towards. Reject your longing of fulfilment and empowerment from your relationships with those around you and instead focus on finding your own self worth, values and priorities. Once you have this sense of self actualization you will find your relationships with others will only benefit from it.

South Sagittarius/North Gemini: Your South Node in Sagittarius leaves you with a longing for more, a fixation on the future and a sense of wanderlust. Play to the strengths of your North Node in Gemini and focus more on the importance of the moment, listening to other’s ideas and connecting more deeply with them. Take things one and a time and don’t overload yourself with your need for more.

South Capricorn/North Cancer: The South Node in Capricorn can lead to you being detached from your emotions, focusing more on the outward signs of success and working hard to achieve those. However, you should focus more on your emotional achievements as, if you forget to, you can end up feeling unsatisfied and discontent despite all you seem to have to those around you.

South Aquarius/North Leo: The South Node in Aquarius represents the need to be liked and, therefore, allowing the energy of the group to carry you rather than your own. You should stop trying to find a sense of belonging through people-pleasing and instead allow you North Node in Leo to shine through, stop trying to blend in and express yourself and you will find that the right group of friends will find you soon enough.

South Pisces/North Virgo: The South Node in Pisces brings with it a wish for spirituality and creativity, however, ironically, in order to achieve this you need to stop viewing the world through rose-tinted glasses and focus more on details and facts. Only then will you reach your true spiritual and psychic potential.

Honestly I don’t have much of an opinion on Chr*s Pr*tt but gd is it annoying that whenever it’s trending on facebook that he did something religious all the comments are like “they’re gonna kick him out of hollywood now!!! Christian people can’t be out and proud about it without backlash!!” like a)no one is complaining b)the guy is pulling in half a billion at the box office every year, i highly doubt he’s going anywhere

please let gender non conforming people live without trying to tell them they must be trans or non binary. please guys please stop trying to tell people they must be this or that because of the way they dress or act. let them figure it out for themselves.

If you haven't guessed yet I'm pro-curse

Originally posted by bakamermaid


   People please stop trying to police others and their craft. How they do magic is not how you do magic, and that’s okay. You don’t need to recite the 3 fold law to others because you come off as pretentious. What does it matter if someone else curses? What they choose to do is none of your business anyways. one of the best parts about witchcraft is that you can choose how/what you do. Like sure there are guidelines and books that people have written, but sometimes those methods don’t work well for everyone so they venture away from it to do what feels right to them; Hence why its called a guideline. It is not your job to be the Path Police™ 

 Like, hell, I used to believe the threefold law. But then it didn’t feel right to be fearful of the powers of the universe when magic was what was helping me harness it in the first place. There are good/bad aspects to everything in life, just like everyone’s moral compass don’t always line up the same. Everyone is different. Everyone’s path is different. It’s not your job to tell people what is best for them or their path as only THEY can decide that. If you disagree that’s fine, but curse shaming isn’t going to get you anywhere fast and acting like you’re above someone because you choose to not curse just makes you a dick.

 So don’t be a dick, don’t police others or their practice. You do what is best for YOU and they will do what’s best for THEM. 

Bukan mudah mempunyai hati yang suci dan tak membenci. Kerana ia satu proses yang akan sentiasa kita pelajari sepanjang kehidupan. Tapi sekurang-kurangnya tutuplah kekotoran hati itu dengan adab dan akhlak yang baik, perkataan yang baik, dan pemikiran yang baik.

Jangan ditunjukkan pada khalayak apa yang kurang baik yang ada dalam hati kita. 😂

Stop the negativity please and try to see the beauty in people, things and life itself.

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