stop caring what others think

Look at you. You’re young. And you’re scared. Why are you so scared? Stop being paralyzed. Stop swallowing your words. Stop caring what other people think. Wear what you want. Say what you want. Listen to the music you want to listen to. Play it loud as fuck and dance to it. Go out for a drive at midnight and forget that you have school the next day. Stop waiting for Friday. Live now. Do it now. Take risks. Tell secrets. This life is yours. When are you going to realize that you can do whatever you want?
Things I'm so glad I started doing:

1. Stopping the self-pity party.
2. Allowing people to tell about their problems without telling them about mine.
3. Realizing I’m not the most important person ever to exist.
4. Stopping making everything about me.
5. Letting other people have their time in the spotlight.
6. Shutting my mouth for once.
7. Not giving my opinion on everything.
8. Letting people be.
9. Deciding to be happy because it is a choice.
10. Stop caring what other people think of what I look like.
11. Realizing who my true friends are.
12. Taking care of myself.
13. Spending time with myself by myself

some nice things to do

1. carry a plastic bag and pick up litter that you see
2. pay for the person behind you
3. put a cute anonymous note in a library book
4. send a kind anon ask to someone you’re following
5. tell your friends and family you love them
6. make cookies for your best friend
7. include someone who looks left out in a conversation
8. hug people tightly
9. say “thank you” to someone you appreciate
10. compliment your friend’s talents
11. have a checklist and challenge yourself to tick everything off
12. stand up, stretch, and drink a glass of water every hour
13. start jogging, don’t feel bad if you’re slow
14. wake up early so you have time for both hobbies and studying
15. look at things with your eyes more than you take photos
16. treat yourself how you would treat your best friend
17. learn how to bake a cake
18. give yourself some time alone
19. read a book
20. try a new hairstyle
21. learn a new language
22. look at things and appreciate their poetry and beauty
23. keep a journal for all the moments you want to remember
24. pay more attention to the good things than the bad things
25. have manners and don’t be aggressive or rude
26. if someone is rude, be the bigger person and walk away
27. but sugar-free chewing gum so you don’t have to give in to junk food cravings
28. write down your favourite quotes
29. if it’s raining, share your umbrella with someone who needs it
30. be nice to kids even if you dislike them
31. keep making your art, writing, and photography. keep doing things even if you think you suck
32. keep doing something you’re passionate about even though no one is being supportive
33. stop changing yourself to fit the standards of other people
34. plant a garden of fruits and flowers
35. stop sitting down so much and go out and see the world
36. be strong. don’t let people walk all over you
37. focus on your studying for 30 minutes and give yourself a 10 minute break
38. look at the moon and the stars
39. look at the clouds, sunrise and sunset
40. stop using your phone at dinner
41. have a bubble bath
42. message someone you haven’t talked to for a while
43. let go of toxic people who don’t deserve you
44. don’t be afraid to say that you were wrong
45. keep yourself busy so you stop overthinking so much
46. don’t assume things about someone you don’t know
47. say kind things behind someone’s back
48. be nice to others even if you feel angry, sad or bitter. it’s not their fault
49. remember that your emotions don’t have to rule your actions
50. stop caring so much about what other people might think
51. wear what you want
52. smile at a stranger
53. don’t worry. worrying about the future is useless. it will be a lot less scary than you imagined
54. stop not caring about important things. care about everything and everyone you love with all your heart.
55. stop checking your notifications every 2 minutes
56. don’t play mind games with people
57. make your resting face more happy
58. think happy thoughts even if it feels fake, and you will turn more positive
59. be confident. fake the confidence until you have natural confidence
60. make every morning a new beginning
61. try to understand people rather than be judgemental
62. educate yourself on societal issues
63. stop blaming other people for your own mistakes
64. swear less and don’t call people mean and derogatory terms
65. either learn or be inspired by everything you see
66. constantly find new ways to improve yourself
67. have little goals every day and feel great when you achieve them
68. your comfort zone is nice but don’t stay in it too much. be brave and try something new, even if you fail it’s not a failure
69. tidy your desk
70. watch all the best films
71. stop saying mean things to yourself
72. be happy for no reason
73. say hi to everyone you know
74. don’t dwell on your past
75. keep doing something you’re passionate about even if people criticise you
76. put your alarm away from your bed so you get out of bed as soon as the alarm goes off
77. let your emotions out, either by talking to someone or letting it out creatively
78. google everything you’re curious about
79. use a dictionary for words you don’t know
80. don’t feel sad about all the unanswerable questions
81. be kind to everyone, everything and yourself.
82. spread love and happiness constantly
83. help people who need it
84. don’t be afraid to cry
85. pick yourself up. you don’t need other people to save you
86. if you don’t have anything kind or constructive to say, don’t say it
87. breathe through your stomach, not your chest
88. sleep earlier!!
89. eat more fruits than chocolate
90. be there when your friend is sad, not just when everything is fine
91. make your bed every morning
92. observe everything and pay attention to what’s around you
93. quit any addictions you have
94. give more attention to all the great things
95. learn, accept your past, and move on
96. write things down to remember them
97. be proud of every little victory
98. be proud of who you are
99. remember that you’re loveable, important and worthy of happiness
100. don’t give up. you’re still young and you have a whole life ahead of you.

Look at you. You’re young. And you’re scared. Why are you so scared? Stop being paralyzed. Stop swallowing your words. Stop caring what other people think. Wear what you want. Say what you want. Listen to the music you want to listen to. Play it loud as fuck and dance to it. Go out for a drive at midnight and forget that you have school the next day. Stop waiting for Friday. Live now. Do it now. Take risks. Tell secrets. This life is yours. When are you going to realize that you can do whatever you want?
—  Louise Flory

anonymous asked:

Please tell me how to be confident

Stop caring what others think, realise their opinions are worthless, and you hold them in too much a high esteem then they deserve. Demote all persons of your idealisms. Be yourself, be in your truth, and own every part of yourself; light and darkness. Grow from the soul onwards. Live by the truth of love. Improve your faults, own your virtues. Be graceful, kind and humble. Be a person of good character and attitude. Be proud of who you are. Just be 🌹

life’s too short to pretend you hate everything/everyone bc it’s the cool thing to do

BEST FRIEND! YOONGI

Originally posted by cyyphr

(word count is like 2000+ oops)

- First things first, let’s be real,, best friend yoongi would roll his eyes at you a LOT n0 doubt

-   your friendship is probably built on insulting each other, in like an affectionate way lmao

- also music,, that would definitely be a major factor of your friendship

-   he’d have such good song recs aaaaa

-   i’m still screaming about his playlist on Spotify !!!!!!

-  ok but like imagine trying to wake him up

-   He’d probably hit u over the head with a pillow n prolly swear at u to get lost

- The most effective way to wake him up was to tip water on his face,,, which he hATes lmao

- But it works s0,,,

-  Sometimes when he’d go a night without sleeping and was feelin kinda cheeky,, he’d pour water on u at 4:30am and justify it as payback

-   loWKEY Cuddles

-   like you’d just be sitting on the couch watching a movie n he’s just flop down and use your lap as a pillow and you’d be all like “yoongi wyd” and he’d be “shh ur comfy”

Keep reading

not to be emo but btob are literally so fun and positive… they almost always try to see the good in things and make the best out of any situation. 😢 i remember when cube staff said that they get upset watching them because they’re so kind and pure-hearted that they come across as naive and they don’t speak up when they’re unhappy with something. when they’re together they totally stop caring about what other people think of them or if they’re embarrassing because 🗣️ that doesn’t matter to them as long as they have each other 🗣

What I Learned in High School

The gazing eyes of truth and reality has beat me with a stick all of my life. I am about to graduate high school and in recent days my mind is traveling backwards into my past, into the depths of my soul. A normal and easy childhood, tattered with the pain of bullying and high expectations, along with mental disorder labels smacking me in the face. Feelings of lonesome often followed me down a dark road, but through out my past I went in and out of the light.

I had dreams of being the center of attention, awing a crowd, spreading a message. I suppose that is why I was attracted to the performing arts. I had always loved to sing and acting was a little up there with it. So I tried musicals, voice lessons, and most of all tried so hard to force my voice to sound good enough for people to like it that I lost my natural voice and keen emotional connection in whichever song I was singing.

My natural voice hid behind the walls of my own skin and the only time my real emotions in a song would come out was when I wasn’t trying to perform for anybody, when I was just connecting with the song, and having my own moment. For me, and me only. And maybe that’s why I never got the solos in choir, because I never felt it or maybe I just was no good. It wasn’t for me anymore. I tried too hard.

Then, I realized that writing had always been my outlet, I never had to change it for anybody, people always seemed to like it, and I still love to sing and act goofy and be all crazy. I do it for me now, but don’t get me wrong, somedays I fallback into the trap of trying too hard to impress and get people’s approval.

But that’s okay, because times when I have tried the least hard to impress anybody, were my most successful periods in my life. I made amazing friends after I stopped trying to pretend to be somebody I wasn’t. My grades got higher when I stopped trying to dumb myself down. I became prettier when I stopped giving a crap about how I looked.

So as you go on with you life, in whichever stage you are in, with whatever struggle or identity crisis you are facing, remember that you don’t have to perform for anybody, but yourself.

Johnny, Taeyong & Yuta reaction to their s/o being insecure about their height

Johnny: 

Originally posted by ohbaibeeitsyou

He would keep telling you how beautiful you are. Johnny’s that type of guy to overrun you with compliments. it would make you feel a lot better about your height. “You should wear what you like, and stop caring what others think!! and I mean you look great in those heels babe”

Taeyong:

Originally posted by dovounq

“who cares about beauty standards, wear the heels you want!! You’re just perfect for me” (imagine you’re mark dhjkd) 

Yuta:

Originally posted by nakasyuta

Whenever you had your downs because you felt insecure about your height, Yuta would try everything to make you smile again. He really wouldn’t care about beauty standards at all. “the only one who can stare at you is me, so don’t care about the others baby” 

anonymous asked:

How do I stop being so sensitive and caring what others think of me?

Take some time out, soul search and find out who you are. Once you are comfortable within yourself and know yourself, other people’s opinions won’t affect you. People thrive off the insecurities of others, hence why confident people are harder to break. It’ll take some time, but you’ll get there. Plus, being a sensitive soul in this world isn’t bad , please don’t let anyone turn you cold. 💛

Am I pretty enough? Am I skinny enough? Do I wear the right clothes? Do I say the right things? Are my shoes okay? Do they match my outfit? Does my hair look okay? Am I okay? One thing that I found most common in people that have reached out to me is confidence, where is it? What is it? What is this idea of self-assurance and where can I get it? Many of us struggle with confidence issues every single day. We have these impossible standards we think we need to live up to: “Am I skinny enough? Am I pretty enough? Am I saying the right things? Am I hanging out with the correct people?” And I have one question: who cares? People ask me “Where can I find self-confidence? How can I build myself up?” You can do this and you can find this, by caring about one thing: yourself. We find confidence when we stop caring about what other people think. Society and people in general have given each other such high expectations in any aspect of life, in our love life, in our appearance, in our jobs, school expectations, grades, starting out young… My most common question is how do I find confidence. You find it when you find yourself, and that is one thing that I’m certain about. And it does not come easy, but it does come. We live in a world where “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” but that’s not true, scars may heal but words are constantly hurting. We’re constantly replaying these words over and over: “you’re fat, you’re ugly, you’re not worth it”; and there’s nobody to tell us these aren’t true. All we see is a missed guided representation, a reflection of these words, and I’m here to tell you, male, female, thirteen, eighty seven, to be confident and find yourself, find your own self-worth, find your own definition of who you are. Because when you find out who you are, that’s what matters, not what other people think about you. It may be hard, when you’re constantly being torn out, day after day, and people are telling you it’s just words. You have to be strong, you have to realise that the only way you’re gonna find confidence is if you just don’t care what people think about you because who cares? The only thing you should care about is yourself. Care enough to think that you are worth it and you are confident, because you are attractive enough, you are worth enough. Confidence is not for the pretty, confidence is not for the talented, the rich, the popular, confidence is for you. Be confident in who you are, ‘cause you only have one life to live, you are only given one chance, one opportunity to be one person and that is yourself. Don’t let what anybody thinks of you tear you down, be confident in what you do, do it for you and not for anybody else, and then you will find confidence, I promise you this. Love yourself. Whatever life has thrown at you, just know you can come back from it and smile. Confidence is what you make it, confidence is who you are. You have to believe you are worth it, because you are. If you’re not smiling, you’re doing it wrong.
—  Anna Clendening

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Never let them take the light behind your eyes. 💫 (Nunca deixe-os levar à luz atrás de seus olhos.)

Easy, baby, maybe I’m a liar, but for tonight I wanna fall in love. 🎵💕 (Fácil, bebê, talvez eu seja um mentiroso, mas para esta noite eu quero me apaixonar.)

Never stop to run behind your dreams even they seem impossible, because nothing is impossible. 🙏🏻🌀 (Nunca pare de correr atras dos seus sonhos até mesmo quando eles parecem impossiveis, porque nada é impossível.)

The day you stop caring about what other people think is the day you start living. 👍🏻🏻👊🏻 (O dia que você parar de se preocupar com o que os outros pensam é o dia que você começa a viver.)

I know that the days passed I see ours for it always ended. 🍃👊🏻 (Sei que os dias passaram eu vejo que o nosso pra sempre acabou.)

I will love you till the end of time. 💘 (Eu te amarei ate o fim dos tempos.)

You must be the change you wish to see in the world. 🏻 (Você deve ser a mudança que deseja ver no mundo.)

Sometimes, goodbye, is a second chance. 👍🏻💕 (Às vezes, adeus, é uma segunda chance.)

No matter where we are, our mind is our home. 🍃🙏🏻 (Não importa onde estamos, nossa mente é nosso lar.)

Today I feel so good. 🏻👌🏻 (Hoje eu me sinto tão bem.)

I stay dating your smile like the sea dating the moon. 😍🌊🌙 (Eu fico namorando o teu sorriso igual o mar namora a lua.)

I miss the way you looked at me. 😔 (Saudade do modo como você me olhava. )

Sometimes it’s like this: neither happy nor sad, just supporting. 👊🏻 (Às vezes é assim: nem feliz, nem triste, apenas suportando.)

It causes you, she dominates you, it consumes you like nicotine. 💃🏼💋🚬 (Ela te provoca, ela te domina, ela te consome igual nicotina.)

You do not like me? Fuck. Do not like it? Guess! 😘🏻 (Não gosta de mim? Foda-se. Não gostou? Adivinha!)

Not born to cover the hole, be curative… First heals after looking me! 😘👍🏻 (Não nasci pra tapar buraco, ser curativo… Primeiro se cura, depois me procura! )

Never give up, good things take time. 🙏🏻🍃 (Nunca desista, coisas boas levam tempo.)

Give me flowers, not pain. 💐 (Me dê flores, não dores. )

I love the words, but I am completely in love with attitudes. 🌼🍃 (Eu amo as palavras, mas sou completamente apaixonada por atitudes.)

There comes a time when you get tired of the disappointments, and begins to walk away from people. 🍃🌀 (Chega uma hora em que você se cansa das decepções, e começa a se afastar das pessoas. )

I like people who have attitude. Clashes and does happen. 👌🏻 (Gosto de gente que tem atitude. Bate de frente e faz acontecer. )

Let go, have better things to come. 🙏🏻🌀 (Deixa ir, tem coisa melhor pra vir.)

Someone tells the universe that it may already conspiring in my favor. 👌🏻👊🏻 (Alguém avisa ao universo que ele já pode conspirar ao meu favor.)

Look at you.You are young. And you are scared. Why are you so scared? Stop being paralyzed. Stop swallowing your words. Stop caring what other people think. Wear what you want. Say what you want. Listen to the music that you want to listen to. Play it loud as fuck and dance to it. Go out for a drive at midnight and forget that you have school the next day. Stop waiting for Friday. Live now. Do it now. Take risks. Tell secrets. This life is yours. When are you going to realize that you can do whatever you want?
—  Louise Flory
Some ExR (and Les Amis) Headcanons for this Barricade Day

-After the whole dying and holding hands thing, E and R are reincarnated about 180 years in the future.

-They meet in a coffee shop, not realizing who the other one is, until they brush hands when they reach to grab their coffees.

-This leads to a teary reunion inside the coffee shop (at this point they’ve stopped caring what the other customers think).

-They’re afraid to leave each other again (because you know, the last time they were forced apart it was because they both died) so the only obvious solution is for them to move in together.

-They eventually find the other members of the Les Amis. Courf was the first one they found. He was definitely covered in glitter (and so were E and R shortly after because we all know Courf definitely hugged them).

- Les Amis meetings become a regular thing (and you know they’re being held in the coffee shop E and R reunited in).

-Les Amis sleepovers

-E and R cuddling on the couch when either one of them gets too stressed (or in general, these two dorks cuddle so much it’s almost disgusting)

-Whoever wakes up first (it differs depending on the day) kisses the other on the forehead then goes and makes a pot of coffee because neither of them can function without it.

-R tells E he loves him first (he’d been wanting since before they died). It happened accidentally when they were arguing over something, but E made sure to immediately reassure R that he felt the same way. Let’s just say they didn’t finish arguing.

-They both had elaborate plans to propose to each other and Jehan gets so excited about it that he accidentally tells them…in front of everyone. They ask each other in front of all of their friends and it’ s so much better than anything they had planned.

-Everyone cries at the ExR wedding. Everyone.

-They end up adopting two children and approximately five dogs and those kids and dogs have the best parents and aunts and uncles that anyone could ever ask for and they all live happily ever after.