Please help me. I have an older brother who has verbally and phycologically abused me to the point where I can't be around him without feeling scared and angry. I don't want him to be arrested (even though he's an adult and I'm just a teen) and I don't want him to die. All I want is for him to move out and only visit once a month or so. What do I do? I need him to stop. I don't know how he got this way.I don't know what to do. He hadn't physically hurt me, but still. I'm in pain. Can I fix him?
Have you told anyone else about the abuse? I think that’s your first step. Whether it be a parent or therapist, pastor, teacher, etc. You need to talk to someone who can help you figure out the next step. (Though parent may be best as I’m assuming you’re both living with said parent(s) and that’s who can adjust the living situation.)
As for your second question, no, you can’t fix him. Only God can do that. What you can do is pray for him. Pray for him and forgive him (this may take time) and continue to love him from a safe distance. You don’t even have visit once a month or so if you don’t want to once he eventually moves out (or once you do–whichever comes first). That’s your choice.
Seeing a therapist (if you’re not already) might be something to consider as well.
I’m so sorry you’re in pain, and I’m so sorry this happened. Stay strong, friend. Keep praying and reading His Word and know that the pain does fade. (And feel free to message me privately with any more questions/updates.)
I’ll be praying for you and your family. <3
All my love,