Can we as a society please like stop teaching young children that anything done in the name of love is okay and even noble? Just because someone does something out of love does not make it okay or excusable.
This line of thought is is so often portrayed in media, especially in YA literature and media, where straight guys are excused or even congratulated for their shitty behavior because they did it out of love (looking at you Stephanie Meyer). It is perpetuated in “he does it because he likes you” type comments made toward literal children. It is the foundation of harassment and entitlement toward women. It is everywhere.
This idea is DANGEROUS. This idea gets young people, especially young women, abused and killed. Love is not an excuse, it is not a way to sweep the dirt under the rug. Love is commitment and honesty and work. “But he did it because he loves her,” is a cop-out, plain and simple. It allows people, especially men, to hide behind their affections to avoid owning up to their shitty behavior.
Not everything done in the name of love is done in the spirit of love, and we need to start teaching young people to tell the difference.
So, many years ago, I did a book signing with Stephanie Meyer, the author of Twilight, and I had, like, maybe, 3-4 fans in the audience and Stephanie had between, like, 5 and 6 million. And a lot of the people who were at the event were wearing homemade t-shirts about Twilight. And I just remember thinking ‘that is the coolest thing I have ever seen, and it sucks that I will never be that kind of author that people respond to so deeply and so passionately.’ And then the first time I saw somebody wearing a t-shirt inspired by one of my books that they’d made themselves, I just remember thinking, like, 'Oh, my god. Oh, my god. It’s happening.’ That’s just one of the best feelings I’ve had in my professional life
John Green (Only Pause for Applause (w/ Hannah Hart!))
Ok, I admit it. I put off reading The Host for a really long time. And honestly I was probably never going to read it, but a good friend who has excellent taste in books recommended it. And you know what? I actually liked it more than I was expecting.
Have any of you guys read The Host? What did you think of it?
Honestly…. Twilight isn’t even that badly written. Yeah it’s not outstanding, but I’ve read so many other books with writing 10 times worse that were not even as interesting or readable. I think a lot of the hate Twilight specifically gets is because society automatically loathes anything that adolescent girls like.
I’m currently reading The Host and I’m really enjoying it so far! It’s been on my shelf for years and I was putting it off mostly because I wasn’t a huge fan of Stephanie Meyer’s writing style. But it’s pretty good so far 💛