“About three things I was absolutely positive. First, Edward was a vampire. Second, there was a part of him-and I didn’t know how potent that part might be-that thirsted for my blood. And third, I was unconditionally and irrevocably in love with him.”
Can we as a society please like stop teaching young children that anything done in the name of love is okay and even noble? Just because someone does something out of love does not make it okay or excusable.
This line of thought is is so often portrayed in media, especially in YA literature and media, where straight guys are excused or even congratulated for their shitty behavior because they did it out of love (looking at you Stephanie Meyer). It is perpetuated in “he does it because he likes you” type comments made toward literal children. It is the foundation of harassment and entitlement toward women. It is everywhere.
This idea is DANGEROUS. This idea gets young people, especially young women, abused and killed. Love is not an excuse, it is not a way to sweep the dirt under the rug. Love is commitment and honesty and work. “But he did it because he loves her,” is a cop-out, plain and simple. It allows people, especially men, to hide behind their affections to avoid owning up to their shitty behavior.
Not everything done in the name of love is done in the spirit of love, and we need to start teaching young people to tell the difference.
“The sun was hot on my skin, too bright as it bounced off the white concrete and blinded me. I felt dangerously exposed. More fiercely than I would have dreamed I was capable of, I wished for the green, protective forest of Forks … of home.”
Ok, I admit it. I put off reading The Host for a really long time. And honestly I was probably never going to read it, but a good friend who has excellent taste in books recommended it. And you know what? I actually liked it more than I was expecting.
Have any of you guys read The Host? What did you think of it?
I’m currently reading The Host and I’m really enjoying it so far! It’s been on my shelf for years and I was putting it off mostly because I wasn’t a huge fan of Stephanie Meyer’s writing style. But it’s pretty good so far 💛