It’s strange, isn’t it, how the idea of belonging to someone can sound so great? It can be comforting, the way it makes things decided. We like the thought of being held, until it’s too tight. We like that certainty, until it means there’s no way out. And we like being his, until we realize we’re not ours anymore.
But if I hold your hand,
I’ll never let go
and if I look into your eyes,
I’ll never look away.
So I warn you to stay away
And I try to push you away
Because you just might
leave me one day.
Then I’ll be left wishing
I could’ve held you
for one more day,
Playing the lyrics that
remind me of you on replay.
And then I’ll blame
myself for letting you stay
Only regretting that I
didn’t beg you to stay,
Only regretting that I
that I let you slip away.
Relax. Breathe. It’s okay, you have time. Take it day by day and allow things to unfold as they’re meant to. Your life will happen according to its own timing, and you will become the person you’re meant to be.
Many of you ask what to do when your motivation levels are low and how to stay motivated to study. Although it is really hard to stay motivated at all times (more about it later), we decided to share some things that may help you stay motivated and focused on working.
1. Define your exact goal To stay motivated you need to know why exactly you need to be motivated. Write down (specifically!) what you want to achieve and an approximate time you need for it. Remember to be realistic and not go too easy (but also not too hard) on yourself. For example, avoid writing “finish all the stuff- approx. 3 days” and instead write “finish revision- approx. 4 hours, rewrite notes- approx. 1 hour, plan upcoming week- approx. 45 minutes”. You need a clear idea of what you want to accomplish.
2. Break it down Once you have a specific goal, break it down into smaller pieces. So if you want to “study for a test”, you probably should “re-read necessary chapters”, “take notes”, maybe “watch lectures online”, “do old tests”, “re-read notes”. That way you aren’t facing a seemingly unachievable (so automatically demotivating) goal, but many smaller, and therefore easier to tackle tasks. Also, there is nothing as satisfying and motivating as crossing something off a to-do-list :)
3. Reward yourself after finishing your task If you actually finished writing this paper or you did study for 3 hours, you really deserve this 30 minutes break or an episode of your favorite show or a cupcake or a manicure. Having something to look forward to while studying actually helps. Just remember to be honest with yourself and to keep the ‘work done’ to ‘rewards received’ ratio reasonable
4. Tell someone what you plan to do Tell your friend or your parents or anyone who may hold you accountable what you want to do. That way, they will actually expect you to do this and you will feel more motivated (as being afraid of shame is actually a great motivator)
5. Try to make studying as pleasurable as possible Clean you desk. Have some water. Prepare a tiny snack. Have all the books necessary in front of you. Tell you family/ roommates that you’ll be studying and therefore need peace and quiet. Turn off your phone and TV. If you can, invest in some nice stationery (though it isn’t necessary by any means!). Try not to hurry. It sounds super simple, but it is true that it’s easier to work/ study if your working space is is nice.
6. Keep track of your progress and accomplishments so far Seeing how much you did and achieved so far, helps you to keep going in the moments of lowest motivation, which brings me to..
7. Just start. This is an amazing tip, which works every single time. It’s much easier to keep working than to start working. Get off the couch and do just one thing- read one chapter, watch one lecture. Sometimes this small action can completely flip you attitude and get you back on track of studying.
8. Remember there is no such thing as stupid motivator You get motivated by printing out motivational quotes and sticking them around your room? Great! Wanting to become next Tu YouYou keeps you going? Awesome! You study so you can get a great job and afford pretty shoes and nice cars? Good for you! Just thinking about Addison Montgomery makes you want to study? Amazing! Remember that whatever keeps you focused and motivating, it is great as it serves it purpose and you should never be ashamed of what it is!
9. Don’t get distracted by your mistakes- learn from them It happened and you survived. There is no point in reminiscing, focus instead on what you can do better next time. You can use the feelings of sadness and anger as motivators, just remember not to drown in them
10. Create a studying routine and stick to it There are days when nothing makes you motivated and they happen to everybody. That’s why it is so important to establish a studying routine- so even on days when studying is the last thing you want to do, you still do it- because you “programmed” yourself to do so. Sometimes, when nothing works you simply need to hustle. Celebrate those days, because having done something during those days is the greatest victory of all :)
11. And always remember that being able to study is a great privilege Even when it seems like the worst of chores
If there’s something you’ve always wanted to do but have never done, go do it. If there’s a skill you’ve always wanted to develop, go practice it. Or something you’ve always felt the urge to chase after, go catch it. It may be your calling. And regardless of what society deems as successful, we need to do what’s right, and that’s following the path towards what makes us truly happy.