stay calm it's not our division

Shamans also believe that nothing is random in the universe; everything happens for a purpose. Our childhood experiences are not accidental, nor are the parents who programmed us with specific beliefs, nor are the circumstances of our birth and early years. According to shamanic thinking, our essence chose these circumstances in order to learn lessons. Eventually the false personality, tries to manipulates these circumstances to its own advantage, and under this divisive influence we allow circumstances to program us in ways that attract thoughts and feelings that establish and reinforce retaining walls in the mind.
—  Awaken the Inner Shaman - José Luis Stevens, PhD