stay attractive


You can say I spend majority of my year with Dan & Phil. I am so glad that the phandom welcomed me with open arms. I made a lot of new friends, did fun projects and achieved many goals that I’ve set for myself; like having an entire art summary filled with colours+digital and completing inktober. To me, it was been a very successful year. I may or may not still be in the phandom but where ever my art takes me, I hope to create new memories in 2017 like this year.

Jan: Kiss Me
Feb: Phamily
Mar: Dentist Kink
Apr: Shibes!
May: Love Me Like You Do
June: If I lose myself 
July: Majestic Pastel
Aug: Team Mystic
Sept: Only one
Nov: Phanime
Dec: Secret Santa

Your mind is like a magnet. Depending on what you think, you will then attract into your life. Be mindful of what thoughts go through your head, for you never know what they’re drawing towards you.
Give unto others the energy and vibes you desire to attract.
—  Lalah Delia
Be mindful of the energy you attract, give and keep.
—  Lalah Deila

Never mind that there are probably kids out there (including me?) who had distinct asexual experiences at 10 years old. Asexuality might be a lack of attraction but it’s also its own thing and is a formative concept on its own. It’s not the “innocence” of a child who hasn’t developed an identity or awareness of sexuality yet– a concept that our society is already creepy about.

if childhood asexual experiences (rather than: asexuality as a lack of other sexual development experiences!) weren’t a thing, then we wouldn’t have nearly so many ace people or aroace people looking back at themselves and going “wait, I’ve felt this feeling in my past.”

The Universe recognizes you by your frequency, energy and vibration.
—  Lalah Delia
“A warrior doesn’t seek anything for his solace,” he said in a tone that did not admit reproach. Then he proceeded to smash my arguments. He said that a warrior could not possibly leave anything to chance, that a warrior actually affected the outcome of events by the force of his awareness and his unbending intent.
—  Carlos Castenada -The Second Ring of Power

I always thought that Obsidian’s reluctance to do romance had more to do with the structurization of romance than romance part itself.

Look at how most devs make romance options. It starts with companion design: love interests need to be conventionally attractive, fill in different romance tropes (nice guy, ice queen, the flirt, etc.) and provide players with traditional cutesy romance, angsty brooding romance and whatever else is there.

This all can be very depressing to design, ever since you do not only need to design the character in such a way that it would work well with plot perspective and fill certain combat roles, but also make sure the character stays “romantically attractive”. Does that mean that Hiravias needs to be less of a stinky, scarred druid? Pretty up Pallegina? Kick out Durance, to make more place for handsome guys? 

Do you also make some characters more likable, to make sure they stay “romanceable”? Do you downplay Eder’s racism or does romance mean that by talking about it, Eder no longer has any prejudices left? What does that mean for everyone else who did not romance him?

So instead of providing more depth, games with romances in mind tend to have LESS varied characters and some rather unsatisfying friendship paths.

So I am very happy that Obsidian wants to make first characters and if it fits the character, allow romance to blossom. From design standpoint it’s completely different. Romances no longer have to be a fully structured romance with 3 designated romance scenes and 1 sex scene before main mission. No character is the same, so their romances do not need to have the same structure either. There is more freedom and more room for experimentation. And I don’t have to worry about characters declaring their undying love for me, for no other reason that I flirted with them three times. I would really love to have little more nuance in romances.

Some of the best days of your life, haven’t even happened yet.
—  Lalah Delia

anonymous asked:

It never fails to confuse and infuriate me when I see C$ers being Feminists!!!! and all about Gilr Power!!! Like... how? How do you not see it?

well, it’s rather more complicated than that. they aren’t being feminists, but they are parroting feminist talking points in the name of anti-feminist ends. and in many ways that’s on the terrain of conservative feminism or white feminism or post-feminism.

so, this is the idea that it’s empowering to “choose” being normative–normatively attractive, stay at home mom, subordinate to husband, wearing floral atrocities, whatever it may be. 

and like it’s so clever and insidious, because yes! of course people should be able to choose! telling them they can’t choose those things looks a whole lot like telling them they can’t choose other things at the surface level where people with little or no knowledge tend to operate. 

but what does it mean to choose the thing that you are either coerced into by society (stick) or rewarded for by society (carrot)? can that be a free choice? do you have to be aware of the constraints on your position for it to be a free choice? what is the nature of freedom in relation to social norms? etc. people don’t have those conversations. most people aren’t equipped to have them or can’t be bothered. 

and so we get nonsense like “becoming a completely different person once you start dating a dude is empowerment.”

How To Avoid ‘Feeding/Fueling’ Toxic People

Some people have taken on a ‘diabolical’ assignment to be a toxic/negative person, (a.k.a an ‘enemy’ or a ‘hater’) in your life, regardless to how awesome, harmonious, kind, giving, changed and divine you are. Be mindful of who you are sharing your energy, vision, good news, progress and goals with. These highly ‘toxic’ people feed and fuel off of bothering, pestering, annoying, dishonoring and lying to, on and about you. The best way to deal with these folks is simply not to.
Do not give toxic people any life…a.k.a energy.
They are seeking to infect you and drain you of your energy, time, focus, joy, peace, potential and life force, do not allow them to; leave them starving and to their own demonic ways; which will undoubtedly catch up to them in just a matter of time, because the Law of Attraction is very real.
Keep vibrating higher daily, no matter what.

-Lalah Delia | Vibrate Higher Daily


redmoondreams replied to your post “OK so I think it’s time I said this in a post, but I’m actually…”

I really hope we’re wrong about this…

Me too, I don’t think I have the gas to explain the situation with him and warn people to stay the heck away from him constantly for like 2+ years until the next game.