the worst part about the show making arya some absurd version of stoneheart is that the books are clearly setting arya up to *stop* lady stoneheart. like its gonna be the literal opposite situation. i don’t need to read twow to know where this is going. its obvious. grrm was adamant about stoneheart being kept in for a reason. its going to be a huge part of arya’s arc and growth but instead they’ve just kept her in this static state where they use her to kill for shock and its fucking terrible and its breaking my heart tbh
I’m moving into my first apartment just me and my son after separating from my husband. Any tips for blessing my new home? Or witchy housewarming practices?
Apologize for the delay. We here at Witchmums have both been swamped and sometimes we have to take a break for our families and schoolwork.
First off we want to offer hugs. Ending a relationship, no matter the reason, is tough. And even moreso when children are involved. We hope you’re settling into your house and taking some time for self care as you go through this <3
If you have the capacity for it, now might be a great time to look into incorporating hearth witchery into your practice. Hearth witchery is ALL about making a house feel like a home.
There’s a wonderful chapter in my FAVORITE witchcraft book of all time, Way of the Hedge Witch by Arin Murphy-Hiscock, about protecting house and home. the entire book is gold, but there’s a threshold protection ritual there that you might want to use. I plan to do this for my house this Samhain :)
You will need:
1 cup of water
½ cup of vinegar
1 tablespoon of salt
1 tablespoon of lemon juice
bowl or bucket
sage stick(or loose dried sage, a charcoal tablet, and a censer)
matches or lighter
sealing oil (see Chapter 11, or use a tablespoon of olive oil with a pinch of salt added to it)
3 cloves of garlic
Blend the water, vinegar, salt, and lemon juice together in a bowl or bucket. With the cloth, use this mixture to wash the threshold and doorframe. Be thorough: scrub the threshold inside and out, as well as the doorframe on both sides of the door, and both sides of the door itself.
Light the sage and move it around the doorframe, wafting the smoke so that it touches the area inside and out. Lay the bundle in a censer or heatproof dish and allow it to smolder while you complete the ritual.
Dip your finger in the sealing oil and draw an unbroken line around the outside of the doorframe. Dip your finger in the oil again as necessary, but begin again exactly where you left off, or retrace an inch or so of the line to ensure its continuity. As you draw the line, say:
No evil or illness may cross this threshold.
I hereby bar it from entering.
My home is sacred, and protected.
Dip your finger in the oil again. On the inside of the doorframe, touch your finger to the upper left corner, and trace a line in the air down and across the doorway to touch the lower right corner. Dip your finger in the oil again, touch it to the upper right corner, and draw a line in the air down and across to touch the lower left corner. Dip your finger one last time and touch it to the middle of the lintel above the door, and draw a line in the air straight down to touch the middle of the threshold. As you do, say again:
No evil or illness may cross this threshold.
I hereby bar it from entering.
My home is sacred, and protected.
This symbol is a hexefus, or a combination of the runes Isa (a vertical line) and Gebo (an X). Gebo represents exchanges of energy or material objects, while Isa represents a static state (it translates to “ice”). Drawn together in this bindrune form, Isa “freezes” the state of your home and possessions, protecting it from both physical and other intrusion.
Take three cloves of garlic. Touch each of them with a finger dipped in the oil. Bury them under your threshold or doorstep, or as near to it as possible. Bury one at each end of the step or threshold, and one in the middle. As you do, say again one final time:
No evil or illness may cross this threshold.
I hereby bar it from entering.
My home is sacred, and protected.
Hopefully that helps! Let us know how you get on settling in :)
you know I expect a certain amount of age discourse these days but I have to say seeing folks freak out over “sexualization of minors” is really harkening back to that Puritan Morality post
like, you can even side-skip the entire question! because first we have to ask who determines a minor? it’s not even static in all 50 states! let alone what “sexualizing” means and how it’s been deployed in the past to accuse REAL queer adults of pedophilia
(this accusation never seems to manifest with het ships for Some Unknown Reason, and I have absolutely and positively ZERO idea Why that could POSSIBLY be, of course)
almost like there’s a history to this accusation and people need to sit the fuck down and read a book before they start mouthing off with the latest bullshit batch of performative SJW tumblr rhetoric
Birthday - EF - Sigali Siman Tov Sat, June 17 …. it is birthday time and we wish Sigali a very happy one .. love from all of us ..Ef
Many are the arts in their finality that have been designed for me .. and they are truly most artistic .. but really some of the photographs that keep appearing on the platforms are truly amazing .. I wonder where it is obtained from .. and they rightly deserve a mention on record of its occurrence ..
An afternoon in Tashkent, Russia .. during the festival of films .. Raj Kapoor ji, Shashi ji were also there .. as were the family .. Shweta and Abhishek barely seen along with Jaya ..Abhishek actually signed his first autograph at this event .. quite confident he was asked by one of the Russian hosts to do so and he did .. we all laughed ..
Raj ji Shashji and I were placed before a mike and asked to sing a song .. any song .. and Raj ji took the lead and we sang ‘Saare Jahaan se achcha, Hindustan hamara ..’
‘The Great Gatsby’ premiere at Cannes .. and with the star Leonardo di Caprio at the red carpet and then on stage .. me giving introduction speech in Hindi .. 100 years of Indian Cinema .. he a most humble and down to earth co star .. caring and considerate through out the making of the film ..
Visiting Jaya on the sets of ‘Hazaar Chaurasi ki Ma’ ..Govind Nihalani the director .. and the eating and feeding continues .. !! this at Raj Kamal Studios ..
Oh … i could just go on and on and on .. but thank you Ef for these inputs ..
and there be many more .. and I am unsure how these are made .. would someone enlighten me ..
Lamenting deficiencies may take away the pain of it for an instant .. but the long run remains with them ; the deficiencies .. if some is deformed and ugly .. there shall be some that is formed and beautiful .. the balance of nature is beyond all doubt .. having and being in possession of the best, the worth, the biggest and the largest are mere adjectives to describe them .. in practical terms they are just alphabets .. thoughts of the mind and the physical presence of the material - and deficiencies are often valued against deficiencies - shall ever remain .. and shall remain with them that are in possession of the deficient .. no other will or shall have the capacity to give the feel of it .. it never can .. for they are not the sufferer .. the sufferer is the one that holds it .. holds it day and night, lives breathes with it .. suffers its inadequate performance or demands of it .. other than him there are perhaps sympathisers .. and we know all about them from one of Babuji’s poems described earlier ..
Deficiency needs bearing and will .. the will to still be in its strength, even though all else crumbles about .. others will refer to it as that .. you will never .. for admitting it is a failure .. a retirement .. a death ..
As someone once said : ‘To retire is to die’ !!
Kill not thyself by the limitations of what could not happen, or was not what was required .. not of standard .. of lesser quality ..
That lesser, has the capacity to be the best example of more .. for when the less does normal, it becomes the more ..
Having more and stating its presence as more .. is boring .. static ..
Having less and stating its more or building up to more is revolution and reigning the crown ..
I shall have the lesser than most other .. but the will to make it seem or look more is the battle that shall be won .. and win we shall .. everyone is not perfect ..
And should never be ..
The perfect have no place on Earth .. on life .. on with us .. on with us in humanity .. for if thou art perfect, then why wait here in the world of Mother Earth .. your place is not required here .. you would be better off ‘upstairs’ .. leave us mortals to work out our imperfections, until ..
Hi! I've been thinking about the episode Barn Mates after the loud criticism and/or hatred directed towards it. The main critique is usually that Lapis forgiving Peridot was "forced", "rushed" and what have you. I admit I did find it a bit weird in spite of being a long time Lapidot shipper... but going through everything I realised there's an often overlooked detail. Namely, no one forced Lapis to stay anyway near the barn, but she kept hovering in the near vincinity. (1/4)
She knows where Steven lives; it’s not like she could never find
him again if she left. If Peridots presence caused her such grief,
there’s no reason she would stay around; Steven already made it clear
that the barn was given to Peridot first. Personally, I think she held
something akin to a grudge against Peridot for bringing her back to
Earth and just didn’t want to accept the fact that she had changed so
It fits into the theme of Same Old World when Steven shows that Earth is
constantly changing - something she never realised out of the spite she
held for the planet she was trapped on. In Barn Mates, Steven tried to
show her that people change, too. How does her character evolve in Alone
at Sea? She allows herself to start working on her past trauma, being
forced into a state of staticity, when she lets herself change with her
new experiences and apologizes to Jasper for mistreating her. (¾)
You can’t have any of these episodes without the others. Seeing it from
this perspective has made Barn Mates one of my favourite episodes
because of the underlying theme of allowing to let go and look ahead
(and, well, I’d lie if I said that I didn’t enjoy the Lapis/Peridot
interactions). What are your thoughts? Maybe I’m way off, haha. Anon
love from Sweden! (Sorry for spamming your inbox by the way!) (4/4)
Hi Anon, and thanks so much for sending this through!
I honestly think you might be onto something there.
No-one was forcing Lapis to stay at the barn, you’re right. I think that, at first, she might have wanted to keep the place for herself; of course, in the end her and Peridot decided to share it instead.
I do wonder if this might have been the first time that Lapis ever actually forgave someone, thanks to Steven.
We know that Lapis has a tendency to lash out at people when she feels wronged (such as when she attacks the Crystal Gems in Mirror Gem and then, of course, trapping Jasper in a toxic fusion). She really doesn’t forgive very easily - and she certainly has a lot of resentment towards Peridot at the start of Barn Mates. I think the turning point was when she broke the tape recorder and Peridot said:
“Look, I get it, you know? You’re confused! You can never go
back to Homeworld. This place doesn’t exactly feel like home yet.
You’re alone, no one could possibly know what that feels like! Oh wait, Ido! We’re the same, except… you don’t have to be alone!”
I think, at this point, Lapis may have began to “get” Peridot’s true intentions. She still lashes out at Peridot and tells her to leave, but I get the impression that she felt bad for that (as well as breaking the tape recorder) - especially after Steven called her out for it. She certainly looks like she’s contemplating something, and almost looks to be feeling a bit guilty judging from her body language in that scene.
And I think that is why she saved Peridot from the Roaming Eye. She even specifically stopped to ask Peridot if she was okay afterwards (and we all know what happened next, don’t we~)
After she forgave Peridot, I wonder if she did some soul-searching and began to wonder if she herself could also be forgiven for her past actions - hence the apology to Jasper. She sought the forgiveness of someone who she mistreated, just how Peridot did in Barn Mates. She even refers to herself as a “monster” - a far cry from the Lapis who’s always been the victim in the past. Although, of course, Alone At Sea didn’t end as well as Barn Mates - which is probably deliberate, actually, to directly contrast a toxic “relationship” with a healthy one.
As for Lapidot being “rushed”. I’ve said this before, but it’s literally because Lapis and Peridot don’t live with Steven. We see everything from his perspective; so if he doesn’t see what’s happening, then neither do we. It’s unfortunate, but it’s to be expected. As important as Lapidot (as well as Lapis and Peridot themselves) is to us though, we must remember that they’re minor characters. They live on their own, away from the main cast, and of course we’re not going to see anywhere near as much of them as we do the main Crystal Gems.
If they’re happy together, them I’m happy. The ship is basically canon at this point anyway ;)
literally no one has to be pretty. you don’t have to be pretty to be someone who’s worth loving. being pretty isn’t something that’s real or important, it’s a construct and a trap. there’s so much value and beauty in things we’ve been taught to see as ugly, there’s so much we’re missing because of our narrow view of what’s acceptable. ugliness has potential. ugliness is somewhere you can actually live. being pretty isn’t a space you can just live and exist in, it isn’t a static state, it’s a constant exhausting self imposed regimie of harm and constraint that never ends.
For an illustration themed around ‘adulthood’ and how we transform ourselves many times. As a child I thought it would be a static state, instead I’ve already destroyed and rebuilt myself more than once.
Confidence is a static state. Determination is active. Determination allows for doubt and for humility — both of which are critical in the world today. There is so much that we don’t know, and so much that we know we don’t know. To be overly confident or without doubt seems silly to me. Determination, on the other hand, is a commitment to win, a commitment to fight the good fight.
Anna Deavere Smith (from Letters to a Young Artist)
The world had long reached its form of perfectism. They had been in a state of static. Variations of static, but nonetheless static. For when change falls upon them Preservation will become Change and bring the world back to Chaos.
It’s interesting, this song coming immediately after Good News, a song about caring what
people think, about shouldn’ts,
because it’s a love song, and so often, especially in pop music, love songs are
defiant statements against every single shouldn’t.
Except, more accurately, this is a break-up song, a heartbreak song, about
all of the shoulds she never finds.
She bends herself around this new absence in her life, becoming a facsimile of
that very absence in an attempt to refind it: whenever I close my eyes/I’m chasing your tail lights and I know you left hours ago/I still haven’t
moved yet, her static state highlighting the lack of any other movement in
the house, the only movement the flicker behind her eyes as she dreams.
Once again, she is trapped inside herself: the walls of my skull bend backwards/and in
like a labyrinth, I can’t think of anyone else: a labyrinth containing only
her and the memories of her ex, trapped, lost. The song is a synaesthetic
explosion of heartbreak (ringing in my
ears tastes like blood), other senses taking over in the utter failure of
language. Something initially feels
like it could be replaced by ‘anything’ – if only I had spoken, if only there
had been words – but both something and
nothing perform more than one
function in this song.
Something is a
presence, yes, but it also implies substance. In the chorus she sings:
I should have said
something, something, something
But I couldn’t find
something to say
So I just said
nothing, nothing, nothing
Sat and watched you
The repetition and the verb ‘find’ gives language a slippy
materiality, and she is unable to form it into anything meaningful, echoing the
bland platitudes in Sprained Ankle (isn’t the weather nice, are you okay?).
The same thing happens with ‘nothing’, it’s repetition means, here, it no
longer feels like simple absence, but a shoving, pushing thing, the insistence on speaking aloud the nonsensical, the
meaningless. However, in the second chorus, the additional line and I know I meant nothing, nothing to you
is added, and here it is absence,
albeit an active one, a gaping chasm, notable because of its wrongness. She is
passive here, in her watching, and her lack of solid speech, and I was going to
write about the final line, about I won’t
think of anyone else, and the tinge of self-indulgence of that. It reminds
me of that line in Pride and Prejudice:
“a girl likes to be crossed in love now and then…it gives her a certain
distinction among her peers”. Nobody wants to be heartbroken, but there is a
temptation to wrap yourself in that sort of emotion, to wallow in it a little.
Won’t only appears
in the final line of the song: the rest of the time she is stuck in can’t, and so perhaps that admission of
will, which might otherwise feel like defeat, is a kind of progress. She is
giving herself the power to move on, admitting it is in her control. She’s not
there yet, she’s not doing it yet, but it’s a possibility. And that, after all,
As I stated statics before wil not go into that detail again except to say abuse towards men happens more than anyone would like to believe. So pose a society belief, a double standard if you will…it seems many believe it is not ok to hit a women, but it is ok for women to hit a man. It seems like in the long run men can defend themselfes. STOP right there did the standard not say men should not hit women….soooo how are they to defend themselves? Walk away…then why can’t women walk away? Please, please think about this. Once an attack starts one is frozen, can’t believe this is happening once or again and again. Try to run legs don’t work, if they do they will not carry me far enough to escape. No different child, women, man. Just like sexual abuse, physical abuse is about power and control. The perpetrators put THEIR desires over that of those they pray on.
No one; children, women NOR a man should be subjected to any touch/hit/attack of their body. A person’s personal space should never be breached without consent. I have begged before for people to educate themselves. It seems to take a celebrity or important person to fall from grace before the dishoner, degradation, shame to be recognized as a problem. Just because everyone may not end up in the hospital does not mean there are life altering inner bruises and pain, and, what is therefore the worst is the mental and emotional pain. Physical pain has more of a chance to be healed then the mental ones. The tears exist as much inside as outside, or they may never be seen at all. Trust me tears of a loved one exist when the one who is suppose to love them abuses the love and exchanges love for power and control. We are appalled at Weinstein’s and Spacey’s behaviors, I believe Naya’s behavior is no less appalling. STOP the abuse!
I am generally uncomfortable really talking about anyone else on my blog but C&D. As they are the two I have information about and have facts to support what I say. But this seems to be a pretty open and shut case and highlights something that is so very important.
Neither physical or mental abuse should be tolerated and it does not matter who the abuser is. Anyone can be a victim. And while the physical scares may hurt, the emotional scares stay forever.
The Naya story has made me so sad today, for so many reasons. And it also really resonated for so many reasons.
I absolutely love your blog. I'll keep my question brief. I was wondering if you had any techniques to increase sensitivity to spirits ? When I was younger it was a bit easier, usually "feeling" them in terms of emotions and the rare image in my head of how they look (mileage varied with this, sometimes they were in great detail, other times a general idea). The reason I am asking is that I'd really love to cultivate friendships with the spirits in my area for help with rituals etc. Thank in adv
Practice evocation to physical manifestation. The presence of the spirits in proper evocation is undoubtable, and quite unique. With time, as you proceed through necromancy, their presence outside of the ritual chamber will easily be detectable. Magic relies on the available media it can manifest in, if you do not posses the ability to see, hear or feel spirits, or the skill required for physical manifestation, then you should employ the use of Scrying tools, Static noise and “Altered states”.
As for how one may aquire “the sight”, there are many rites one can find to gain it, varying from year long rituals or training the eyes to Flagellation and spirit pacting. Consider your options and see what works for you.
‘Reality-warping horror’?” Her mouth beneath the mask curled up into a slow smile, and to those watching as she raised her wine glass, her hand seemed to glitch and flicker like static. “Nothing already exists, isn’t that scary enough?”
Resya existed before the modern era, yes, but it is here that she thrives amidst static and white noise and flickering streetlights. It is here that she appears as a wisp of a shadow, goddess of static and bone, goddess of backwards thoughts and eyes in dark corners. She likes contradictions and dead end alleys and doors that lead nowhere.
She swung down from the lowest branch of the tree, eyes glowing molten behind her mask. “I’d like to think that those who never have nightmares are cowards.”
“And why’s that?”
“They face nothing but stillness and forgettable silence. It’s boring.”
She exists, but doesn’t exist– a Schrödinger’s Goddess, if you will. Her ‘world’ is more of a concept, a dream-state of static and glitched out creatures and I can assure you the door you walked in through will not lead you back to the same place. When she bleeds into the dreams of humans she brings this conceptual labyrinth of doorways and dark forests with her, and then imbues it with the fears and doubts of mortals. It is less to frighten and more to warn, weaving premonitions and truths into the haunting whirls of terror she throws at the mortals.
Her form shifted and wavered as she looked down over the edge of the bridge, into the murky water below. To anyone else she was as human as they came, a tall woman with a large dog and an intimidating motorcycle. They rarely saw those moments where her form was incomplete, not entirely there. Like she was nothing but a holographic reflection of herself. I wondered, briefly, if it was because she was trapped.
I still wonder.
She was, quite literally, raised by wolves, and keeps with herself the immortal wolf Conn, her most faithful companion. Best described as ‘thick as thieves’, the bond Resya shares with Conn is something too strong to ever be broken.
Conn looked up at me with a low growl, and I saw my reflection in his many kaleidoscope eyes, felt exactly how he was going to murder me before he even began to move. I as very convinced that that was to be the end, but then the woman with the strange mask put out a hand, grinning at me.
“I think we’ve made ourselves a friend, Conn. A mortal… friend.”
Outcast, reject, disposable as dust. Her story is just as much static as the world in which she lives.
Unofficial MBTI tests can be inaccurate and the accompanying
descriptions are sometimes written by people who may or may not know
very much about type theory. Some people understand the 16 types through
memorizing labels or stereotypes and this might make them blind to the
diversity and subtleties of each type. If you want to understand typology and yourself beyond oversimplified
labels or generic descriptions, it is necessary to learn about type theory. Cognitive function theory tells us many things:
Type describes your cognitive motivations and the process through which you make sense of the world.
To understand personality, it is important to properly distinguish between cognition and behavior.
Cognition refers to your mental processes whereas behavior refers to
the things you DO that can be easily observed/measured by other people.
Type is not merely about describing how people behave, rather, it goes
deeper to examine the cognitive processes that produce consistent
patterns of thinking and behavior. Each of the sixteen types has a
unique cognitive signature but humans are not programmed machines, in
other words, thinking something does not automatically lead to doing
something. Type outlines your cognitive preferences but humans
presumably have free will, so you can choose to override personality
preferences whenever necessary. Personality is only one of many, many
factors that can influence what beliefs people adopt, what values they
cherish, and what decisions they make. Personality does not predict
everything you do but it is one important factor that can help explain
why you ended up making the choices you made.
Stereotypes erase individual differences and render type useless for understanding real people.
Many generic type descriptions assign certain behavioral traits to each
type which easily morph into stereotypes that people rely on to
understand others. Stereotypes can be harmful if they prey on your
insecurities, if they offer you a false sense of validation, or if you
use them to pigeonhole others unfairly. On the surface, stereotypes
might seem positive because people want to feel understood and labels
are an easy device for communicating about yourself to other people,
however, simplistic labels and stereotypes can lock you into seeing
yourself and others in a rigid way, cutting off the potential for growth
or deeper understanding. Everyone has their own unique history and life
circumstances to deal with, so every individual is a unique example of their type.
Let’s say that you often observe someone to be reserved, it is all too
easy to jump to the conclusion that they are introverted. However, there
are many possible non-type-related reasons why a person might behave
that way, such as: depression, a recent tragedy, past learning, cultural
influences, and so on. Therefore, when trying to type yourself or other
people, you are likely to make the wrong inferences if you rely on
stereotypes or simply take behaviors at face value; you should instead
try to grasp the cognitive processes that produced those behaviors,
which is a much more difficult task.
Type does not predict or determine what you will be skilled at (it
only tells you what aspects of reality you tend to pay more attention
No type is inherently more talented in a particular skill, field, job,
or career. Certain kinds of skills or subjects might appeal to you more
because of your type but there is no guarantee that you will end up
being GOOD AT learning or studying them. Frequently referenced concepts
like “intelligence” or “talent” fall outside of the cognitive type
system (though they interact in complex ways). In other words, personality and skill are two different issues.
To become good at something requires more than just personality, e.g.,
it requires aptitude, hard work, dedication, passion, education,
resources, and so on.
4. Type describes growth and development, so it should not be understood as a fixed or static psychological state.
In cognitive function theory, personality is conceptualized as a dynamic process. Although your type does not change, types grow and evolve over the course of a lifetime and each type is prone to certain developmental pitfalls.
When you understand the principles of type development, you can
exercise more control over your developmental process, consciously
steering your self-development in a more positive direction.
Type should be used as a tool to increase self-awareness rather than
used as an excuse for problematic thoughts, emotions, or behaviors.
Learning about cognitive functions will help you gradually know yourself better. When you understand your strengths and weaknesses
in greater depth, you have a chance to make the necessary corrections
and/or practice the necessary skills to bring better balance to your
personality. This allows you to master your outlook on life and improve
your ability to adapt to changes and challenges. You will be able to see
yourself and the world more realistically and then make better