I think ‘eating disorder’ is a crappy name for this illness. It’s too simplistic, too general. It’s invalidating. It suggests that the disorder is all about food & if we fix our “issues” with food and start eating better, we will be ‘cured’. That couldn’t be further from the truth. When we get our behaviours with food under control, thats when the real treatment & healing begins.
I don’t know, maybe something like ‘a starving heart disorder’ would be more fitting…because lets face it, we’re all secretly starving for something that isn’t food. Whether it be love, acceptance, control, strength, perfection, safety, trust, independence, comfort, happiness…the list goes on.
This way not only will people have a better chance at understanding that this is an inner thing, not an outer thing but maybe it will mean less comparisons between those who suffer. No more comparing ‘who is sicker’ or ‘which eating disorder is worse (and therefore more worthy of help)’ because we all suffer from the same thing, a starving heart…we all use different ways to cope with it, that’s all. And the ways in which we cope aren’t half as important as the fact that we’re all hurting and all deserve the love, support & care we so desperately need to get well.