We don’t know Sulu’s relationship status in ID, but it’s not too crazy to imagine that he might be dating or engaged to Ben here. Maybe ever married. And they might have discussed or been in the process of having a child together.
And when Spock *orders* the bridge crew to abandon ship, he’s the one who says no.
Star Trek Into Darkness (2013) dir. J.J.Abrams (2/3)
“There will always be those who mean to do us harm. To stop them, we risk awakening the same evil within ourselves. Our first instinct is to seek revenge when those we love are taken from us. But that’s not who we are… When Christopher Pike first gave me his ship, he had me recite the Captain’s Oath. Words I didn’t appreciate at the time. But now I see them as a call for us to remember who we once were and who we must be again.”