starting to post way too many selfies

The problem with self-love as we currently understand it is in our view of love itself, defined, too simply and too often, as an extraordinary feeling that we respond to with hearts and flowers and fantasy, ritual consumption and affectless passion. Modernity would have us mooning after ourselves like heartsick, slightly creepy teenagers, taking selfies and telling ourselves how special and perfect we are. This is not real self-love, no more than a catcaller loves the woman whose backside he’s loudly admiring in the street.

The harder, duller work of self-care is about the everyday, impossible effort of getting up and getting through your life in a world that would prefer you cowed and compliant. A world whose abusive logic wants you to see no structural problems, but only problems with yourself, or with those more marginalized and vulnerable than you are. Real love, the kind that soothes and lasts, is not a feeling, but a verb, an action. It’s about what you do for another person over the course of days and weeks and years, the work put in to care and cathexis. That’s the kind of love we’re terribly bad at giving ourselves, especially on the left.

The broader left could learn a great deal from the queer community, which has long taken the attitude that caring for oneself and one’s friends in a world of prejudice is not an optional part of the struggle—in many ways, it is the struggle. Writer and trans icon Kate Bornstein’s rule number one is “Do whatever it takes to make your life more worth living. Just don’t be mean.” It’s more than likely that one of the reasons that the trans and queer communities continue to make such gains in culture, despite a violent backlash, is the broad recognition that self-care, mutual aid, and gentle support can be tools of resistance, too. After the Orlando massacre, LGBTQ people across the world started posting selfies under the hashtag #queerselflove. In the midst of the horror, the public mourning, and the fear, queer people of all ages and backgrounds across the world engaged in some light-hearted celebration of ourselves, of one another.

The ideology of wellbeing may be exploitative, and the tendency of the left to fetishize despair is understandable, but it is not acceptable—and if we waste energy hating ourselves, nothing’s ever going to change. If hope is too hard to manage, the least we can do is take basic care of ourselves. On my greyest days, I remind myself of the words of the poet and activist Audre Lorde, who knew a thing or two about survival in an inhuman world, and wrote that self care “is not self-indulgence—it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.

— Life-Hacks Of The Poor And Aimless, Laurie Penny

*how to participate in bfsn*

I’m very passionate about this thing and I’m so happy more people are participating again, but I think it’s time to make some things clear, because

you do not need to get tagged to participate in bfsn!!! 

the tagging started as ‘I want to make sure some of my friends see this’ or ‘this person is very active in bfsn and I want to make sure they see my bomb ass selfie too’. somehow it was turned into ‘I really want to participate and post selfies but no one has ever tagged me so idk what to do’. that is not the way it works!! if you feel like posting a selfie, GO FOR IT. if you don’t wanna tag ppl, it’s fine. if you wanna tag two friends, that’s also fine. if you wanna tag so many blogs it’s going behind the cut, perfectly fine! if you tag me, I’m gonna shower you in love pls tag me

literally the only ‘rules’ there are is not hating on bellarke, posting your gorgeous face, tagging the post with #bfsn or #bellarkefamselfienight, and feeling the warmth of such a loving and positive community

edit: for the people new to our fandom, I forgot to say that we usually post on wednesday night, when the episodes used to air. I suppose bfsn is going to switch to tuesday night on april 24th or the week before (edit 2: nope apparently we changed already)


I saw this post about an Ace Attorney character concept where the witness only makes emoji faces to express emotions (and their name is Eemo Jee) and thought I’d try to design them!! Other bad pun names include Chell Jones, Connie Nexton, Winona Fiona, and Rei Tweet.

I tried to be pretty simple with her design, while still trying to make her personality stand out.  She’d probably be involved in a case as a witness because the selfies she posted online were taken at the time and place of a murder or she blogged about it.

During her testimony, she would occasionally speak in hashtags and start typing on her phone when she’s nervous. And her breakdown would be THIS (rapid flashing warning):

guess i just made an ace attorney oc WELP

25DOB: A Natural History of Dragons by Marie Brennan

“The dragon within my heart stirred, shifting her wings, as if remembering they could be used to fly.” 

Hello friends! Welcome to the start of 25 Days of Booklr! I’m so glad so many of you are participating! I can’t wait to see what recommendations y’all will be giving throughout the month! Happy Recommending!!

To start, the way I’m doing this challenge is by going through the superlatives per day on books I’ve read in 2017 only. And I might mix it up on what I post, but I’ll try to get through the whole thing (lol no one mention the selfie challenge). With every post, I’ll put a quote I really enjoyed there, too! If I have a review or talked about it in a wrap up, I’ll link it so you can check it out. :-) 

anonymous asked:

omg do you have any headcanons abt trans yurio bc im in tears over your art


(this turned out so much longer than i intended and it includes headcanons about everyone else too but WHATEVER HERE YOU GO)

- viktor is the first person yurio comes out to (he knows viktor is bigender so he trusts him with this)
- viktor immediately goes into supportive dad mode and starts buying yurio all new clothes
he is ready to fight anyone who misgenders yurio
- he makes yurio hot cocoa whenever he has cramps and then calls otabek over to spend time with him

- yurio is terrified of coming out to his grandpa at first (yurio trusts and loves him but that just makes the possibility of rejection scarier)
- his grandpa doesn’t quite get it at first but he tells yurio he’ll always be there for him no matter what and is careful not to misgender yurio from then on
- he ends up doing lots of research on different gender identities and things he can do to make yurio more comfortable about himself

- yuuri ends up getting yurio his first binder for his birthday
- yurio cries and won’t leave yuuri’s side for the rest of the day; they end up falling asleep cuddled together on the couch
- viktor takes pictures
- the next morning yurio threatens murder if they ever speak a word about his reactions to anyone
- viktor has already posted the photos on his instagram, so…
- “Then I guess you’re getting fucking murdered.”

- yurio comes out to otabek a few weeks after they become friends
- otabek blinks and says “Oh, ok. I’m nonbinary so…”
- and then they bond over their mutual transness
- yurio does otabek’s makeup sometimes and otabek gives him all of his sick biker jackets that don’t fit him anymore

- yurio is honestly a little offended that yuuri never officially came out to him as genderfluid (he figures out because of an offhanded comment from viktor)
- “What the hell, have I been using the wrong pronouns for you this whole time?!”
- Yuuri shrugs and laughs. “No, any pronouns are fine with me.”
- “Well…you still should have told me, katsudon. It’s…it’s cool.”
- “I know it’s cool.”
- “Pff, shut up.”

- yurio quickly finds out that there are barely any people in their friend group who aren’t lgbt+
- chris has a boyfriend, phichit is bi and aro, guang hong and leo are dating, seung-gil is nonbinary and into dudes
- when he comes out to them, they all sort of laugh and give him a big group hug with a “welcome to the club!”

- he comes out to yuko via text and she writes a long ass message back gushing about how proud of him she is and that she loves him so much

- mila reaffirms yurio’s manliness whenever he gets dysphoric and slips phrases like “my boi/my guy/my dude” in everyday conversations
- she and viktor have an unspoken agreement to give anyone who deliberately misgenders him the asswhoopin of a lifetime

- yurio starts T when he’s 17 and literally nobody has ever seen him this cheerful
- he doesn’t squirm when viktor kisses him on the forehead
- he actually willingly hugs Yuuri while he’s making dinner
- he posts selfies on his instagram of him smiling and documenting the changes in his body ever since starting T

basically i have way too many feelings about trans yurio don ttouch me


@theseinconvenientchristmaslights @mustbeseeingblind and @alohonora tagged me to post my favorite selfies from this year but since I don’t post selfies here I did this mess of a moodboard.

I’ve been living quite comfortably this year. 2017 was, in a way, quite remarkable for me personally. I finally finished my master thesis, I graduated and I started at my first “adult job”. Everything has been okay and I’ve been doing just fine (I hope you all read that in the tune of Mr. Brightside), much better than I was doing a year or two ago. I still feel like next year I need to push myself more, right now I’m kinda feeling like I’m missing some better, greater opportunities (whatever those might be). So, in a way this year has been full of changes and yet everything has been just… okay. I don’t want to settle with just anything, so I hope next year I’ll have the courage to make some more changes in my life.

There were a lot of good moments this year, too. Sometimes there was nothing better than just chilling in my bed. Other times the sky was so beautiful that I had to just stop and take several photos, no matter how many people passed me by giving me funny looks. I’m also still very happy about my golden boots and my Modern Renaissance palette (simple pleasures, people, simple pleasures). There were weddings and graduation parties. There were late night conversations with my favorite people and listening to my favorite music while driving through the countryside on a late summer night. I also had the pleasure to meet some of the wonderful people from Tumblr and that still makes me feel very grateful. You are all so beautiful, inside and outside and I wish I could hang out with you all every day and go to every Harry show there ever was.

I’m going to stop rambling now and wish you all the best new year. I hope it’s filled with nothing but good things, lots of laughter and love and great opportunities. Here’s to 2018. ✨

I’m going to tag @soulmatesandfate @gallifaerie @alicedoesntsharefood @harryenthusiasm @lionheartnking @thechainlive @giveitupforchristmas @florelikeaflower @snowydrarry @istealifly @sparkling-larry 💖


happy new year folks!!! the only way to go is up

i got tagged by @94junhee to do the 9 selfies of 2017 thing ilysm!! i tag: @lightsabrey @mimisgf @violetevents @byeonqkwan @xelia-stuff @calemiel and @cittaphons ily all!! start your new year safe!

Peter + Wade

- Peter starting an instagram or vine or something.

- Peter really regretting that if he starts one as Spiderman it’d pretty much give JJ free material and cut into his funds.

- Wade starting a Deadpool vine/instagram and taking the worst pictures ever.

- Wade and Peter crashing Comic-Con in their costumes when they both realize the other’s never been.

- Peter convincing Wade to take normal, civilian selfies.

- Wade taking a few but not posting them anywhere.

- Peter offering selfie swaps and Wade finally taking more.

- Wade taking a metric ton of selfies with them both while they’re on dates or chilling.

- Wade and Peter trying to come up with costume ideas for the next comic-con.

- (So no one dies of asphyxiation. Anyway, there were way too many of them around)

- Wade suggesting things like stormtroopers, and the Hound and zombie!Khal Drogo

- Peter pointing out that they’re boring; and he’s not dressing as Leia or Daenerys anyway

- Wade asking him what he wants him to go as - a Human Being?

- Peter realizing after he hits him he was making a community joke

- Peter giving up for the moment; and the two cuddling up to watch movies

- Wade trying to cheer Peter up after something happens.

- Wade realizing that he’s actually a pretty decent cook when he tries.

- Peter perching up on the fridge with his cellphone while he cooks.

- Peter taking advantage of the position to get new pics for the phone.

- Peter watching as Wade’s apartment gets cleaner with each visit.

- Wade getting thrilled when Peter keeps getting more relaxed around him.

- Both of them realizing how much better they sleep with the other around.

- Wade trying to do his own patrols.
- Peter asking, after the first patrol, for him to leave the weapons behind.
- Wade pointing out that would leave him punching people.
- The two of them coming to agreement on a middle ground.
- Wade buying out the nerf section of the Times Square Toys R Us.
- Wade patrolling with nerf swords and guns, and zip ties.
- Wade borrowing the bad guys’ phones to call the cops and tell them where to look.
- Peter letting him come on patrol with him after he’s behaved a few months.

-Peter having the realization that he finally has someone;
- it’d be next to impossible to lose
- he doesn’t need to worry will get hurt
- even if it still gives him a heart attack seriously Wade

- Peter and Wade fighting over blankets in the winter
- Huddling on rooftops to try to warm up during patrols
- Wade throwing snowballs at the bad guys to save ammo
- It’s super effective
- Building snowmen on the roof
- Getting in frozen to the bone and making hot chocolate
- Wade making snow cones later that night with real snow

- Wade keeping a battery powered fan in a belt pocket in the summer
- Both of them hiding on a roof with their masks off fanning themselves
- Shoving blankets in the freezer when the AC goes out at Wade’s

Feli: lots of capslock, abbreviates everything on whatsapp to the point only italians understand (Ludwig has given up at this point), way too personal on twitter, very sarcastic. Will start a political discussion on facebook and no one can stop him. The guy who posts too many selfies and has a very popular tinder.

Gil: The guy who worships Gronkh to an unhealthy degree. Always tags you in everything on facebook and browses privately for light smut because he’s too embarassed to admit he is *gasp* looking at pictures of couples making out on the internet. Will refer to this activity as “watching porn” to other guys in order to make himself look cool.

Lud: Very innocent. Comments on every youtube video he watches with “great work” even if it’s just a reupload. Is responsible for the dog videos on your facebook. He has a pinterest but doesn’t openly admit it (it’s for baking). Tries really hard to understand Feliciano in the whatsapp group chat but can’t keep up. Recently bought himself a manual on text speak from 2013 and studies it like a foreign language. Often asks what “idk” means which leads to much frustration.


i was tagged by @actualhawke and @nonbinaryhamlet to do a six favorite selfies from 2015 so here’s this

tagging way too many people do it if you wanna @merculeshulligan @combeferes @seibrs @nickevalentine @felixbug @theroiprocepios @rosesalts @mollycarpentarrrgh @agendertomhanks @xghosts @cityelf @anderfalling @edwardbuck @hawkquy @vau1thunter @hughmdancy @nonbinarytomhanks

Hello to the cutest people ever!
I’ve been feeling really Christmassy and fluffy, so I decided to share some of my love! You guys are amazing, every single one of you, you make my days better with you gifs, fics, graphics, selfies, text posts etc., and I couldn’t be more grateful four you guys! Thank you all for being my friend (whether you want that or not, you are! mehehe), and thank you for being awesome!
I wish you all a beautiful Christmas with your friend, family and loved ones, a happy New Year, and a stress-free Winter break! (Don’t forget to be safe during these times!!!)

sidenote: I’m starting to realize that I didn’t put way too many of you guys here, but with new Holidays urls, themes, icons etc, I’m not able to find you all, but you’re all still my baes!!
Favourites are italicized, *hover for a message!

antwolff alphabet-omega bambistiles bansnee* brogitsune* |  benishment* christmastilinskis darachmoon derektit dylanotummy derekmcall dylans-obrien* | dontgobrienmyheart* |  dyleon* derekthereindeer*

halesfire halerrific hoechloin hellasterek


metamewrong | newtyears* |obriensnipples* | ohitstiles |ohfuckthisshit​* oholyhobrien |punkhale prettiestalpha

sterek sarcasticalpha* screaming-arrows* sourwolfsam snowdaysterek snarkysourwolf tacoposey thepackshipsit* tricksterstiless thehaletomystiles |terrible-wolf thealphalife