I'm definitely pro-choice and my dad says he is too but some of the things he says makes me uneasy - i asked him his opinion on abortion and he said ''i wouldn't want your mum to ever get one but i wouldn't want the option taken away from 'us''' am i just over-reacting to that? i also asked him what would he say if my mum got pregnant and wanted an abortion and he said he would try to convince her to keep it, am i being too fussy with this?
It is a tricky situation for sure. Because they are in a committed relationship it’s certainly not unreasonable for him to want a say in what happens, however the real test is if she needed one and decided that was the right choice and that was she wanted to do… would he support her or be horrible to her? If he’d still support her even if he doesn’t agree with her decision then it’s not a big issue in the end because he still recognizes that it’s ultimately not up to him. However if she decides she wants to abort for whatever reason and he say, threatens divorce then it’s an issue and you may need to try calling him on that.
It’s one thing to say ‘I wouldn’t WANT this to be what my SO chose’ which is what he seems to be saying. It’s another to say 'I wouldn’t LET my SO choose this’ (Which would be controlling and abusive).