standards!

The fact that I even had to explain the “creativity” behind this photo proves my point.

This morning I woke up to an email about this photo, basically asking me why I’m naked on the internet lol. Here’s my response:

“The point of the photo is the difference between "unclothed” and “naked”. Unclothed is what I am in the photo, which is insignificant to being “naked”.

Many men/women can say they’ve seen someone Naked, when in reality they’ve only seen them unclothed. To be Naked means you have revealed your imperfections, your dirt, your soul and heart to someone, without having fear of getting caught being Vulnerable.

It is also a photo that stands against double standards between men and women. If it were a topless man covering his breasts people wouldn’t think twice about it. Wouldn’t even say he was “naked” or “ fully unclothed”. Some people would even say it’s awkward for a man to be covering his breasts because it is socially acceptable for men to not wear shirts. A man can walk around in a speedo and no shirt at the pool, whereas if a woman decided to wear bikini bottoms and no top, people would call her a “slut” or become uncomfortable with a woman being comfortable in her own skin.“

And this is for any woman who has had to explain herself for making a choice to be comfortable showing her body.

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Ten Ideas to Save the Economy #5: How to Reinvent Education

Senator Bernie Sanders is making waves with a big idea to reinvent education: Making public colleges and universities tuition-free.

I couldn’t agree more. Higher education isn’t just a personal investment. It’s a public good that pays off in a more competitive workforce and better-informed and engaged citizens. Every year, we spend nearly $100 billion on corporate welfare, and more than $500 billion on defense spending. Surely ensuring the next generation can compete in the global economy is at least as important as subsidies for big business and military adventures around the globe.

In fact, I think we can and must go further — not just making public higher education tuition-free, but reinventing education in America as we know it. (That’s the subject of this latest video in my partnership with MoveOn, “The Big Picture: Ten Ideas to Save the Economy.” Please take a moment to watch now.)

In the big picture, much of our education system — from the bells that ring to separate classes to memorization drills — was built to mirror the assembly lines that powered the American economy for the last century. As educators know, what we need today is a system of education that cultivates the critical thinking skills necessary for the economy of tomorrow.

We have to reinvent education because it’s not working for too many of our kids – who are either dropping out of high school because they aren’t engaged, or not getting the skills they need, or paying a fortune for college and ending up with crushing student debt.

How do we get there?

First, stop the wall-to-wall testing that’s destroying the love of teaching and learning. Let’s get back to a curriculum that builds curiosity, problem solving, teamwork and perseverance, and away from teaching to the test. Give teachers space to teach, and give students freedom to learn. Limit classrooms to 20 children so teachers can give students the individual attention they need.

Increase federal funding for education. The majority of U.S. public school students today live in poverty. That’s a staggering figure. Our schools and educators aren’t equipped to deal with this harsh reality but we know ways to change that. High-quality early childhood education, for starters. Community schools to serve the whole child, with health services, counselors, and after school activities.

Offer high school seniors the option of a year of technical education, followed by two years of free technical education at a community college. The route into the middle class shouldn’t always require a four-year college degree. America needs technicians who can install, service, repair, and upgrade complex equipment in offices, laboratories, hospitals, and factories.

And Senator Sanders has proposed, make public higher education free — from community college to state universities — completely free, as it was in many states in the 1950s and 1960s. Higher education isn’t just a personal investment. It’s a public good that pays off in a more competitive workforce and better-informed and engaged citizens.

And critically, we must increase pay and improve conditions for the men and women who power our schools—teachers and school staff who educate our kids, clean our classrooms, and keep our schools safe.

The law of supply and demand isn’t repealed at the schoolhouse door. We’re paying investment bankers hundreds of thousands if not millions of dollars a year to make money for Wall Street. We ought to be paying educators and staff a decent wage to develop and guide the nation’s human capital – an investment that would benefit everyone.

By reinventing education in these sensible ways, we all gain.

SHOWBIZ: There was heartbreak today for Australia’s Princess of Pop, Kylie Minogue, as Jason wrote in to the Daily Star and formally ruled out any kind of romantic relationship.

“This is obviously a distressing situation for Ms Minogue.” said a spokesperson today, in a prepared statement. “While Kylie grieves for the love that will never be, and deeply regrets not keeping herself pure enough for Jason’s exacting standards, we would ask for privacy. Only with time can the healing process begin.”

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(Post by S)

“Let’s face it, if Sofia was a princess by birth some people would be like leave her alone, she makes mistakes, blah blah blah. But seeing how she’s marrying into the family, some people are like how dare she have a past! Same with other royals. Some people think it’s okay for Beatrice to go on holidays and barely work because she is a princess by birth, it doesn’t mater if she is a “private citizen”. She’s still a part of the BRF and she still needs to work! Double standards!”

Ok so maybe this is just the English Major in me talking, but has anyone else ever stopped to think about the dynamics of immortality in fiction?

I’ve noticed that when we come across an immortal, they’re almost always a man. Additionally, any female mortal lover they have is concerned first and foremost with aging. Abigail does this in forever, embarrassed that she looks like she’s Henry’s mother. Arguably, Peggy Carter falls into this too in the MCU, presented as old and bedridden against Steve’s continued youth. Hell, even Bella from Twilight does it. Before worrying about mortality, the biggest problem presented for these women seems to be growing old.

And yet I’ve never seen this concern in the opposite direction. On the rare occasion we observe a female immortal with a mortal male lover, the biggest concern is always his death. Aragorn doesn’t worry Arwen won’t find him attractive when he’s old, and no one else does either. The problem pointed out to her repeatedly is that he will die.

Additionally, when immortality is something acquired, female characters put a lot more thought into it in terms of aging as well. The first question Josie in Being Human asks when Mitchell offers to turn her into a vampire is if she’ll be young again, or stay old. Sylvie from Baccano carefully waits until she’s in her prime before drinking the elixir of immortality – as opposed to, say, Czes. Dante from the first FMA anime is obsessed with youth, hopping from one beautiful, youthful body to another in her attempt to stay the passage of time.

What does all this tell us? Well, nothing concrete, I guess, but isn’t it odd to notice? We talk, I think, about the pressure on women to remain young, on the increased crossover between sexualization and infantilization, on the media’s opinion that a woman can’t be both older and beautiful. But this goes so much deeper than that. We are who and what we tell stories about, and this obsession with feminine youth, on the disposability of women – one immortal man continually trading in for the next model when his lovers age and/or die – all juxtaposed with the desperate reiteration by immortal men that they still love their aging ladies says something about us.

About the fears women have, but also the superficial way men and society in general are responding to them, without even realizing. A man saying “you’re beautiful” to a woman is not enough to drown out all of the messages put forth that aging women = bad/ugly, no matter their relationship, and personally I don’t think it should. The idea seems romantic at first glance, but placing your self-esteem or self-worth on a single person is never healthy. Despite what fiction tells us, the affirmation of a man is not what’s needed here – it’s everyone simultaneously backing off of this idea that aging is so much more devastating for women than men. As usual, people can write about whatever they want, but fiction is where we derive our reality and I’d love to see more stories dealing with immortality where aging is not a woman’s primary concern.

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So damn near everything in this society tells Women that they’re only good for being consumed by Men. This society teaches Women that it’s more important to get chose than it is to build. (I know hella Women who build for themselves anyway and they still sexy while doing it. )

But we live in a society where Women are constantly told that their value is mostly(if not solely) based on how consumable they are to Men.
Then we chastise Women in pictures like this for this “being all they have to offer”
When we don’t even know if it’s all they got to offer.

BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY, Women are taught that this is where their value is then we constantly turn around and attack them for it?

There are so many contradictions within this patriarchy and those contradictions fall on the heads of Women who aren’t allowed to win because they’re too sexy or too plain, too flirty or too boring, too pushy or not determined enough.

We live within multiple oppressive power structures and most of them have situations where people just aren’t allowed to win.

This patriarchy is one of them and must be dismantled.

No feat is ever good enough for me. I’ve done a lot of impressive things in my 20 years of life, which I understand logically, but I do not feel pride in any way. Ironically, I constantly get complimented in regards to my humility because of this.
—  Anonymous INTJ