spread it guys

A story that may have relevance for others, or then again, maybe not:

When I was in college, about ten or so years ago, I was a history major. I wanted to learn to dance, so I joined a swing dance club on campus. To my surprise, this club had about twice as many men as women (in high school, the last time I’d tried dancing, the ratio had gone the other way–lots of girls, and boys only that you could drag by their ears).

But apparently, there had been some kind of word spread specifically to the STEM guys that dance was a way that they could meet girls.

So anyway. I joined the swing dance club, and met a few guys. And at one point, when socializing with the guys outside of dance class, one of them asked me what my research was on. (I had already established that I was an honors history student doing a thesis, just as he had established that he was an honors… I’m not sure if he was CS or Math, but it was one of those.)

So I gave him the thumbnail sketch of my research. Now, to be clear, an honors senior thesis, while nothing like what a graduate student would do, was still fairly in-depth. I had to translate primary sources from the original late-Classical Latin. (My professor said, basically, that while there were plenty of translations of my source material, that I’d only be able to comfortably trust them if I had at least made a stab at a translation of my own. And he was right.) And there was so much secondary material, often contradictory, that I had been carefully sorting through.

But I was able to sift it into a three-sentence summary of my senior thesis work, you know, as one does.

So I gave him that summary, and then asked–since he was also an undergraduate senior doing an honors thesis–what his research was on.

“Oh,” he said, “you wouldn’t understand it.”

Reader, I went home in a frothing rage. Because I had thought we were playing one game–a game of ‘let’s talk about what we’re passionate about!’– and he had been playing another game, which was, one-upsmanship. I had done my best to give a basically understandable brief of my research–and he had used that against me. As if my research, my painstaking translation, my digging through archives and ILLs of esoteric works, my reading of ten thousand articles in Speculum (yes, the pre-eminent medievalist journal in North America is called Speculum, I’m sorry, it’s hilarious/sad but also true), and then my effort to sum it up for him, was nothing. Because his research into some kind of algorithm or other was just too complex for my tiny brain to conceive of. Because I just couldn’t possibly understand his work.

Now, the important note here is that the person I went home to was my senior year roommate. She was a graduate student–normally undergrads and graduate students couldn’t be roommates, but we’d been friends for years, and the tenured faculty-in-residence used his powers for good and permitted us to be roommates that year. Anyway. My senior year roommate was basically… in retrospect I think possibly an avatar of Athena. She was six feet tall, blonde, attractive in a muscular athletic way, a rock climber and racquetball player, sweet but sharp, extremely socially awkward, exceptionally kind even when it cost her to be kind, and an incredibly brilliant computer science major who spent most of her time working on extremely complicated mathematical algorithms. (Yes, I was a little in love with her, why do you ask? But she was as straight as a length of rope, and is now happily married, and so am I, so it worked out.)

(Still, yes, she is my mental image of Athena, to this day.)

Anyway, I came home in a frothing rage to my roommate, the Athena avatar. And I said, “He made me feel like such an idiot, that I could sum up my research to him but his research was just too smart for stupid little me.”

And she shut her book, and smiled at me, with her dark eyes and her high cheekbones and her bright hair, and said, “If he can’t explain his research to you, then he’s not nearly as smart as he thinks he is.”

Now I hesitated, because I’d be in college long enough to have sort of bought into the ridiculous idea that if you couldn’t dazzle them with your brilliance, you should baffle them with your bullshit. But she said, “Look, I’ve been doing work on computer science algorithms that have significantly complicated mathematical underpinnings. What do I do?”

And I said, “Genetic algorithms–that is, self-optimizing algorithms–for prioritization, specifically for scheduling.”

“Right,” she said. “You couldn’t code them because you’re not a computer scientist or a mathematician. But you can understand what I do. If someone can’t explain it like that, it isn’t a problem with you as a person. It’s a problem with them. They either don’t understand it as well as they think they do–or they want to make you feel inferior. And neither is a positive thing.”

So. There.

If you are looking into something and have a question, and someone treats you like an idiot for not understanding right away… here is what I have to say: maybe it isn’t you who is the idiot.

okay i’m not trying to spread any hate, and i have nothing against the girls but IF.. and i mean if because we still don’t know much about ‘love yourself’ yet.. anyway if they’re doing a “love story” and try to connect it to hyyh i’m not okay with that. 

hyyh isn’t a love story it’s much more than that. it deals with a lot of mental issues, abuse, friendship and family problems. i HOPE they’re not trying to force the “this girl came into my life and her love fixed everything” cliche because that’s bullshit and real life doesn’t work like that. love doesn’t fix mental issues and magically make everything okay.

what i’m saying is hyyh deserves so much more than just a generic ‘love will win’ ending that’s been done 100000 times before and i really hope bighit has other plans for the plot. i mean isn’t the concept supposed to be about loving yourself?

anonymous asked:

Have you seen that Japanese magazine interview talking about what they like in a girl? They were asked whether they like darker skin or lighter skin and people are kind of offended by some of their answers. I just wanted to know your thoughts on that. Personally as a biracial girl I'm not THAT hurt but that's just me.

To be honest, I had to look this up since I don’t follow a lot of people on Twitter…But, I’m going to give you my opinion.

I want to start off with establishing that many Japanese magazines publish information about BTS that are just “guesses” or “observations” about BTS. They “research” BTS and then publish articles about BTS as if they had interviewed them. I don’t remember what magazine these translations were from, but it is most likely that this “interview” is not actually an “interview.” I’m stating this with confidence because this happened last September with a Japanese magazine called K-POP TOP IDOLS. They released a lot of iffy information formatted as if they had interviewed BTS, but it was not actually an interview and was just observations. You can read my notice about them here

I can only draw comparisons to trash magazines you see on the rack as you walk to the checkout in a supermarket in America. There are always bogus headlines or columns. If you know some American magazines, this might put things into perspective. Perhaps you could even compare this to “clickbait.” Considering BTS’ popularity, magazines are doing anything they can to be sold. If ARMYs see ‘BTS’ they are likely to buy it.

In my experience, it is best not to trust magazines that do not actually have an official photoshoot with BTS or state EXPLICITLY that they had interviewed BTS. To my knowledge, this magazine did not state anywhere that they had interviewed BTS nor did they have photos with BTS. 

I hope that this helped.
- Kylie

i just want to be the reason you smile

mini messengers.

SAFETY AND TRIGGER PSA

Everyone be on the lookout for allura-is-a-hoe !!!!!!!! They are taking gory, disturbing images and tagging them with popular Voltron ships. If you see them, block them. Don’t actually go to their page. I went on to check and now I have an extremely upset stomach. Please reblog to inform others!!!

6

How to Bullet Journal 101:

hey guys!!! alot of you guys have been asking about my bujo & tips on starting one, so here are some tips for anyone who wants to start a bullet journal!!! i have included several spread & layout ideas for you guys; i hope that you find them useful!!! also!! do remember that every bujo is unique!! you don’t have to copy my spreads, but you can use them as references, if you’d like!! anyways, wishing you guys all the best!! have fun & enjoy the process!! (ㆁᴗㆁ✿)

9

Steven Universe Pride Flags

Buy them here on Redbubble as stickers. clothing, laptop decal, ect. **Please do not repost anywhere.

More flags below the cut, I’m sorry if I’ve forgotten any. My ask box is open if you want me to make any that I’ve forgotten.

Keep reading

2

[ 24TH JUNE 2017 ] HELLO THE LOVELY STUDYBLR COMMUNITY IT IS I, the one who posts inconsistently and apologizes every single time she posts.
Here’s a small update with life: 6 weeks of college have passed and I’m dYING. I can’t seem to fix a schedule and I’m always procrastinating my work,,,, so if anyone has any tips it would be greatly appreciated :“)
Here’s my june monthly spread and you guys get to see it first!!
Follow me on Instagram @ohlookimstudying if you haven’t already, I’m a lot more active there!
Have an amazing rest of June and a great July ahead! 💓💓💓

Important!! August 21st Eclipse 🌙

Hey guys i know were all super super excited about the eclipse, but if youre going to be looking at it at all you’re going to need to wear eye protection.

This isnt just for long viewing, even taking short glances at the eclipse can damage your eyes and it adds up.

It may not appear so but the eclipse is every bit as bright as the regular sun showing and you can really damage your vision if you dont wear some form of protection.

Please spread this around!! Stay safe guys

I'm sure they know.

I’m sure Sean knows he’s a wonderful inspiration and and the cutest green bean ever, he’s been on the internet and popular for a while. He’s heard it before.

Same goes for Mark. I’m sure he knows we know that he is so damn impressive and smart in everything he does, he’s heard it before.

And surely Felix, by now, knows that his audience is there for a reason, and that he’s got a good head on his shoulders.

Ethan must know that he’s wonderful and can do almost anything at 20, and we support him through that.

I’m sure they’ve been reassured that they’re beautiful, too. Hell we make art of them daily.

They know.

But does Tyler know HE was the actively saving my life? Not Mark? That he is a walking miracle of a human in the way he acts, and WE KNOW IT.

Does Robin know that when some of us see a really funny part in a JSE video, a close up or a few pop up things. We think of that funny Swedish dude that we barely see but god we love him. (Additionally hes so impressive? Like??? Antisepticeye is part jack but also a HUGE part Robin go dude)

Does Katherine know, as the resident brown haired woman with glasses in teamiplier that she makes me accept myself as the brown haired girl with glasses because she is so damn beautiful

Does AMY know, that she is so passionate about what she loves and that drives some of us everyday. I want to be like Amy Nelson! And FUCK NO, when I say that I do not mean I want to date Mark. I want to be loving, passionate, and talented. And she’s a fucking good inspiration. (Even though she has a channel, still saying this, because it’s true and it might not have reached her yet)

Does Signé know she makes some of us feel not so alone anymore? That woman dealt with depression and anxiety and still deals with some today. She’s creative, she’s wonderful, she’s beautiful and when I say I want to be like Signe Hansen I don’t mean Sean’s girlfriend because I want to be creative and I want to fight off my depression and I am, with her help. (Even though she has a channel, I’m still saying this)

Gods sake, does MARZIA KNOW she is a sweetheart and smart and talented and not just Felix’s girlfriend because just a little scroll through the comments on her channel saying she’s using him for views makes me sorta insulted. Marzia is loving, and sweet and beautiful and when I say I want to be like Marzia Bisognin I don’t mean Felix’s girlfriend I mean a kind, loving and sweet woman with an impeccable fashion sense. Do all these people get left slightly behind and never told this, only getting indirect praise because it’s targeted at Mark? Or Sean? Or Ethan? Or Felix? I want Tyler, Robin, Katherine, Amy, Signe and Marzia to know they’re just as important as their friends/ significant others to some of us. Reblog with your own thoughts on these guys! Spread the love!

170424 Jackson’s Ending Speech in Perth

“We are now in the last stop of our Australian tour, and we’ve been to different cities, we’ve met different cities, we met different people. We also ate different food. But the only thing—Everything was different. But the amount of energy and passion you guys have – that Australian people have – was really a memorable moment for us. And I know sometimes it’s hard. Sometimes it’s really tiring while supporting us all the time. Because of all the rumors. Because all the other issues. At the end of the day, I just want you guys to know, we are still us. I’m still Jackson. Still the old Jackson that you guys know. Through the highs and lows, and every day, what kept us going on, and no matter how tiring everything is we all suck it up and shut our mouths and just work our butts off – because of you guys. Because we want to make you guys proud. We will be back soon. I’ll see you guys next time. Until then, be healthy mentally and physically. Thank you very much.”

[© shared with permission from @jiminsofts on Twitter]

Artist please be aware!

This guy come to my messages to ask for an art trade. Since the drawing on his gallery are pretty bad, but very messy too and I didn’t was sure they were him, I asked for their drawings

He become very  harsh, so I explained, still politelly

He, still very rude, showed me some drawings, very good ones.

So I reverse search these images to found the artist. I found her on DA (I don’t have DA account so that’s why I asked a friend to talk to her)

So, this post is to warn you about this particular user (they can change the url or avatar so thats why I didn’t directly mentioned them), but also, be carefull with people like that, don’t be fooled!

And if you can, spread this so artist don’t get swindle by this user or anyone similar! That will be nice!

Sorry if I’m banging on about it, but the 20 odd minute Vice documentary on Charlottesville contains long stretches of a high profile fascist making a case for his politics virtually unchallenged. I wouldn’t be surprised if this was a precondition of letting Vice ride along with them. The fascists would have been under no illusion that the overall documentary would seek to show them in a ‘bad’ light - but they wanted to participate anyway - why do you think that is? It’s tempting to think of all fash as stupid, but they’re not. I think that having the Vice team along was a calculated strategic decision.

If you would go to try and physically stop this guy spreading his message verbally at a university - don’t help him spread it to many more people online. For example, his perverse ‘take’ on why Heather Heyer’s murder was justified is repellent to all of us - but it’s a take that far fewer people would ever have heard if it wasn’t for this video. Now it’s out there as one perspective among many - it’s the first step to normalisation. The less their side of the story gets told, the better for our side. No Platform for Fascists - anywhere, ever

College tips:

With school starting soon, here are some tips!

  • Don’t sleep on your school library! I’ve saved so much money borrowing books that I needed for class instead of buying them from the bookstore or Amazon. I literally spent less than $100 on books for both semesters because I borrowed from my library. Also, check to see if your library has an inter-library loan program so that even if your library doesn’t have a book, they can get one for you from another library!
  • Take a language! Doesn’t matter if it’s not one of your major/minor requirements. Jobs and internships LOVE having bilingual/multilingual people working for them. And it’s always a plus to be able to engage with other people who speak the language. It opens so many doors for you.
  • Always, always, always be in contact with your professors. Make sure they know your name and your face because that will come in handy. If you need help with choosing essay topics, talk to them! If you have a question about an assignment, ask them! It might be intimidating at first but you don’t want to get to finals week asking for extra credit and they don’t even know who you are, especially if you’re in a large class.
  • If you’re a senior like me, do not wait until the spring to make sure you’ve taken/are registered for all of the required classes you need to graduate. For everyone else, it’s better to start that process your junior year. The last thing you want is to have your advisor run an audit in the spring and tell you that you’re 2 credits short of graduating and then you have to stay another semester. 
  • If you’re feeling burnt out and just need a mental health day, take it. Sleep in if you have to. Go home early if you have to. College is mentally draining but you don’t want that to affect your grades, your social life, or your overall happiness. If you need a day to recuperate, email your professor and take the day off. But don’t make it a habit. If you’re always feeling mentally drained, talk to counselors on campus. 
  • Don’t feel like you need to sign up for every club or go to every event. It will stress you out. Find at least 2 or 3 clubs that spark your interest and stick with them. It’s very common that you’ll sign up for like 10 orgs but only stick to 2 by your senior year. 
  • Make friends in your class because they will save your ass if you miss class. Those are the friends that will send you notes in case you’re out sick, taking a mental health day, celebrating a holiday, etc. Sometimes there are days where you won’t miss much but you want friends who will help you out for the important days. Also, it’s just nice having friends in general.
  • When it comes to making your schedule, give yourself lunch breaks, unless you just have morning classes. Do not schedule classes for that time. You gotta eat.
  • Also with scheduling, try and make it so that you have Friday’s off. In my 4 years, I’ve only had class on a Friday once and it was in the morning. As stressful as college is, give yourself a 3 day weekend to rest, hang out, or review class materials. It’s not necessarily a big deal but it is something to look forward to.

I feel like there’s more but if you have any, reblog!

@ any arab boys that aren’t doing so great rn: i see you and your struggle is valid and i love you even though our society wants you to be tough all the time. it’s okay for you to be sad or unhappy. its okay for you to cry. it’s okay for you to show your excitement and happiness. its okay for you to be soft and kind. and if anyone tells you otherwise call me at 1-800-slapping-punk-ass-bitches so i can fight them for u